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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- "Breaking the Ice" with women - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Richard LisoApproaching women is easy. What you say first hardly matters; it’s what comes next that matters. Once a guy has walked up to a girl and pitched his pick up line, that’s where the ice forms. It’s now that guys get petrified and are unable to keep the conversation going. Most of them fail because ...
Views: 1026 - "Eat, Pray, Love" Your Way to Closer Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsSpring has sprung, and many of us are slowly moving out of hibernation and feeling ready to get outside. This luring translates to relationships as well. With the bad news of the recession pounding, we need to surround ourselves with positive, upbeat people to help us shift gears, focus on the ...
Views: 784 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (11) - Farangs: In (Or Considering) A Long-term Western/Asian Relationship? Read This Now!" - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2008 from Carl Pantejo(Author “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor,” Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - Y.N. Vurce Publishing.) “Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” *Below is the eleventh episode in a series of real life events experienced by the ...
Views: 862 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (12) - Farang: Square Peg, Round Hole? Compatibility Issues." - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” *Below is the twelfth episode in a series of real life events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in ...
Views: 943 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (13) - Farang: Compatibility Issues II." - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” *Below is the thirteenth episode in a series of real life events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in ...
Views: 845 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (18): A Good Tilt With A Bar Girl?" - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2008 from Carl Pantejo(Author “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor,” Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - Y.N. Vurce Publishing.) “Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” *Below is the eighteenth episode based on a series of real life events experienced by ...
Views: 972 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (2): Coincidence or Synchronicity? From Relapse To Miracles..." - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2007 from Carl Pantejo“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” By Carl "J.C." Pantejo, Copyright December 2007 (Author “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor,” Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - Y.N. Vurce Publishing.) *Below is the second in a series of ...
Views: 907 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (3): LOST AND FOUND - Kindred Spirits and Mistakes Made In Haste." - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2007 from Carl Pantejo“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” By Carl "J.C." Pantejo, Copyright December 2007 (Author “My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor,” Copyright August 2007. Pantejo - Y.N. Vurce Publishing.) *Below is the third episode in a ...
Views: 837 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (4): LOST AND FOUND - Meant To Be? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2007 from Carl Pantejo“Sullen, I accepted the fact that I’d never see her again. BUT the Gentle Hand of the Universe kept nudging me back towards her…” “Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” By Carl “J.C.” Pantejo, Copyright December ...
Views: 856 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (5): The Stray" - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“She had tolerated five years of infidelity, mental abuse, and battering; but the rape of her little sister was the last straw. She finally left him…and ended up in my house.” “Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” By Carl ...
Views: 941 - "Experiences From 'The Flow' (6): New Beginnings, Old Endings" - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“She had just severed a longtime, abusive relationship; and to her dismay, felt like she was back to square one in her life. I had just ended a similar relationship, a relationship full of infidelity, lies, and heartbreak. And being a veteran of starting over (and over), I knew it was ...
Views: 982 - "Experiences From 'The Flow'(14) - Farang: Tipping the Scales. Good Or Bad?" - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” *Below is the fourteenth episode in a series of real life events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in ...
Views: 879 - "Experiences From 'The Flow'(16) - Farang: Make Your Scale Sway or Walk Away." - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“Prosperity: The eternal flow of all that’s good in life…” *Below is the sixteenth episode in a series of real life events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth may be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in ...
Views: 891 - "Experiences from The Flow (24): The Ex Returns! Part 2." - by Submitted on May 05, 2008 from Carl Pantejo“It was a weird dream. I am in bed with Nueng. Her face is nestled into my shoulder and her arm is draped over my chest. She looks like a sleeping angel – mine, my special, lovely angel. I inhale deeply, smile, and silently thank God for all the joy she has brought into my ...
Views: 1105 - "Hey, it's me" - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2012 from Darlene GlasgowHave you ever received a phone call that went something like this? "Hello" "Hey, how are you?" "I'm good, how are you?" "Great, did you watch the game last night?" "Yes, great game" "Well, all of us need to get together to watch a game soon." "Sure, we need to do that." "What about ...
Views: 1255 - "I Admire and Support him and He Abuses Me!" - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2013 from Sam Vaknin“I admire and support him. I am his biggest fan. I am his right hand and one woman audience. I am his best friend and his only source of succor. Yet, he constantly humiliates and berates me and abuses me in subtle and not-so-subtle ways. What gives?” He may be a narcissist. The narcissist ...
Views: 2422 - "I Wanted To Rescue Women!" - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember when I was seeing a woman towards the end of 2011, who was going through a challenging time. She wasn’t in a good place, and this meant that I tried to do what I could to help her. This primarily took place through listening to what she had to say and offering advice. I was also ...
Views: 1238 - "I Will Love You Forever!" - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have heard many people say that they love their partner. Additionally, I have also seen people say this on social media, and this has often been followed up with their partner saying the same thing. Whenever this was said, it was as though this meant that they would stay ...
