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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Preserve The Balance in Your Life - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2016 from Chris SpinkIf trying to preserve balance in your life makes you seem like a tightrope walker, you’re not alone. Most of us have a lot of demands on our time and energy; life can feel like a mad house sometimes. Take this quiz to see how well you are fulfilling your responsibilities, while likewise ...
Views: 1365(1 vote) - Abused Children: Why Do They Have Boundary Problems? - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis article has the description abused children and therefore gives the impression that it is going to be all about children. However, this will be about adults who were abused as children and as a result of this now have a real challenge with boundaries. When it comes to child abuse, there ...
Views: 2194 - How Adaptable Are You? - by Submitted on May 12, 2013 from Amr AbbasIf there is something that you cannot live without, then it would be water. It's not your cellphone; it is not your 48 inches screen; it's not a particular person in your life. Your life is full of things that you do not need but you shouldn't give up on them unless they are harmful or if they ...
Views: 1328 - Success: Why Do Some People Fear Success? - by Submitted on May 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt might seem strange to some people that success could be something to fear; especially as we live in a world where success has become an obsession for so many people. What is often heard about is the fear of failure and how people don’t want to fail. However, success is generally perceived ...
Views: 1953 - Stop The Lies!! - by Submitted on May 11, 2013 from Rita HickmanOne of my least favorite words in the English language is “just”. Uttered by well-meaning people (me included) it implies an easy answer to a complex situation. Whether you’re trying solve a work or personal issue, everyone seems to have the right answer. It’s as if having a problem is somehow a ...
Views: 954(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Change Others? - by Submitted on May 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperChange is part of life and cannot be avoided and yet that doesn’t mean that it’s an easy thing to embrace. There are many others ways that can be sought as a way to avoid change. One of those ways is to try and change other people. This is something that probably comes under the umbrella of ...
Views: 4135 - The Media: Does The Media Create Discontentment? - by Submitted on May 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are so many things that can take place through exposing oneself to the mainstream media. And let’s face it, due to the power and influence that it has, it is more or less impossible to not be affected by it. For some people, their whole meaning of life, what’s going on in the world and ...
Views: 1705(1 vote) - Obsession: Is Obsession A Bad Thing? - by Submitted on May 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe words addiction and obsession can appear to describe the same thing. And yet there is a clear distinction between the two. An obsession is something that is usually in the mind and can relate to people, things and ideas; so all that is abstract and all that is concrete. On the other hand, ...
Views: 4061 - Legitimate Suffering: What Is Legitimate Suffering? - by Submitted on May 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a saying by Carl Jung that says - “Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering”. And while this has got to be one of his most famous quotes, it is not easily understood. In today’s world it is often advocated that one should avoid pain at all costs. This is something ...
Views: 3139 - The Best Curriculum For Your Kids - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Lisa DingmanThe Best Curriculum For Your Kids I have been a homeschool educator for over 20 years. In that time I have seem a lot of changes in the home schooling movement, particularly with curriculum. There are many great tools for parents to use these days. With homeschool being so popular the ...
Views: 1249 - Addictions: Are Addictions A Bad Thing? - by Submitted on May 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to current societal problems, the word addiction is often mentioned. And there are certain things that are generally spoken about, when it comes to what people are addicted to. These are often: drugs, alcohol and gambling for instance. And due to the exposure that these ...
Views: 2669(1 vote) - EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE - DOES YOUR THINKING HOLD UP UNDER PRESSURE? - by Submitted on May 07, 2013 from Alan KeyseI have been working with Emotional Intelligence (EI)* for many years. During my 3 decades as a sales executive I found it to be an invaluable asset, and more recently, in my role as a business and life coach, I have encouraged my clients to harness its huge potential. Put simply, EI enables ...
Views: 1331 - Reality: Do We All Have Our Own Reality? - by Submitted on May 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe all live on a planet called earth and are all effected by the natural laws of this earth. And while there are some things such as these that we can all relate to, when it comes to our own lives, there can be radical differences. How people experience and perceive life can vary from person ...
Views: 1740 - Perfection: Why Do Some People Try To Be Perfect? - by Submitted on May 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be seen as perfect is very much a part of the of the modern day world. And this doesn’t only relate to one’s ability in life; it also plays a part in how one looks and in how one feels. Clear examples of this can be found in the media and the fairly recent introduction of anti aging ...
Views: 5603 - Communication: Is Vulnerability An Asset? - by Submitted on May 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to creating a deeper connection and a lasting impression on others; it is often assumed that sharing ones good points is the best approach to take. To share ones vulnerable side is something that should be avoided at all costs. This means that successes and achievements should ...
Views: 1980 - Comparison: Should We Compare Ourselves With Others? - by Submitted on May 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that comparing oneself with another is a natural part of living in the modern day world. And it is also true that this doesn’t necessarily have to be something that is negative or disempowering. There are of course certain comparisons that can be made, without ones wellbeing ...
Views: 1911 - Vulnerability: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Be Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human is to be vulnerable, but that doesn’t mean that accepting this is therefore easy. To surrender to this truth can be an incredible challenge; that is if one even wants to. And as a way to avoid this truth, one can create all kinds of walls and defences. But while this may allow one ...
