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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- This is the Most Powerful Hijacker of Your Healing Path - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Sheryl PaulWestern culture places a premium on feelings in the form of moods. While we diminish the importance of experiencing difficult emotions like sadness, disappointment, frustration, fear and jealousy, we worship at the altar of moment-by-moment impulses. This sounds like: I don’t feel like ...
Views: 972 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Become A Human Doing? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it can be hard for them to just be. No matter what part of the day it is or what day of the week it is, they can more or less always be on the go. Simply doing nothing and relaxing can be something that rarely, if ever, takes place. In a way, ...
Views: 777 - Emotionally Unavailable Fathers: What Can Happen If A Man Had An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some men who grew up with a father, there are others that grew up without one. However, just because some men had their father around, it doesn’t mean that he was actually available. In this case, a man’s early years may have been a time when his father was generally around ...
Views: 1392 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Get Angry At The Wrong People If They Don’t Get Angry At Their Parents? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone can experience a lot of, after having been abused as a child, is anger and even rage. Given what they went through during this stage of their life, it could be said that this is to be expected. They may have been violated on a weekly, if not daily, basis, and this would ...
Views: 711 - Blockchain Development Service Company - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from manashree guptaWhat is Blockchain? In simple words, the blockchain is a unique distributed record that stores the data and verifies its integrity. By using a different set of cryptography-based technologies, Blockchain assures that transactions continued into the blockchain database which is ...
Views: 1096 - Stop Complain and start Working(Learning) - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Ketan PWe all have that tendency to give excuses. Something bad happens in our life, Because of them. Something went wrong, because of them. But in the end, we need to understand that this happens in our life, relates to us only. Directly or indirectly,there is we are the reason, whatever happen to us. ...
Views: 703 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Body? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a strong connection with their body, they will generally be in touch with their needs and feelings. Through having this connection, they will be able to fulfil their needs and to listen to their feelings. This will make it easier for them to live a fulfilling life and to have ...
Views: 730 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Physically Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIdeally, if someone was abused as a child, they would end up getting the assistance that they need now that they are an adult. At this point in their life, they will most likely be able to do something about what they went through. The years will have passed, that much is clear, but what they ...
Views: 797 - Are You Carrying Emotional Pain From Your Adult Life? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a child can disconnect from their feelings when they are too painful to handle, an adult can also do the same thing. In both cases, it can seem as though the feelings have disappeared. Even so, in both cases the feelings will have most likely been pushed down into their ...
Views: 890 - Emotional Wounds: How Can Someone Heal Their Childhood Emotional Wounds? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone finds it hard to be emotionally balanced and to experience inner peace, there is the chance that their early years were not very nurturing. This may have been a time when they experienced some kind of abuse and/or neglect. The time in their life that should have built them up would ...
Views: 777 - There Is Nothing Wrong With You! - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons as to why someone would get into self-development or try to change themselves. One reason that this can take place is because they believe that there is something wrong with them. Now, this is not to say that one will be aware of this belief, as is it can be a ...
Views: 850 - Healing Toxic Shame Doesn’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that shame is the hardest feeling to tolerate and it is not hard to see why. This is because when someone experiences shame, they will feel bad and as though there is something wrong with them. One can then experience guilt, with this being a sign that they have done ...
Views: 672 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Saying ‘No’ If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, one thing that they may struggle with as an adult is saying no. Thanks to this, they can have the tendency to say yes when they would rather not do something. This is going to mean that they will go along with things that they don’t really ...
Views: 766 - Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs Doesn’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to engage in the grieving process, it could show that they have lost someone in their adult life. Then again, what it could illustrate is that their childhood was a time when their needs were rarely, if ever, met. Consequently, one is going to be grieving a time in their life when ...
Views: 852 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Being Assertive If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone may find, that’s if they were abused and/or neglected as a child, is that it is hard for them to stand their ground. In other words, it will be a challenge for them to be assertive. As a result of this, it will be normal for other people to walk over them and for them ...
Views: 734 - Are You Letting Society Define Whether You Are Successful Or Not? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I was reading a story about someone in the public eye who felt a lot of pressure now that they had reached a certain age. This person said that there were a number of things that they should have achieved at their age. These were things that society told them that they needed ...
Views: 723 - What Can Someone Do To Understand Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough having emotions is a normal part of the human experience, it doesn’t mean that someone is born with the ability to understand them. In the same way that someone will need to be taught how to speak, they will also need to be taught how to understand their own emotions. Therefore, ...
Views: 619 - Career Anxiety And How To Trust Your Path - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2019 from Sheryl PaulI receive a lot of questions from course members and clients on the topic of career anxiety: “How do I know if I’m at the right job? How do I know if it’s time to change paths? Have I missed my calling?” (If you’re struggling the myth of a calling, please read this post.) These questions ...
