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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Four Steps to Success - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2014 from Tina TessinaIn my private counseling practice, clients often tell me, “I want to be happy!” We then set about making it a reality. As a psychotherapist, I know that Your habits, your relationships, your environment, and especially what you think about them determine more about how happy you are ...
Views: 1575(2 votes) - Fourteen Ways Women Close Themselves Off From Finding Love - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Joyce Dolberg RoweWhen dating or searching for a relationship, many times we unknowingly sabotage ourselves and undermine our chances for success. Here are 14 common ways we block the very same healthy relationship that we are endeavoring to find: 1. Carrying a big list: While it is important to make sure that ...
Views: 2995(2 votes) - Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance received the following letter: “A topic I would like you to cover/explore is that curious phenomena which permits otherwise independent women to be dominated...even abused...by males with whom they share some sort or relationship. Why is it that a seemingly ...
Views: 1340(2 votes) - Friends: My Interpretation Of What They Are - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI was thinking the other night while I was getting to sleep, how being on one of those flat elevators at the airport is a great metaphor for describing how friends come and go in our life. While we are on them some people stay at the same speed as us, going only as fast as the elevator takes ...
Views: 2333(2 votes) - Friendships and Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from joanne williamsFriendships /Relationships Lots of people define friendships in many different ways. One way to describe them is an affirmation, and alliance or bond between individuals. Sometimes, just because someone may refer to you as being their friend, doesn’t necessarily mean that you should expect ...
Views: 1461(2 votes) - From A Bitter Break-up to a Sweet Make-up – 4 Free Tips To Get Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2011 from Jenna JamesBreaking up with your ex is a tragic and depressing part in relationships. You can choose to move on and let go, or stay by trying to get your ex back. The only problem when it comes to making up with your ex is your pride. Although you still have strong feelings, you seem to be too scared to ...
Views: 860(1 vote) - Fun Date Ideas for the Daytime - by Submitted on May 11, 2010 from Neil SmithNeed some Fun Date Ideas? You've come to the right place. A lot of the fun dating ideas listed below are not recommended as a first date unless you know the person very well or have known them for a long time. But if you have had a few dates and want to really impress, the list below should be ...
Views: 7198(4 votes) - Fun Date Ideas for the Nighttime - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Neil SmithI actually prefer to go on dates at night time as opposed to the day time. I prefer it because it means that I can get dressed up and have a drink in a better atmosphere. The key here is that it all depends on your personality and the personality of your date, you need to think about what they ...
Views: 4122(3 votes) - Generation "Y" will soon rule the world! - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2010 from Wayne KehlGENERATION "WHY" The world is strangely concerned about generation “Y” these days. I don’t understand it! Generation “Y” is just the current crop of kids that will eventually rule the world. They are the children of Boomers and Generation “X” parents and they were born between 1980 and 1994. ...
Views: 2394(1 vote) - Get An Ex Back - Common Mistakes to Avoid When You Get An Ex Back - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2011 from Kevin TeoWhen you want to get an ex back after you’ve broken up, be careful to avoid the following four mistakes that can make your ex detest you more and avoid you in the process. Don’t worry, avoiding these mistake will be easy once you know what they are. Mistake 1 - Begging Your Ex Begging ...
Views: 1562(1 vote) - Get Your Ex "Hypnotized" Into Getting Back With You Using This Reverse-Psychological Mind Trick! - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2013 from Jeff ThomasIf you are reading this article, you have separated with your partner and your mind is probably dominated by the thoughts of how to get them back with as little heartache and effort as possible. Well, I have good news and bad news. The bad news is that it will require some effort and persistence ...
Views: 6389(2 votes) - Get Your Ex Back - A Checklist So You Don't Mess It Up - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2010 from Richard PorrYou see that you screwed up. Now you're gonna lose the most wonderful thing that ever happened to you. What were you thinking? Now that you've come to your senses and are thinking right, your biggest worry is always that you don't blow it. It's possible you have only one opportunity at ...
Views: 3306(5 votes) - Get Your Ex Back - Use the Power Of 2 Psychological Tricks That Will Get Your Ex Pleading With You To Take Them Back – This Works! - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2013 from Jeff ThomasSo you and your ex have decided to end your relationship and go your separate ways. The break up may have happened suddenly or you may have had problems for a while. It doesn't really matter. What is important is that if you wish to get your ex back and do so as painlessly as possible, there are ...
