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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- When Change is Wrong - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2009 from Lori SnyderWe all know that to change and grow, to have an open mind and be flexible with the daily and not so-daily changes in our life is a must in order to flourish, however there is one area where, when we expect change, it is an absolute recipe for disaster. You may be able to already guess which ...
Views: 1406(1 vote) - When Does Giving them a Hard Time Pay Off? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Gina GardinerWhen Does Giving Them a Hard Time Pay Off? One of the fundamental principles of modifying behaviour you don’t want is that you reward the behaviours you most want to encourage. Yet many partners of workaholics work against this principle. Picture this;- A wife or husband wants to ...
Views: 1643(1 vote) - When I Sat Down... - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2011 from Terry WeberWHEN I SAT DOWN... to write this note, I tried to think of a special way to say: "Happy New Year" to you. But instead of writing, I began to think. Lots of things crossed my mind like: All the new friends we've made this year, and the ones we see and talk with each week. How some of us ...
Views: 1069(1 vote) - When is Enough, Enough? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2011 from Curt Gorlick“I’m mad as hell and I’m not going to take it anymore!” I bet you’ve heard that one. Maybe you’ve even said it yourself. This very well known line from an old movie became so popular because millions of people related to it. They would internalize how mad they were yet rarely express it ...
Views: 1033(1 vote) - When it comes to dating, are you a Cougar? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Debi BerndtIn case you haven't heard of this new phrase, a "Cougar" is named used to refer to an older woman who dates men much younger than her. Cougars come in all types and the reasons for their particular fetish with the boys are varied. Some are content with having fun and others seek more in the ...
Views: 2473(2 votes) - When Life Hands You Lemons… Facing Life’s Challenges as a Happily Married Team. - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2013 from Yvonne and George LevyOh yeah, we’ve all been there… The moment something goes wrong in our lives and we hear someone recite the famous quote by Dale Carnegie: “If life hands you lemons, make lemonade.” Well, yes, it is true that we can all be happier if we see the positive side of every situation, no matter ...
Views: 1568(1 vote) - When Someone You Love Pushes Your Buttons... - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2003 from June CookNothing is more aggravating in relationships than having your buttons pushed by the one you love. It seems ironic that the one you love could make you so insane. But once the honeymoon period cools and real life sets in, we all take our partners off the pedestal and begin to notice their less ...
Views: 9925(1 vote) - When To Contact Your Ex Giflriend After a Breakup - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2012 from Ricky BoothIf you want to get your ex girlfriend back in your life, you need to be careful about when and how you contact her. As you may have read elsewhere, many relationship gurus encourage you not to contact your ex for a period of time after breaking up. This is often referred to as the "no contact" ...
Views: 19017(2 votes) - When To Walk Away From A Marriage: When To Call It Quits On Your Marriage - by Submitted on May 29, 2019 from John BraxtonWhen To Walk Away From A Marriage: When To Call It Quits On Your Marriage Has your marriage been on the rocks for quite a while now? Do the unresolved misunderstandings keep getting worse as days pass? Do you feel that calling it quits is a better option rather than forcing the marriage to ...
Views: 3077(1 vote) - When Your Man Dumped You, This Is What You Have To Do - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2017 from Katarina PhangAre you a dumped girlfriend? What does it take to move on after a guy has broken up with you? Do you want to move on, but are paralyzed by sadness? Here is a dumped girlfriend guide to moving on. While Still Mourning, Do Realize That You Can Still Seduce Your Ex Back. Here's How: The ...
Views: 27863(2 votes) - Where can I find out if someone is divorced? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Alex WillsSometimes people curiously try to find out if someone is divorced or not especially before getting married or making any strong relationship. It is very important that you should check this information as it might be possible that your love partner is already married or even hiding any prior ...
Views: 869(1 vote) - WHERE IS LOVE? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2013 from Tina TessinaProbably the most prevalent question I’m asked in my counseling practice is “Where is love?” Clients want to know why they can’t find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won’t respond as they would like, even why they don’t love themselves. In a perfect world, love ...
Views: 1858(4 votes) - Why Am I Thinking of My Ex? Do I still love him or is it something else? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsMargaret Ruth I am 25. I just got out of a long 2 1/2 year relationship and before that I was married for 3 1/2 yrs. I got a divorcethat was final in June of 2006. And my late relationship ended in the end of March of this year. But my problem is I am thinking and having feelings pop up for my ...
