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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Regret: Are Regrets Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough life is rarely black and white, it doesn’t mean that some people won’t see it as being this way. And while most people are going to see it this way from time to, there are going to be others who are unable to see it differently. They are then on one side or they are on the other and ...
Views: 2283 - Depression: Can Trapped Grief Cause Depression? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a physical problem can stand out, an emotional problem can remain hidden. Yet, even though there can be a difference here, it doesn’t mean that one problem is more important than other. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter what kind of pain one is experiencing, what matters is that they seek ...
Views: 1882 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Stop You From Speaking Up? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have many ways to communicate with each other and one way for them to do this is to use their voice. But while some people are happy to speak up no matter what is going on, there are others who are unable to do this. This is going to mean that they don’t expedience life in the ...
Views: 1609 - Emotional State: Can We Change How We Feel By Changing Our Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow we behave influence’s how we feel, and the only thing one needs to do to realise this is to change their posture. Many people realise how their body language not only affects how they feel, they also realise how it affects how others feel around them. There is then an inner change in ...
Views: 1866 - Anger: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop Someone From Getting Angry? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it could be said that there are certain emotions that are seen as acceptable and some that are not. And what is seen as acceptable to one gender is not necessarily seen as acceptable to the other. While a woman can come across as being sad without being judged, if a man was ...
Views: 1932 - Isolation: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Isolate Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAristotle once said that human beings are social animals and although this was said many, many years ago, it may as well have been said yesterday. Some of the environments that humans live in are different to how they were in the past, but this hasn’t changed the fact that humans need each ...
Views: 3702 - Music: Can Music Trigger Grief? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn some shape or form, music has been around for thousands of years and while there are styles around today that weren’t around in the past, it still has the same effect. When it comes to making music today, electrical equipment is often used and this has allowed people to create sounds that ...
Views: 1919 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Do Everything By Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go for a walk in nature, they would soon see that everything relies on something else in order to survive. One is not going to come across anything that is independent of its environment; what they will see is interdependence. When it comes to a tree for example, it could be ...
Views: 5040 - Image Obsessed: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Image Obsessed? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked what comes to mind when they think about social media, they might say ‘Selfies’. These are rarely pictures that people just take and then share; they are pictures that are usually altered so that they look right and after this has taken place, they are shared with their ...
Views: 1830 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part Of Letting Go Of Grudges? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be moments when one looks back and remembers someone who treated them well and then there are going to be moments when this isn’t the case. This could mean that one looks back and ends up feeling angry and this may not only relate to one person, it could relate to a number of ...
Views: 1644 - Happiness: Is Being In Touch With Our Needs An Important Part Of Being Happy? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that people want in today’s world, and one of those things is to be happy. But although this is what people want, it is not always that they receive. Someone can feel as though it is impossible for them to fulfil this need and that they would have more chance finding the ...
Views: 1515 - Abuse: Is Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Ending The Cycle Of Abuse? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is abused during their childhood years, they can end up doing the same thing and abusing others or they can put an end to the abuse. And based on how much pain one would have experienced when they were abused, it is often hard for people to understand why they would end up doing to ...
Views: 2250 - Emotional Depth: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Greater Emotional Depth? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people have the ability to feel every emotion on the spectrum, there are others who are only able to express certain emotions. This is similar to how some people can speak a language fluently and others can only speak a few words, if that. The person who can speak a language ...
Views: 1920 - Self-Conscious: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Self-Conscious? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had the need to increase their level of self-awareness, they might be drawn to some kind of mediation. This would then allow them to develop their ability to observe themselves as opposed to being attached to everything that occurs within them. And as time passes and one continues to ...
Views: 1791 - Empaths: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Empaths? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile all human beings have a physical body, that doesn’t mean that they experience life in the same way. If one was to think about why this is, they might focus on how we are born into different environments and how these environments can be the defining factor. However, without even going ...
Views: 2860 - Addiction: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Addictive Personalities? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to drink alcohol or even take drugs without their whole life being taken over, there are others who are not able to exercise the same level of self-control. If they were to drink or to even take drugs, they would soon find that their life has been taken over. One ...
Views: 2318 - Emotionally Unavailable Mother: What Are The Consequences Of Having An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some women want to be mothers and go onto fulfil this need, there are others who have no interest in being a mother. They might end up channelling their nurturing abilities into another area of life instead. However, just because a woman decides to be a mother, it doesn’t mean that she ...
Views: 8315 - Creating Usable Information is as Easy as P-L-R - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2014 from Kathleen GageRegardless of what industry you’re in something that can position you as a credible expert is packaging your knowledge into high value content. Whether it be a report, article, MP3 or video, content is something that sets you apart from your competition. Unfortunately, the thought and the ...