Views: 484(2 votes) - Get Your Ex Back – Use the Power of a Reverse-Psychological Mind Trick and Give Your Relationship a New Lease On Life! - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2013 from Jeff ThomasIt's absolutely understandable for you to feel frustrated, angry and depressed when you're in a midst of a break. This is especially true if your ex broke up with you. The good news is that you are proactively looking for a solution, which is why you're reading this article, right? You need ...
Views: 4240(4 votes) - Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back - What To Do - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Joan RiversGet Your Ex Boyfriend Back - What To Do; When your boyfriend breaks up with you, it can be embarrassing, frustrating and confusing. You search your mind for what you said or did to drive him away, but you can think of nothing. How you wish you could text him and tell him how much you miss him ...
Views: 1116(2 votes) - Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Even If He Has Moved On - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Joan RiversGet Your Ex Boyfriend Back Even If He Has Moved On; The breakup was painful, but the first time you see your ex boyfriend with another woman on his arm, you think you are going to die. It seems so final and you think you have lost the man you love forever. This is all you can think, however your ...
Views: 3507(2 votes) - Get Your Views Across Confidently and Clearly - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Bette Lawrence-WaterThis article provides tips on effectively expressing your views. Doing so will vitally improve your ability to enjoy satisfying relationships with others. These simple strategies will help you to express your ideas confidently and purposefully. You will also gain the respect of others ...
Views: 2767(3 votes) - Getting Over a Breakup - 5 Sayings that Edify the Art of Letting Go - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2011 from Simone BrownGetting over a crumbled relationship is hard, but it must be done so you can go on with your life without feeling sorry. Here are 5 suggestions to get over a breakup and taking your new life as a precious gift. The Japanese were hurriedly crossing the street in Shibuya, Tokyo when Han (Sung ...
Views: 1769(2 votes) - Getting Over Infidelity in Marriages: Why Having an Affair Is Not the End - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Nea Joy JusticeInfidelity in marriages is one of the worst forms of betrayal. Sadly, couples often can’t figure out the difficult task of getting over infidelity, thus it is one of the leading reasons for divorce all over the world. Let’s take a look at why infidelity surviving seems so impossible. ...
Views: 2535(1 vote) - Getting Past the Arguments - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Kali MunroOne of the hardest things to handle in a relationship is conflict. While a good and fair fight can clear the air and help you to feel closer to your lover, many fights are just hurtful and destructive. Fights that never go anywhere, that are repeated year after year, or that leave you feeling ...
Views: 1907(1 vote) - Getting Past Your Expiration Date in Relationships - by © All Rights Reserved
Someone once said that marriages are made in heaven but divorces are made on earth, it appears that the seven year itch we have all heard about is all but too real for many of us. Sadly today it's widely recognized by experts that 50% --60% of all new marriages ...
Views: 2313(1 vote) - Getting Started: "Ready, Set, Talk!" - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Peggy FergusonSometimes couples wish they felt more emotionally close to their spouses. You may feel taken for granted and might even recognize that you take your spouse for granted. One or both of you might be daydreaming about dedicating some time and energy to restoring that eroding emotional connection. ...
Views: 1558(2 votes) - Getting The Love You Want is a Science - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2013 from David BrittoEveryone wants to be loved. When it comes to getting the love you want, it's very important to make sure you are in tune with yourself. You need to have dreams and aspirations for your life. This way, when you do find a life partner, you can be confident in yourself and make it obvious of what ...
Views: 1774(1 vote) - Give Your Partner a Compliment and Become More Intimate - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2011 from Bellaisa FilippisInsults are easy to give. We give them all the time! We write books dedicated to insults that you can use for almost anyone out there, but good luck finding a book on compliments you can shout out to someone walking down the street. Giving a compliment means we have to admit that someone is ...
Views: 1969(1 vote) - Guide to Freeing Your Mind from Fear of Betrayal - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2009 from Nanette Geiger"I do not want to be hurt again, but I really wish to reach my soul mate. How can I increase confidence and find my soul mate"? You have two options to pursue here. 1) You can stall until you have had enough time in between the pain in your past relationship or 2) start moving on and ...
