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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Journey to Wholeness - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2015 from Dr. Wendy TreynorThe Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams is a children’s story about a rabbit that wants to be Real. I, too, wanted to be Real. I wanted to be whole. To be whole is to be Real. Like the velveteen rabbit who was a stuffed bunny, I was “stuffed” with social conditioning, scuffed around the edges, ...
Views: 1164 - Idealisation: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Idealise Others? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst there are some people who are in the public eye, there are others who are behind the scenes. One could be in the public eye because of what they do or it could be because they just wanted to be famous. Therefore, it is something that takes place directly or it is something that takes ...
Views: 1604 - Fear Of Failure: Can Toxic Shame Cause The Fear Of Failure? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone has the desire to do something, it doesn’t mean they will take action. Instead of doing what they need to do to fulfil their desire, they might end up doing nothing. In this case, it is not going to be possible for one to move forward; they are going to stay where they ...
Views: 1965 - Addiction: Can Toxic Shame Lead To Addiction? - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to hear the word ‘addiction’, there is a strong chance they would start to think about an alcoholic or a drug addict. This is not because it is impossible to be addicted to anything else; it is because of how addiction is often portrayed in today’s world. As a result of this, it ...
Views: 1977 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Be Serious? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are times in life where it will be important for one to be serious and then there will be times when this is not the case. If one was to come across as one way all the time, they are going to be out of balance. However, this doesn’t mean that one is going to spend half of each day ...
Views: 1926 - Cure Your Own Depression - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2015 from Dr. Wendy TreynorIn the past, my reference group told me that if I did what they said in the present, they would Love me in the future, which means they were withholding Love from me now—which means they were withholding Love from me always! No wonder I felt worthless. They were giving me conditional ...
Views: 926 - Communication: Is It Important To Respect Other People's Personal Space? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperDuring those moments when one is in a crowded place, it is not going to be possible for them to maintain their personal space. The space that they need in order to feel comfortable is not going to exist. This could be something that one experiences everyday or it could be something that ...
Views: 4747 - SEVEN COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2015 from William CottringerSEVEN COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS By Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw. Communication, like time, is one of our most important resources, but is becoming less cost-effective in usage by the minute, ...
Views: 1559 - Anxiety: Can Toxic Shame Cause Anxiety? - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough feeling anxious from time to time is a normal part of life, if this is something one suffers from on a regular basis it is likely to mean that something isn’t right. Now, this is not to say that one has to be in a constant state of anxiety for there to be problem; as it could also be ...
Views: 2018 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone feels safe in their own body it is going to make their life a lot easier. But while this is the ideal, this is not something that everyone on this planet can relate to. If one doesn’t feel safe in their own body it will be normal for them to be walked over and/or for them to ...
Views: 1815 - Emotional Containment: What Is Emotional Containment? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThe mainstream media covers many areas of life and one of the areas they cover is what one needs to do in order to be happy and healthy. Here, one will be told what they need to do and what they need to avoid. There will be what one needs to eat and avoid, and what they will need to have in ...
Views: 5753 - How to be an Emotionally Self-Aware Leader - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2015 from Helen AttridgeToday’s C-level executives are faced with business stresses that were not even imagined by their predecessors. Complicated business environments have leaders dealing with rapidly changing markets, technologies and workforces as well as tightening budgets, compliance issues and much more. A ...
Views: 858(1 vote) - Nurturing a Wise Heart - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Jackie BrownProverbs 4:23 reads, “Guard your heart above all else for it determines the course of your life.” Biblically, the heart is thought to be comprised of your intellect, emotions and human will. Nurturing a wise heart would then be reflected in your diligent efforts to maintain principle-centered ...
Views: 736 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Cause You To Abandon Yourself? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs one is a human being, it will mean that they have their own needs to fulfil. If this wasn’t the case, they could go along with what other people are doing and it wouldn’t be a problem. One wouldn’t end up feeling frustrated and as though they were on the wrong track; as it wouldn’t be ...
Views: 1497(1 vote) - Entitlement Mentality: Has The Internet Created An Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one liked a certain song in the past, they would either have had to wait for it to be on the radio or they would have had to go and buy it. However, in today’s world, one no longer needs to buy a song; the only thing they need to do is to go onto the internet and to do a search. And after ...
Views: 2287 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Cause You To Go Back To A Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wants to buy a new car, it could be because their old car is no longer drivable or it could be because it no longer fits their requirements. And once a decision has been made, they are unlikely to use their old car again. One could go back on their decision and keep their old car, but ...
Views: 1367 - Superiority Complex: Why Do Some People Think They Are Better Than Others? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to watch athletics on TV or at a stadium, they would soon see that not everyone is on the same level. Within each race, there will be some athletes who are at the front and there will be others who nowhere near the front. In this instance, it is clear that some of the athletes are ...