Views: 1092 - Know The Power Of Silence - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2019 from Sri TulasiIn the scriptures, staying silent is always said to be beneficial. By staying silent, spiritual powers are developed and energy is stored in the body. Lord Shri Krishna has also given prominence to the restraint of speech in the Srimad Bhagavad Gita and said that a silent fast increases the ...
Views: 1175 - Being Present: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Be Present? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is often spoken about in self-development is the importance of being present. In some cases, this is seen as the answer to every problem and, in others, it is just seen as something that will allow someone to function better. So when someone is present, they won’t be caught up ...
Views: 803 - Meditation Can Help You To Develop Self-Control - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne way of looking at the current age would be to describe it as the age of impulsivity. Unlike the past, there is less pressure on people to keep things in and to control their thoughts and feelings. Nowadays, people are often encouraged to express how they feel and to allow their inner ...
Views: 853 - Know Proven Ways To Control Your Mind - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2019 from Sri TulasiMany types of thoughts keep coming to mind. The mind does not become shunya (zero, thought-free). Thoughts keep on coming. In terms of thoughts, the fact is that the mind gives you information. ‘This is good, this is fearsome… this is like this…, this is like that.’ Thus, it is carrying out its ...
Views: 1065 - Are You Buying Into Someone Else's Narrative? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to watch the news on TV or to read a paper, they are likely to hear about what is taking place in the world. It can seem as though the channel or paper is simply passing onto them what is taking place; nothing more, nothing less. This whole process will then be very similar to ...
Views: 985 - Jealousy: Why Do Dome People Have The Tendency To Feel Jealous Of Others? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there can be moments in just about everyone’s life when they feel bitter about what someone else has or what they have achieved, there can be others that have a very different experience. For someone like this, this can be something that they experience on a regular basis. It might not ...
Views: 706(1 vote) - Letting Go Of The Fear Of Being Seen Won’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, after being on the path of self-discovery for a little while, is that they have a fear of being seen. This is not to say that they will isolate themselves from others and never leave their home. No, what it is likely to mean is that they will spend time around others ...
Views: 957(1 vote) - Support: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Will Only Be Loved If They Need Their Parents? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone finds it hard to support themselves as an adult, it is likely to cause them to experience a fair amount of frustration, to say the least. This could mean that they don’t have a job or that the job that they have doesn’t pay them enough. If this is how their life has been for a ...
Views: 814 - What If My Anxiety is Actually Intuition that Something is Wrong? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2019 from Sheryl PaulOne of the most common questions I receive in my work is: How do I know the difference between fear that’s coming from anxiety and fear that’s coming from intuition alerting me to a real problem? It’s the million-dollar question, the one that drives people to my site in a middle-of-the-night ...
Views: 1208 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Needs If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne outcome of early abuse and/or neglected is that someone may find that it is hard for them to fulfil their needs now that they are an adult. What could be normal for them is taking care of other people’s needs. As a result of this, they are going to spend a lot of time being there for ...
Views: 733 - Is Social Media Making You Do Things That You Wouldn't Usually Do? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, whilst I was reading a paper, I came across a story about someone who said that they became a sex addict thanks to social media. This person said that they had got sucked into a social media site and this caused them to go down a path that they wouldn’t have gone down ...
Views: 736 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have About Their Survival If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that child abuse and/or neglect can do is stop someone from developing in the right way. The years will then pass and there will come a point in time when they will look like an adult, but that can be as far as it will go. Behind their appearance can be someone who feels more ...
Views: 729 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected during their early years, there is the chance that their life is far harder than it would be otherwise. They can have mental and emotional problems, health problems, and their relationships could be in a complete mess. However, while what took place ...
Views: 873 - Self-Worth Is Not Something That Is Developed Overnight - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t feel good about themselves, they can look for a way to change how they feel. They could be in a very desperate place, which may mean that they will try just about anything if it promises to change their life. So if they were to come across a book that said that their life ...
Views: 809 - Are You Wasting Your Attention? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are so many things to focus on; in both the real world and the virtual world. If someone lives in a big city, practically as soon as they leave their house their senses could be overloaded. There can be adverts on the side of taxis, buses, above buildings and on billboards. ...
Views: 768 - Being Seen: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Have To Hide In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can cause someone to get into self-development is if their life is not very fulfilling. What this can mean is that they haven’t been able to make much progress in life or perhaps they have made progress, but they have only been able to get so far. Either way, they will be ...
