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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- The Power of Affirmations - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Lori KlauserOnce you recognize that you are codependent, affirmations are one of the tools that will help you tremendously. Affirmations empower you to face the facts of your codependent life and to build a powerful future on your behalf. The positive thoughts you concentrate on will permeate to your ...
Views: 1129(1 vote) - The Law of Gratitude - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Lori KlauserWhen you are feeling your lowest, I’m sure you can’t imagine one thing to be grateful for. When you think you are deprived, your feelings and thoughts revolve around what you don’t have. You may not believe you deserve for good things to happen to you. Being grateful and thinking along the lines ...
Views: 1018(1 vote) - Taking Care of Yourself - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Lori KlauserHave you ever wondered if it’s them that need to grow, change, be a better person and be more responsible or could it possibly be you? We are all responsible for our own lives. If you are living with a chemically dependent person, though, you may have taken on the role of caretaker. You may ...
Views: 1120(1 vote) - Signs of Codependency and the Steps You Can Take to Start Recovery - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Lori KlauserCodependency usually comes about as your response to another person’s chemical dependency. It revolves around your relationships with the people in your life. It involves the effects these people have on you. You, in turn, then try to affect them and their behaviors. As you begin to see them ...
Views: 1121(1 vote) - Recovery from Codependency is Possible - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Lori KlauserRecovery from codependency means getting yourself and your life back. It is caring about you again. It is about reclaiming yourself and your life. Recovery is an internal agreement and a process that lasts a lifetime. Remember, yesterday’s choices are the consequences you live today. The choices ...
Views: 2182(1 vote) - Balancing Masculine & Feminine - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Shirley KnappWe each have the masculine and feminine energy. When they're in balance, we're living by our intuition, in trust and in peace. The feminine spirit that has been reawakened in all here on the planet, out of considerable necessity, will help heal the Earth -- it must be reawakened for ...
Views: 1360(1 vote) - Journaling Through Codependency - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Lori KlauserMost of us had diaries when we were younger. We’d write about that cute boy in homeroom, vent our anger about our siblings, voice our feelings of unfairness about a grounding or restriction our parents enforced, or simply express our dreams for our future. Journaling has now been recognized ...
Views: 4576(1 vote) - Having Healthy Self-Esteem - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Lori KlauserSelf-esteem occurs when you make a conscious decision to value yourself and not see yourself as being less valuable than others. It comes from inside of us. You still feel other emotions such as guilt, anger and fear, but your self-esteem stays undamaged. Your self-esteem may have become ...
Views: 1177(1 vote) - 37 Ways to Make A Difference to Yourself and Others - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Anolia "Leah" Orfrecio-Facun“Making a difference” is not just a scheduled event or activity, but a moment anytime when a person finds it in his/her heart to do something good, to care or to share, or to make a voluntary contribution to another individual, a community or our society. When we consciously give or do ...
Views: 5296(2 votes) - Mindfulness Meditation Therapy and Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2011 from Peter StrongMMT is an exciting new development in which mindfulness is applied directly to help transform and resolve difficult emotional states such as anxiety, fear, phobias, anger and other forms of habitual emotional reactivity that affects the quality of our happiness and the quality of our personal ...
Views: 1390(1 vote) - Ask, Act & Allow; using EFT and the Law of Attraction - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Andy BryceThe same principles apply to all areas of receiving, wheter it is love, money or fulfillment in work or lifestyle. There are many people who say "change your thinking, and change your life" and while that is true, EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques makes change easier and faster than anything I ...
Views: 2591(11 votes) - Am I Boring You? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Royce MoraelsSarah is a rather plain, fifty-something woman with limp, mousey brown hair always pulled back in a pony tail held neatly with an unpretentious brown barrette. She dresses unobtrusively, mostly donning solid-color cotton blouses and dark polyester slacks. Sometimes, rarely, she wears jeans. Not ...
Views: 740(2 votes) - Managing Your Vibration - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from kino macgregorIs each individual on Earth responsible for their own life experience? Or are other people to blame when they are angry, tired, tedious, envious, rude, selfish and just down right mean? How do you make space for other people's roll through the rollercoaster ride of life when it bumps right up ...
