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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- The Conscious Groom: What Men Really Feel - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2009 from Sheryl PaulWhile I was researching and writing “The Conscious Bride” thirteen years ago, I simultaneously took notes and interviewed for the obvious sequel, “The Conscious Groom”. But when I presented the idea to my publisher they said that there simply wasn’t a male market for that kind of book. Perhaps ...
Views: 3482(5 votes) - The Ultimate Solution To The Puzzle: Why He Disappears/Dump You And How To Get Him Back - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Katarina PhangI've received so many requests for advice from women who are desperate because their men either broke up with them or became more and more distant and less willing to keep in touch or show affection. I can relate to that. I have had my share of similar experience in my 20's when a man whom I ...
Views: 12512(5 votes) - Whether You Stay or Walk, Love Well - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2009 from Jan DeniseINSIDE RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, OCTOBER 23, 2009 Whether You Stay or Walk, Love Well (SET ITAL) I hate to give up on our relationship, but to stay feels like giving up on my dreams. (END ITAL) To walk away from what we hoped -- and promised -- would last forever is ...
Views: 1466(5 votes) - 3 Simple Yet Powerful Ways to Stay Connected to Your Partner - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsNo matter how long you and your partner have been together, it doesn't take long for the two of you to become disconnected. Between work and family demands on your time and energy, staying close to your mate can easily get lost in the shuffle. And from a place of disconnection, ...
Views: 1922(4 votes) - 5 Ways To Instantly Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2011 from Kara OhWomen are the leaders in the relationship. Men know it better than women do. A woman can change the tone and energy more easily then they realize… and it’s fun to watch a man respond. The quickest way to shift the energy in the moment–and as the primary way you interact with each other–is to ...
Views: 1797(4 votes) - Adult Peer Pressure and Toxic Relationships: Are they Stealing your Dreams? - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Maria MarYou tell your children not to give in to peer pressure. But do YOU recognize the level of adult peer pressure you carry on your Psychic Shoulders? Is it taking a toll in your manifestation process? Find out! Let's start your exploration with a beautiful parable I use in the Toxic ...
Views: 5813(4 votes) - Are You In A Toxic Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2013 from Virginia PintoAll relationships are complex. However, when one partner becomes intensely and chronically critical of the other, it becomes a “toxic” relationship. A toxic relationship is when a person essentially drains the life out of their partner with their criticism and discontent, thus killing the joy ...
Views: 1249(4 votes) - Co-Parenting with Your Ex - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2009 from Angie BlackwellDo you still define your ex in terms of your failed relationship, or do you relate to him/her strictly as "the other parent"? How you frame your perception of your former spouse has a tremendous impact on your co-parenting relationship. The two of you may not be friends, but you’ll always be ...
Views: 2656(4 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Let Him Go? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read "Letting Go Takes Love" and it really spoke to me. I am in a situation and I was wondering if you could give me quick advice. I feel the need to let go of someone because he basically doesn't know what he wants. We have been going back and forth with the issue over a ...
Views: 1970(4 votes) - Five Silly Separation Errors To Stay Away From - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2012 from Raymond EhomaThere are various problems that lead to a bad break up and just quite as lots of things men and women carry out after having a break-up that turn out worsening an already challenging circumstance. In case you have just split up with your ex lover, there are a couple of important things you ...
Views: 1020(4 votes) - How To Deal With A Break Up - 3 Ways - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2017 from Katarina PhangSo the relationship is over and you're wondering how to deal with a break up. Maybe it's the first break up you've had that really upset you. Or maybe it's not your first and you're looking for answers because even after all this time you still don't know how to deal with a break up. When a ...
Views: 8862(4 votes) - Men Fall In Love And Want To Commit To Happy Women - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Katarina PhangBeing a relationship coach and dealing with breakup issues a good chunk of time, I have a lot of anxious female clients/readers who are on the brink of a nervous breakdown because they feel their world is falling apart: i.e. their men seem to fade into the state of indifference. They panic and ...