Views: 1280 - "I'm Sorry": Expressing Regret the Right Way - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2012 from Nancy PinaWhen conflict arises, are you the person who's quick to apologize, wanting to sweep everything under the rug so the tension goes away? Or are you the one who tends to hold that hurt for a while, allowing the offensive words to gain a life of their own? Most of us identify with one approach ...
Views: 1412 - "Me First!" Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2008 from Emily EldredgeA friend of mine recently asked me: "What is the greatest lesson you've learned in relationship?" To listen to, trust, and love myself - first and foremost. How can that be? After all, isn't a relationship about loving someone else? It seems to me that the world is saturated with false ...
Views: 1277 - "My Mother, the Now" - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Cary BayerMY MOTHER, THE NOW By Coach Cary Bayer http://www.carybayer.com This is a happy story, though don’t be surprised or disappointed if it brings a tear or two to your eyes. It concerns my 88-year-old mother, who lives in a nursing home in Dallas and who’s now among the most present ...
Views: 700 - "REALationship: The 7 Primary Ingredients" - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2017 from Barry and Joyce VissellOkay, it’s a cute word. But what does it mean to have a real relationship, a relationship with substance? What does it take to have a relationship that not only lasts, but also thrives with loving connection? From growing with my beloved of 52 years, Joyce, and from our work with couples for 42 ...
Views: 1449 - "Reconciliation" - a Difficult Word - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2007 from Steve GoodierAn office reports that they have an answering machine that instructs callers to leave their name and address, and to spell any difficult words. Early one Monday when the secretary was reviewing the weekend messages, she heard an enthusiastic young woman recite her name and address and then ...
Views: 1645 - "The 2 Parts of a Successful Relationship" - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2018 from Barry and Joyce VissellA successful relationship has two very important components: learning to love yourself first, and then learning to love another person. Too many people ignore the first part, then wonder why it’s so hard to love another. It’s like expecting to water a plant with an empty water pitcher. Or trying ...
Views: 1374 - "The Gift of Rejection" - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2019 from Barry and Joyce VissellRejection can hurt. Perhaps a person can be rejected by a friend, partner, boss, sibling, parent, co-worker, someone you work out with at the gym, or even your grown child. Scientists are discovering that the hurt of rejection can be actually recorded within your body. My first memory of ...
Views: 972 - "To Really Choose a Man" - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2018 from Barry and Joyce Vissell(An excerpt from the Vissell’s new book, To Really Love a Man) TO REALLY LOVE A MAN IS TO CHOOSE HIM OVER AND OVER AGAIN. It’s not enough to say marriage vows one time, though that is certainly important. The relationship is deepened if you let him know often that you would choose him all ...
Views: 2165 - "Transforming Your Relationship - Mind Freedom" - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Al Link and Pala CopelandPart 8 of 8 When you turn the keys of Mind Freedom, you unlock the potential for a truly satisfying union. By paying positive attention to your relationship, focusing on the qualities you want it to exhibit and seeing your part in its evolution, you can break free from limited societal ...
Views: 1012 - "What Was Cute In Romance May Become Acute In Conflict” - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago I read a few books by David Richo, and this is someone who really knows what he is talking about. Whether it is relationships or self-development in general, his books are packed full of insights. When I read two of his books towards the end of 2013, I had recently gone ...
Views: 1112 - "Woman at the Well" Series - by Submitted on May 12, 2012 from Cameron A Bailey SrHello. Everything, our very being, consists of a myriad of interdependent relationships. From the relationship we have through this post, to the relationship between the molecules that forms the atoms of the objects of life. We have the physicist, chemist, gynecologist, urologist, welder, ...
Views: 1770 - "You Should Know What My Needs Are!" - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere will be times when it is possible for someone to know what another person’s needs are and times when it won’t be. That is, of course, unless someone has the ability to read minds; if they do, they will always know. But, if this ability is put to one side, another person will need to ...
Views: 684 - #1 Universal Relationship Law: Healthy, Happy People Tend to Relate, Date, and Mate Other Healthy, Happy People - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsAs the Radio Love Psychic on the nationally renowned KXRK Radio From Hell morning show, I use a few sneaky tricks to get the quick, accurate reads on the callers. The first is that there are some unchangeable, immutable Universal Laws regarding people’s connections with each other. The next is ...
Views: 966 - 'No' Hesitation - Say Yes To Saying No - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2008 from Colette RobicheauHow often have you found yourself unable to say ‘no’ to someone? It isn’t easy turning down an invite or request. There are many reasons why we might find ourselves unable to say no to requests- anxiety, a sense of obligation, wanting to be liked, wanting to be useful or to ...
Views: 1113 - 'Safe' Strategy Is Your Downfall - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Jan DeniseINSIDE RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 11, 2009 'Safe' Strategy Is Your Downfall We've all tried to put what we hoped a hot prospect would see as our "best foot" forward, while trying to hide our "worst foot." Predictably, we fall on our face. If we want an ...