Views: 1022 - Self-Awareness: Is Self-Awareness The Antidote To A Victim Mentality? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2019 from Oliver JR Cooperf someone has a victim mentality, they are unlikely to see themselves as playing a part in how they experience life. Whether something does or doesn’t happen to them is going to be out of their hands. One will be nothing more than an observer of their life, with life being something that ...
Views: 690 - This Simple Mindset Shift is at the Heart of Change - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2019 from Sheryl Paul“Much of our anxiety and inner turmoil comes from living in a global culture whose values drive us from the essence of what matters. At the heart of this is the conflict between the outer definition of success and the inner value of peace. “Unfortunately, we are encouraged, even trained, to ...
Views: 996 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Believe That They Will Be Rejected If They Don’t Please Others? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone will have their own needs, it doesn’t mean that they will pay attention to them. Instead, they can have the tendency to do what other people want and what they think they want. As a result of this, their life is not going to be an expression of who they are. Living in this way ...
Views: 656 - Therapy: Why Would Someone Say That The Type Of Therapy That They Are Having Is The Best? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has worked with a therapist for a little while, they may find that their life has started to change. As to what caused them to have therapy in the first place, there can be a number of reasons. For example, their mind may have been out of control and their emotions may have ...
Views: 680 - How Do You Develop Courage? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I was looking through a book called, ‘How to Survive Without Psychotherapy’ by David Smail. From what I read, it was clear that this was someone who was not too keen on the type of approach that is often taken when it comes to mental and emotional problems. He didn’t like the ...
Views: 824 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Affect Someone’s Life Even If They Can’t Remember What Happened? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone was abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this now that they are an adult. What happened during their early years could be a mystery to them or they could make out that their childhood wasn’t that bad. Still, while they won’t remember much of what actually ...
Views: 840 - Therapy: Do You Need Therapy Or Do You Need To Change Your Environment? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone came to see that their mood has dropped, are experiencing heightened levels of anxiety and/or that they are not as confident as they usually are, they might think about reaching out for external support. Fortunately, they will have had the ability to detach from their ...
Views: 733 - Critical Thinking: Are Some Celebrities Hypocrites When It Comes To Climate Change? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFairly recently, a number of celebrities have spoken out about climate change (the current phrase). Along with this, a number of them have even taken part in some of the extinction rebellion protests. In general, these people have said that more needs to be done to protect the planet and ...
Views: 709 - What kind of music helps you do your job better (and incidentally, reduce stress)? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2019 from Wajahat AliMusic changes emotions. But any song or melody is not worth it: it depends on the problem you face, that is at least what is deduced from the results of several recent studies. The power of music is well known in many areas, such as cinema, for example; However, in the world of work we have ...
Views: 461 - Illness: Do Some People Believe That They Need To Be Ill In Order To Receive Attention? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, it is believed that if someone gets ill it is not because they want to be ill. What this then means is that not one part of their being will want to experience life in this way. If someone wanted to prove that this is the case, they could put forward at least two reasons. Firstly, ...
Views: 908 - Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Walk On Eggshells Around Women? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a man may typically feel comfortable enough to be himself when he is around another man, this might rarely be the case when he is around a woman. When he is around a woman, he could have the tendency to become someone else entirely. During this time, then, he is not going to behave how ...
Views: 757 - These Two Banished Emotions Need to be Invited to the Castle - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2019 from Sheryl PaulIn myths and fairy tales, the banished characters are shadow aspects who represent the inner characters we would like to sequester away in a cloistral tower or banish to the middle of the forest: the virginal maiden representing forbidden chastity, the unattractive witch representing the ...
Views: 1053 - Therapy: Why Don’t Some People Heal? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are, of course, a number of reasons as to why someone would end up having therapy or working with a healer. For example, they could be in a position where they have mental and emotional problems, their relationships might not be going as they want them to go and/or they may have only been ...
Views: 740 - Overwhelmed: Is It Easy For Someone To Be Overwhelmed If They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that they can handle a fair amount of stimulation without feeling washed out. So, one could wake up and check their phone, spend most of their day around others, and even go out in the evening, and everything could be fine. Along with this, there can be all the time ...
Views: 606 - Mental Health: Are Mental And Emotional Problems Part Of Life? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, mental and emotional problems receive a lot of coverage in the media and there are plenty of people that talk about them on social media. Therefore, what is taking place is a far cry from how things used to be. In the past, mental and emotional problems were rarely spoken about and, ...
Views: 771 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Good Idea To Tell Another Person That They Are ‘Unlucky’? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to find out that a friend or a family member was going through a challenging time, they could end up reaching out to them. This could be a time when they will ask them about what has been going on. The other person could tell them that their partner is not treating them very ...
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