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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- “My Partner Isn’t Smart Enough” - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl Paul“One of the big traps we have in the West is our intelligence, because we want to know what we know. Freedom allows you to be wise, but you cannot know wisdom. You must be wisdom… The intellect is a beautiful servant, but a terrible master. Intellect is the power tool of our separateness. The ...
Views: 1137 - The Truth About Love (and my thoughts on Instagram) - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl Paul“Love is one of the great enlargers of the person because it requires us to ‘take in’ the stranger and to understand him, and to exercise restraint and tolerance as well as imagination to make the relationship work.” – May Sarton, Journal of a Solitude I recently decided to join Instagram. ...
Views: 963 - You Can't Stop the Waves but You Can Learn to Surf - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl PaulAt the core of anxiety – whether health anxiety, death anxiety, relationship anxiety, or generalized anxiety – is the need for safety. As I’ve been writing about in my last few posts, left to our own unguided minds, the ego will latch onto our stories to try to gain a foothold into the ...
Views: 1294 - The Scars of First Heartbreak - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl PaulThere’s nothing like the first. The first family. The first friend. The first kiss. The first job. The first baby. The first heartbreak. The first time or experience or relationship lays the groove of a blueprint for how we navigate later, similar experiences. Our first experience of a family ...
Views: 841 - What is the Work of Breaking Free from Relationship Anxiety? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl PaulA coaching client recently said to me, “You talk a lot about doing “the work”, and I wondered for so long what “the work” was. I thought that if I understood anxiety intellectually I would feel better. And the first time I went through the course I did feel better for a while, which I know is ...
Views: 1071 - Heartbroken Not Broken - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl PaulShame is often a placeholder for powerlessness and a protector against grief. Instead of feeling the rawness of grief, the mind latches onto a shame story that says, “I’m broken.” Instead of surrendering to the powerlessness of painful situations that had nothing to do with you, like your ...
Views: 939 - Self-Rejection: Can Someone's Inner Critic Cause Them To Reject Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that in order for someone to feel comfortable in their own skin, and to even experience inner peace, it will be important for them to accept themselves. If they are able to do this, their life is likely to be a lot easier than it would be otherwise. But, although someone can ...
Views: 954 - Relationships: Is There A Difference Between Helping Someone And Trying To Rescue Them? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to find out that a friend or a family member is going through a tough time, there are a number of things that they could do. They could end up calling them up, or they could go and see them. Once they have made contact, they could the take the time to find out what has been going ...
Views: 887 - Critical Thinking: Did The Ego Create Cognitive Behavioural Therapy? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to end up having Cognitive Behavioural Therapy if they are going through a tough time. This is due to the fact that this is seen as the ideal tool to deal with a whole host of different challenges. It has been said that one of the good things about it ...
Views: 958 - Social Anxiety: Can Someone's Inner Critic Cause Someone To Experience Social Anxiety? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that it is only possible for them to relax when they are by themselves. Spending time around others is then going to be something that causes them to experience a lot of tension. It might not matter if they spend time around friends or family either, as they could ...
Views: 883 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Believe In Conspiracy Theories? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to the internet, it is easier than ever before for people to not only get hold of information, but to also disseminate it. What this has meant is that no matter what someone wants to know, there is a strong chance that they will be able to find out about it online. And, someone is ...
Views: 834 - The Media: Are You Buying Into The Mainstream Media's Story? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the mainstream media doesn’t need to prove that what it is selling is the truth, the only thing it is needs to do is to gain people’s attention. By doing this, it will have an effect on what people think about and, of course, what they don’t think about. There are going ...
Views: 792 - Fear: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Experience Too Much Fear? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that while some people in the world are controlled by fear, there are others who aren’t. Consequently, these people are likely to live lives that are radically different. Therefore, although these people will live on the same planet, it will be as though they live on two ...
Views: 941 - Depression: Can Someone’s Inner Critic Cause Them To Feel Depressed? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a child will most likely perform a task better if their parent is speaking to them in a supportive manner, an adult is also likely to be able to perform a task better if they are talking themselves in a supportive manner. Not only this, it will be a lot easier for them to do ...
Views: 1029 - Critical Thinking: Are Some People Injustice Collectors? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to hear about people who have experiences each day where they feel taken advantage of or harmed in some way. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone like this to feel oppressed and/or victimised, along with feeling offended. And, it might not matter if they are ...
Views: 1066 - Being Teachable: Are You Teachable? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t know how to do something, there are at least two things that they can do. Either they can reach out for the guidance that they need to move forward, or they can just accept what is going on and not do anything about it. This could relate to something that is fairly ...
Views: 904 - Loneliness and Love - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2018 from Sheryl PaulThere’s a fundamental loneliness that is part of the fabric of being human. It arrives in the corners of night, when shadows form from curtain folds and the backs of chairs. It seeps in just before twilight, when afternoon exhales its last breath and evening hasn’t yet inhaled. It lives on the ...