Views: 1066(3 votes) - Why and How to Grow Wings - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2017 from Emma ViglucciI read a while ago, and found it applicable to many areas of our life, that we can handle as much as the span of your wings. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying that God, the Universe, doesn’t bestow (good or bad) onto you more than you can handle? We can use this concept well in our growth, ...
Views: 1895(1 vote) - Why is Your Relationship Not Working - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2009 from Francis HoseinIt is very easy to say to yourself that if only you could change something’s about your partner then everything in your relationship will work out fine for you and maybe that is why your relationship is not working. Entitlement You may not want to say out loud that you blame your partner ...
Views: 1635(1 vote) - Why It Rains When it Pours - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2009 from Bella ShingEver noticed how when bad things happen, they seem to come tumbling in and that the same is true for good things? I have a friend who had everything break down in a single week, her phone, her car, she's filing bankruptcy and she lost everything on her hard drive (5 years of precious projects ...
Views: 1346(1 vote) - Why Learning To Give All Of Yourself In A Relationship Is A Good Thing - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2012 from Cllifford KearnsNo relationship is equal give and take. In every relationship, both partners make adjustments to make the relationship a success. The purpose of a marriage is artful compromise so that the greatest happiness can be found among the two. Sacrifices are always called for in a healthy relationship. ...
Views: 976(1 vote) - Why look at your past? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Michelle GottliebWhy look at the past? I can’t tell you the number of clients who have asked me that question in one form or another. What is the point of looking back? It will just bring me pain, or stir up old feelings of hurt or anger. It won’t help me to poke around in it, or so my clients often ...
Views: 1653(2 votes) - Why Men Don’t Talk About Their Emotions or Attend Therapy… - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2009 from Martin Phillips-HingOf course it’s not completely true that men don’t attend therapy, however, women are more likely to attend therapy in greater numbers. According to Statistics Canada, there are also differences in the types of mental health disorders and addictions reported by men and women. Approximately 6% of ...
Views: 2380(1 vote) - Why Men Won't Commit - by Submitted on May 08, 2008 from Kim SarrasinThe question I probably get asked the most from my female clients and participants is "Why do men have such a hard time with commitment?". Men actually don't have any problem with committing to a woman. Without women, men really aren't up to much. Yes, they work hard at their jobs, put more ...
Views: 4974(1 vote) - Why Rebound Relationship Rarely Works - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2017 from Katarina PhangIf you are a single woman over 30 and are actively dating, likelihood is you'll find many divorced men -recent or not- as your potential suitors. You -and your ex that you are not over with- are even perhaps on a rebound yourself! We all go through transitional relationships at one point or ...
Views: 16596(3 votes) - Why Space in a Relationship Is Not a Bad Thing - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2011 from Bellaisa FilippisSpace in a relationship is a delicate balance. If you have too much space then you start to grow apart and feel like the relationship is lacking a certain intimacy, but if you don't create any space in a relationship you can feel smothered and lose your identity inside of it. Space does not ...
Views: 2073(1 vote) - Why Won't My Ex Boyfriend Call Me Back? - Trick to Make Him Call You - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2011 from Charles UadialeAre you saying to yourself at the moment, why won't my ex boyfriend call me back? Have you called him a few times or on one occasion however he is simply not returning your texts or phone calls? I recognize the way how you feel. However luckily, there is a means to get him to call you ...
Views: 5087(1 vote) - Will A Trial Separation Save Or Break Your Marriage? Find Out Here! - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2011 from Mika MaddelaMany couples out there with a failing marriage question whether or not a trial marriage separation will make or break their marriage. If you are seriously thinking about whether or not you and your spouse should get separated, please read on. Many couples with failing marriage living under ...
Views: 6002(2 votes) - Win Your Love Back and Save Your Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2010 from Gerry RestriveraLove and relationships as they say are very complicated. There are a lot of unavoidable circumstances that revolves around a relationship and sometimes you have to part ways with the one you truly love temporarily or permanently. Of course if you truly love the person you do not want a permanent ...
