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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Expectations to Ruinations - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyWhen you wake up in the morning. What do you expect to happen ? I expect my alarm to go off in the morning. I expect daylight to have arrived. I expect that I can move my body and get out of bed. I expect my breakfast Radio 2 programme to be on and I expect the kettle to boil when I switch it ...
Views: 894(4 votes) - God and Your Relationship - 3 Doesn't Have to be a Crowd - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyThose first glorious moments of spiritual or religious awakening can be huge. As we begin to open and seek our true ”selves” we start to ask questions such as “who am I?” or “why am I here?”. The first experience that connects you to your inner self is one of the most, or maybe best of your ...
Views: 1057(4 votes) - Happily Ever After - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyOnce upon a time, in a land far far away, there lived a princess. A princess so beautiful, her Light shone, mesmerizing the people of the land. They talked only of her purity and kindness and regularly left gifts at the steps to her castle to show their appreciation for her being in their lives. ...
Views: 1038(2 votes) - How To Fix A Relationship.Mending fences and building bridges. - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2013 from Devango BobsRelationship advice is often seen as something exclusive to a best friend, or a very close family member. The reason for that is fairly simple; we usually listen to someone whose opinion we highly value. We think, weigh the advice and act accordingly because we trust the source. Oftentimes, ...
Views: 4913(2 votes) - How To Move On After Infidelity In Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2013 from Daryl CampbellYou thought infidelity in marriage only happened to other couples. Undoubtedly during the course of your life you have known people that have experienced it firsthand. You may have done what you could to sympathize with the person be they a friend or relative. In the end however there was ...
Views: 1573(2 votes) - Is it Time to Move on or is it Just Your Stuff? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyIt struck me recently that there is a distinct difference between knowing when to throw the towel in and call it a day with your dear heart and when it's just your "stuff" surfacing again. But how do you really know ? I don't profess to nailing scientific proof to either side, even ...
Views: 989(4 votes) - Jealousy, Faithfulness, and Distance - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaSo many couples are now separated part- or full-time because of military deployment and/or work travel and schedules, I get a lot of questions about faithfulness. Your marriage vows may have said, “'til death do us part” but no one said anything about what happens when a military career or ...
Views: 1777(2 votes) - Law Of Attraction: Quick And Effective Practices To Greaten Your Spirits And Your Level Of Attraction - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Nanette GeigerWould you like some great energy tools that have an immediate impact on your vibration - and therefore your magnetism? Laughter and Toning. Laugher is truly excellent medicine for whatever ails you. Now obviously if you don't find anything humorous, it's hard to make yourself laugh. right? Or ...
Views: 1775(4 votes) - Love Is As Love Does - by Submitted on May 29, 2011 from Randi FineThe desire to love is not itself love. Love is as love does. ~ M. Scott Peck, M.D. Love is often characterized by the overwhelming feeling that is commonly associated with it. We have all experienced the giddy feeling of falling in love, a feeling that eventually fades and gets replaced by ...
Views: 2084(2 votes) - My Ex Is Already Dating, How Can I Get My Ex Back? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2010 from Owen SkytonThis question get repeated a lot of the times and more often then not it’s the first question people ask after the break up. “Can I get my ex back if my ex is already dating?” I don't want to stall here – YES, you can get your ex back even if he or she is already dating someone new. Will ...
Views: 11699(4 votes) - My last 9,000 days! - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2010 from Wayne KehlGetting Along With People Is Easy As I kneeled to thin out the dead stalks in the rose bushes near my back gate today, I felt a twinge in my back. As I stood up to shake off the twinge, I felt a pain in my right thigh and stiffness in both knees. At that moment, I mumbled silently to myself, ...
Views: 1657(4 votes) - Obervation to Preservation - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyI was inspired today after my hot yoga class, to write about how people really get stuck in to the drama of their emotions. I watched people as they literally fought with their bodies throughout the class, one to deal with the extreme temperatures which were well over 80 degrees and two, to ...
Views: 937(2 votes) - Relationship Help for Single Working Mothers - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Nanette GeigerSusan from North Carolina came to me because she's afraid that she'll never get a new husband because she thinks nobody wants to walk into an already established family. If this rings true for you or a person you know, you may believe that, but it is just not so. I know of women who have ...