Views: 7915 - Fame: Can Childhood Neglect Make Someone Want To Be Famous? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was well-known in the past, it may have been because they had achieved something significant or it may have been the result of a crime they had committed. In today’s world, this has all changed and one no longer needs to have done either. This was something Andy Warhol alluded to ...
Views: 1733 - Relationships: Is Needing Someone The Same As Loving Them? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about what it means to love someone or for someone else to love them, they are likely to have an idea in mind. This idea could also be backed up by a certain feeling or a combination of feelings. What it means to one person is not necessarily going to be the same as what it ...
Views: 2018 - Feelings: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Stop You From Showing Your Feelings? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences something, there is likely to be what is going on in their mind and what is occurring in their body. And if one is unable to experience both sides, it might make it harder for them embrace what is taking place and it may cause them to come across as being out of ...
Views: 1723 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Stop You From Leaving A Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can have relationships that they want to be in, they can also have relationships that they don’t want to be in. This doesn’t mean that one will no longer spend time with these people though; as they might still spend time with them. In this case, one is not going to be ...
Views: 1553 - Isolation: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Isolate Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere will be times when one will want to spend time by themselves and there will be times when they want to be around others. This is not to say that one will spend the same amount of time with others as they will by themselves; as it is not black and white. How one spends their time will ...
Views: 2278 - Approval: Is It Good Or Bad To Care About What Other People Think? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is addicted to something, they can feel the need to go the other extreme and to cut it out all together. And while this can seem like the right idea, it might not have the desired effect. Another approach would be to cut down on the amount that one has of something; this will ...
Views: 1805 - Common Sense is a Lie. - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2015 from Lucas ThomasCommon Sense is a lie. A lie that has frustrated me for a long long time as it is the cause of most misunderstandings and hatreds in the world. Why is Common Sense a lie? Well let’s define it first: Common Sense as defined from thee Merriam-Webster Dictionary. • COMMON SENSE: ...
Views: 1604 - Kindness and Discomfort, A How-to - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2015 from Jeff SandersMy stepfather Dick (not a pseudonym) is incredibly kind. He is so kind it often makes others around him uncomfortable. His kindness enervates a room and can trigger others to tease or to create an opposing position. He is regularly, persistently and unceasingly complimentary. He sees the ...
Views: 1539(1 vote) - "I Had a Feeling . . ." Listening to Your Internal GPS! - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2015 from Rossana SneeHave you ever been on the verge of doing something, and then had a feeling rush over you like some kind of warning? It happens to everyone. You're about to say or do something, but there's a little, nagging feeling inside fighting you. You might as well be in a boxing ring—sometimes it’s that ...
Views: 1249(1 vote) - Abuse: Why Do Some People Always Put Others Down? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs a human being, one has the ability to lift others up and make their life easier, or they can pull others down and make their life harder. There are going to be some people who generally fit into the first category and then there will be others who generally fit into to the second ...
Views: 14363 - Entitlement Mentality: Is The Law Of Reciprocity Being Phased Out By The Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is given something, they can feel the need to give something back. This doesn’t mean that they will give something back straight away though; as they could return the favour at a later date. So as time passes, one may give something to the person or the company who gave them ...
Views: 1684 - Affirmations: Can Affirmations Cause Someone To Become Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has the need to change their self-image, they might end up using affirmations. This could be because someone else has recommended this approach, or it could be something they have decided upon. However, although one may have decided to use them, it doesn’t mean that they will have ...
Views: 1807 - Communication: Is Empathy Important? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are ‘social animals’ and this is because they are interdependent. So while one may see themselves as being an individual, this is not the complete truth. The person they have come to be is the result of the experiences they have had with others and in order ...
Views: 1856 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is into self-development, they are likely to be familiar with 'positive thinking'. This is something that is generally encouraged when it comes to living a better life. Here, one will need to create thoughts that are 'positive' and do to everything they can to stop themselves from ...
Views: 1478 - Anger: Do You Feel Uncomfortable When Other People Get Angry? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one felt unhappy and they were to meet a friend who was happy, they could soon start to feel different. Their emotional state has then been transformed through being in the other person's presence. This can happen without one having to really do anything, and their life doesn't have to ...
Views: 3643 - Lessons in Leadership from Love - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2015 from Royce GomezSometimes lessons in leadership come from the most unlikely places; when you look for life's lessons, it's amazing where you will find them. I have found them in the small details, the fleeting moments, and the major life-changing transitions. As Valentine's Day approaches, I want to share some ...