Views: 1365 - *** "I'm Consumed With My Ex - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Discover why you might be obsessing about an ex and how to stop. ________________________________________ "How do I stop allowing my ex to consume my thoughts?" asks Tammy. "Is your ex consuming your thoughts, or are you consumed with your ex?" I ...
Views: 4952 - *** "What's The Point of a Relationship?" - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you sometimes have confusion regarding the value of a relationship? ________________________________________ Jeanine asked me the following question at one of my free webinars: "Hi Dr. Paul, thank you so much for your wonderful work and for ...
Views: 1567 - *** Avoid These Relationship Traps and Build a Stronger Union - by Submitted on May 13, 2009 from Richard NicastroI'm often asked, "What is one of the most challenging issues couples face today?" While every couple is different, there are themes that I see in my work as a couples counselor and relationship coach. One common issue is the difficulty couples have in prioritizing their relationship—a form of ...
Views: 1434 - *** Avoiding Emotional Pain Causes Emotional Pain - by Submitted on May 30, 2016 from Margaret PaulWe all learned many ways of avoiding pain as we were growing up, but what once seemed to protect us against pain is now actually causing our pain. We all had to learn many ways of avoiding emotional pain as we were growing up, because we could not have survived the pain of childhood ...
Views: 1477 - *** Letting Go Of A Sugar Addiction - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2013 from Margaret PaulHave you tried unsuccessfully to heal a sugar addiction? Here's how! Are you sugar addicted? You are not alone! I used to be intensely sugar addicted. I craved it all the time, and it seems like the more I ate, the more I wanted it. The fact that it made me feel terrible – first ...
Views: 1561 - *** Loving Yourself Through Heartbreak and Grief - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD December 05, 2016 ________________________________________ Learn how to love yourself through heartbreak and grief, rather than continue to abandon yourself in ways that are hurting you. ________________________________________ Take a moment right now to ...
Views: 1380 - *** Marriage Help: Coping with a Spouse's Illness - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2009 from Richard NicastroIt's natural to enter a long-term relationship with expectations. And one expectation most of us have is that our spouse or partner will remain relatively healthy. Although wedding vows ask us to consider the possibility of sickness, we don't automatically assume our loved ones will suffer a ...
Views: 3554 - *** Over-Talking: The Need to Talk Too Much - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2014 from Margaret PaulAre you aware of needing to talk too much, or have you been with people who go on and on? There is a good reason for this. I have found over the years of practicing Inner Bonding that the more I listen to myself, the less need I have for others to listen to me and hear me. Not that ...
Views: 1251 - *** Overcoming Marriage Problems: Start Focusing on Solutions - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Richard NicastroWhen a troubled couple comes to me for relationship help, one of the first questions I ask is, "What have you already done to try to solve these relationship problems?" Several issues immediately become apparent as I listen to these distressed couples: 1. Many of them didn't have a plan to ...
Views: 2485 - *** Speaking Your Truth Without Blame or Judgment - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2009 from Margaret PaulHow often have you become irritated or angry, given yourself up, started to argue or debate, teach or explain, or withdrew when someone was treating you badly - ordering you around, judging you, blaming you, or dumping their complaints or negativity on you? How often have you behaved in any of ...
Views: 4068 - *** Succeeding Through Failure - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2013 from Margaret Paul"I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. --Michael Jordan, Former Professional Basketball Player and ...
Views: 1302 - *** Top 10 Tips to Infidelity-Proof Your Relationship - by Infidelity can sneak up on even the most solid partnerships. According to an infidelity poll conducted by http://www.WomanSavers.com of 6,330 women, 92% believe that emotional affairs lead to physical affairs, whereas only a mere 7% believe they do not..* Source: ...
Views: 2556 - *** Understanding and Using The Pit to Create Healthier, Happier Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Scout WilkinsThe pit is that place of drama where you might end up sometimes, when things are lousy: you lost your job, your kid called from the police station, your best friend let you down, you burned dinner. Sometimes, we just let ourselves go there. Sometimes, we see our friends go there. It ...
Views: 1448 - *** When It's Loving To Share Your Feelings…And When It's Not - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Margaret PaulHow often have you shared your feelings and the other person became angry and defensive? How often have you heard that it's good to "share your feelings"? How often have you shared your feelings and it backfired on you? Perhaps you find yourself saying "But I'm just ...
Views: 1101 - *** Why Relationships Fail - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Discover the major cause of relationship failure and what to do about it. ________________________________________ Most people, when asked if they want a loving relationship, will say that having a loving relationship is one of the two most important ...
Views: 1550 - ***"Can We Be Friends After A Relationship Ends?” - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2013 from Margaret PaulDiscover what you may need to address before deciding whether you can be friends with an ex partner. Elise writes: "My partner and I separated a year ago. My partner now wants to finalize the relationship but work on being 'friends'. I am having difficulty connecting as just ...
Views: 1597 - ***"Divorced and Reconciled – But It's Not Working" - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ After reconciling with your partner, do you find yourself back in the same pattern? ________________________________________ Nancy wrote to me asking the following question: "My husband and I were married for 15 years. Divorced. Reconciled after 9 ...
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