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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Are you Living a Dream, or Dreaming to live? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2011 from Thomas ElfersSo many people spend their lives wanting to “Live their Dream," and yet they do nothing to move toward that. Our lives are what we make of them. Sure we have some things that have gotten in the way, some things that have turned us down the wrong path, but these “Things” are just that, things. ...
Views: 2085 - Are You Living an "If...Then" Life? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from Kelly BallardDo you find yourself thinking, “If he/she would be more supportive, then I could feel better about us,” or “If I don’t get a raise soon, then I am ruined…”? “If…then” thinking is a vicious circle that can block our own empowerment, but it can also be an opportunity. Last Sunday I noticed this ...
Views: 1914 - Are You Looking For a Man With Money? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2011 from Kara OhI was talking to a woman recently and as usually happens, the topic of what I do came up. After explaining that I write books, do public speaking and led workshops and seminars about relationships, she told me she was looking for a man to be in a relationship with. Everything she said she was ...
Views: 2575 - Are you looking for a relationship with a couple? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2018 from emily miaOnce people discover and become comfortable with their sexuality they start to seek ways to satisfy the desires that haunt them. You may be a unicorn interested in finding your tribe. If you are into casual hook ups, you can indulge as much as your heart can take. If you are looking for ...
Views: 1207 - Are You Looking for Happiness? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2015 from Nigel St.HillDear friend, we all have formed our own definitions of happiness right from childhood. A lot of these perceptions are because of conditioned development i.e. they are a part of our habits due to repetitive inculcation by parents, teachers and the society in general. That is why, none of us has ...
Views: 1429 - Are you looking for love in a wrong place? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2011 from mathew kindWe all come to a point in our lives where we need or want a special someone to share our lives with, but where do we find this person. Where do we look? Statistically in this day and age 1 out of every 5 relationships begins online. There is a smorgasbord of singles that are all online for the ...
Views: 1050 - Are You Making These Top 10 Break Up Mistakes? Find Out Now! - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2012 from Ese UadialeYou're distraught, upset and heart-broken, so it's understandable you'll find yourself willing to do pretty much anything to get your ex back. The ten mistakes below are extremely common, and will almost completely kill your chances of getting your ex back. Undoubtedly you've either seen friends ...
Views: 973 - Are You Making Time For Your Partner? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2011 from Daniel AmisDo you focus your energy on something or someone which may take time away from you and your partner? Well if you highly value your relationship, you may need to make some changes. Situation#1: Work. If you’re a big time workaholic, then it’s probably affecting your relationship. Now I know ...
Views: 1883 - ARE YOU ON THE SAME PAGE ABOUT MONEY? - by Submitted on May 02, 2020 from Emma ViglucciAs there has been so much talk of doom and gloom about the economy and everything economy related, crashing oil prices, recession in line with the Great Depression, major layoffs and furloughs, businesses closing down and the rest of it, finances are on our minds more than ever. This is ...
Views: 724 - ARE YOU ON YOUR PARTNER’S PRIORITY LIST? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciAs with busyness comes neglect of things we care about, our partner is usually one of the first to go. This is very unfortunate as most would say that the relationship with their partner is one of the things they care about most in life. But, still they usually come in last on the priority list. ...
Views: 813 - Are You One-Up? How Grandiosity Shows Up in Our Lives and What it Costs Us - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2011 from Lisa Merlo-BoothMany of us struggle with healthy self-esteem, however not many realize that grandiosity -- or thinking that you’re better than others -- is actually unhealthy self-esteem. Many people think that if someone is full of himself or herself that they have an overabundance of self-esteem. This ...
Views: 726 - Are You Passive Aggressive Just Because You Avoid Conflict? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2011 from Nora Femenia,Results from Creative Conflict Resolutions’ Passive Aggressive Test shows that 80% men prefer to “clam up” and hide their true thoughts from their wives. Is this you? A very common way of describing “clamming up” is to say that it is self-protection, and as the husband, you see it as a ...