Views: 1714 - Letting Go: What Does Letting Go Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to living life in the present moment and being free from attachments to the past and to specific outcomes in the future; letting go is often spoken about as the ideal. And through letting go, one can then allow life to flow. Also, as a result of this, a lot of the stress that can ...
Views: 2108(1 vote) - Happiness Should be Your Drug of Choice - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2013 from Andrew HortonUnfortunately your brain does not come with an operator’s manual. So understanding how to use it optimally may seem very difficult and in some cases even overwhelming. Trying to understand that your body creates some really powerful chemicals, which can affect your mood and how you feel, can be ...
Views: 1129 - The Media: Is The Media Creating Our View Of Reality? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to understanding what is going on in the world, the media has generally been the source that one has looked to. This has been the case for many, many years. But this has very recently changed and this is primarily due to the fairly introduction of the internet. In the past, the ...
Views: 1904(1 vote) - Lessons Learned From The Middle Of The Pack - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2013 from Terry DownsLessons Learned From The Middle Of The Pack An ultra is not a competition. It is much more. When you finish a race having won it, it happens many times that you are not satisfied. You're happy, but that's it. And the next day, you see people arriving at the square and you see they are crying ...
Views: 864 - The Blind Spot - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2013 from Teri GoetzLet’s say you really wanted something: a house, a new suit for that big interview or to pay for college for one of your kids. Maybe you wanted to (ahem) invest in a coaching program. You set your sights on it. You wrote intentions. You were sure you were going to find the money to do what you ...
Views: 1586 - Healing: What Actually Works? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to healing ones childhood pain or in healing the pain that has come about through later life experiences; there are many techniques and methods out there. And each one of these is often described as the one and only way. So based on this, if one was to use this method, it would ...
Views: 2025 - Innovation: Two Brains are Better than One - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2013 from Valencia RayInnovation and creativity optimization requires mental agility. When we can flexibly move between and integrate our two hemispheres, we can tap our 'two brains'. They work best together, collaboratively. We have a right and left-brain for good reason… good reasoning. When we are too far on ...
Views: 1334(3 votes) - Words: Do Words Create Our Experience Of Life? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe power that words have cannot be denied or dismissed. And there are many points and areas to look at when it comes to words. However, the primary focus of this article is going to be the role that the ego mind plays. Words have certain meanings in the dictionary and socially for example; ...
Views: 1741 - What to Do When You Run Out of Things to Say - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2013 from Eduard EzeanuSometimes in conversation, you’ll run out of things to say. This is especially true if you’re kind of shy or you’re not a very good conversationalist. At certain points, you just won’t know what to say next. But you can overcome this situation quickly enough. There are a few effective ...
Views: 2234 - Dare To Dream - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2013 from Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardWho Am I Meant to Be? Few people dare to dream. To live their lives striving to achieve their potential and become the person they were meant to be. Most people live in survival, as though they have to constantly protect themselves from unseen dangers, even though they don’t exist. Sadly, ...
Views: 1611 - Self-Awareness: The Great and Powerful Oz - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2013 from Valencia RaySelf-awareness helps us wake up to aspects that are already present within us - we just don't see them. The blind spots of our society's conditioning over time can cause us to focus on what is allegedly 'wrong with us'. Sure, we all have shortcomings that challenge us to grow. These behaviors ...
Views: 1142(2 votes) - Would you like to feel good? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2013 from Larry CranePretty certain, most folks would love to feel good at all times, although many may think it’s not possible to always feel good. Ok, what’s right about feeling good? Feeling good encompasses many things… Perhaps it is working on an incredible project – getting involved – being inspired. Maybe ...
Views: 1450(1 vote) - Success: What Does It Mean To Be Successful? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word success is widely used in today’s world and it is something that is sought after by many people. People from all backgrounds and walks of life are driven to attain success. And through the media and other means, we are constantly exposed to people who are successful in certain ...
Views: 2197 - Want Passion? 4 Body/Mind Steps To Change Your Life (Step 2) - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2013 from Rita HickmanThe Mechanics of Changing Your Mind Step 2- “Discover Passion” Passion drives creation. When you harness passion, you change your mind and your life. By passionately desiring change, almost magically, your psyche focuses your energy to create that change: find love, enjoy your job, like your ...
Views: 930 - When Did You Last Feel Truly Connected to Yourself? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2013 from Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardThink for a moment of a time when you felt truly connected to yourself – you were on purpose, knew what you needed, had a plan to get it, and felt passionate about doing so. Although many of us have experienced times when we felt we were acting from our true selves, aligned with our interests ...
Views: 1640(1 vote) - Change Management: From Survival to Thrival - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2013 from Valencia RayManaging change effectively involves managing mindset. Where your mind is set determines if change is scary and 'hard' or exciting and 'easier'. I don't want to imply that change will be without discomfort, but it doesn't have to be downright painful. How you see it - perception - matters. ...