Views: 1046 - How To Be a Man That People Respect - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2018 from Tori UtleyIf you want to be a man that everyone respects, there are certain criteria’s that you have to meet. In this article I will explain to you what is needed in order to be a man that people respect. To be a man you need confidence Confidence is a very manly trait and if you want to be a true ...
Views: 895 - Empowerment: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Feeling Powerless? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is an empowered human being, they will know that they do have an effect on their life. In each moment of their life they will have the ability to decide how they will behave, and they will be able to decide the meaning that they give to what takes place. One is then going to see ...
Views: 992 - Critical Thinking: Is It Easy For Someone To Project Their Issues Onto Trump? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has anything good to say about president Trump, there are least two things that can happen, and what happens will most likely depend on who is around them. One could end up receiving positive feedback or they could end up receiving negative feedback. There is the chance that one ...
Views: 1011 - Self-Esteem: Is Self-Acceptance The Key To Self-Esteem? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t feel good about themselves or simply wants to feel better than they do, they can end up trying to change one area of their life. At the same time, they may try to change a number of areas of their life. When this happens, someone is likely to believe that they will feel ...
Views: 1026(1 vote) - Emotional Problems: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Have Mental/Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, there has been an ever increasing focus on mental and emotional health, and this can be seen as a good thing. For so long, this was something that was brushed under the carpet. Nowadays, this is something that is spoken about in the media and people talk openly about what is ...
Views: 1126 - Critical Thinking: Can Religion Cause Someone To Have A Superiority Complex? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has an elevated view of themselves, it can be normal for other people to see them as deluded. This person is simply going to be another human being, but they will create the impression that they are different. It can be as though they are from another planet, with this being ...
Views: 1082 - Child Abuse: How Can Someone Develop A Sense Of Safety And Security After Being Abused? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a house will need strong foundations, a human being will also need strong foundations. When strong foundations are laid down for a house, this part will be strong enough to handle the other levels that are added, and, when it comes to a human being, strong foundations will ...
Views: 1138 - Critical Thinking: Why Are The People Who Talk About Tolerance Often The Most Intolerant? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, a lot has been said about how important it is to be tolerant. This is something that someone is likely to have heard if they follow the mainstream media or listen to what politicians have to say, for instance. It is as though tolerance is the ultimate western value - ...
Views: 1153 - Self-Love: Can Someone’s Inner Critic Make It Hard For Them To Feel Good About Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is able to talk to themselves in a positive manner, it is going to be a lot easier for them to feel good. This is similar to how one is likely to feel better if they are in the company of someone who treats them well. Through being around this person, they can feel good in their ...
Views: 939 - How to Nurture Authenticity in Yourself and Your Workplace - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2018 from Sona JepsenAuthenticity is our greatest superpower. To use our own voices in order to give shape to our own thoughts — there is no contribution more valuable than this. But what is authenticity? Authentic people are true to who they are. They don’t make excuses for their shortcomings, and they don’t ...
Views: 1544 - How to get Amazon Seller Account Reinstated - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2020 from Vintek SystemAmazon seller account reinstatement is a process of getting back to Amazon after suspension of that particular account. The reason of suspension could be getting negative feedback from customers, violating any policies of Amazon, selling a restricted product or getting too many returns. Whatever ...
Views: 1060 - Victimization: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Victimized By Others? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there appears to be no shortage of people who have been treated badly by others or by an organisation, for instance. TV programs, newspapers, and websites routinely talk about people who have experienced some kind of discrimination. It doesn’t stop there though, as there are also ...
Views: 846 - Gender Wars: Has The Time Come For Men And Women To Heal Their Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the mainstream culture, it is not uncommon for men to be put down and to be seen as the bane of the earth. This doesn’t mean that women are not also seen as the problem, but this could be seen as something that takes place underground, to speak. So, while there are plenty ...
Views: 915 - Being Centred: Is It Harder For Someone To Be Centred If They Have The Need To Please Others? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to stand on the edge of a building, it would be a lot harder for them to feel at peace than if they were in the middle of it. Being on the edge can cause them to feel uncomfortable, whereas being in the centre may allow them to feel at ease. In the same way, someone can either ...
Views: 999 - Caring What Other People Think - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulHow would your life be different if you didn’t care what other people thought? How might your relationship, your job, and your day-to-day functioning be different if you weren’t weighed down by others’ opinions? How might you peel and crack out of the shells of your insecurity and arrive more ...
Views: 1072 - The Cracks are How the Light Comes In - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWhen discussing the concept that a root cause of relationship anxiety is the fear of being hurt by love, course members and coaching clients will often say, “I had a good childhood with loving parents. Why would I be so scared of love?” I’ve written other posts about how essential it is to peel ...
