Define what low self esteem is to you so that you can overcome it

Let's talk about low self-esteem because having low self-esteem can be totally life consuming for the person suffering.

Although, you may not even know your true level is until something happens to you and you're forced to deal with it by yourself.

Here's an example, let's say you're feeling good and life’s flowing smoothly along, then whamo you find out...your spouse has been cheating on you, or you get laid off from work, or someone wants you do something completely out of character for you.

These life challenges are going to confront your self-esteem level. That voice in your head is going to panic. Your mind is going to be filled with thoughts of anger, pity, shame or fear.

We all go through low points in our life but what make the most difference is how we come out of it. What we take away from the experience and how we use this experience in the future.

If you stay in that low state of mind for too long it’ll turn into depression and believe me self-esteem and depression don’t mix.

Ok back to the question – what is low self-esteem? Remember this is only my answer and for almost everyone it's a bit different.

• Feelings of worthlessness, inadequacy or shame.

• Constantly blaming others because you simple don’t know what else to do.

• Fear of making mistakes.

• Not wanting to try anything different.

• Feeling stuck in a personal rut with no way out.

• Underestimate yourself and what you’re capable of accomplishing.

• Staying in a physically, mentally or verbally abusive relationship because of your fear of being alone.

All the above examples, whether you accept them or not, are a result of having low self-esteem.

Ok now you know what low self-esteem looks like, now let's look at ways to overcome it.

- Find at least one person to share your feelings, beliefs, regrets and frustrations with. This can be anyone from your family or a therapist. I recommend a therapist because you need to get all this stuff you’re holding onto off your chest. And it’s best if you can say it out loud and truly let it go.

- Go to someplace you’ve never been before - a restaurant, a store, a park, a church, etc. Remember were trying to break through your barriers here. You have to do new and different things.

- Sit down and write out everything you want to be, do and have in your life. I’m taking everything. Do not hold back at all with this self-esteem building exercise. Let it all come out. Do not sensor yourself because you’ll find out personal things about yourself you never even knew existed.

So what is low self-esteem in its most basis form?

Not believing in yourself and your ability to build a great and exciting life for yourself.

But I want you to know that you are the creator of your future. Rejoice in your very own personal power and use it!