Views: 1369(2 votes) - Stuck on Words - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Dr. Mona SpiegelThe Chairman of the National Republican Committee, Michael Steele, was recently interviewed by NPR reporter, Steve Inskeep. And they got stuck on words. The Chairman was the first to attack: "You're doing a wonderful little dance here and trying to be cute," he stated. Inskeep entered the ...
Views: 1161(2 votes) - Tame the Beast - Insecurity - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyA battle field for the heart and emotions...insecurity. It plagued my life and the men I dated, so many times in the last 25 years and was the source of great angst too many times, often with disastrous consequences. Insecurity is a feeling that can't always be intellectualised and virtually ...
Views: 2727(2 votes) - To Text or Not to Text, That is the Question - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Gina HardyLeading nicely on from my last piece about how to "tool up" to communicate properly in your relationship, I find myself compelled to mention the wonderful world of non-verbal communication, in particular, texting. Daily life seems to cocoon us more and more within the world of laptops and ...
Views: 890(4 votes) - Use These 5 Tips To Make Your Ex Jealous! - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2010 from Andrew HunterYour ex certainly still has feelings for you if your can make him jealous. If he still has feelings for you, he may want to start seeing you again, if they're strong enough. The tips discussed here on making a man jealous have been used by someone successfully many times. Exercise great care ...
Views: 3135(4 votes) - Want a Never-Ending Valentine’s Day? Rewire Your Relationship Brain! - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2013 from Noelle NelsonYou’ve been looking forward all week to watching the movie you had delivered magically to your TV, and tonight’s the night! You get comfy in your favorite chair, popcorn and soda at hand, and flick on the remote. About a third of the way into the movie, you realize it’s awful! You don’t like ...
Views: 1466(2 votes) - What Makes Asian Women the Best in the World? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2013 from Jenny TranIt’s interesting to see how many people look for Asian women when it comes to finding dates. There are a number of reasons why so many men are willing to go along with these women when it comes to not only setting up relationships but for considering marriage in the future just as well. One ...
Views: 2702(2 votes) - Why communication skills don’t always work and what does. - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Geoff FarnsworthCouples come into my office saying they don’t know how to communicate. They often escalate into a full-blown argument or end up shutting down and pulling away from each other. The assumption is that if they could learn to communicate well during arguments, they wouldn’t end up hurting each ...
Views: 1347(2 votes) - Why Couples Counseling Is Important For Relationships - by Submitted on May 19, 2013 from Janie ChristensenWhen relationships become too much to bear and you feel like you could use a little help, some families seek the assistance of couples counseling in Fort Lauderdale. They are dealing with a problem that has brought them to their wits end and may even have been tormenting them for years. ...
Views: 787(2 votes) - Wrong Actions that Stop Men From Hitting on You - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2013 from Amy RosenthalyIn the game of finding love, women looking for love want to put out the right signs, the ones that will bring in guys. Many women don`t understand what it`s like in a man's shoe trying to approach women. Be mindful not to put out any incorrect signals, which will shove guys away. These gestures ...
Views: 1421(2 votes) - Passionate Dating Can Help You Stop Getting Dumped - Some Weird Truth! - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2010 from Randall PaulIf you have ever experienced passionate dating within your relationship you may have just helped stop getting dumped and becoming single before you really want to. As a guy most of us know that putting away clothes is really unnecessary right? I mean com-on, if you are gun-na to wear it the ...
Views: 1505(3 votes) - 5 Surprising ways to Improve any Relationship for the next 12 months! - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2010 from Lea DevDo you find that your relationship with certain folks is in a holding pattern or has subtly degraded, and no matter what you do, interactions keep heading toward the Vortex of Nebula? Look at this list and see if any of these describe the sort of change or changes you've sensed within the last ...
Views: 1489(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Trust Her Not to Do It Again? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I wanted to get your reaction to something; what would it mean to you if someone said to you "So maybe I quit on our relationship." Yes my wife said this to me right before I left on deployment and I have been having a hard time dealing with it. When I came home ...