Views: 1553(2 votes) - Wise Investment In Availing Of Hand Painted Portraits - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Azalea WrightLike other people, you may also be interested in purchasing your personal hand-painted portraits. We all know that this kind of art is in the peak of its popularity in today's art industry. Unlike the other forms of printed materials, the production of hand painted portraits is the true ...
Views: 696(1 vote) - Without Ego - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2013 from Tina TessinaIn reading philosophical teachings and writings, I often wonder why the body and the ego are seen so negatively, as if they somehow are antithetical to spirituality. Although ego, body and mind are not all we are, each is part, an expression of the whole self, included in our precious gifts from ...
Views: 1575(5 votes) - Women and "Bad Boys": What Is The Attraction? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) Coleman"Bad Boys". If you're a woman, you may be saying "hmmm" as you hear these words. You know you shouldn't, but you just can't help yourself. There is just SOMETHING about these guys that draws you in, even as your head tells you to "beware"! So, what exactly is the attraction? It's not ...
Views: 1627(1 vote) - Women Cheat Up? – Men Cheat Down¿ - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2010 from Lewisa Denise ThomasWomen Cheat Up? – Men Cheat Down¿ is an absolutely wonderful book, and is good read for any adult, in a time of increasingly infidelity and cheating in so many relationships today. In order to safeguard your relationship, you need to know why people cheat, and how to discourage it. In simple, ...
Views: 2324(1 vote) - Wondering How to Get Back Your Girlfriend? - Try This! - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2010 from Chris TylerSo, you have had to deal with a breakup recently with your girlfriend. It's not what you wanted to happen and yet, it did anyway. And now, you want to be able to bring her back to you, have her back in your arms, and you want to know what you can do to make it happen. There are some breakups ...
Views: 1118(3 votes) - Work on your ‘inner’ world for greater success in love and life - Part 2 - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2012 from Terai KoronuiIf you want to achieve success in life whether it be in your relationships, health or finances – you must establish a solid foundation on which to build on – working on your internal world from ‘the inside out’ addresses self-imposed obstacles stopping you from reaching your full potential in ...
Views: 1413(1 vote) - You are not 'self made'. No one is. Reflections on the need to admit, to acknowledge, and, above all, to thank. - by Submitted on May 10, 2011 from Arnljot Blindheimby Dr. Jeffrey Lant I am, amongst other things, a professional speaker of many years experience. Such people are trained to read audiences; see what works... and run with it... while eschewing and abandoning any line that doesn't arouse the audience and fails to seize their hearts and ...
Views: 889(1 vote) - You can Strengthen your Self-Esteem with the Law of Attraction - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2009 from Nanette GeigerOftentimes you find that when you want to be in a love relationship what immediately starts showing up is a low self-image or low self-confidence. T?hings like “Oh gosh, I will have to eventually be seen naked. I just don't feel trim or sexy enough.” As a result of the law of attraction, ...
Views: 998(5 votes) - You Can’t Handle the Truth… - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoMany years ago, having been married a brief time, I came home after having had a strong, yet curious, experience. One I was both eager and frightened to tell my husband about, knowing what I had to say was considered a taboo subject. Eager, because I was the taboo-slaying Joan of Arc; ...
Views: 1693(1 vote) - You Do Not Need to Re-Make the Wheel - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2009 from Nanette GeigerThere are specific steps to bringing about your desire. You do not need to re-invent the wheel. Think of the Universe as a gigantic intention-fulfilling machine. The Universe is designed to work with your desires, not against you. Because it fulfills your desires every time you wonder ...
Views: 899(1 vote) - Your Boyfriend Broke Up With You - Get Him Back - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Joan RiversYour Boyfriend Broke Up With You - Get Him Back; You didn't intend to do it and you regret it, but that won't make it go away. You cheated on your boyfriend and he dumped you. If this is what you are thinking, you are only thinking of yourself. But what about your ex boyfriend? He is the one who ...
Views: 813(2 votes) - Your Ex Boyfriend - Why He Lies - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Joan RiversYour Ex Boyfriend - Why He Lies; After a breakup, it might seem that your ex boyfriend is speaking in another language. He will say he loves you, but then he won't answer your text, emails or phone calls. This shouldn't surprise you if you think about all of the times he has said things when you ...
