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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Child Abuse: Why Has Child Abuse Gone On For So Long? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAwareness around child abuse has gradually increased over the years. This can only be a good thing and something that will help to reduce the amount of child abuse that is in the world. However, in this day and age it may be hard for some people to comprehend why this has gone on for so long ...
Views: 2563 - It Takes Two To Tango - The Power of Collaboration - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2013 from Ali RodriguezHave you ever seen or participated in doing the Tango? If you have, you will know that it is one of the most beautiful dances ever. It is sensuous, graceful, harmonious, intricate, physical, calculated and well choreographed. It is also a highly creative way of self-expression….with another ...
Views: 1112 - True Self: Why Is It Hard To Find The True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a quote by Carl Jung that says “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” So based on this quote, it would be right to say that one’s true nature exists within and is not found without. To look within would then be the appropriate way of going about finding oneself. ...
Views: 2078(2 votes) - Making Sense of Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2013 from Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardMany of us have been conditioned to control, ignore or dismiss our emotions rather than use them as a source of valuable information. This leads to what is known as “bucket dumping”. We accumulate our feeling responses inside of us and when full, we dump it on whatever situation or person that ...
Views: 2739(1 vote) - Tough Choice? Easy Choice? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2013 from NARENDRA GOIDANIDearest Darling Friends, Last two weeks I was waking up at 4.15 am to meditate for at least an hour and a half. Then, I would leave home at 6.20 am for football practice since I was taking part in a football tournament. I would come home exhausted around 8.45 am. Have a quick bath, grab a ...
Views: 1138 - Reactive Behaviour: What Causes Reactive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWe all have our own style of behaviour and this can change when one is around different people and based on how one feels. As one grows and changes as person; this can also lead to ones behaviour altering. And there will be times when ones behaviour is a response to situations and other times ...
Views: 9260 - How is Your Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2013 from Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardWe believe that through focusing on their personal development, people can learn to handle emotions intelligently, and in doing so increase their ability to succeed in personal and professional relationships. Emotional self-awareness is the core of emotional intelligence. Knowing one's emotional ...
Views: 2018(1 vote) - Invisible: Why Do Some People Feel Invisible? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to feelings, there can often be a disparity between how one feels and how something actually is. And feeling invisible is the perfect example of this. Part of being human is to have a physical body and yet at an emotional level, one can feel that this is not the case. One can ...
Views: 16794 - Self-Awareness: Life Is a Hero’s Journey - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2013 from Valencia RayWe human beings love stories. One of the all-time favorite themes is ‘The Hero’s Journey’. Adventure stories and lessons from fairy tales were, and still are, at the top of my list of favorite movies, books, and conversations. This is why movies like “The Hobbit,” “Lord of the Rings,” and even ...
Views: 1631(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear Losing Themselves In Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe whole idea of someone losing themselves in a relationship may sound completely ridiculous. And if this was to be taken literally, then yes, it does sound crazy. Because physically it is impossible to lose oneself in another person; there is nowhere to go and it is clearly not possible. ...
Views: 2515(2 votes) - People-pleasers and Pathological Charmers - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2013 from Sam VakninPeople-pleasers dread conflicts and wish to avoid them (they are conflict-averse) - hence their need to believe that they are universally liked. Always pleasant, well-mannered, and civil, the conflict-averse people-pleaser is also evasive and vague, hard to pin down, sometimes obsequious and, ...
Views: 7934(1 vote) - Compliments: Why Can’t Some People Accept Compliments? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to compliments there are some people who can accept them gracefully and others who completely reject them. It may be that one rejects all compliments or only compliments that come from certain people. This can relate to men who reject all compliments from women or women who ...
Views: 12587 - Are You Really ‘Fixing’ Yourself, or Are You Simply ‘Learning’? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2013 from Valencia RayLeadership and developing emotional intelligence is really personal growth and development. It is important to distinguish this. If leaders want to become more empathetic, engaging and inspiring, we must recognize that we need to change our self first. One reason why this feels so threatening ...
Views: 1197(1 vote) - Muscle: Why Are some People Obsessed With Gaining Muscle? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe popularity of muscle building has grown significantly in recent years. Gym memberships have soared and this is not only for men. Women are just as likely to be a member of a gym as men are. And then there is a whole range of supplements to assist with building muscle for men and this has ...
Views: 5803 - Brainwave Entrainment Stops The Cycle of Fear - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2013 from Wanina PetlockWhen you factor down a limitation, you can see the cycle of fear. Fear breeds fear, breeds fear. Brainwave entrainment is a scientific tool that allows you to access the brainwave frequency that can stop fear in its tracks, interrupting the cycle of fear, giving you back your control over ...
Views: 1711 - Why Optimally Operating Your Brain Matters So Much - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2013 from Valencia RayProductivity and performance matter, and underneath this is how we think. We load up on ‘what to do?’ but the deeper question is ‘how do we think about it?’. If we think that work and life are hard and that to be successful we have to feel pressure or stress, we are likely to dampen our level of ...