Views: 1741(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel my sister's life is in danger - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently stumbled upon your article "Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence." The information you provided resounded heartily with me. Last fall my brother in law discharged a weapon DIRECTLY NEXT to my sisters head. She was 8 months pregnant at the ...
Views: 1567(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is he trying to make me jealous? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need your advice. My ex and I broke up a while ago but still talked everyday. Anyways, long story short, I decided I can't talk to him anymore because we both need to change and find out who we are and learn to treat each other better. He continues calling and ...
Views: 3706(3 votes) - Dr Romance: 3 Tips to Living Together - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Tina TessinaIn the throes of a new romance, when dating and getting to know each other are going well, it’s easy to make a big decision from all the energy, or for the wrong reasons. Moving in together for the wrong reasons, or without advance planning, can jeopardize the whole relationship; so do it ...
Views: 1650(3 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: Is it normal to argue with your spouse about your kids? - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2013 from Tina Tessinaclick here for video It is not necessary to argue about parenting your kids. Couples usually argue about how their parents raised them, and they want to do the same (or the opposite) of what hteir parents did. How Not to Pass Your Family Dysfunction on to your kids: 1. Don't do ...
Views: 1749(3 votes) - Dr. Romance: 5 Common Mistakes in Relationships - 5 Common Mistakes when Asking your Spouse for What You Want - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaThere are some common mistakes couples make when asking for what they want in a relationship. Here are some things that may be keeping you from achieving success with your spouse. They are the most common mistakes you can make when trying to ask for what you want when you're struggling to make ...
Views: 1621(3 votes) - Dr. Romance: Boundaries with your Ex - Tips to Help if your Ex is Doing Things that Make You Feel Used, Resentful - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2013 from Tina TessinaPersonal space and respect are to the smoothness of a relationship. All personal relationships require boundaries. Boundaries are the limits you place on how much others can ask of you, verbally or otherwise. If a friendship or relationship is between two people who both have solid boundaries, ...
Views: 2298(3 votes) - Keep Anger from Spoiling Your Holidays with 3 Tips from Anger Management Experts in 23 Countries - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2010 from Tom WilsonHoliday stress can ruin the holidays when anger raises it's ugly head. Here's a deadly formula; add together holiday stress, poor communication, poor anger control skills and alcohol. Stir together and you get a deadly anti-love potion that is sure to increase verbal and physical conflict among ...
Views: 1022(3 votes) - Living Your Life By Choice - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2013 from Susan DerryHow often in a day do you find yourself saying things like I should do this or I have to that? Think about the feeling associated with those shoulds and have tos. It may range from resignation to resentment. Seldom do we experience excited anticipation for things we feel we should or have to do. ...
Views: 1365(3 votes) - Making It Through Unfaithfulness - The Five Steps To Surviving Cheating - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2013 from Daryl CampbellFor numerous men and women finding out their spouse is carrying on an extramarital affair signifies one thing: The spousal relationship has come to an end. There is absolutely no forgiving or maybe attempting to work it all out with their spouse. What's done is done and now it's time to close ...
Views: 1231(3 votes) - Relationships: Tips to Help Overcome your Negative Reaction to your Spouse - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2013 from Tina TessinaEXERCISE: MIRRORS AND TEACHERS 1. List problem people: Make a list of people with whom you have had problems in the recent past. You can use the list from the exercise for reviewing your family map in the last chapter, choose the family members who are still presenting problems, and add to ...
Views: 1649(3 votes) - Surviving An Affair: What The Cheating Significant Other Has To Get Done - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2013 from Daryl CampbellCoping with unfaithfulness often means among other issues you are paying for someone's wrong choice. You will discover lots of work to be taken care of after the affair since as a result of your actions you've done quite a lot of damage to your marital relationship which is hanging by a ...
Views: 1487(3 votes) - The Different Styles Of Communication Between Men And Women - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2010 from Lori PinkertonIt is no secret that men and women haven’t always been able to communicate properly. The concepts and ideas that are innate in most women are usually difficult concepts for most men to grasp. By the same token, things that are obvious to men are not easily understood by the majority of women. ...
