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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- ***How Can I Get My Partner To Change? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2015 from Margaret PaulDiscover the things you might need to change in yourself in order to have a chance at creating change in your partner and in your relationship. ________________________________________ How much energy do you spend trying to get what you want from your partner? Think about it for a moment - ...
Views: 1410 - ***How Controlling Others Controls You - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2014 from Margaret PaulHow are you limiting yourself to limit your partner? What are the consequences of this? "As long as you keep a person down, some part of you has to be down there to hold him down, so it means you cannot soar as you otherwise might." ~Marian Anderson 1902-1993, Concert ...
Views: 1147 - ***How Do I Know If I Have Abandonment Issues? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 18, 2016 ____________________________________________________________ Have you wondered if you have an abandonment issue? Discover the answer to this question in this article – and what to do about it. ...
Views: 1621 - ***How Do I Stop Sabotaging Myself? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2013 from Margaret PaulDiscover why you may be sabotaging and punishing yourself with your self-judgment and self-rejection. Would you love to manifest your dreams and have the life you want? Most people would unhesitatingly respond with a resounding "YES!" Yet, do you sometimes find yourself ...
Views: 1367 - ***How Love Grows (Practical Steps To Keeping Love Alive In Your Relationships) - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2008 from Laura MonzoWe are meant to live a life of love. However, no matter how successful some are in other aspects of their lives, they don't feel it's possible to have the same success in love. They tell themselves to “be realistic.” Being realistic about relationships” is considered natural as ...
Views: 1692 - ***How to Attract a Healthy Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2015 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you keep attracting narcissistic or emotionally unavailable partners? You CAN learn to attract a healthy partner! ________________________________________ Have you found yourself continually attracting the same kind of unhealthy person into your ...
Views: 1492 - ***How To Be A Loving Advocate For Your Inner Child - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. September 27, 2016 What does it look like to be a loving advocate for your inner child? Learn how now! What does loving self-care really mean? Our wounded self and our loving adult have totally different concepts of what self-care really means. The wounded ...
Views: 1291 - ***How to Begin Expressing Your Romantic Feelings for Your Best Friend - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2015 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) WishOne of the common plot lines of romantic comedies involves a relationship that has to change from a best of friends into a romantic couple. The standard story elements are that one person has more intimate feelings for the other person. Or, each person doesn’t really know how she or he feels ...
Views: 1663 - ***How To Forgive - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. June 06, 2016 Do you want to forgive yourself or someone else, but you just can't seem to get there? Learn how to forgive in this article. _____________________________________________________________________________ It's one of the greatest gifts you can ...
Views: 1417 - ***How to Have a Successful Relationship… - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciAttune to Your Partner! What is a Successful Relationship? Is being with your spouse, partner, for decades the definition of a successful relationship? Is it raising awesome children? Is it having financial resources, a beautiful home? Is it having our partner do stuff for us? Is it having ...
Views: 1574 - ***How To Reassure Your Inner Child - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. August 22, 2016 Are you afraid that if you practice Inner Bonding, you will have to feel painful feelings that you have been avoiding your whole life with your various addictions? Most people who have done even a little bit of Inner Bonding know the power it has ...
Views: 1326 - ***How To Stay Joyful All The Time - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. These three simple – but not always easy – choices can create such incredible joy! One of the things I love to do is walk every morning out in nature and do my Inner Bonding process. I've been walking almost every morning for at least the last 40 years, and doing ...
Views: 1224 - ***How to Talk about Sex - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2012 from Margaret PaulAre you stuck in your relationship not being able to talk about sex, or getting into power struggles about sex? Sean wrote in the following question on one of my free webinars about sexuality: "My wife and I have been married now for eighteen years and for the most part are ...
Views: 1576 - ***How to Turn Fear of Dating into Fun Dates - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerWhen you think of dating – especially online dating – do you feel any fear? Do you get even a tiny twinge of terror? If your answer is "yes," you are not alone. In fact, I think you're among the majority. The women I'm coaching often tell me about situations they describe as "scary." Here ...
Views: 2055 - ***How We Sabotage Ourselves And What To Do About It - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaEveryone wants to be beautiful, young, healthy and fit. There is no end to the diets, workouts and health plans. Yet the most important diet of all has been overlooked. This is a diet that releases stress, relaxes muscles, offers sound sleep, diminishes appetite, and makes you look and feel ...
Views: 18275 - ***I Fall Too Hard In Love - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you find yourself getting hurt over and over in relationships? Discover why. ________________________________________ Do you find yourself falling hard for someone and then ending up feeling rejected and not good enough when it ends? This is the ...
Views: 1359 - ***I'm Neat, He's Messy--What Can I Do? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Is your partner's messiness driving you crazy? Discover how to resolve this issue in your relationship. ________________________________________ When we meet and fall in love with someone, we often don't think about what might seem like minor ...