Views: 999 - Manifestation: Why Doesn't The Law Of Attraction Work? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEver since a certain film was released over a decade ago, it has resulted in a lot of people being aware of the so-called ‘law of attraction’. At its root, this law basically says that our thoughts create our reality. So, in order for someone to create their ideal life, the only thing they ...
Views: 1181 - I Love You Go Away - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulAmong the many misconceptions that people have about love – that it’s only a feeling, that the feeling of being “in love” should exist from day one, that attraction is static and based on external attributes – the faulty belief that often gets swept under the rug more than any other is that ...
Views: 3062 - “I Married the Wrong Person” - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWhenever a theme arises in my weekly work with clients I know it’s important to write about it here. Last week the theme was: “I married the wrong person” or “It would have been easier with someone else.” One of the most important tasks for those on the road to awakening is to notice all of ...
Views: 955 - Social Anxiety and the Cocktail Party - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWhile flipping through one of my favorite bedside stand-bys, Reflections on the Art of Living: A Joseph Campbell Companion, I came across the following passage and chuckled out loud: “My experience is that I can feel that I’m in the Grail Castle when I’m living with people I love, doing what ...
Views: 940 - Invisible Lines of Hope - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulOut beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about. Rumi When we’re being asked to unpack a new layer of wound that will lead to healing, it can feel daunting, overwhelming, and ...
Views: 917 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want To Divide Men And Women? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of elements that need to be in place in order for a society to not only grow, but to simply exist. For one thing, the people in the society need to have similar values, and they need to be able to stop certain parts of themselves from being expressed freely. So, their ...
Views: 945 - Anxiety: Can Someone Experience Anxiety If They Don't Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere appears to be a lot of people in today’s world who suffer from anxiety, and while this may be something that only affects certain areas of their life, it may be far more severe. When it relates to the former, there may be times when they are able to settle down and to feel at peace. ...
Views: 962 - Boundaries: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Stop Them From Being Able to Feel Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough every human being on the planet has a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that each and everyone one of them feel connected to both of these parts of themselves. It may be hard for some people to understand how someone can be out of touch with a part of themselves, but, this is how some ...
Views: 1226 - True-Self: Are You Being Guided By Your Ego Or Your True-Self? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTaking action is one thing, but it is another thing altogether as to whether or not the action someone takes is coming from their true essence or their need for approval. One of the best ways for someone to find out is to take the time to reflect on why they are doing something. What this ...
Views: 1021 - There Is A Difference Between Needing Help And Being Ready For Help - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was l watching one of the live video calls that I did with Errol Campbell, there was something that he said at the end that stood out. He basically said that the people who were watching the video were free to share it with those who were ready, not those who simply needed it. Hearing ...
Views: 757 - Living In The Mind Leads To A Very Unstable Existence - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a conversation I had with someone the other day, it made me think about how different it is to live in the body compared with the mind. In a way, living in the mind is similar to being on a bouncy castle, while living in the body is similar to being a tree. The reason for this is that ...
Views: 1042 - Sometimes We Need To Hit Rock Bottom Before We Can Rise Up - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI recently heard something that made me think about how destructive positive thinking can be. Thanks, in part, due to the self-development world, so many people believe that they need to have positive thoughts all the time. And, if they don’t, something bad will happen; with negative ...
Views: 977 - Are You Using Social Media To Deceive Others? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have written a number of articles that go into the affect that social media is having on the world, and one of the affects that came to my mind again recently was how easy it was for someone to deceive their so-called ‘friends’. This can take place by only uploading certain ...
Views: 1000 - “A Relationship Shouldn’t Stop Us From Realising We Are Alone” - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI have often thought that even though I can say something to someone, it doesn’t mean that they will actually hear what I’m saying. Or to be more precise, they can hear the words that come out of my mouth, but that might be as far as it will go. Due to the experiences they have had on this ...
Views: 819 - Emotionally Disconnected: Do Some Men's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough both men and women can be out of touch with how they feel, it is undoubtedly something that impacts a lot of men. Therefore, it would be easy to say that more men than women are affected in this way, but that would possibly be a matter of conjecture. With that aside, when a man has ...
Views: 944 - Breathing In Is Masculine, Breathing Out Is Feminine - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAbout a year ago I went to a health and wellbeing centre and had a little look around the entrance, but I didn’t go any further. However, a few weeks ago I felt the urge to go to this place again, and this made me look at the website. I found out that there would be a free guided mediation ...
Views: 2006 - Victim Mentality: Does Someone Lack Self-Awareness If They See Themselves As A Victim? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years now, the self development industry has been doing what it can to make people realise that they are not victims - to allow them to see that they have an effect on the world. But, in recent years, so many people have been conditioned to see themselves as victims. This is ...
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