Views: 2983(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have been hurt by every guy I have dated - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2010 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in a new relationship for a few months. I haven't dated for a couple of years on the advice of my therapist. I met a really nice guy on an online dating service which was totally out of my character. He is a really nice guy (Thank God) He lives in a different state so ...
Views: 1460(4 votes) - Signs Of Cheating - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2010 from Stefan KovacSigns Of Cheating. Are the one you love cheating on you? What are some signs of cheating that correlate with a cheater? I've listed a few of the main and minor signs of cheating that cheaters usually display whether they realize it or not. No matter how hard a cheater could try to cover ...
Views: 1970(4 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: My father opposes my inter-racial relationship - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My question of the week is how to deal with family opposition of my inter-racial relationship. My dad, who is in his 70s, is vehemently opposed to my relationship with my fiance (who is white). He hasn't even met him and given him a chance. It is quite frustrating given ...
Views: 1710(5 votes) - My Ex Boyfriend Called Me - What Do I Say To Get Into A Relationship Again - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Joan RiversMy Ex Boyfriend Called Me - What Do I Say To Get Into A Relationship Again; How are you supposed to sweep in and win back his heart after a breakup if you don't even know what to say when your ex boyfriend calls you? You're aware of all the dangers of going in blind and trying to wing it, but ...
Views: 4561(1 vote) - Time Proven Techniques To Convince Your Guy To Gladly Commit To You - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Tony CimbaEnduring problems with your relationship and want some instruction? Do you know why beaus shy away in relationships? Gather the secrets and techniques you will need to know for getting your guy to commit. You can't literally "brainwash" a dude into making a commitment to you. Still it is ...
Views: 1720(1 vote) - *** How to Avoid the Top Relationship Dangers of Minimizing Harmful Behavior - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) Wish*Sylvia’s husband had a rule: If you can’t be home right after work, you had to call. When she rushed a co-worker to the hospital, in the confusion, Sylvia called about thirty minutes after she was due home. When she did phone home, he accused her of cheating on her and lying. The moment she ...
Views: 4634(1 vote) - ***"If Only You Would Get What You Are Doing!" - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2015 from Margaret PaulIs your relationship stuck in a pattern of blame where you both feel like victims of the other person? One of the most common dynamics I see with the couples I work with is that each of them is convinced that if only their partner would see what he or she is doing to cause the relationship ...
Views: 1513(1 vote) - ***Addicted to Porn? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you addicted to porn and not feeling good about it? Discover the likely underlying cause and what to do about it. ________________________________________ I received the following question when I was conducting a webinar on sexual ...
Views: 1615(1 vote) - ***Stop Escalating Conflict! - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you get into fights that turn ugly as the conflict escalates? Discover how to stop doing this. ________________________________________ A participant in one of my webinars asked: "Is there any way to resolve conflict if you have two 'escalating' ...
Views: 2067(1 vote) - ***The Difference between Daydreaming and Imagining - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2013 from Margaret PaulOur imagination is a great gift - a connection with our Divine Source - when we use it from an inwardly connected loving Adult to create the life we want. "Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions." - Albert Einstein We are often ...
Views: 1605(1 vote) - 3 Immediate Things to Do to Win Your Girlfriend Back After a Breakup - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2013 from Uadiale JohnBreakup fog. Everyone suffers from it after a breakup. You can't think. You struggle to form coherent sentences. Even simple tasks, like brushing your teeth, seem impossible. "What went wrong?" you wonder. "How did this happen? Why doesn't she love me anymore?" "How do I win my ...
Views: 5241(1 vote) - 3 Reasons Why Keeping Score is Good for Your Relationship - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Shela DeanYou’ve been told it’s death to your relationship but I’m going to give you three reasons why, when done right, keeping score is good for your relationship. 1. It’s a human nature “lemon” so you might as well make lemonade. Mother Teresa and Gandhi aside, we all keep score. It’s human nature ...
Views: 1857(1 vote) - 3 Ways to Receive More Appreciation, Love and Passion in Your Love Relationship or Marriage - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsAmanda feels unloved and under-appreciated in her love relationship. She's dated Jeff for 2 years now and she's starting to wonder what she's doing in this passion-less relationship. To Amanda, it seems that Jeff is more willing to spend a weekend fixing her broken toilet, than he is to ...
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