Views: 3919 - Are You Playing The Blame Game? Do Any Of These Situations Sound Familiar? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2008 from Dan And JenniferRandy was reaching for a doughnut when his wife glared at him. Inside, Randy could feel a defiance surging inside. He reached for the second doughnut and felt smug and happy with himself. Janet struggled to maintain her composure when Jerry joked about her going to spend her morning with ...
Views: 1918 - Are You Ready For A Relationship? - by Submitted on May 18, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraSpring: Everything seems alive and vibrant-- flowers are definitely more colourful, the air has a heady smell, the weather is story-book perfect and there is an unmistakable increase in libido in the singles crowd. Everyone seems to want to date more in the spring, and this is often the time ...
Views: 619 - Are You Ready for Prime Time? - by Submitted on May 02, 2011 from Michelle SmithDating in 2011 is the same "game" in a different year. Are you the same person you were in your last relationship? Hope not. Your relationships ALL have something to teach you. Not just about the other person but about yourself as well. What did you learn? How did you grow? Please take the time ...
Views: 541 - Are you Ready to Stop Being Right and Start Being Happy? - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2008 from Auriela McCarthyWe've all been there. Angry at our husbands of boyfriends for not helping around the house; seething because he's watching TV while we're staring down a sink of dirty dishes. Maybe dishes aren't the problem in your house. Perhaps your trigger device is the pile of dirty socks, underwear and ...
Views: 833 - Are You Really Ready For A Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2009 from Trudy-Ann EwanAs we get older, we start hearing the little pit patter of feet in our minds. We start having dreams of having a husband, two-door garage complete with two point five kids. You may say that you are ready for a relationship. You are not getting any younger and after all you are a good catch. ...
Views: 1278 - Are You Relying On Luck To Get What You Want? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I used to go to different bars and clubs on a regular basis many, many years ago, there were often men who would talk about how they hoped to ‘get lucky’. Sometimes I knew the people who would say this and, at other times, this was something that I would overhear. To these men, it was ...
Views: 1049 - Are you ruining your relationships by overgiving? - by Submitted on May 22, 2012 from Jill ThomasOver-giving The arch nemesis of healthy balanced relationships is over-giving and unfortunately many of us do it all the time. Often girls especially are socialized to give and give and learn to feel satisfaction not from the reciprocation but from the giving process “It feels so good to ...
Views: 5551 - Are You Secretly Thrilled When Your Partner Is Selfish? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2012 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondJOE'S SELFISHNESS DRIVES LORRAINE CRAZY Lorraine was infuriated. She got in her car, raced the engine and zoomed into the street, the screeching tires magnifying her frustrated rage. She¡¦d show him! Let him worry about where she was, whether she was okay, and sweat over when she would be ...
Views: 1732 - Are You Single & Dating Yet Failing to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship? Learn What Stands in Your Way - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2013 from Doron GilMany singles are trying various ways to find a partner with whom to develop a satisfying intimate relationship: enroll on dating sites, seek the help of a “dating coach”, attend workshops on the subject, read books on relationships and seek relationship advice in different journals and internet ...
Views: 1721 - Are You Stuck in an Unsatisfying Intimate Relationship? Here are 3 Routes for you to Consider - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2013 from Doron GilThe increasing number of separations and divorce is an indication that many are not satisfied with their relationships. Yet, those who stay in an unsatisfying relationship might have reasons for doing so. Whatever the reasons are, there are at least 3 routes to making a change. Reasons for ...
Views: 1573 - Are you taking things personally in your relationships? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2010 from Julia YoungMany clients I work with take things in their lives and relationships personally. When I first introduce the concept that many things they think are personal really are not personal, I hear responses such as: "How could I not take it personally? I am the one being rejected!" "It's not ...
Views: 5220 - Are You Terrified of Social Rejection? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealDoes your shyness and fear of getting rejected keep you from having the relationships you want? Are you lonely much of the time? Everyone gets rejected at times, but for those of us who are socially confident, rejection is a minor matter, and people who are confident quickly bounce back from ...
Views: 2631 - Are You The Preserver Of Life Or The Condemner Of Death - by Submitted on May 21, 2012 from David SamuelPeople who fight for preservation of a species, often neglect what preservation of life requires, which is in many cases, the end of another life. Humans are the only creature who can choose an alternate food source. Lions cannot become vegetarians as much as elephants can become ...