Views: 1271 - The Best 25 Cents I Ever Invested - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2014 from Kathleen GageIn my twenties life was very different than it is today. I had very little belief in what is possible and how powerful our thoughts are. That is until I found a book at a garage sale called The Magic of Believing. With very little money in my pocket, I reluctantly parted with a quarter ...
Views: 1754 - Irrational Feelings: Do You Have Irrational Feelings? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because one feels a certain way, it doesn’t mean these feelings reflect what is currently taking place in their life. One can then come to the conclusion that their feelings are irrational. This could be something that one experience from time to time or it might be a regular ...
Views: 2506 - Social Media: Can Social Media Create Discontentment? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence and while this may be true, there is also the chance that it isn’t. Moving to another area might make one’s life so much better and there is the chance that they are better off where they are. Just as one could ...
Views: 2624 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause Low Self-esteem? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who were already adults by the time social media came to the fore and then were others who grew up with social media. In the first case, one had to gradually adapt to what was appearing and in the other, it would be something they had to learn but not something they ...
Views: 1919 - The Media: Does The Media Promote Instant Gratification? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people want to find out about what is taking place locally and globally, they often look to the mainstream media to inform them. This could be seen as a normal part of living in the modern-day world. But while this has been the way for so long, it is it beginning to change and this is ...
Views: 2007 - If one more person tells me I'm so lucky... - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2014 from Kathleen GageA little more than six months ago, I was training for a marathon as a power walker. During one of my longer workout sessions, I hit a pothole and instantly broke my ankle. I was literally stopped in my tracks. Knowing I would be laid up for a few weeks, I took the first few days to relax and ...
Views: 1415 - Create a Targeted, Problem-Solving Ethical Bribe To Build Your List - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2014 from Kathleen GageMost people have heard they should build an opt-in list. This is true. But it’s not just any list. Your greatest results come from building a targeted and responsive list. You will be in a better position to put sales on autopilot when you do. The best way to build your list is have a ...
Views: 1414 - Attune to Your Heart, Mind and Body: Gift of Appreciation - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2014 from Frosty WooldridgeBy Frosty Wooldridge While growing up, you faced many challenges. You tackled schoolbooks that demanded your attention to gain knowledge. Your teachers busted your butt with homework assignments. Your parents piled on chores such as mowing the lawn, washing the car, taking out the trash, ...
Views: 989(1 vote) - Perfectionism: Can Toxic Shame Cause Perfectionism? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are things that are around today that are seen as being perfect but as time passes, they will be seen as imperfect. And this is how life has always been and something that will continue to take place. What this shows is how life doesn’t stand still and that there is always something ...
Views: 1802 - Appreciation: Can Suffering Lead to Greater Appreciation Of Life? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is human nature to only appreciate something when it is not longer available. So when one has something in their life, it is easy for them to take it for granted. Not only can this apply to ‘things’, it can also apply to the people who are in one’s life. In the ...
Views: 2511 - Shyness: Can Toxic Shame Cause Shyness? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who come across as confident and as though nothing fazes them, and then there are others who are the complete opposite. Based on how they behave, they will be seen as lacking confidence and as though they can’t handle life. But while people are often are labelled as ...
Views: 2791 - Self-Esteem: Can Toxic Shame Cause Low Self-Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes across something that grows into the ground and has a big trunk, there is only going to be one word to describe what it is – and that is a tree. And the same can be said when it comes to describing other things on this planet. However, when it comes to how one sees themselves, ...
Views: 2413 - Relationships: Is Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Letting Of The Fear Of Abandonment? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is said that it is not possible for someone to be abandoned as an adult, and how this would only apply if they were a baby or a child. However, just because one is an adult it doesn’t mean that they will no longer feel abandoned. The fear of being abandoned and the feeling itself could ...
Views: 1533 - Shameless: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Shameless? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough it is possible for an emotion to enhance one’s life, it is also possible for an emotion to have the opposite effect. If one feels angry, it could be a sign that they have been violated, but if they always feel this way it shows that something isn’t right. It could mean that one is ...
Views: 1713 - Angels All Around Us - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2014 from Sheryl PaulThere is so much pain in this world. There’s personal pain that often takes the form of anxiety, depression, addictions, and intrusive thoughts. There’s the physical pain of illness, injury, and disabilities, both short-term and chronic. There’s relationship pain when we endure conflict with ...