Views: 1470 - Scary Stuff & Pain Removal by Eye-Movements - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Hal WechslerScary Experiences & Pain Are Gone in 30-Seconds • 1. “Gettoutahere!” you are Not a medical doctor, psychologist, or ophthalmologist, what the hell do you know about pain removal or trauma?” - he yelled at me. • 2. “Right-on. I suggest you go to your physician, or get a referral to a ...
Views: 1462(3 votes) - Relationships: Can Relationships Be Unconditional? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo love without conditions or requirements is often spoken about when it comes to evolved or adult relationships. And then there are also other needs that can come into this, such as; acceptance, approval, appreciation, respect, attention and many others. To be loved by another and to have ...
Views: 1791 - The Truth: What Does Your Ego Believe To Be True? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are often many descriptions of what truth is and what truth is not. Absolute truth is often used when it comes to religion or spirituality. These are all fascinating areas to study and to then form one’s own opinion. And there is also another form of truth; which comes from the ego ...
Views: 1915 - Let Me Help You, Please! - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2013 from Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardWhen we think about the Socializer Striving Style, with their predominant need to be connected, the Barbra Streisand song "People” (People Who Need People) comes to mind. Socializers are the “Weavers of the Social Fabric” in families, the workplace and in communities. They easily build and ...
Views: 1541(1 vote) - Communication: How Do You Make People Feel? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to communicating and connecting with others it is rarely what one says that is important. This means that the words that are used are only a very small part of the equation. How something is said will make a bigger difference than what is said. But this is not the focus of this ...
Views: 2026(2 votes) - Mindfulness Meditation: Live in Peace, Not Pieces - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Valencia RayInner peace is closer than you realize. You don't have to do any thing. In fact, it is your tendency to need to do something that is driving peace of mind out of reach. We have been taught to separate our self into pieces. Be one way at home and one way at office. One way at church or temple and ...
Views: 1379(1 vote) - ***Intuitive Hits & Misses - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Bruce SchneiderIntuition is knowing without knowing how you know. It’s that flash of insight you get about something. You’re an intuitive being, even though you might think you’re not. Some people are more in touch with their intuitive self than others, but we all have similar innate abilities. The more ...
Views: 3396 - The Role of Emotions in Organizations - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2013 from Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardIn the absence of being able to express their emotions and connect with the organizational identity, employees are expected to adapt to role driven behaviour. This can result in a decrease in an employee’s ability to contribute anything more than what is defined by the role, leaving both leaders ...
Views: 2072(3 votes) - Defence Mechanism: Reaction Formation - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe ego mind uses defence mechanism for protection and to ensure its own survival. There are many of these available and this will often depend on two factors. This can be: the type of experience that one has and how one interprets the experience. Reaction formation is a way for the mind to ...
Views: 2740(1 vote) - Attraction: What Do People Find Attractive? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe definition of what it means to be attractive is not always the same for one person as it is for another. There are general things that are recognised as being attractive in women and attractive in a man. Science often comes up with what these qualities are. However, what is found to be ...
Views: 2147 - By Understanding Behaviour We Can Manage Performance - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2013 from Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardWhat benefit is it to the organization if short-term goals are met but a leader’s behaviour contributes to employee unrest, sabotage, or high turnover with loss of skills and knowledge? Leaders must be aware of how their behaviour impacts on the motivation and performance of their ...
Views: 1893(1 vote) - Abusive Relationships: Why Does Abuse Make People Feel Uncertain? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the consequences of abuse, there are many and some will be more severe than others. One of these consequences is that it usually creates uncertainty in the victim. And this has the potential to create all kinds of problems, because to the degree that one feels uncertain ...
Views: 2299(1 vote) - Emotions: Why Do Some People Feel Uncomfortable With Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to human development, emotions are generally ignored and have been exceeded by other areas. In recent years there has been an intense focus on ones physical side and this has lead to people joining gyms or going for runs for example. And when it comes to ones intellectual side; ...
Views: 9421 - Resolving Conflict by Johanna Courtleigh - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2013 from Johanna Courtleigh, MA,It can be scary and uncomfortable to say we’re sorry. To own up to the fact that perhaps we did something less than stellar and that it negatively impacted someone we care for. We want to just brush it under the rug. To have it let go. To not have to meet and experience the discomfort of ...
Views: 2014 - A New Use for The Emotional Scale - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2013 from Sherri CarterThe Emotional Scale, introduced in the Esther Hicks book, Ask and It Is Given, is a tool in creating awareness and personal empowerment. Abraham, through Esther, says “the key to regaining your wonderful feeling of personal empowerment and control is to decide, right now, no matter how good or ...
Views: 974 - Leadership Beyond Gender - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2013 from Valencia RayLeadership development is another area of personal and professional growth that is, not surprisingly, undergoing change. What we historically attribute to leadership style is no longer working as we move further and further away from a one-size-fits-all workplace to a more collaborative culture ...
Views: 1295(1 vote) - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, the term walls may bring up associations to do with the physical walls of a house or walls that divide one garden from another. However, the walls that this article will look into are not physical walls. They are not visible to the eye and yet this doesn’t mean that the impact ...
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