Views: 3835 - Are You the “ONE” he is Looking for? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsMy friend Brian Burt, 41, is seriously working on manifesting his soulmate and he is inviting all of us to help him reach “the One.” Brian recently posted his very detailed open letter (see below) on Face Book. Not only do I applaud Brian’s creativity and vulnerability, I am thinking that maybe ...
Views: 814 - Are you too comfortable in your comfort zone - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2011 from Carmen GuerraAre you too comfortable where you are at? We may not like what we are doing for a living or the relationships we are involved in but we do not make the changes necessary. This can be due to fear of getting out of our comfort zone. Profession A reason why some people may not achieve their ...
Views: 1988 - Are You Treated Like Royalty? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2014 from Emma ViglucciYou have to be happy with yourself first… You cannot be happy in your relationship if you are not first happy with your Self… If you are not your Authentic Self, your Soul Self, you are just a robot completing daily tasks and missing the whole point of life… This is not Living… What is the ...
Views: 2002 - Are You Unintentionally Disrespecting Your Man? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2015 from Ketima WhitehallImagine this scenario: You and your man are out to a restaurant with friends. The food is good, drinks are flowing and the conversation is lively. Everyone is having a good time. Your friend’s man reaches for the salt and accidentally knocks her drink over, spilling it on the table and in ...
Views: 1393 - Are You Using Your Courage? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Emma ViglucciIsn’t it sad that most couples are not happy or that relationships are barely working as the partners wish? I attribute this to a lack of courage, to fear. For you see, we tend to lead with our defenses, protection and ego in our relationship. We are not attractive when we use our porcupine mode ...
Views: 959 - ARE YOU USING YOUR THREE MINDS? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciI can tell my couples how to do things till I’m blue in the face, but unless we play deeper change is not possible… I find that we have a tendency to look for immediate gratification, the quick fix, the easy way out, and the shortest path to the Promised Land. If this approach worked we would ...
Views: 835 - Are YOU with the best Partner for YOU? - by Submitted on May 10, 2012 from Rosemary PriceAre you with the best partner for you? Whether you are married to yours, living with them or contemplating spending a lot of time with them in the future it is a good idea to know if you are truly compatible with them first. Remember that sometimes your partner shows a certain side of their ...
Views: 2502 - Are You With Your Soulmate? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2019 from Michelle FisherAre you with your Soulmate? There are Four Types of Romantic Relationships, Soulmates, Twin Flames, False Twin Flames, Karmic. Some people consider False Twin Flame Relationships to be Karmic, but I happen to disagree and I will explain why. Karmic Relationships are the ones that don’t fall ...
Views: 780 - Are You Worried Your Spouse Is Cheating? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2008 from Wendell CribbsEmotional stability in a marriage is important to both physical and mental well-being. Most relationships I encounter seem to have enough stresses from external factors such as work and financial pressures, therefore adding suspicions of infidelity can often be too much for a spouse to bear. In ...
Views: 738 - Are Your Expectations for Marriage Realistic? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2017 from Marcia Naomi BergerWhat do you expect from marriage? Honestly, do you think everything should be perfect? Actually, many people marry and soon find that their spouse is annoying — not constantly of course, but more than they expected. Fairy tales and romantic novels suggest that a good marriage is an ...
Views: 1546 - Are Your Expectations Too High for Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Guy RussellWe are all human beings, and as such have strengths and weaknesses. One of the benefits of being human is the ability to work on our own weaknesses and improving our own lives and others around us. There are numerous “self help gurus” whose basic principle is improving how you view yourself to ...
Views: 4992 - Are Your Relationship Problems Your Parents Fault? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2008 from Laura YoungI recently surveyed my blog readers to get their thoughts on a few topics. One items asked what question readers would ask me if we had the chance to sit down and talk openly and freely. One of the more interesting (and brave) questions I got was from my sister who wanted to know if a history ...