Views: 1165 - Astrology: What Does Astrology Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI do not claim to be an expert on astrology or someone that see's astrology as the be and end all. For me, it is another point of interest and something that can be used as a mirror; to assist in self awareness and awareness of others. What I am going to take a closer look at here is how the ...
Views: 2327 - Abuse: Why Do Some People Abuse Others? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many types of abuse; from child abuse, to abuse in relationships, abuse in the workplace and even through leaders of countries for example. And no matter what kind of abuse it is, people are put through pain and are made to suffer. One is then made to believe that something is wrong ...
Views: 3271(1 vote) - Hoarding: What Causes Hoarding? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is something that has surely been around for many, many years. In the very beginning of human evolution it was probably only food that was hoarded for those moments when it would be in short supply. However, in the modern day world, this can relate to just about everything on this ...
Views: 2133 - Leadership: The Courage to Actually Lead - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2013 from Valencia RayReal leadership is about having the courage to inspire change and engage the heart of others to take action. Not just action for the sake of action; there also needs to be clarity of ‘why’ you are choosing a given course of action. What are you as a leader doing that is different than you did ...
Views: 1199(1 vote) - Scared to Life (vs. Scared to Death) - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2013 from Geoff LaughtonIt’s kind of a funny thing, that expression “It scared me to death.” [Recently discussed by Geoff at Debbie LaChusa's Money Success Happiness blog at www.moneysuccesshappiness.com] In my work with people, and in my own personal life, one of the biggest components of happiness, success, ...
Views: 1214 - Feelings Aren't Facts - Emotional Reasoning - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2013 from Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardIdentifying our automatic thinking usually changes the way we feel and puts us in a much more empowered position to make wise and meaningful decisions. Learning to observe your thoughts gives you the opportunity to recognize the emotional responses you are creating with your interpretation of ...
Views: 10340(1 vote) - Normal: What Does Normal Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word normal can trigger all kinds of meanings and what can come to mind are the judgements that are made around people. How someone looks, dresses or behaves is often part of this judgement. However, this article is not going to be about what is classed as normal or abnormal about people. ...
Views: 3120 - Fear Is Limited By Space and Time, Thus Easy To End - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2013 from David GikandiFear has given the human race a difficulty since the beginning of time. Countless people have gone as far as failing to proceed with aspects of their lives simply because of fear, and countless more have been trapped needlessly in suffering simply because of fear. How do you best release ...
Views: 1104 - How to Have a Good Day - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2013 from David GikandiHow do you guarantee that your waking moments, your days, are successful, joyful, effortless, and deliver the results of your desires? There is a way to accomplish this. It is a simple way but it requires a few steps that may be very different from your current habits. However, with ...
Views: 1274 - Associations: Do Associations Create Our Perceptions Of People? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMost people have heard of the saying ‘don’t judge a book by its cover’ and yet this is generally what happens. We see that someone is wearing a certain item of clothing, looks or acts a certain way and a judgement is made. This judgment is automatic and is a consequence of the unconscious ...
Views: 1931(1 vote) - Are you happy? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2013 from Cheryl CharronWhat makes you happy ? Truly, genuinely and authentically happy? Is this state of happiness easily reproduced every day or just sometimes? You can be in a state of happiness everyday if you would like to be. Your overall state of happiness is based upon how you perceive your past, present, ...
Views: 1311 - Selfless: Why Do Some People Always Put Others First? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperPeople who put others first are often revered and are seen as an example of how to live. The fact that they appear to always put others first, is what makes them different to people who appear to always put themselves first. This could be to do with helping a friend, partner or colleague at a ...
Views: 25923 - Trust: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Trust? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperBeing able to trust is an important part of life. And this not only relates to trusting other people, it also relates to trusting oneself. Having trust in life, is another expression of this. This could be trusting in some kind of god for some and for others it could simply be a sense of trust ...
Views: 5308(1 vote) - Brands: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Brands? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe live in a time where brands are everywhere and there is more or less a brand for everything. From branded water; to branded clothes and anything else that one could imagine. Part of the brand experience is that it creates sense of trust for people; that they can rely on the brand to ...
Views: 11651(1 vote) - How The Holidays Should Be - The Leader Style - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2013 from Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardLeaders are one of the most responsible of all the Striving Styles. When they are fully engaged with the holiday season, they act as though it is their responsibility to make sure everything runs smoothly and everyone has a good time. They work very hard during the season to ensure it does as ...
Views: 1416(1 vote) - Abandonment: Why Do Some People Fear Abandonment? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe fear of abandonment can affect someone's life in many different ways. There is the internal experience and the external experience. And this doesn't mean that abandonment actually has to occur, in order for one to feel abandoned. As a result of the power and the imagination that the mind ...
Views: 2656(3 votes) - Self Image: Why Do Some People Take Things Personally? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who take just about everything personally and this doesn’t have to be the words that other people say. It could relate to how another person looks at them and what one experiences in the world around them. This can also relate to specific situations where one is being given ...
