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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Women Bullies - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsMany of us are familiar with teen bullying. If you didn’t see Mean Girls with Lindsay Lohan, you probably heard about it. Girls being mean to girls – backstabbing, back-talking and sabotaging. Pretty depressing, but pretty true. Where does this come from and does it go away as we get older or ...
Views: 910(1 vote) - Chocolate Anyone? How to Create More Intimacy in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonDo you wonder what happened to that yummy closeness you used to have with your mate? Is the sweetness of that chocolate-like intimacy missing from your relationship? Read on to discover 7 simple ways you can whip the confectionery delight of intimacy back into any relationship. So what do ...
Views: 1931(2 votes) - How To Be A Good Boyfriend: Doing 3 Simple Things That Matter A Lot To Your Girlfriend - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2009 from Michael LeeLearning how to be a good boyfriend is important if you want you and your girlfriend to stay together. If you think you’re already doing enough, think again. Women are wired differently from men, so what you think is enough may actually be a few nice gestures short for her. Learning how to ...
Views: 2921(1 vote) - But I Didn't Want to Hurt You - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Meghan GehanI often hear this from clients: “I didn’t tell my wife I was unhappy because I didn’t want to hurt her.” “I haven’t told my children I’m sick because I don’t want them to worry.” “I can’t tell my boyfriend I want to see other people because he’d be upset.” In other words: “I can’t tell ...
Views: 1744(1 vote) - Grow Closer After Kids: 5 Ways - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Carol Ummel LindquistYoung parents have precious little free time. So here are 5 quick tips: • Spend an uninterrupted 20 minutes each day face to face or side by side talking (and cuddling) and most important listening to anything the other wants to say. Yes, when you are desperate you can break it into 2 ...
Views: 1258(1 vote) - You Can’t Handle the Truth… - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoMany years ago, having been married a brief time, I came home after having had a strong, yet curious, experience. One I was both eager and frightened to tell my husband about, knowing what I had to say was considered a taboo subject. Eager, because I was the taboo-slaying Joan of Arc; ...
Views: 1700(1 vote) - How to Get Free From Limiting Beliefs When trying to Attract your Ideal Soulmate Love? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Nanette GeigerNanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Expert , writes... ... Tina from New Zealand wanted to know “How do I get free from my limiting beliefs when I'm trying to attract my ideal soulmate love”? Great question because negative thinking plays a big role in success or failure especially in ...
Views: 1715(1 vote) - Marriage and Relationships: 6 Tips to Help the 90% of Couples That are Incompatible - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Scott & Stephen PetulloMany generations ago, marriage was about survival, property, money, securing family dynasties, and pragmatism, not love or sexual intimacy. Marriage remained popular largely because of the stigma attached to sex outside of marriage. Now “love” is the main reason given for tying the knot, but ...
Views: 1710(5 votes) - Questions and Love Advice Answered and the Law of Attraction - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Nanette GeigerNanette Geiger, Relationship Coach, writes... ... Beau from Australia asked me for advice on how he can really KNOW if she is on her way? Beau, thanks for your question. You're not alone. I get that question asked a lot. Any time it comes to matters of the heart, we can feel vulnerable. So ...
Views: 1108(1 vote) - The 150 Myth: You Actually Know More People than You Think - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAll the literature and studies that claim that people can only build relationships with maximum of 150 other people is only half true. The "150" number is often referred to as the Dunbar number after anthropologist Robin Dunbar. As covered in Gladwell's Tipping Point and CommonSenseAdvice: ...
Views: 673(1 vote) - The 21-Day Complaint Free Marriage Experiment - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsMy wife and I have embarked on a 21-day complaint free marriage experiment. I was first introduced to this idea. Tim Ferriss’ blog. In fact, there is a huge movement towards a complaint free world, almost 5 million bracelets distributed worldwide. The idea is simple; go 21 days in a row ...
Views: 1089(1 vote) - The Top Ten Best Tools for Improving Relationships at Home AND Work - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2009 from Jody Johnston PawelI am a Licensed Social Worker, Certified Family Life Educator who has been training parents for over 25 years. As a second-generation parent educator, however, I’ve been involved with parenting classes for almost 40 years, because my parents taught classes while I was growing up. (Read my bio. ...
