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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Does Your Spouse Steal the Limelight? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinDoes your spouse take credit for your ideas? Or do people compliment your spouse for tasks or projects that you did? Do you get the credit where credit is due? For example, Jill herself maintains a beautiful garden and takes a lot of pride in it. One day, a neighbor comes to visit the couple ...
Views: 3548(2 votes) - Don't Ask A Hot Woman Out Until She Gives You This Signal - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2014 from Chris ChandraWaiiit STOP Don’t do it! This will save you a lot of humiliation and rejection if you just read this first. Because women talk. And they’ll talk about how you tried to pick up on them to their friends, and if you have the same circle of friends that could mean somewhat of a ...
Views: 1601(1 vote) - Dos And Don'ts Of Dating Services - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2010 from Ginger StokesbOnline dating services have caught the fancy of many people. It is a unique experience to date somebody online. Indeed theI Internet has shrunk the world and made it a small place. You can date anybody across the borders and in any part of the world. It is fun to find like-minded people through ...
Views: 757(1 vote) - Dr. Romance (with Alex Franzen) "Do. Not. React" - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2012 from Tina TessinaDO. NOT. REACT. Tips for surviving & mastering confrontation, with grace —in business & in love. Pop quiz, people: How do you drop an atom bomb of sudden, unexpected (and quite possibly, undesirable) information on someone you care about — without behaving like a cruel, ...
Views: 2014(2 votes) - Dr. Romance asks: Are you addicted to your smart phone? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaRecently, clients have been coming in to Dr. Romance's office with questions about their cell phone use: either it is creating a problem in their relationship, or with getting work done, or even health problems. Here's how to tell if you have cell phone addiction; and what ...
Views: 1443(2 votes) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Public Politeness - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2013 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: How do you feel when you walk into a public rest room and there are papers all over the floor, unflushed toilets, and wet toilet seats? How do you feel about drivers who tailgate, zip around the roads going over the speed limit, and hog the road? Most of us don’t ...
Views: 1873(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Attitude Adjustment - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I have blogged before about emotional hygiene, and doing the necessary maintenance on feelings as well as your physical body and household. Health reminders tell us to wash our hands frequently to prevent transmittal of diseases. Did you know you can “wash” your mood, too, ...
Views: 1600(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Attitude Adjustment - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I have blogged before about emotional hygiene, and doing the necessary maintenance on feelings as well as your physical body and household. Health reminders tell us to wash our hands frequently to prevent transmittal of diseases. Did you know you can “wash” your mood, too, ...
Views: 1600(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on How Not to be Shy at a Party - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2012 from Tina TessinaIntroverts can enjoy the parties, too, if they respect who they are and don’t let negative fantasies take over. Limit your social engagements to those that are manageable or meaningful to you, and allow plenty of time for being by yourself or with a single friend, if that's what makes you ...
Views: 2063(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Less Talk, More Action - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaIf you read this Dr. Romance blog, you know that I am always talking about the importance of good communication, urging better communication, and giving skills for being better understood. Communication is one of the most important aspects of relationships; positive and negative. ...
Views: 1510(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Living Outside the Box - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I was speaking with a client today about his burn-out in his career. This is a man who’s been very successful, earned a lot of money, and worked hard for a big, national corporation. I told him he was burned-out, and on strike, because he had put himself in a ...
Views: 1441(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Older Women Dating Younger Men - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance gets letters about older women dating younger men; which appears to be shocking to some people, but I don’t find it so unusual. Why would a younger man want to date an older woman? Who isn't attracted to success, smarts and experience? Young men ...
Views: 1667(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Patterns of Change - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: I’ve been dealing with a lot of unwanted changes, and it’s not easy. Losses, disappointments, changes – we all struggle when life doesn’t go our way. Why is it so hard to handle change? Then there are the changes we want to make, fight hard to make – losing weight, ...
Views: 1293(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on The One Who Got Away - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2016 from Tina TessinaWhen Dr. Romance was a girl, growing up in the small township of Rockland, New York, there was a tiny post office, which was a small room with a separate entry in the house next door. Rockland’s official postmistress was Clara Weiss, who seemed very elderly even when I was a very small child. ...
Views: 1386(2 votes) - Dr. Romance On: The Tennis Match: How to Balance the Power in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaCouples often come in to Dr. Romance's counseling office soon after they move in together, because they’re arguing about differences in design and life styles. Whose furniture to use, where to put it, who can use each room, or how to work out the division of labor. These squabbles are ...
Views: 1722(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on: Where is Love? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Probably the most prevalent question I’m asked in my counseling practice is "Where is love?" Clients want to know why they can’t find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won’t respond as they would like, even why they don’t love themselves. ...