Views: 11964(4 votes) - What Dating Is Like for Men (Oh…ya think you know?) - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerLast week was Men’s Health week; and as another nod to the guys, I thought I'd help them by helping you better understand them. (Did you follow that?) In particular, I want to help you better understand the experience men have when they're trying to “date like a grownup.” If you've read my ...
Views: 2948(4 votes) - What Men Really Need To Want To Commit To A Woman - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Katarina PhangIf you think men just want to lead a bachelor life without any concern in the world while having you on the side because it's convenient to him, you are mistaken. Do realize that both men and women want to love and be loved. Both genders want a great relationship as it is our inherent need. ...
Views: 15408(4 votes) - You CAN Mend Pain from the Past and Create the Love of Your Dreams - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Nanette GeigerYou have ended a non-functioning relationship that does not work for you anymore. It was difficult to stop the relationship, because it wasn't horrible, although your heart wished to be truly fulfilled in love. Currently you find yourself being lonesome and have a difficult time shutting the ...
Views: 933(4 votes) - Dealing With Unrealistic Expectations In Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Greg BakerOne of the great relationship destroyers is that of unrealistic expectations. Expecting something out of the relationship that the other is either ignorant of, unwilling to provide, or simply unable to provide. Frustration and anger is the result. This article deals with differing expectations ...
Views: 11330(7 votes) - "We Need to Talk" - How to Start a Difficult Conversation with a Partner, Colleague or Neighbor - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Tracey BennettRelationships are like shoes. Sometimes they fit, and sometimes they cause annoying, painful blisters. For example, your partner doesn't call when running late; your colleague at work taps his pencil incessantly; and a neighbor trashes your yard. Sometimes you need to confront the offender and ...
Views: 6516(3 votes) - ***The Secret to Being a Happy Dater - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerWhy is it that when we date — even at 40, 50, or 60 — we can become an alien woman from planet WTF? If you’re anything like I was, it’s sometimes difficult to recognize yourself when you’re in the presence of a hot, nice, or simply available man. The beliefs and habits of our 25 or 30 year ...
Views: 2237(3 votes) - 8 Key Ingredients For a Successful Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2011 from Teal ScottMarriage is not just the act of two people making their relationship public and permanent. It is the promise which two people make to each other to enter into a bond which will constantly require growth from both parties in order to stay intact. For many reasons, marriage in this day and age is ...
Views: 6837(3 votes) - Can I Find Love When I Have Serious Life Problems? - by Submitted on May 24, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerI received an email yesterday that I want to share. I hear some form of this a lot: “I’m [not perfect because of fill-in-the-blank] and I’m worried no man will ever want me!” I get it but I can’t tell you how much this breaks my heart. I lived in the “no man wants a fat girl” reality for a ...
Views: 1867(3 votes) - Change Your Perception Change Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2010 from Susan DerryIf you have difficulties in your relationship, your perspective may be part of the problem. Consider how you are looking at your relationship and how you are looking at your partner? Your perception of your partner and your relationship affects the reality that you experience. Thinking and ...
Views: 5998(3 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Stop a Stalker? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Are you familiar with men who won't leave women alone? I'm just trying to understand why someone would STALK me for well over a decade and, during that time, systematically destroy my life because I refused to be in an abusive relationship with him. He didn't seem to ...
Views: 1700(3 votes) - Emotional Adultery: How Husbands and Wives Disrespect Each Other - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2010 from Angie LewisHow Husbands Disrespect Their Wives Husbands who stare at, or flirt with other women may not think they are being disrespectful, but it is very hurtful to their wives. The bible talks about this in detail about how a man is to love his wife. “Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loves the ...
Views: 8181(3 votes) - Get Your Ex Back - 3 Step System That Works Freakishly Well! - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2013 from Jeff ThomasGoing through a break up is without a doubt one of the most soul-wrenching experiences you can through, especially if your partner broke up with you. Feelings of denial, despair, sadness and anger become your best friends. If you are reading this article, you may be going through a similar ...
Views: 631(3 votes) - How to Choose the Best Method To Get Your Ex Back and Prevent You From Breaking Up Again! - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2013 from Jeff ThomasGoing through a break up is one of the toughest experiences someone can go through. Feelings of despair, sadness and even anger can overwhelm you easily and quickly, especially if your ex broke up with you. Luckily, no matter what the circumstances under which the break up occurred, there are ...