Views: 5146(2 votes) - Your Fear of Rejection Is Getting You Rejected (FemiType #3: The Scaredy Cat) - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerWe all know that dating over 40 can be a bit of a jungle with challenges, surprises and pitfalls. I'm sure you've encountered your share of Pingers, Needy-men and Players as you meet single men. I get it, and you belong to a large, loving sisterhood. But it's not only us gals who have dating ...
Views: 3187(4 votes) - Your Relationships Reflect Your Relationship with You - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery Satterwhite"Each relationship you have with another person reflects the relationship you have with yourself." - Alice Deville. You have a lot of personal and professional relationships in your life. Some relationships are loving, satisfying, uplifting, supportive and enrich your life experience. You ...
Views: 7128(2 votes) - How to Make a Man Miss You - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2010 from Nicole GayleWhen we are talking about making a man miss you, we're not simply talking about responding with behaviors that he may react to. Making a man miss you goes much deeper and as you read further, you will understand how to find and sustain the mental attitude that will make a man feel as though he ...
Views: 21033(14 votes) - ***How You Can Help Men Make You Happy - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerIf you don’t ask…you don’t get. I think this is the key to being happy with men. It’s one of my Dad’s favorite lines. I heard it so often growing up that it’s now a mantra in my already overloaded brain. Dad’s premise was that it is your responsibility to state what you want, and then give ...
Views: 1842(11 votes) - Is it Infatuation or is it Love? - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Angie LewisHow will you know if you are really in love or if it is just infatuation? Love is an action and infatuation is a feeling. Love, unlike infatuation and lust take commitment and devotion to a person. This is because when we truly love someone it takes self-sacrificing behaviors and attitude. ...
Views: 3510(7 votes) - Law of Attraction Coach Shows How You Can Create Law of Attraction Relationships Sooner Than You Could Imagine - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2010 from Nanette GeigerWhat about your "other" relationships? I mean, the ones with your siblings, your boss, your mother, or teenage step-son. What about your connection with your money, your body, your Surroundings? You have relationships with everything. How do you make them? "What do you mean how do I make ...
Views: 841(7 votes) - The Biological Reality: There ARE Psychological Differences between Men and Women - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2010 from Kongit FarrellMen and women think differently - I don’t think anyone will argue that point with me at all! In my work as a therapist, I see males and females totally disillusioned with the selection of mates of the opposite sex to choose from. I think that the problem is largely due to a misunderstanding of ...
Views: 3234(6 votes) - A few effective Ways to get your soulmate back - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Jessy parkerThere is no way around it: dealing with a breakup is a traumatic experience. Adjusting to this new scenario is not easy and it's likely you don't want it to end. The great thing is: it doesn't have to be the conclusion of your relationship. If you are really sure about it, there are ways to ...
Views: 6351(6 votes) - He Wants You to Need Him. How Can That Be Healthy? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Rachael Jayne GrooverA masculine man loves to become aware of a need and fill it. That’s why they love to fix things, make things “better” for you when you are upset, and put a lot of focus on their work. Many men only put attention on what is directly and specifically needed, which is why many bright, confident, ...
Views: 1044(6 votes) - BE, BECOMING, BEING Happy Right NOW!: For Individuals and Couples - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2011 from V. Ivana FosterAre you still waiting for your circumstances to change before you’ll allow yourself to be happy? Most of us have preconceived ideas of what would make us happy, and we refuse to be satisfied until those things happen. The challenge with this way of thought is that, even when that ...
Views: 1592(5 votes) - Does marriage counseling work? Yes! - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2009 from Norman CsarniYes! Marriage counseling works. However, is seeking professional marriage counseling necessary? Some people would recommend marriage counseling. Most often advise marriage counseling is not necessary. What is indeed marriage counseling? How does marriage counseling work? Most urge to ...
Views: 1659(5 votes) - Magic Words All Families Need - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2010 from James HendrixDo you have rough housing kids and someone seems to always get hurt? Have you ever had a defiant (or any) child who really needed to listen in an emergency. Have you ever needed your child to stop arguing and listen and do what you ask them to do? If it has happened to you in the past or you ...
Views: 1379(5 votes) - Marriage Help: making sense of the withdrawn husband - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from Richard NicastroWhen you and your spouse/partner are locked in cycles of conflict, you probably assume you have nothing in common—especially during those times when your husband seems to shutdown emotionally and withdraw from you. However, the likelihood is that you and your mate share common threads in all ...
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