Views: 3251 - ***I'm Not Appreciated - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Learn what you can do when you don't feel appreciated by your partner. ________________________________________ Chris wrote this question for one of my relationship webinars: "What do you do when you feel you are not loved for who you are? How do ...
Views: 1560 - ***Inner Disconnection = Planetary Disconnection - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2014 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. ________________________________________ The disturbing lack of a personal spiritual connection that many experience has huge ramifications for our planet. ________________________________________ How are we doing as inhabitants of this beautiful planet? Sometimes ...
Views: 1146 - ***Intimacy With Others Starts From Within - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2013 from Margaret PaulHave you wondered why you may be having a hard time connecting with others? "Intimacy begins with oneself. It does no good to try to find intimacy with friends, lovers, and family if you are starting out from alienation and division within yourself." - Thomas ...
Views: 1244 - ***Is My Need For Attention Reasonable or Needy? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Margaret PaulHave you ever wondered if your desire to share time with a partner is coming from need or neediness? Sometimes it's a challenge to know what are reasonable relationship needs and when we are being needy. Klarese is asking this important question: "I am currently dating a wonderful ...
Views: 1501 - ***Is There Such A Thing As Healthy Caretaking? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ A client of mine asked, "Is there such a thing as healthy caretaking?" Here is the answer! ________________________________________ I was trained by my mother and grandmother to be a caretaker. The messages were: "Your feelings are not important to ...
Views: 1891 - ***Is There Such A Thing As Healthy Narcissism? - by Submitted on May 03, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Discover that 'healthy narcissism' is an oxymoron! ________________________________________ All of us have an ego wounded self who is narcissistic to one degree or another. For the purpose of this article, I am defining narcissism as abandoning ...
Views: 2008 - ***Is Unconditional Love Realistic? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you have the expectation that you will receive unconditional love from a partner? Most of us would love the experience of being loved unconditionally by someone. This is the experience we needed when we were growing up, but most parents are not connected enough with themselves and ...
Views: 1295 - ***Kind at the Beginning…Critical Later. Why? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2016 from Margaret PaulMargaret Paul, Ph.D. January 11, 2016 ________________________________________ Have you been mystified when someone who has appeared to be very kind and caring suddenly becomes blaming, critical, or just disappears? ________________________________________ How often have you had ...
Views: 1398 - ***Learn To Love Yourself: Listen To Your Soul NOT Your Mind - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. February 08, 2016 _____________________________________________________________ Learning to discern the difference between mind and soul communication is essential to learning to love yourself. Learn how to tell when information is truth from Spirit or made up from the ...
Views: 1818 - ***Learn to Set Healthy Boundaries for Relationship Success! - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciMind Your Own Side of the Fence! We hear all the time that having boundaries is a must for healthy living and happiness in relationship. The only glitch is that a lot of people don’t have the slightest idea about boundaries, never mind about setting them appropriately. I find that ...
Views: 1531 - ***Learning to Love Your Sacred Being - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from Margaret PaulDo you know who you are in your essence? If you knew that your core Self, your essence, was a sacred being, an individualized expression of Spirit, would you treat yourself differently than you currently do? There is a wonderful story about a king who went into a downtrodden village, a ...
Views: 1475 - ***Life: Security or a Daring Adventure? - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2011 from Margaret Paul"Security is mostly superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits ...
Views: 2167 - ***Loneliness versus Solitude - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you often crave solitude, or is being alone too lonely for you? There is an inherent reason for these differences. ________________________________________ "Language has created the word 'loneliness' to express the pain of being alone, and the ...
Views: 1516 - ***Longing For Connection - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you longing for connection? Discover what you need to do to create loving connection with another. Deeply connecting with another is one of the great joys of life, and is something most of us long for. Deep connection takes away loneliness and gives us the experience of being deeply ...
Views: 1539 - ***Loving Yourself - by Submitted on May 07, 2015 from Margaret PaulAre you asking your higher self for the loving action and not receiving answers? Ernie was having trouble accessing his higher self. He wanted to know about the loving action toward himself, but he couldn't seem to receive any answers. Because his inner child often felt abandoned and unloved ...
Views: 1519 - ***Loving Yourself As An Introvert in Groups - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD November 28, 2016 Do you often feel out of place and like an alien in some groups? Discover how to love yourself in group situations. "She's very shy," my parents used to say to people when I was quiet. From their tone, I thought it wasn't a good thing to be shy. I ...
Views: 1489 - ***Loving Yourself Creates Loving Connection With Others - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD January 10, 2017 How often in your life have you felt that magical feeling of deeply connecting with another? Learn how loving yourself leads to having much more of this in your life. As humans, we are hard-wired to want to connect with each other. Until 10,000 ...