Views: 825(3 votes) - How to Get Him Back and Wipe the Slate Clean - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2017 from Katarina PhangI know, you just want to get him back. It seems like it should be simple enough. After all, you won his heart over once before; why not just do it again? Well, the problem is that the first time around you were entering new territory with a clean slate. You had the thrill and excitement of ...
Views: 12288(3 votes) - Inside The Liar’s Den: Catching A Liar - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraIn this day and age of survival, everybody would go to extra miles to get ahead. May it be in romantic or professional relationship, everybody wants success, to have that people go to extra lengths to reach the top. Some people would deliberately pull other people down if it will benefit them. ...
Views: 1682(3 votes) - Journey to a Better Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.The symbol for a journey towards a better relationship is a spiral. Growth itself is also a journey. Look at the center of a spiral, this is where life begins. As we walk on our journey we soon come to a challenge and descend into the shadow side. This is where we face our fears, learn our ...
Views: 1701(3 votes) - Nine Ways to Make Your Date Great (in the First Ten Minutes!) - by Submitted on May 20, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerThe first 10 minutes of a date often determine whether a second date is even going to happen. And let's face it: second dates are not the norm for many. That was definitely my story until I learned about (what I now call) "Date Waste." Date waste is when a date is a drag but has little to do ...
Views: 1631(3 votes) - On Which Part Of The Interaction Should You Compliment Her - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2011 from Richard LisoMen tend to have many issues and difficulties when it comes to giving compliments to women. Men who use too many compliments are considered needy, and in many cases find out that their behavior is completely the opposite of being "Attractive Men". When men understand this, they usually go ...
Views: 1641(3 votes) - Relationship Secrets That Will Help You Build a Happy Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2013 from Michelle SearsRelationships are hard. They can go from good to bad to nonexistent in a matter of a few moments. So add kids to that mix and you have a whole heap of trouble to work out in any relationships. But we all can't get divorced over every little quarrel so we have to figure out a way that works ...
Views: 1308(3 votes) - Relationships: Why Are Some People Attracted To People Who Are Self-Centered? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people think of a relationship, they often think about not only receiving, but also giving. These two parts come together to form a relationship and while it is not always possible to give and receive in each moment, this doesn’t mean that one of these aspects will then be ignored ...
Views: 6134(3 votes) - Staying Committed and Keeping That Spark Alive! - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWe have powerful desires to belong and to connect with a special someone. In the U.S. we inherited a model for marriage and relationships that has remained largely unchanged for over 50 years. That traditional model was never intended to integrate our individual needs with the needs of the ...
Views: 755(3 votes) - Stress in Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Susan Del GattoStress in Relationships signal trouble. Did you ever wonder why relationships go from wonderful, to mediocre, to breaking off of the relationship? Every relationship could end this way but sooner or later you meet up with that one special person who you are most compatible with and this ...
Views: 1487(3 votes) - Surviving a Break-up - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Joanne ParrottaSo you’ve just gone through a devastating break-up. My heart goes out to you. There is nothing quite as painful as being dumped by someone you thought was the One. I know you’re probably feeling like your heart has been ripped out and stomped on and that your hopes and dreams have been ...
Views: 1453(3 votes) - Top 3 Straightforward Tips For Getting Your Ex Back - Follow Them Or Lose Your Ex Forever! - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2013 from Jeff ThomasIf you are reading this article you are probably aware that breaking up with someone who you have strong feelings for and a strong bond with is one of the hardest things you can go through. Initially, the feeling of denial about the demise of the relationship can turn to sadness, frustration ...
Views: 1659(3 votes) - Understanding Male Psychology Will Help Get Him Back And Fall In Love With You - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Katarina PhangEighty percent of men are distancers and 80% of women are pursuers. Women have 10-15 times more oxytocin (the bonding hormone) than men, and men have 10 times more testosterone (go-getter hormone) than women: so based on that chemical proportion alone, it's obvious women need more closeness than ...