Views: 1346(3 votes) - Recipe for Healing a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2009 from Katy AllgeyerYou’ve heard the expression “love sickness”? The term goes back a long way and many greater writers than I (Shakespeare's Sonnet 147 comes to mind) have covered the symptoms brilliantly. It hits most of us at some stage of life--we think we're in love and we've found "the one", the relationship ...
Views: 4175(3 votes) - ***Helping Your Mom and Your Marriage – Finding a Balance - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We owe our moms a lot. While we are lucky that we get to have them around, we have to find a balance between helping our mom and nurturing our own marriage. Over-committing time in a helping relationship at the expense of your marriage will, in the ...
Views: 3571(39 votes) - RAT, Relationship Aptitude Test: How to smell a Rat—or find out if you are one! - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoI went to a memorial this week. A friend passed away suddenly; a shock to us all, but to none more than to his bride of twenty-some years. My heart went out to this brave woman and her three children who watched her life change dramatically without any warning. She told me that it was all so ...
Views: 1912(1 vote) - Breakup City USA: Places in Your City That Will Mend Your Broken Heart - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2009 from Katie KrienitzLet’s face it: breakups suck. And no matter how many times you hear yourself or others saying, “oh honey, it was for the best,” your heart still feels the constant pangs of the loss of your romantic relationship. Especially in the first few weeks of your relationship’s disintegration. And ...
Views: 900(3 votes) - The 5 Questions to Ask When You're Meeting Your Girlfriend's New Man - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2009 from Katie KrienitzThe 5 Questions to Ask when You’re Meeting Your Girlfriend’s New Man I pulled up to the restaurant and sat in my car for a moment. I couldn’t believe that I was actually nervous! One of my best girlfriends, Angelina, had been talking about Charlie for a few weeks now. They had shared ...
Views: 2174(1 vote) - Couples Challenges: The Series - Successfully Navigating the Lifestyle aka Swinging - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2009 from Mark KauppMany couples face a point in their relationship when the feelings of boredom and monotony begin to set in. The couple begins to feel like they’ve lost the spice and spontaneity that once came so easily. Now they have to work for that same excitement which tends to make things seem tedious and ...
Views: 4599(2 votes) - How to Get Your Husband into Couples Counseling - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2009 from Mark KauppHow to Get Your Husband into Couples Counseling by Dr. Mark A. Kaupp, MFT Although there is a slight change in the trend, women are the primary initiators of counseling. Perhaps it's because, in our culture, women are raised to be responsible for relationships. Or maybe it's because men see ...
Views: 1500(3 votes) - Go for a Twin Flame, Not a Soul Mate - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2009 from Jim HagueBy Jim Hague It is long believed in western culture that concept behind Soul Mates pertain to lovers only. But the dictionary defines soul mates as two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity. This does not necessarily imply lovers. Us spiritual ...
Views: 5948(2 votes) - Has Someone Burst Your Bubble? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2009 from Christine SherborneWe all have dreams, particularly when we are young and vulnerable. Have you had the experience of telling someone about dreams that you have in your heart, only to have them shoot them down in flames? They tell you all the reasons why you will fail, or that it can’t be done and will never ...
Views: 2255(2 votes) - Energy Leeches v Enthusiastic Supporters - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2009 from Christine SherborneThinking about the people in your life, who are the leeches and who are the supporters? Thinking right back to your early years who can you remember being the friends and family that have put you down, told you “you can't do it”, or “you are hopeless”? How did they make you feel? What did you do ...
Views: 2020(2 votes) - How To Get Relationship Counseling - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2009 from Sara ApplesEveryone of us at one point or another may need relationship counseling. Some people think that relationship counseling is for couples, while in reality all couples-to-be, family members, employees with their employers, and clients with their professionals can make use of it during troubling ...
Views: 1054(2 votes) - Get Her Back in 6 Easy Steps - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2009 from Ryan TorresA breakup is never easy to cope with, but, if you want to learn how to get her back into your arms, you need to read this, do some planning and, of course, take action. Here are 6 steps that will put you on the right track: 1. Break contact. Reduce as much as you can or, if possible (i.e. you ...