Views: 1326 - Lessons in Leadership from Love - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2015 from Royce GomezSometimes lessons in leadership come from the most unlikely places; when you look for life's lessons, it's amazing where you will find them. I have found them in the small details, the fleeting moments, and the major life-changing transitions. As Valentine's Day approaches, I want to share some ...
Views: 1294 - Empathy: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To A Heightened Sense Of Empathy? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look back on their time at school or to a time when they were playing sports, they might remember a moment when someone fell over or injured themselves. Now, as they picture this in their mind, they might see that some people laughed and some people didn’t. One way of looking ...
Views: 1826 - Self-Centred: Can Pain Cause Someone To Be Self-Centered? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are inherently selfish and the only thing they care about is themselves. There are going to be some people who agree with this and there are going to be others who don’t. If a being from another planet landed on earth and heard this outlook from a human ...
Views: 2758 - Anger: What Can Happen When Someone Disconnects From Their Anger? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for something to grow and develop, it will be important for the right conditions to be in place. This is something gardeners understand and as a result of this, they are able to create the right conditions for seeds to grow, among other things. Without this understanding, it ...
Views: 1734 - Being Present: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Being Present? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is into fashion, they will know that the current trend will soon change and end up being replaced by another trend. And while this could be a new trend, it could also be one that was around in the past. So upon reflection, one could say that fashion is like the weather as it is ...
Views: 1926 - Loyalty: Is Being Loyal Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons why people have dogs is because they are loyal companions. And while this is one of their strengths, it can also cause them to be taken advantage of. Yet, even though this can set them up to be treated badly, it doesn’t mean they will simply run away. Instead, a dog is ...
Views: 8230 - I Feel Like I'm Lying When I Say I Love You - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2015 from Sheryl PaulThese are statements I hear quite often in my practice: I feel like I’m lying when I say I love you to my partner. I feel like a fake, an imposter, like I’m leading him/her on. If I don’t feel love, how can I say it? And I’m not always feeling it. In fact, it seems like more often than not I’m ...
Views: 1713 - Depression: Can Repressed Anger Cause Depression? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the most common mental and emotional challenges that someone can face in today’s world is depression. This is likely to be something that most people experience at one point or another. There are then going to be others who don’t experience it from time to time, they experience it on ...
Views: 2449 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abused Children Idealise Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there is no such thing as a perfect childhood, that doesn’t mean that everyone is treated in the same way. There are going to be some people who were treated well on most occasions and there are going to be others who had the opposite experience. In this case, one would have been ...
Views: 2263(1 vote) - A Manual for Love - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2015 from Sheryl PaulI wish I had been given one. I wish we all had been handed a Love Manual in a class in high school, and taken levels two and three in college. For there are basic laws and practices we could have learned that would have made the path of intimate relationship so much easier had we only been given ...
Views: 1630 - Motivation: Can Trapped Grief Cause A lack Of Motivation? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are always doing things, there are others who rarely do anything. Just as there are going to be people who are fairly active, but not the degree that they fall on either side of the spectrum. However, even though there will be people who can relate to this, it ...
Views: 2370 - Social Media: Can Social Media Stop Us From Living In The Moment? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one’s attention can be in the moment, it can also go into the past and focus on the future. This is something that is likely to take place for most people on the planet and it could also be described as normal. At times, one will want to reflect on the past to remind them of something ...
Views: 4623 - Being Seen: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Being Seen? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that human beings need in order to feel fulfilled and one of those needs is the need to be seen. This doesn’t mean that they have an inherent need to be ‘famous’ though; it simply means that they need to be noticed by others. And while one could be noticed by others due ...
Views: 1781 - Needs: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Putting Their Needs First? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to put their needs first and to be there for others when it is possible. In this case, it shows that they are comfortable with their own needs and don’t feel the need to ignore them. Just as there are going to be others who only feel comfortable when they ...
Views: 1671 - Therapy: Is Your Therapist Keeping You Stuck? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is experiencing some kind of challenge, and this could be an inner challenge and/ or an outer challenge, it could cause them to reach out for support. This may mean that they go and buy a book or they might even go on a course. Another approach would be for them to find a coach, ...
Views: 1544 - True Self: Is The Fear Of Abandonment Causing You To Hide Your True Self? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow someone comes across is not always in alignment with who they are and while this could be something that happens from time to time, it could be a regular occurrence. This then means that their true self is being covered up from time to time or it is something that always takes place. If ...
Views: 1672 - Needs: Why Do Some People Feel Ashamed Of Their Needs? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across someone who said that they can live without air, one might start laughing or they could think that there is something wrong with them. This is because human beings need air to survive; they could go against this need, but their life would soon come to an end. As ...
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