Views: 10899(1 vote) - The Life Of Pi: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first saw the trailer to this film I thought it looked like the kind of film that is rarely made. Ang Lee came up as the director, and it appeared to be the ultimate adventure. After seeing the trailer I soon forgot about the film until I decided to go the cinema and it was showing. My ...
Views: 4544 - The Reluctant Participant - The Intellectual's Holiday Style - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2012 from Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardTheory best comes alive with examples of people demonstrating behaviours and today I have a sample of the Holiday Survival Style of the Intellectual that typifies the behaviour of these people. The social expectations of the holidays cause the Intellectual no end of challenge. Generally ...
Views: 1509 - Christmas & Depression - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2012 from John AllanChristmas and depression Christmas is a time of the year, when depression is likely to occur. Some authorities report that the rate of suicide is highest around this time of the year. So why would this be, when Christmas is supposed to be such a wonderful time? When we gain an ...
Views: 1751(1 vote) - Time for YOU During the Holidays! - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2012 from Teri GoetzDuring the holidays it's go-go-go! We easily become stressed, short-tempered and overwhelmed. I have a very simple suggestion for you that might seem obvious, but I don't see a lot of people (outside of my clients!) doing it! Take time for self-care! Seriously. I'm listing some ideas here ...
Views: 1277 - Relationships: Are Patterns Running Our Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who have relationships that are generally: supportive, secure, loving and what could be described as functional. And there are others who are in relationships that are: unhealthy, dysfunctional, disempowering and even abusive. Functional Now, for people in the first ...
Views: 1894 - Emotional Insecurity: What Are The Signs? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperEmotional security is something that few individuals have and what many would like to have; for the latter, it often seems elusive and hard to come by. And that’s if one has even challenged their instability; for these people it may appear to be how life is and this means that it is often ...
Views: 7832(1 vote) - Christmas 2012 What Gift For Your Russian Dating Girls? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2013 from lisa yungWomen, Russian girls and brides included, are different from men. Men always don't like shopping including Christmas shopping. However, women like shopping very much and like the moment of receiving the gift from the man they love. As a man, you will hardly know how happy, how excited when women ...
Views: 1655 - Attention Seeking Behaviour: What Causes it? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be acknowledged, mirrored and validated are psychological needs that we all have. This is a perfectly normal and natural part of being human and something that is vital for mental and emotionally stability. And like most things in life, there can be extremes and when this healthy requirement ...
Views: 17331 - Consumerism: What Causes Consumerism? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t need much awareness to see that consumerism is a big part of the modern day world. And depending on one’s point of view or position, it can be described as either positive of negative. A small company or large business for example, that’s main focus is on selling physical items, ...
Views: 8410 - The Emotional Brain and Leadership That Resonates - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2012 from Valencia RayThe term “Resonate Leadership” reminds me of the ability it requires to play my piano skillfully. When I play the notes in harmony, it is soothing and harmonic. When played out of alignment and ignorantly, instead of music to my ears, it becomes unpleasant noise. This concept of “Resonance and ...
Views: 1144(1 vote) - The True Art of Giving - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2012 from Kyre AdeptThanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, New Year’s and possibly Valentine’s Day… ‘tis the season to be giving. On the one hand, yippee! I love both giving and receiving. On the other hand, I can’t help feeling exhausted in advance with all the shopping, money, stress and time required to fulfill ...
Views: 1915 - 3 Ways to Turn Around Your Worry Within Minutes - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2012 from Saskia Roell“Good morning, this is God. I will be handling all of your problems today. I will not need your help, so have a good time. I love you. ~God” Today I want to share with you three ways to help you to turn around worry. I talked yesterday with a dear friend about how we deal with fear. Some ...
Views: 1082 - Patterns: Do Patterns Run Our Life? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen we look at our lives or at the lives of others, we can see life through one of two ways, or as a combination of the two. On one side we can see that there are patterns to how we behave, think and feel and in how other people behave. And on the other side, we could also view our internal ...
Views: 1871 - Meaning: Where Does Our Meaning Come From? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is classed as meaningful can vary from person to person. It is not something that is set in stone or fixed. The meaning that one has in life can change as one grows older and has different experiences. The countries and cultures of the world can have meanings that are vastly different to ...
Views: 1927 - The Grass Is Never Greener - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2012 from Anastacia BriceNo matter how evolved you become, you still wake up here every morning. -- Unknown You know the old adage, "The grass is always greener on the other side?" Most people do. And many people believe it's true. But here's what I know: The grass is never ...
Views: 1493 - Uncontrollable - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2012 from Anastacia BriceBetween the wish and the thing life lies waiting. -- Unknown When you're stuck in a situation you can't control, how do you handle it? Really think about that. When you have to sit in traffic on the highway for two hours because a truck overturned up ahead and there's no way ...
Views: 1706(1 vote) - Trust Your Knowing - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2012 from Anastacia BriceBe honest. When was the last time you leaped out of bed, threw open the window and said, "Thank god I'm alive! This is the most glorious day, and today I'm going to do something so fabulous it will change my entire life?" -- Kathleen Neville Over the last several days, people have ...
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