Views: 532(2 votes) - Why Am I Thinking of My Ex? Do I still love him or is it something else? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsMargaret Ruth I am 25. I just got out of a long 2 1/2 year relationship and before that I was married for 3 1/2 yrs. I got a divorcethat was final in June of 2006. And my late relationship ended in the end of March of this year. But my problem is I am thinking and having feelings pop up for my ...
Views: 1070(3 votes) - Stop Fighting! The 12 Best Solutions to Keeping Your Love Alive - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Kathi Calahan, Career CoachThe bad news is, every loving relationship begins with baggage from the past. The good news is, no matter how far back that history of damaging baggage goes, it can be reworked and healed. We practice what we’ve learned, even if it means damaging our relationship or marriage. And crazy as ...
Views: 2227(3 votes) - A Reader's Question: There is Chemistry, and She is Ready, But He Won’t Keep His Dates - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsHi Margaret Ruth, I feel really confused. I just recently broke up with a long term boyfriend (one that I knew would not be one I was going to keep). Two weekends ago though I was out and I looked over at the bartender and realized I knew him from years ago. We used to work together. So I ...
Views: 607(2 votes) - Key to Successful Relationships: Put Yourself First - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsBefore you can have successful relationships with others, you must master your relationship with yourself. Here’s a radical challenge: Make it a goal to fall back in love with yourself. When I say that to a roomful of people in my seminars, I usually hear lots of nervous giggles. Even the ...
Views: 2909(3 votes) - *** Marriage Advice: Turning Conflict into Opportunities - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Richard Nicastro"I really hate it when we argue…but I've also learned so much about my husband from our fights and we have a stronger relationship now." ~Sandra, married seven years Even the most effective communicators get into spats now and then. And despite your best efforts at marital bliss, you and your ...
Views: 1736(3 votes) - Five Tips for Relationship Stress - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2010 from Aila Accad, RN,The most difficult stressor for most of us is other people. We often blame other people for our feelings, thoughts and choices we feel forced to make. The truth is other people are not responsible for any of these things. When you give others control over your feelings, thoughts and choices, ...
Views: 2927(10 votes) - Break and Date: Addiction to Getting Back Together - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: My boyfriend I broke up again about a month ago.. We've been back and forth and it always ends up with us deciding not to speak, but then we do and things are okay for about a week before we go right back to break-up-ville. What do I do? Sherri's Answer: I believe Albert ...
Views: 716(1 vote) - *** Relationships: Do Humans Mate for Life? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2009 from Christine BreeseEveryone is looking for “the one” who will be a partner for life. Some even feel that they are looking for a lost soul counterpart, their other half somewhere here on the earth like a needle in a haystack. Many believe that human beings are meant to mate for life. However, I am not so sure about ...
Views: 4297(5 votes) - Why Do Men/Women Cheat? And How Do We Create a Healthy Relationship Where Both People Stay Motivated Towards Monogamy? - by Submitted on May 10, 2010 from Dr. Cindy BrownI wrote this issue’s tips because of the hot stories/sex scandals in the news lately. These are the biggest questions I am being asked to answer in my media interviews lately. So I thought I would share my research and then my tips with you so you too can have healthier happier relationships ...
Views: 2299(2 votes) - Advice for the Shy Person Attracted to Someone at Work - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2009 from Jonathan Mansfield"There is someone at work I like but I am too shy to speak to this person. What should I do?". The question above is asked over and over again by shy people. The basic advice for people who find themselves in this situation is as follows. The first thing to remember is that the person ...
Views: 1360(2 votes) - The Art of Conscious Flirting: Playful Interactions in the Dance of Life - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Joan HeartfieldIn our natural, loving state, we are turned on by select individuals and by life in general. As we encounter others, we recognize that each person has a unique quality that enlivens us. Learning a safe, elegant way to play with this enlivening attraction is part of putting conscious flirting ...
Views: 5014(2 votes) - How to Develop Key “Life-Line Relationships” That Will Change Your Life - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsNone of us can achieve the success or the validation we deserve alone. In this troubled economy, more than ever, we need the input, the feedback, the support and the feet-to-the-fire accountability of a few deep, trusted relationships in our professional and personal lives that we can count on, ...
