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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Astrology: Why Do Some People Judge Others Based On Their Star Sign? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are lots of ways for people to define themselves and to give their life meaning. And one of the ways that this can be done is for someone to get into astrology. In the western world, this will often involve someone finding out about their star sign and then seeing how they match up with ...
Views: 2478 - Impostor: Why Do Some People Feel Like Impostors? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone has worked hard to achieve something, it doesn’t mean that they feel as though they deserve it. The ideal would be for someone to feel as though they are worthy, no matter what they accomplish. However, there are some people who are unable to accept their achievements. ...
Views: 1772 - Feelings: Why Are Some People Out Of Touch With Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough feelings can be overlooked and seen as being unimportant, they are a vital part of who we are. They allow us to know what we need and want in each moment of our life, amongst other things. When someone is unaware of how they are feeling, they are disconnected from themselves. ...
Views: 6724 - Self Worth: Why Do Some People Only Feel worthy When They Are Pleasing Others? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel accepted for who they are, there are other people who only feel accepted when they are pleasing other people. This could be something they are consciously aware of, or it could be something they are completely oblivious to. But there are going to be clear distinctions ...
Views: 1765 - Needs: Why Do Some People Always Put Other People's Needs Before Their Own? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of being human and this means that they can’t be overlooked or denied without certain consequences arising. This doesn’t mean that one will always have their needs met; this is not going to be possible. But if one’s life has taken on a pattern where their needs are ...
Views: 2236 - Personal Power: Why Do Some People Believe They Have No Effect On Their Environment? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile having complete control of one’s environment would be practically impossible, what is possible is for one to have some control over their environment. And in some ways, the more control one has, the more empowered they will feel. Control is often seen as something negative and as ...
Views: 1560 - Needs: Why Do Some People Not Expect To Get Their Needs Met? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf human beings were not interdependent, it wouldn’t matter if other people were available to meet their needs. This is not to say that someone’s need’s can only be fulfilled by other people; this would be inaccurate and a sign of dependence, not interdependence. A child on the other hand, ...
Views: 2537 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Pleasing Others? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to behaviours that will have a negative impact on one’s life, trying to please others is high on the list. And this doesn’t relate to pleasing others on the odd occasion, it relates to trying to please others all of the time. To set out to please people every now and then is ...
Views: 1801 - Control Freaks: Why Are Some People Control Freaks? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to describing someone who has the need to have complete control over every part of their life, the term control freak is often used. To experience a certain amount of control is not enough, the only thing that will do is having complete control of everything. And while control ...
Views: 2416 - Emotions: Why Do Some People Hide Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that women show how they feel and men keep their feelings to themselves. And this is surely going to apply to some men and women, but not all of them. It is simply a generalisation and one that allows people to navigate their world more easily. One reason why it is this way ...
Views: 10712 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Feel Responsible For Other People's Happiness? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen other people are unhappy, it can cause someone to feel a sense of concern and to be curious as to why they feel as they do. As a result of this, one can hope that this person begins to feel better and even see what they can do to help them. This could apply to anyone one meets that ...
Views: 2912 - The “Foolish” Secret To Success - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Michael RosenbaumDid you know the star comedian, Jerry Seinfeld, froze with stage fright the first time he got in front of an audience? The audience chased him off the stage with derisive laughter and boos. He had to fight through the shame and fear from this early experience to gain the poise that has made ...
Views: 1531(3 votes) - Boundaries: What Stops People From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people have boundaries and are therefore able to stand their ground, there are other people who don’t. For them, having boundaries is a challenge and this could relate to a certain area of their life or every area. Standing their ground may be something they do at times, but it ...
Views: 1746 - Forks in the road, stop signs, cul de sacs and dead ends on the highway of life - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2014 from Frosty WooldridgeBy Frosty Wooldridge While taking a hike down a country road near dusk in my teens, an old farmer, plodding along with his walking stick, abruptly stopped me. His wrinkled-weathered skin did not diminish the energy in his clear blue eyes. Silver locks flowed from his wide-brimmed hat while ...
Views: 717(1 vote) - Painful Memories: Can Trapped Emotions Keep Painful Memories Alive? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can form memories that are pleasurable and remind them of moments that were special and uplifting, it is also possible for one to have memories that are painful. And these will remind them of moments that were stressful and even traumatic. This is part of life and there is unlikely ...
Views: 1478 - Leaders Fight for Their Creative Vision - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2014 from Vernon MyersI recently watched the movie, “Saving Mr. Banks,” a Walt Disney film that shows the process that Walt and Mrs. P.L. Travers used in creating the movie “Mary Poppins.” The thing that stood out to me the most is that the creative process is messy, yet, it’s full of joy and happiness. The ...