Views: 1301(2 votes) - ***The Best Marriages on Six Continents of the World - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The “heart of the matter” is this – successful marriages around the world are bound together by their commonalities – certainly not by their differences. Learn the lessons, emulate them, practice them, take them to heart, and engage in the simple ...
Views: 4586(28 votes) - Invest Yourself - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2009 from Charles LutzWhen life is complete, what is the legacy you want to leave behind? One of policy, plans, procedures and rules? Or, do you want a to leave a legacy that represents your true self? If your answer is the latter, then read on. At home, work, or play - if you want to leave a legacy that is of true ...
Views: 1306(5 votes) - The Cement of Strong Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2009 from Charles LutzRelationships parallel houses in the way they are built. Daily, we add (or detract) from the foundation of our relationships - at work and at home. Daily, we lay bricks, reinforce walls, put up barriers, and cover open spaces. How much reflection and planning are you investing into the building ...
Views: 906(2 votes) - The Business of Creative Living - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2009 from Sherry AnsharaTHE BUSINESS OF CREATIVE LIVING! Life is certainly interesting, the ups and downs that come your way. As you reflect to your past for lessons of your experiences, you probably engaged in some of those situations and wondered why did I even go there? You could easily say for the lessons. ...
Views: 1871(1 vote) - Law of Attraction Relationship Success - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Nea Joy JusticeLaw of Attraction is a Universal Law, thus it impacts every part of your existence, including your love life. If dysfunctional or otherwise unsuccessful relationships are your pattern, do not give up hope. It's easy to feel scared, mistreated, or even cursed if you've had a series of ...
Views: 1909(2 votes) - In Spite of My Best Efforts, I Can't Find Anyone - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsArielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction and her husband Brian Hilliard, a business consultant, answer your questions about life, love and relationships. They believe that whether you are eighteen or eighty years old finding Big Love ...
Views: 637(1 vote) - Man Up: The Art Of Non-Sexual Touch - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIf you are neanderthal or cromagnum man reading this, your reaction to the title may be “What? Me must procreate!” If you are somewhat more enlightened you may be saying, “Yeah right, like there is such a thing.” We are all sexual beings. It’s part of our design. Sexuality plays a role in ...
Views: 1201(1 vote) - What Do Men Find Most Attractive In Women? The Answers Revealed - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2009 from Michael LeeWhat do men find most attractive in women? That is the quintessential question, right? What is it about the opposite sex that attracts men like bees to honey? If you’re a woman, you might find yourself wondering these very same things. Well, luckily, I’m here to give you some answers. What ...
Views: 9928(3 votes) - I Do - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2009 from Dr. Dina EvanI marry people. I guess I have married more people than most. Whoppi Goldberg and I marched in the National March on Washington for AIDS and I married ten thousand lesbians and gay men there on the steps of the I.R.S.. Since then, I suppose have officiated at 30-40 more weddings of both gay and ...
Views: 1090(2 votes) - Conscious Dating; The Art of Asking - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2009 from Joan HeartfieldAsking for what we want can difficult. As regards relationship, historically in Western society men have been the askers and pursuers. They are the gender that is expected to take the first step. This is challenging for many men and women. It is not easy for a man to ask when he does not know if ...
Views: 1442(2 votes) - How to Get the Gumption to Stop those Assumptions and Feel Safe! - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Ewa SchwarzHow do You Feel Unsafe? It appears that the human experience has largely evolved into one where many people are experiencing the lack of feeling safe. The number of ways in which that appears in our lives is something that we need to bring into our awareness so that we can change our ...
Views: 2083(2 votes) - I Just Got Dumped - Now What? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from John MooreIn this article, John D. Moore from http://www.mychicagotherapist.com write about getting dumped in a relationship. In this article: • Explore getting dumped • Assess the normal feelings associated with a breakup • Review five survival tips for the “Big D”. Here are four words that ...
Views: 4803(4 votes) - Can You Prevent a Relationship Breakup...Even When That's What Your Partner Says He or She Wants? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsWhen it seems that your relationship or marriage is headed for a breakup, is there anything you can do to prevent it? Yes, there are certainly steps you can take to turn your relationship around, rebuild trust, improve communication and create agreements that will help bring you and your ...