Views: 1193 - ***Loving Yourself in the Face of Others' Expectations - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD February 07, 2017 How often are you stressed and frazzled in trying to meet others' expectations? You can learn to love yourself instead! I was staying at a friend's house on one of my teaching trips. I walked into the kitchen early one morning to find my friend ...
Views: 1212 - ***Loving Yourself When Being Blamed - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD February 20, 2017 Discover how loving it is to yourself to understand the amazing difference between blame and responsibility. Growing up, most of us had numerous experiences of being blamed. I was frequently blamed for things that I was too young to understand, ...
Views: 1482 - ***Loving Yourself When Feeling Engulfed and Controlled - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD November 15, 2016 What do you do when someone is trying to control you? Do you give in, argue or resist? Discover how to love yourself instead of abandoning yourself. Loving yourselfMost of us have had the experience in our relationships of someone trying to ...
Views: 1244 - ***Loving Yourself When You Feel Lonely - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD December 13, 2016 Loneliness has much information for us when we open to it rather than judge it or avoid it with various addictions. One of the saddest and most dysfunctional aspects of our current culture is that it fosters loneliness. It's not hard to imagine ...
Views: 1179 - ***Loving Yourself When You Feel Rejected - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD November 22, 2016 Do you know how love yourself when you feel rejected? Start learning how now! What do you generally do when you feel rejected? If you're like most people, you either try to control the rejecting person, or you take it out on yourself with various ...
Views: 1359 - ***Making Peace With Lost Time - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you sometimes look back and feel as if you have wasted your life caretaking others or trying to get others to take care of you? Very often, in my work with my clients and with people who attend my workshops and Intensives, once they understand that they have been abandoning ...
Views: 1170 - ***Managing Challenging Families - by Submitted on May 11, 2016 from Margaret PaulSometimes the most loving act, both for yourself and for others, is to disengage from an abusive family relationship. This can eventually lead to some healing. We all know that families can be very challenging! Angie grew up in a family where she was the caretaker. The oldest of four, ...
Views: 1413 - ***Managing The Pain of Breakups - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you know how to lovingly manage and heal the loneliness and heartbreak of a breakup? Breakups are challenging for most of us. However, on top of the heartbreak and grief of a breakup, we often make it worse by the things we say to ourselves. What are some of the things you tell ...
Views: 1392 - ***Manifesting Your Next Year - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ There is no time like right now to get clear on what you want to manifest in the coming year. ________________________________________ What do you want in the coming year? One of the things I've done for many years is to write down what I want for ...
Views: 1159 - ***Marriage Help: 3 Steps to Becoming a Better Listener - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2009 from Richard Nicastro"You never listen to me...I've asked you a thousand times to let me know when you can't pick the kids up from daycare!" In my work with couples, it is common to hear one person accuse the other of "not listening." This usually takes the following form: 1. You ask your partner to do something ...
Views: 1396 - ***My Husband is Not Sexual - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you in a relationship with a man who is not sexual? You are not alone! ________________________________________ In a question to me on one of my webinars, Melanie writes: "My husband is very loving, but not very sexual. I've tried to talk to him ...
Views: 1531 - ***One Sure Fire Way to Improve Your Marriage - Turning Towards - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2018 from Dr. John SchinnererWhat if I were to tell you there are secrets, scientifically proven tools, that will light up your relationship with your spouse? Would you be interested? Would you be willing to learn? As it happens, there are proven tools that you can learn to improve your relationship with your spouse. And ...
Views: 4282 - ***Online Dating Strategies That Set You Up for Success - by Submitted on May 25, 2016 from Valeria ChubaAre you currently dating - or getting ready to start dating online? Have you dated unsuccessfully in the past, and want this time to be different? When it comes to dating, It's especially important to get started in a way that will set you up for success. In this episode of the Get Sex-Smart ...
Views: 8274 - ***Others Treat Us The Way We Treat Ourselves - by Submitted on May 05, 2011 from Margaret Paul"Everybody is like a magnet. You attract to yourself reflections of that which you are. If you're friendly, then everybody else seems to be friendly too." --Dr. David Hawkins, Physician and LecturerHave you ever noticed how true this is?I would change it a bit and say that we attract ...
Views: 3217 - ***Overweight and Miserable - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you tired of being overweight and food addicted? There is a way to heal. ________________________________________ Pamela writes this question for my webinar on food addiction: "I am a 22-yr old female weighing 220 lbs with a height of 5.9". I ...
Views: 1577 - ***Politicians Need Inner Bonding! - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2014 from Margaret PaulHow would our country change if politicians had to learn to love themselves and others before taking office? What if politicians had to be mentally evaluated before running for office? How many of them would pass as being emotionally stable and healthy? What difference might it make ...
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