Views: 1277 - The Ego as an Addictive “Energy Vampire”, in Contrast to How Our Real Being Functions as a Limitlessly Abundant “Energy-Giver” - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2015 from Barry HammerThe Ego Functions as an Addictive “Energy Vampire”, in Contrast to How Our Real Being Functions as a Limitlessly Abundant “Energy-Giver” Dr. Barry Hammer Although the narcissistic ego is often the loudest voice speaking within us, vociferously arguing for its own viewpoint, and ...
Views: 1424(1 vote) - THE LITMUS TEST: FOLLOWING THE WINDING TRAIL OF OUR CORE INTEGRITY - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2014 from Barry Hammer“Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people.” (Inspirational quote taken with permission from http://tinybuddha.com) Spencer Johnson Many years ago, when I was in high school chemistry lab, I was assigned to do a litmus test to determine ...
Views: 1891 - Responsibility: Why Do Some People Say 'You' Instead Of 'I'? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone talks about something they have been going through or how they currently feel, there is the chance that they will use the world ‘you’. This means that the word ‘I’ is unlikely to be used. So even though one is talking about themselves, it can come across as if they are talking ...
Views: 5669 - Gender Roles: Can Gender Roles Stop People From Growing? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years, men were seen as being one way and women as being another way. And as time has passed, these differences are no longer as extreme as they used to be. But while some things have changed, in regards to what men and women are like, there is still work to be done. This is ...
Views: 1843 - Social Change: Does Society Use Repression To Create Change? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how someone’s behaves in a certain society, there is the chance that their behaviour goes against what has been defined as acceptable. At times this could lead to someone ending up in prison and at other times, it could cause them to be labelled in some way. And while ending ...
Views: 1504 - Negative People: Why Are Some People Always Negative? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear that is that life is not always a bed of roses: there are ups and downs and sometimes, there can be more downs than ups. For some people, there will be more ups than there are downs, but for others, the downs will outweigh the ups. One might then come to the conclusion that one ...
Views: 5354 - Self Worth: Why Do Some Men Let Women Define Their Self Worth? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone looks towards other people to define how valuable they are, they are going to be dependent on their approval and acceptance. And the other hand, if one was to define their value and not look towards others, the need to receive the acceptance and approval of others is not going to be ...
Views: 2741 - Focus: Does What We Focus On Grow? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to the conclusion that what shows up in their personal reality is the result of random factors and that one is nothing more than an observer, they might end up receiving the approval of the majority of people around them. And this is because the western world generally ...
Views: 1852 - Compassion: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Compassion? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile being compassionate can be seen as the right way to be, it is not always the easiest option. What can be easier is to go to the other extreme and to become indifferent to other people’s problems and the suffering they are going through or have gone through. And not only can one be this ...
Views: 1737 - Self Worth: Who Defines Our Self Worth? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough human beings are made of the same things and will all pass on at some point in their lives, it doesn’t mean that they all have the same level of value. And while there is inevitably going to be differences between someone who lives in a third world country and someone who lives in a ...
Views: 1536 - Irritation: Why Do Some People Irritate Us? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperDue to the amount of people on this planet, it is clear that one is not going to get along with everyone. There will be some people that one completely clicks with and therefore experiences very few instances of conflict and disharmony. And there will be others, on the other side of the ...
Views: 2365 - Emotional Body: How Can Someone Heal Their Emotional Body? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it is clear that one has a physical body, what might not be as clear is that one also has an emotional body. So much attention has been placed on the mind or what could be called the mental body, that emotions often seen as being insignificant. And that the only time emotions do appear ...
Views: 1759 - Shy Man’s 3-Step Method To Reducing Rejection - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2014 from Chris ChandraAhh rejection. Rejection is pretty hard on the soul. It can make you feel unwanted, lonely and frustrated. It doesn't matter if you’re the average Joe or a big shot executive. It hurts just the same; and with today’s fast paced society the world can feel extra punishing. When you can ...
Views: 1640 - Anxiety: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Anxiety? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile anxiety is just one of many emotions that one can experience throughout their life and without too many problems arising, it can also be something that ends up being completely out of control. It is then not just another emotion that one can experience; it is something that can end up ...
Views: 2676 - Boundaries: How Can People React When We Form Boundaries For The First Time? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough it is vital for human begins to have boundaries, it doesn’t mean that they always have them. And this could be the case with some areas of their life or it could apply to each and every area of their life. Ultimately, boundaries protect ones personal space and therefore stop others ...
Views: 1855 - Bullying: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Bullied? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many forms of bullying around today and some of these are more overt than others. At times, this is done in a way that is so subtle, that it can take place without anyone even noticing. And while bullying has taken place for many, many years, and is nothing new, the internet has ...
Views: 2023 - Inner Child: Does Our Inner Child Control How We Feel? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor people who are into self development, the term ‘inner child’ could be something they are familiar with. And not only could they be familiar with this term, but they might also feel comfortable with it. When it comes to people who are not into self development, the whole thing could sound ...