Views: 1292 - Aren’t Gardens And Relationships The Same? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2007 from Dan OhlerYahoo, it’s spring! As the grass began to grow, I knew it was time to connect with nature and get our garden ready for another productive year. It was fun to work in the garden that sunny day. There was that distinctive rich, sweet smell. It was a very pleasurable experience to work the ...
Views: 712 - Arguing with Your Wife or Girlfriend -- A Requirement for A Happy Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Marble EvensI can already hear the objections and the outrage, and see stunned faces. But first, read on to see what the title really means. There are people who think that arguments will always happen, and don't even mind arguing over anything. On the other hand, there are people who think that they ...
Views: 961 - Arguments - The losing side of a relationship - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2004 from George MinisteriIn the 34 years that I have been doing psychic counseling, it is only in the past 10 years that I have been involved with couples counseling. One thing I have noticed with many couples, whether those couples are a man and a woman, two women, or two men, is that there is often a lack of real and ...
Views: 1279 - ARTICLE ON HOW TO TEXT YOUR EX BOYFRIEND BACK - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2013 from Franklin FashayaIf you had gone through a nasty breakup with your boyfriend then you would probably want to get back to his life without sounding like you are kind of too desperate. As a matter of fact, “how to text your ex boyfriend back,” remains one of the most frequently researched phrases on the internet. ...
Views: 1108 - As We Move Forward in the Aquarian Age — Relationships Are About Balance - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2011 from Rebeca EigenAt the temple of Delphi, the ancient Greeks proclaimed, “Know thyself and nothing in excess,” two very wise statements that can help us all today. As we move forward into 2011 and on to 2012, the key theme is BALANCE—balancing work and play, saving and spending, moving forward or staying put, ...
Views: 1238 - Ask A Simple Question to Jumpstart a Stalled Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2006 from Cynthia WallINTRO: Do you long for the early times of your romantic relationship, when support and affection flowed freely? A couple’s therapist promises you can recreate this mood by asking one simple question. In the early days of a new romance, couples delight in pleasing one another. Each is ...
Views: 5358 - Ask Lisa Daily! I Slept with Him and He Never Called Again - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, I started seeing this great guy for about a month. He made me feel pretty special and I liked him a lot. After I slept with him, he never called me again. I called him a couple weeks later and he says he’s emotionally unavailable. I feel duped and hurt, but I still want him to ...
Views: 4881 - Ask Lisa Daily! Is He Losing Interest? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, Why is it that when two people start dating for the first four to six months the relationship is fine, and then it falls apart? In the beginning, you’re calling each other all the time, emailing, spending time together, and then things start to go downhill and the man stops calling ...
Views: 2685 - Ask Lisa Daily! Was dumping my boyfriend a mistake? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, I broke up with my boyfriend back in January. I was going through a lot of personal problems and he was working a lot. We lived almost 1,000 miles apart. I felt like he didn’t care anymore and thought I’d dump him before he dumped me. The thing is, I don’t know why I thought ...
Views: 3566 - Ask Right and You May Receive - by How easily do you get what you want from others? And how easy is it for you to ask for what you want or need?
Perhaps you haven't worked up the courage to actually make the request you want to make. Or perhaps you've made several requests, but still find your needs unmet. If you're frustrated ...
Views: 842 - Asking for What You Want - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2012 from Tina TessinaIn my counseling office, I see a lot of damage done because people don't know how to ask for what they want, or don't think it's OK. Not asking for what you want means you'll eventually resent somebody, and that leads to a lot of strife. So today, I thought I'd give some hints about how to ask ...
Views: 1948 - Asking for What you Want - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2014 from Tina Tessinab> In my counseling office, I see a lot of damage done because people don’t know how to ask for what they want, or don’t think it’s OK. Not asking for what you want means you’ll eventually resent somebody, and that leads to a lot of strife. So today, I thought ...
Views: 1435 - Aspects of Love - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaAh, love! What rapturous, torturous words have been set down to try and capture the essence of love. Those clever Greeks, who invented the Olympics, also invented many names for love—Cupid, Eros, Venus, Aphrodite—and each name represented an aspect of love. The ancient Greeks had several words ...
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