Views: 1413(4 votes) - Hair Loss Can Be Caused By Stress and Emotional Silence - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondNia was stunned when her perfect relationship ended Nia was on top of the world. Her job was going well, and she had the best boyfriend any girl could ask for. He was attentive and affectionate. He was interested in her ideas and opinions. He showed respect for her family traditions. She felt ...
Views: 7887(1 vote) - Handling A Breakup - 3 Essential Tips - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2010 from Andrew HunterMen and women are forever hooking up, getting together and forming relationships. Just as frequently, those relationships break up. Most breakups, no matter how friendly, involve significant pain. Men in particular have a harder time dealing with breakups. Perhaps because they've been taught ...
Views: 1514(1 vote) - Handling Criticism - by Submitted on May 06, 2010 from Greg BakerPeople will criticize you for all sorts of reasons. And if you take any sort of stand, good or bad, you will be criticized for it. But how you deal with it is a key to retaining sanity and an even disposition through life. I pastor a Church. I have my own opinions about God, religion, ...
Views: 3252(1 vote) - Happiness And The Single Person; Changing Myth Into Reality - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanDoes the expression "single and happy" sound like an oxymoron to you? Are you weary of others (especially other singles) reinforcing the belief that singles can't be happy? Do you find yourself always planning for the future or putting things off until you "are married and settled? Do you often ...
Views: 1531(1 vote) - Happy Valentine's? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2010 from Michelle GottliebHappy Valentine’s Day! Valentine’s day has always struck me as an odd day. If you are not involved with someone, you need to hurry up and find someone so that you are not alone that day. If you are with someone, you must show your undying love by sending cards and chocolate. All because society ...
Views: 1282(1 vote) - Haunted: Burying The Ghosts of Lost Love - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanLate at night, as you read quietly, before you fall off to sleep... During a busy afternoon as you run through a crowd, hurrying back to your office or home.... Sitting in a movie theater, a restaurant or waiting for the light to turn... A sudden thought or image rises within you. It can ...
Views: 1802(1 vote) - Having the Confidence to Define What You Don't Want - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2010 from Amanda MillerLast night (Monday March 8, 2010) I was a guest on Lynda Hill’s cable TV show ‘Studio chat’ on BNNTV.org. We were discussing a selection of viewers’ emails about dating, and happy endings (which makes a change after discussions of revenge and broken hearts!) What these happy endings had in ...
Views: 1181(4 votes) - Heal Your Heart in Just 21 Days - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanConventional wisdom says it takes just 21 days to establish a new habit. So what if that new habit involves getting over a breakup? Is it possible to exorcise your ex, clear your head, and heal your heart in just 3 weeks? It is when you enroll in a crash course in breakup survival, immerse ...
Views: 3284(3 votes) - Healing From A Broken Relationship - 5 Step Guide To a Quick Recovery - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2010 from JD DeanOne of the secrets of successfully healing from a broken relationship is to recognize that you will see phases inside the healing process that need to occur and knowing what they may be, can really help dull this pain and hurt you feel today. Periods such as denial, anger and bargaining ...
Views: 1308(1 vote) - Heartbreak - a 5-Step Plan for Overcoming It - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2010 from Andrew HunterFew things in a man's life are as painful as the heartbreak after a breakup. This article will help all men to mend a broken heart. How can you continue living after a breakup? Every reason you had for living walked out the door with her! You can't just go out and start seeing women again - ...
Views: 1018(3 votes) - Heartbreaker 101: How to Heal Your Heart and Be Glad He’s Gone! - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanThere’s no denying it. Breaking up is oh-so hard to do, especially in today’s 24-hour techno-savvy world of Facebook, Twitter, and post-breakup booty calls arranged via sexting. Before you get down in the dumps about getting dumped (or even if you did the dumping), the following five tips will ...
Views: 3408(6 votes) - Help Your Relationship Flourish by "Popping the Question" - to Yourself! - by According to Hale Dwoskin, author of The Sedona Method, our relationship problems stem from need, not love. “We are really looking for love in all the wrong places and in all the wrong ways,” he says. Love gets mixed up with or covered over by other feelings, and therein lie such ...
Views: 2477(2 votes) - Histories and Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Michael PaulWe all have history. For many, history forms our present views of relationships. From our past, we determine what we liked in relationships and what we didn’t like. This becomes, in part, the basis for forming new relationships when we have had the experience of ending one. One might think ...