Views: 1677(1 vote) - Why/How Am I in This Situation? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Dr. Cindy BrownThere are many changes happening in our world lately. This can seem challenging and bring about fear and negative thoughts and actions for many people. Reacting to changing situations around us is common and normal for most of us during these times, however it is not always productive in the ...
Views: 1167(1 vote) - Can You Honestly Get Naked with Yourself Right Now? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Dr. Cindy BrownWhat do I mean by getting Honestly Naked? I am referring to you becoming conscious and aware of yourself, your challenges and your life… HONESTLY! THEN, dealing with these in an open, authentic fashion….not hiding, or avoiding (being in denial), but instead exploring, sharing and speaking in a ...
Views: 1195(1 vote) - Stress Relief In Uncertain Economic Times: 7 Steps to a Balanced, Healthy Life and Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Dr. Cindy BrownIn today’s economic climate, many of us must balance many things in our lives to survive, be happy, healthy and successful. You may be juggling a job or career, or maybe you own or have several jobs or businesses like I do, a relationship, and some of you may even have children and then there’s ...
Views: 1798(2 votes) - Sweetening A Sour Apple: When A Bad Apple Spoils the Bunch - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsBecause life requires that we interact with different personalities, it is not uncommon for us to encounter a situation where there is one person whose behavior may negatively impact the experiences of others. Someone who is loud and crass can interrupt the serenity of those who come together to ...
Views: 723 - Don't Ever Quit on Your Teenager - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2009 from Mark GregstonI have seen many parents wonder what in the world happened to their family. They seemingly woke up one morning to a teen who completely changed overnight. Their loving, kind and thoughtful kid is now a person they no longer recognize. It is easy for them to feel they are not prepared for all of ...
Views: 1365(8 votes) - Doctor Credits Her Successful 17 Year Marriage to Science of the Mind - by Submitted on May 21, 2010 from Leah FriedmanAlthough many Americans still have a firm belief in marriage and “living happily ever after,” the fact that 50% of marriages end in divorce and that violence is the reason stated for divorce in 22% of middle-class marriages shows just how often this dream goes wrong. And it is not only ...
Views: 1359(1 vote) - Learning the Lesson - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Timothy MeadLearn the lesson! How many times have you been told to learn the lesson? How many times have you offered this advice to others? The questions follow, “What lesson?” and “How do I learn it?” First some background: All life forms are symbiont beings. The physical shell is a vehicle which ...
Views: 1202(1 vote) - *** Understanding and Using The Pit to Create Healthier, Happier Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Scout WilkinsThe pit is that place of drama where you might end up sometimes, when things are lousy: you lost your job, your kid called from the police station, your best friend let you down, you burned dinner. Sometimes, we just let ourselves go there. Sometimes, we see our friends go there. It ...
Views: 1452 - Journey to a Better Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.The symbol for a journey towards a better relationship is a spiral. Growth itself is also a journey. Look at the center of a spiral, this is where life begins. As we walk on our journey we soon come to a challenge and descend into the shadow side. This is where we face our fears, learn our ...
Views: 1709(3 votes) - The Essence of a Better Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.If there is anything I have learned in my own life and the lives of those I have helped, it is that we are all here to create a better relationship with all those around us as we individually experience our own joys, sorrows and overall discoveries. It is in our attempt to share these ...
Views: 1684(1 vote) - Better Community Equals a Better Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.With divorce being at epidemic proportions, couples today are seeking ways to have a better relationship and prevent becoming part of the statistics. Reports have shown that over a 40 year period, 6-7 out of 10 marriages will end up in divorce. These numbers also do not represent divorce ...
Views: 1579(1 vote) - Attempting a Better Relationship After Divorce - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.Better relationship? The Chicago Cubs? You may be asking what the two have in common. Back in 2003, it was extremely disappointing watching the 7th game between the Chicago Cubs and the Florida Marlins. The game started out great and somewhere along the way, it headed south. There were many Cub ...