Views: 36628(3 votes) - What *Sign* Are You Wearing? The Truth About First Impressions - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from Janice BennettIt’s not uncommon for singles to ask, “What’s your sign?” when meeting someone new. Depending on the extent of their belief in astrology, knowing someone’s astrological sign can aid in making assumptions or conclusions about someone’s personality, character, and consequently, their potential ...
Views: 2243(3 votes) - What Do I Need To Know To Get My Husband Back, 4 Real Questions To Ask Yourself - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2012 from Robert LeesIs the "what do I need to do to get my husband back" questions and answers leaving you with a bit of frustration? There is no surprise if they are. The main reason why you would be feeling that way is because your mind is not in the right place! For any uf us to make up from any relationship ...
Views: 1640(3 votes) - What Is A Dysfunctional Relationship? - by Submitted on May 18, 2013 from Tina TessinaUnless you're completely out of touch with any media, written, audio or video, you have been bombarded with words like "dysfunctional relationship", "codependency" and "toxic family system". You may have noticed that there's a lot of information available about these relationships, but not too ...
Views: 1807(3 votes) - What Is Feminine Magnetism™ And How You can Attract The Man Of Your Dream With It - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Katarina PhangHow does a woman attract amazing men who will give them what she wants: love, commitment, adoration? By being a happy, independent, secure and self-confident woman. Your looks will get you in the door but to keep a man attracted to you for the long haul, you have to have those inner ...
Views: 16051(3 votes) - When You Aren't Satisfied With What Is Manifesting In Your Life, Open Your Eyes - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2010 from Nanette GeigerYou have an energetic set point at this very moment. If you're not content with what is showing up in your life, you MUST be able to own your intentions – take one-hundred percent ownership and then you can change it. The Universe is not dropping things on your head because of a past life. ...
Views: 1786(12 votes) - Who's The Driver?: How to Stop Fighting and Start Communicating - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2010 from John KuypersWho's The Driver? is an innovative communication method for solving power struggles for couples. Near and Far define two opposite styles of "driving" decisions in your marriage by using or NOT using your personal power and authority. Once understood, either person in the relationship can ...
Views: 2113(3 votes) - Why Women Cheat and ways to handle it - Relationship advice - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Vijaykumar ShindeHave you been ever cheated by any woman? Or do you wonder why women cheat? If so learn why women cheat and how to avoid this in your relationship. Remember these are the reasons also applicable to – Why men cheat! 4 Main Reasons Why Women Cheat 1) You Are Not Romantic With Her This can ...
Views: 1500(3 votes) - Break-Up Depression? 3 Ways To Get Over It Fast - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2010 from Andrew HunterYou've been through a break-up and now you're depressed. It's sad to go through the day on the verge of tears. Break-up depression is a fact of life. They are among some of the most important aspects of our lives, losing a relationship to a break-up is especially punishing. Because of the ...
Views: 4664(8 votes) - Mr. Wrong or Mr. Right? How to tell if it’s time to stay or go - by Submitted on May 31, 2010 from Lisa SteadmanHow do I know if and when it's time to break up? There's a lot of good in the guy I’m dating, but the bad is unacceptable. What do I do? I keep waiting for the guy I’m seeing to make the changes I need. How long do I wait? And what if he never changes? Chances are, at some point in your ...
Views: 4841(8 votes) - ***3 Ways to Manage Rejection So You Can Move On - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerRejection sucks. There’s no other way to say it. When he doesn’t show interest, doesn’t show up, or breaks it off after a relationship develops; it’s ugly and icky. No doubt about it. Thing is: rejection doesn’t have to strike a mortal blow. I know so many women who avoid connecting with ...
Views: 5076(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1317(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1317(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1317(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
Views: 1317(5 votes) - Dr. Romance's Friends: Counseling helps blogger's marriage - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's fellow blogger, the delightful Melanie Waldman of Travels with two, writes: Back in the late ‘90s, my then-boyfriend and I were in our late 20s and had been living together for about four years. I’d just recently realized that we were in a negative pattern, and had begun to ...
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