Views: 1897 - The Media: Why Does The Media Sexualise Everything? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what one lays their eyes upon in the media, they are going to come across something that has been sexualised. And it won’t matter if what they are looking at has a reason to be that way or not, as it often doesn’t matter. It is no longer a case of spot what has been sexualised, ...
Views: 1784 - Unmet Childhood Needs: Is It Important To Grieve Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one was a child, they had certain needs and wants. And for some people, these would have been met in the majority of cases. This doesn’t mean that one would have needed to have had a caregiver that was always available. As it is unlikely that this would have been possible and not only that, ...
Views: 3728 - Conditioning: How Do We Change Our Conditioning? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile we would like to see ourselves as human beings who have control over how we behave, this doesn’t always reflect reality. Because although one has the ability to think before they act, they can also act without thinking. And this is not ‘bad’ per se; it can enable one to save a lot of ...
Views: 1914 - Leaders Care! - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2014 from Vernon MyersUltimately, a leader who shows that he cares is good for the organization. Some critics may write this off as being touchy-feely, but people are people and an organization is made up of many, many emotional people. A leader has to find a way to show his followers that he cares about them. ...
Views: 1396 - Support: Why Do Some People Only Feel Supported When They Are Pleasing Others? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEach and every one of us is interdependent and this means that not only do we want to be supported by others, but that we also need to be; with it being it being vital for our own survival and our ability to thrive. The ideal is going to be for one to feel supported for who they are. There ...
Views: 1762 - Meaning: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To A More Meaningful Life? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough pain is part is life and can’t be avoided, the western world and the countries influenced by it, are largely focused on eradicating pain. Pain is then something that has no purpose or reason for existing and therefore has to be removed. There are all types of pain that one can ...
Views: 1579 - Relationships: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Painful Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the ideal might be to have relationships that are always harmonious and are free from pain, during and even when they come to an end, this is not how life works. All relationships have some kind of conflict and if they don’t, there is probably a lot of repression taking place. And what ...
Views: 1673 - What is the secret to happiness? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2014 from Larry CraneIn truth, many of us still believe that happiness is a secret. First of all, opposite of what most people believe, happiness is available to everyone–at all times. No one is excluded. Every person, regardless of their age, nationality, level of education or success, is naturally capable of ...
Views: 1575 - Emotional Regulation: What Happens When Someone Can't Regulate Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world there are all kinds of challenges that people are having to face. And some of these are relatively easy to handle, while others can seem to be more or less impossible to solve. These can range from global, societal and personal problems. In a way, they can all affect each ...
Views: 2399 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Blame Others For How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one takes responsibility for how they feel, they are going to be seen as mature and self aware. And yet when one doesn’t take responsibility for how they feel in the majority of cases, they are likely to be seen as lacking awareness and being undeveloped. But while an outside observer ...
Views: 2264 - Emotional Expression: What Can Happen When We Don't Express Our Emotions? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to stop eating and drinking it wouldn’t be long before they would start to experience problems. And if this went on for too long, they would soon die. But while one is likely to be aware of their physical needs in most cases, what they might not be aware of is what is going on for ...
Views: 2046 - Boundaries: How Do People Protect Themselves When They Haven’t Got Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust about everything on this planet needs to be protected, because if this doesn’t take place, it will begin to erode or end up simply being destroyed. This is true for a car, the ocean, forests and houses for instance. These things will need to be protected by humans, from humans and from ...
Views: 1813 - Feeling Good: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Feeling Good? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere is something that just about everyone wants, and that is to feel good. It plays a big part in what someone does and doesn’t do. This can relate to one feeling emotionally centred and at ease internally and/or through having a heightened sense of wellbeing because of what is taking place ...
Views: 1876 - Body Language: Can Trapped Emotions Define Someone’s Body Language? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the words that someone uses, there is the potential for one to cover up what is really going on. Here, one can say what they think they should be saying or what sounds right. And while another person can take this as the truth, it could be just a half truth or a complete ...
Views: 2747 - Relationships: What Two Needs Can Define How Someone Behaves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have all kinds of things that they look for in a relationship with another person. And some of these are going to be more important than others; this means that some of them will be able to be overlooked. But if this relates to what truly matters, then conflict is going to arise if they ...
Views: 1676 - Emotional Instability: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Emotional Instability? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile having emotional stability is the ideal, it is not something that everyone can relate to. But this doesn’t mean that the people who do experience emotional stability are always stable and go through life unscathed. To be human means that we are emotional beings and so unless one has ...
Views: 1912 - Relationship Advice – Avoid This Mistake! - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2013 from Alyssa JohnsonTo have meaningful relationships we need to feel safe enough to be our true, authentic self. This is why one of the best relationship advice ideas I can offer you is to beware of judging others or assuming someone’s judging you. They tend to go hand in hand. If you’re a rather judgmental ...
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