Views: 1790 - A Better Relationship with Yourself - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.After working with people for over 10 years, I have found that what happens to us is not as important as how we process what has happened. As children our parents and other adults tell us white-lies or keep secrets from us in order to protect us. This creates confusion between what we feel ...
Views: 1501 - Creating Successful Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Licia GinneWhat makes couples counseling successful? In my experience couple's who are willing to take risks, try new behaviors and invest time and energy increase their changes for success. Learning how to communicate and problem resolve provide the foundation but time and energy are essential for lasting ...
Views: 1371 - All Broken Up - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Keith and Maura Leon - Relationship Specialists, Best Selling Authors, Master Relationship Coaches and TrainersDear Keith and Maura, I broke up with my lover last August, but still now I have his feelings. I didn't know why he left me without even telling me. I stayed for some time but now am dying of his love. What do I do? Please help as soon as possible. Broken Hearted in Kenya Dear ...
Views: 2037(3 votes) - How Could This Be About Me? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Keith and Maura Leon - Relationship Specialists, Best Selling Authors, Master Relationship Coaches and TrainersDear Keith and Maura, I just found your website and podcasts yesterday and they totally resonate with me. I am a very active youthful 55. I was widowed suddenly at 32 with 2 babies. My soulmate died and I was lost and devastated. I banged around for 10 years raising my boys, working and ...
Views: 1543(3 votes) - Why Hire a Dating and Relationship Coach? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Nicole BaikieEveryone at some point in their lives is faced with the cold hard facts that in some area of their life change needs to occur - big time! For many people, their whole lives are about avoiding the changes they need to make. However, life has a funny way of catching up with you, and when it does ...
Views: 2296(6 votes) - Growing by Connecting - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: I have taken quite a few Chopra Center retreats in the past year, I am wondering if it is necessary to stay in touch with like-minded others in order to stay in touch with the consciousness that we share? Is a higher state of consciousness something that we need to spend effort in ...
Views: 505 - Relationship Lessons from Gorillas - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsMy daughter recently returned from a two week trip to Rwanda and Uganda. She attended a wedding of friends who celebrated in the tradition of their countries. While in Africa, she visited the natural habitats of the native gorillas on a guided tour through mountains and deep forests. The family ...
Views: 693 - Adult Peer Pressure and Toxic Relationships: Are they Stealing your Dreams? - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Maria MarYou tell your children not to give in to peer pressure. But do YOU recognize the level of adult peer pressure you carry on your Psychic Shoulders? Is it taking a toll in your manifestation process? Find out! Let's start your exploration with a beautiful parable I use in the Toxic ...
Views: 5821(4 votes) - Overcoming Roadblocks to Romance - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Sherri Nickols"The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated." ~ William James What road conditions are stopping you from unleashing yourself and driving like a diva into an extraordinary relationship? Is your road harangued with the hairpin turns of expectation, insecurities ...
Views: 1018 - Love and Romance: #1 Tip for Creating the Relationship of Your Dreams - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Sherri Nickols"As you continue to send out love, the energy returns to you in a regenerating spiral... As love accumulates, it keeps your system in balance and harmony. Love is the tool, and more love is the end product." ~Sara Paddin Hidden Power of the Heart Love and romance are in the air along with ...
Views: 769 - Five Ways to Make Your Relationships Bloom: The August Full Moon in Aquarius - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Ron Archer"Let us be grateful to people who make us happy: They are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom." -Marcel Proust (1871 - 1922) A few months ago a friend gave me a small African Violet when he came over for a dinner party. It was very sweet and a thoughtful change from the usual ...
Views: 2053(1 vote) - *** Why Don't I Have Friends? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Margaret Paul"Why don't I have friends?" asked Isabella in one of our phone counseling sessions.Isabella, 25 and very attractive, was having a problem that many people have. Sometimes, if people don't keep their high school friends or meet friends in college or at work, they may have trouble making ...
Views: 5079(2 votes) - Our Relationship Stuff - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from Julie FarhaWe all have our stuff… our issues to be recognized, wounds to heal, negative patterns to end. Every relationship experience and every experience in a relationship is an opportunity to discover something about yourself by recognizing unhealthy patterns, healing wounds, and identifying what it is ...
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