Views: 1233(2 votes) - Holiday Season... A time for Gratitude or Unsolicited Advice/Ridicule - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2009 from Tricia DyckaThe Holiday Season is a wonderful time for us to reconnect with our family and friends. We might have seen some of them just yesterday, and for others, many months or years have passed. We gather together enjoying a variety of delicious foods and beloved company, hopefully sharing a peaceful ...
Views: 1380(2 votes) - Honey, you choose - what powerful words! - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2010 from Lindsey DawsonNice men have always tried to get to grips with what women want. You can imagine, in ancient times, your caring cave man squatting over a beast he’s just speared and wondering anxiously if his missus wants the kidneys as well as the chops because he really, really wants to please her. On the ...
Views: 1278(1 vote) - Hooking Up vs Lasting Love: It's Your Decision - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) Coleman"hooking Up" "friends with benefits" "booty call" These terms have become all too familiar in today's dating world. Are they words that you can relate to? Have you lived them in some way? If so, how have you felt about the experience(s) both during and after? Chances are that you have mixed ...
Views: 3378(1 vote) - Hot Tips to Make Him Fall in Love - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2009 from Nicole GayleIn order for you to increase your chances for a man to fall in love with you, you must spend time playing with him…a lot. This advanced technique will make you drip with so much sex appeal, your man may mistake you for ice crème. Women who win can turn anything into a laughing matter. They ...
Views: 8955(6 votes) - How A Low Self Esteem Will Ruin Your Love Life - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2010 from Seyi EyitayoA low self esteem will make it difficult for you to accept love from anyone else simply because, someone with a low self esteem already finds it difficult to love or appreciate themselves. Someone with a low self esteem does not know how to receive affection from anyone, especially someone ...
Views: 3612(1 vote) - How Can You Use Your Anger Positively To Be An Equal Player In Relationships? - by Submitted on May 27, 2010 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondWhy on earth are we burdened with anger? Why do we have to battle with anger all our lives? What is the point of having this emotion? Why can’t we do without it? We aren’t needing to kill predators to protect our lives or keep meager food rations for ourselves as we did millions of years ago. ...
Views: 2064(3 votes) - How do I get that which I desire, even though I have never been successful at the Law of Attraction in the past? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from Nanette GeigerTo begin, I would say that you certainly HAVE been manifesting for your entire life. Maybe you've been getting what you DON'T desire, but you have manifested. Bear in mind that your feelings create and eventually become events in your life. With the help of a Life Coach, you can speed up the ...
Views: 989(1 vote) - How do You Compare: Relationship articles - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2004 from Andrew WilliamsFrom the author of: How Do You Compare? 12 Simple Tests to Discover Hidden Truths About Your Personality -- And Fascinating Facts About Everyone Else Published by Perigee March 2004; $13.95US/$21.00CAN; 0-399-52951-9 How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count the Ways . . . The subject of love used ...
Views: 1206(1 vote) - How Humour Can Help You Find the Woman Of Your Dreams - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2014 from Bave New ManIn the world of personal development there seems to be two lines of tought with regards to personality change. On one side of the spectrum, some say yes - you can and have to change. After all, you need to change in order to become the person you want to be. On the other hand, you have those who ...
Views: 1709(2 votes) - How many lovers will be sleeping in separate rooms this Valentine’s Day? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2011 from Jennifer Ross-TaylorOh how you dread all the publicity around Valentine’s Day because even though you love your partner dearly, the intimacy and romance has seemed to have gone many years ago. Maybe it is because you sleep in separate rooms you think, but then you rationalize this by saying, it has to be this way ...
Views: 1630(1 vote) - How Nice People Come Across as Insensitive Jerks - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2010 from Andy WoodTake a look in the mirror. There you’ll see somebody you hope comes across as decent, caring, and human at least. Godly at best. Imagine, however, that you could look through the veil at the thoughts of people around you. Chances are, sometime over the last several weeks, you walked right past ...
Views: 1882(1 vote) - How to *Successfully* handle Extended Family Relationships during the Holiday Season - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2013 from Rabbi Shlomo SlatkinWith summer vacation recently over and the Fall holidays just beginning, there may be more family time than you can handle! Along with lots of family time can come conflict. Whether you and your spouse disagree as to how to deal with the in-laws or whether you are having an issue with a ...
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