Views: 1538 - Change: Do Some People Try To Change The World In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are the changes that one can make in their own life and then there are the changes they can make in the world. And as one is part of the world, what takes place in their life can end up affecting the world. The internet has given individuals the power to make more of a difference than ...
Views: 2016 - OVERCOMING ANGST - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2014 from Joel Bryant, Ed.D.Do you know the angst of greatness, that sick feeling when you see your dreams sailing downstream towards a ravine that dares you to enter and retrieve them? Despite our obsession with success, we say little about the angst that eats when failure chastens and cheats. The Silent ...
Views: 2535 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Cause Someone To Become Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is into self-development, positive thinking is going to be something they are familiar with. But even if this isn’t the case, this is still likely to be something that one is familiar with. It could be something they have heard of and that’s about as far as it goes, or it could be ...
Views: 1921 - Responsibility: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Responsible For Others? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile is it one thing to feel responsible for one’s own life, it is another thing altogether to feel responsible for other people. Even though one is not responsible for other people, it doesn’t mean they feel this way. That is unless they have a young child or children for instance and then ...
Views: 1505 - Relationships: Are People Entitled To Get Revenge On Their Ex? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be with someone and believe that they are the one, and in the next moment it could all be over. They could also be with someone who doesn’t have the same effect and then before long, this person is no longer part of their life. How close one feels to another person won’t ...
Views: 1613 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part Of Taking Responsibility For How We Feel In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that while relationships have the power to lift one up, they also have the power to bring them down. So one can experience just about every emotion on one side of the spectrum at one moment and then experience just about every emotion on the other side of the spectrum at ...
Views: 1649 - Love: Where Does Love Come From? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people say money makes the world go round, other people say that it is love that makes the world go round. Each outlook deserves to be heard and the outlook that one has is likely to depend on what they’re like as a person. If one was an idealist they might say it is love and yet ...
Views: 2099 - Feelings: Do Our Feelings Always Reflect Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to watch a film that had no colour or sound, it is not going to be the same as a film that has colour and sound. It is unlikely to be as engaging or as entertaining, and one might soon lose interest and turn it off or walk away from what they’re watching. And the same could be ...
Views: 1864 - Moving Forward: Is The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stopping You From Moving Forward? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that human beings have an inherent need to grow and to move forward in life. And what one person sees as being a sign of growth is not necessarily what another person sees as a sign of growth. But while there are going to be differences, what most people are going to agree ...
Views: 1512 - Self-Talk: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Have Negative Self-Talk? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere is how one is spoken to by others, and then there is how one speaks to themselves. And what is taking place internally can often be known through what is taking place externally. This means that how one allows other people to talk to them is often a reflection of how they talk to ...
Views: 2203 - Relationships: Is The Fear Of Being Abandoned Causing You To Put Up With People Who Are Controlling? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a big difference between wanting to experience a sense of control over one’s life, and wanting to control other people. When one experiences a sense of control over their life, it means that they’re not going to feel as though they have no control and as though they are a victim. ...
Views: 1433 - Communication: Is It Important To Be Emotionally Expressive? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to connecting to other people, our facial expressions play an important role. And like one’s body language and their tone of voice, one is not always aware of how they’re coming across. Or one might be aware of their body language and their tone of choice, but their facial ...
Views: 1997 - Assertive: Can The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stop Someone From Being Assertive? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, knowing when to speak up or to keep quiet is something that comes naturally. And while they might not get this right all the time, it is not going to be something that they need to focus on. At certain times, they might speak up when they should have kept quiet or kept quit ...
Views: 2517 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Feel Boundaryless? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf it was raining and one didn’t wear jacket or something to keep them dry, they would soon be soaked. Their jacket or an umbrella for instance, is then something that protects them from the rain. However, even if it was not raining one still needs to protect themselves. Their personal space ...
Views: 2416 - I Believe in the Power I AM - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2014 from Betska K-BurrI was coaching a little boy today … he is 47 years old. ‘Peter’ is a brilliant man having achieved a very senior level in his organization and pretty much destined for the very top job. So why did I refer to him as a ‘little boy’? While Peter has an IQ score which is off the charts, ...
Views: 1170 - Needy: Can Unmet Childhood Needs Cause Someone To Be Needy? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this means it is not possible for one to remove their needs. But regardless of this fact, it doesn’t mean that one feels comfortable with their needs or that they’re able to get their needs met. Some people are going to view their needs with disdain ...
Views: 2060 - Letting Go: Is Grieving An Important Part Of Letting Go? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs soon as something ends, there is the chance for something to begin; just as when something begins, there is the chance for something to end. This is the cycle of life, and something that will continue until the time that one passes on. However, this is not something that always takes ...
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