To find your perfect partner you need to keep your mind open and be willing to take a chance. If your expectations are unrealistic, or your requirements are too rigid, you many pass up many opportunities for happiness.

Most of us have probably met potential partners that could have really been good for us. We may have failed to give them a chance, because they didn’t fit into the stereotype society tells us the perfect partner must fit.

If you keep your mind open and try not to judge potential partners on superficial factors, you will broaden your horizons greatly. You will also be much more likely to avoid the unhappiness that can be caused by choosing a partner based on external factors alone, such as looks or income.

I am not saying that you should necessarily form a relationship with a person you find unattractive. If you look a little harder and longer at a person though, you find that attractiveness goes beyond mere physical features. An average looking person with a zest for life and a sense of humor can be much more attractive than a beautiful person with a negative attitude.

It is not wise to form a relationship based on money either. Not that there is anything wrong with falling in love with a rich man or woman. Just don’t make that the basis of the romance. For a happy relationship, there must be more reasons for being with a person than just wanting to share their financial success.

If money is important to you, then it is quite reasonable to want a partner who is also motivated to have material success. But remember, fortunes can be made and lost. Look for a richness of character in a mate as a priority. Then whatever ups and downs life brings, you will have a solid foundation beneath your relationship.

On the subject of financial abundance, it is much better to create the mind-set and attitudes in yourself that bring you money directly, rather than wanting a partner to provide it for you. If you can create everything you desire in your own life, then your perfect partner can be your equal, not your ‘other half.’

The term other half implies that you are only half a person and you need to find a partner that has what you are lacking, and lacks what you have. The idea that you cannot be complete on your own is wrong and damaging. It discourages us from being whole and healthy in our selves, and encourages us to look for what we need from others.

If you focus on creating everything you need in your own life, then your perfect partner will be able complement you, not need to complete you.

To keep your mind open while looking for a partner, think about some of the social ‘rules’ of relationships that limit our choices. We are told that a man should be taller and older than his partner. With these and any other limiting ‘rules,’ the only way to deal with them is to consider each one, and whether it actually matters to you or not.

Let’s say you are a woman. You meet a man who is smart, funny, kind, and adventurous. Being with him makes you happy, but he is a few inches shorter than you. Does it matter?

If it really does matter to you then you have your answer. For many of us though, if we look beyond what we have been taught we should care about, and what other people might think, we will find that it really doesn’t bother us too much.

The same can apply to age, race, religion, skin color, even gender.

While you may have been raised to believe that your perfect partner should be a tall, dark, handsome, white male, if you keep an open mind, you may discover that your truly ideal partner is someone quite different.

The only rule that is worth following in the pursuit of love and happiness is to trust your heart and keep your mind open.

Your perfect partner is simply someone that makes you feel really, really good, just by being around. And there are no age or height limits on that!

Author's Bio: 

I'm Amanda Harvey, and for as long as I can remember, I've had a passion for personal development and empowerment. My focus has always been on making life as good as it can be, both for myself and others.

Early in my career, I expressed this focus through teaching ballroom dancing. I loved the way that it helped people come alive and take their minds off their everyday worries, as well as giving them confidence and bringing them joy.

After managing a dance studio in Sydney, Australia for a few years, my desire to experience more of the world started me on the journey of living abroad with my new husband (not so new anymore…. married 22 years in 2020).

Having completed my Masters Degree in Communications, my career developed as a coach and trainer with both individuals and companies. After several years in various parts of Europe, our wanderlust led us to Asia, and we have been living in Taiwan since just before the arrival of the first of our three children in 2004.

I ran a successful online life coaching business, choosing-life-my-way.com, from 2010 to 2015. The work I did with people through the site, and the feedback I got was wonderful, but time constraints led me to close down the site in 2015. With the increased demand for in-person services for local clients, and the time I wanted to spend with my growing family, I followed my own advice: We can have it all, but not always all at once.

Fast forward to 2020 and I am now launching mindsettable.com, my brand new site. With all the years of rich and varied experience, I am focusing on bringing to you the most valuable, specific and effective form of training that I have discovered. Mindset training zeroes in on the biggest factor that determines the success or failure of anything that we undertake, and I am so excited to work with people like you, who know that our lives can be as amazing as we want them to be. If we only decide to make it so.