Views: 1092(3 votes) - Trying to Follow - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsQuestion: I am trying to find my footing and go with the flow. I am very much in love with a man who came to me 2 1/2 years ago. He's been spending most of the work week by me, then flies home for the end of the week and weekend. Initially, he told me he was separated, but in a very short ...
Views: 568(1 vote) - Can Your Friends or Lovers Trust You? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2009 from Royane RealOne of the most common reasons that friendships and romantic relationships break up is because one of the people involved in the relationship or friendship decides he or she really cannot trust the other person. It may be that the other person has let them down too many times, or has been ...
Views: 2002(8 votes) - Marriage Proposal Ideas: 3 Romantic Marriage Proposals To Make Her Say Yes! - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2009 from Michael LeeWant to know some of the most romantic marriage proposal ideas to make her say “Yes!” without a hitch? This article will reveal them to you. But first, why go through all the fuss? Well, the proposal is one of the most important parts of your relationship. Friends and relatives will ask you ...
Views: 4974(3 votes) - Stages of a Romantic Relationship – Find Out Which Stage Are You In Now - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2009 from Robert RiddleFalling in love is a blissful moment and being in a relationship is very phenomenal --- it’s like floating on air and seeing rainbows everyday! It’s not something that happens everyday and even some people can’t experience it in their lifetime --- which is very sad, if you come to think of it. ...
Views: 1020(1 vote) - Do You Have to Hide Your Happiness to Please Your Partner? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2012 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondRita was happy and Norman hated it! Rita was on top of the world and Norman hated it. He couldn’t stand seeing her so comfortable in her own skin, and in such good spirits. It turned his stomach. It was unfair. What right did she have to feel so good when he felt lousy? Despite her ...
Views: 2171(1 vote) - Are You in a Relationship with a Victim? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWe live in such challenging times, it is tempting for people to lapse into feeling like a victim. In Emotional Freedom I discuss "The Victim" and how to compassionately deal with coworkers, family, and friends who lapse into this mode. I also discuss ways to notice these tendencies in ourselves ...
Views: 791(1 vote) - 4 Links Between Self Awareness and Authentic Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsOne of the crucial steps in maintaining genuine personal connections with others is possessing acute self awareness. Self awareness is the ability to perceive what is going on with you at all times and, this is important, on all your various levels of self. Because this skill is not taught to us ...
Views: 1280(1 vote) - *** Relationship Help: 5 Essentials to Keep Your Relationship Fresh - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2009 from Richard NicastroAnyone who is married or in a long-term committed relationship comes to realize that at some point there is a danger of falling into a lifeless routine. The vast number of marriage advice and relationship help books is a clear indication that couples are eagerly searching for ways to head off ...
Views: 1346(4 votes) - ***Lessons of Love From Your Dog - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. You can learn a lot about love from a dog. Over the years, we have learned much about the essentials of a loving relationship by observing our dog, Jake. We are proud to tell you that Jake is truly a Wonder Dog. He is loving, caring, intuitive, ...
Views: 3421(31 votes) - Astrology for Lovers September 2009 - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2009 from Kathi Calahan, Career CoachDuring the month of September lovers everywhere will be paying closer attention to each other. We’ll see a bit of scrutinizing as well as changing what no longer works. The Virgo energy is hard at work now to help you discern the useful from the nonuseful in your love life, so let’s ...
Views: 1809(6 votes) - Staying Committed and Keeping That Spark Alive! - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWe have powerful desires to belong and to connect with a special someone. In the U.S. we inherited a model for marriage and relationships that has remained largely unchanged for over 50 years. That traditional model was never intended to integrate our individual needs with the needs of the ...
Views: 763(3 votes) - The Power Thank You - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2009 from Mark GoulstonFew things cause more friction in a relationship than failing to thank others when they have done something for you and failing to apologize to others when you have done something to them. Giving a heartfelt Power Thank You and Power Apology are the best ways to correct these offenses and do ...
Views: 754 - Why Leave it Too Late to Save Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Nicole BaikieThis is a question I have given a great deal of thought too. Why is it that the minute someone hears a strange noise coming from their engine they immediately take their car into the mechanics for an expert opinion but their relationships can run itself into the ground for years and they will ...
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