Views: 1238(2 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: Dr. Romance on How to Be a Loving Couple When You Have Kids - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2012 from Tina Tessina(To view video, click here.) Parenthood is an overwhelming job. Kids, especially babies, seem to need you there constantly. It's very easy for parents to get so into the role that they lose sight of the couple relationship they used to have. "Dr. Romance" shows ...
Views: 2774(2 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: Holidays with Family and In-laws - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2013 from Tina TessinaClick Here for Video Dr. Romance on Holidays with Family and In-laws Marriage means relating to in-laws and extended family. This is what "cleave to each other, forsaking all others" in the old marriage vows meant: Once married, you are now each other's primary ...
Views: 1973(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Wishes You a Happy Thanksgiving - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance on giving thanks: A lot of people aren’t very good at looking at the positive. I hear a lot of negativity, blaming and complaining daily in my counseling office, and I find the more negative people are, the worse their lives work. Talking about how bad it all is seems ...
Views: 1331(2 votes) - Dr. Romance's Fair Fight Guidelines - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Almost forty years of marriage counseling and thirty-four years of a second marriage have convinced me that fights are not necessary in a marriage. Married couples need to have discussions, they need to solve problems, and sometimes they need to ...
Views: 1383(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: 3 Tips to Letting Go of Pain - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2016 from Tina TessinaIf your marriage ends in divorce, you lose more than the marriage itself. Even if your marriage had problems, or you were the one who wanted out, you still will have grief over the dreams and hopes which have died with the relationship. The overwhelming feeling of loss can be confusing and ...
Views: 1389(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: Does your relationship need a spring cleaning? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2014 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance: tips on spring cleaning your marriage: Over an extended period of time, dust and detritus can accumulate in even the best marriage. Spring cleaning, to clear out the cobwebs and re-energize your connection, is a great idea. Just like a regular housework schedule, regular ...
Views: 1734(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: Don't Call Your Ex! - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2012 from Tina TessinaWant to know how to handle being dumped? It's less about communication than you think! DO put it in perspective If you're dumped, it hurts. But count your lucky stars. You don't have a relationship if the other person's not really interested. DO understand that there were problems already ...
Views: 2314(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: Married, Different Shifts - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2015 from Tina TessinaIn this tougher economy, couples are finding it necessary to take the jobs they can get, and that means more couples work different shifts. If one of you works a “graveyard shift” or rotating shift job that limits your time together; the difference in your shifts and commutes may mean you ...
Views: 1465(2 votes) - Dr. Romance: Tips for Divorced Dads - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2015 from Tina TessinaWhat can divorced dads do to help raise healthy, successful boys when they don't see their sons as often as they want? Here are some tips for non-custodial fathers who want to make certain they raise successful men. 1. Stay connected with your boy. Find a way to get over the differences ...
Views: 1383(2 votes) - Early Signs a New Relationship Won't Last - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Gregory SmithThe following article originally appeared on www.midlifebachelor.com on June 14, 2009 ... Choosing to invest in a new relationship directly affects your own level of personal happiness especially in the near-term ... and so it is extremely important to keep your eyes and ears open, and be ...
Views: 7435(5 votes) - Emotional Self-Control - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Tina TessinaOne of the most powerful ways I found to stop being a doormat in relationships was to learn emotional self-control. When you’re too reactive to your partner, he or she can easily draw you into a fight that stops you both from focusing on fixing the problem. Self-control is not easy. In ...
Views: 1622(2 votes) - Emotional vs. Sexual Cheating -- Which is More Devastating? - by Submitted on May 10, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraCheating is a sure-fire way of ruining a relationship whichever way you look at it. Of course it’s no longer news that when someone cheats on a partner, trust is lost and there is always little chance of getting it back. While this may be an all-too familiar concept for most people, the only ...
Views: 2825(2 votes) - Energy Leeches v Enthusiastic Supporters - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2009 from Christine SherborneThinking about the people in your life, who are the leeches and who are the supporters? Thinking right back to your early years who can you remember being the friends and family that have put you down, told you “you can't do it”, or “you are hopeless”? How did they make you feel? What did you do ...
Views: 2010(2 votes) - Engagement Anxiety Dismantled: The Grass Is Always Greener Syndrome - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2010 from Sheryl PaulWhen my grandparents got married in the 1930s, I’m quite certain neither one of them had the kind of engagement anxiety I see among people today. My grandmother did experience grief about leaving her mother and two sisters and the difficult feelings were displaced onto her wedding dress and veil ...
Views: 5069(2 votes) - Engagement Anxiety Relieved: A Media Diet - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2010 from Sheryl PaulTransitions render us more vulnerable emotionally and psychologically than during other times in our lives. Being in a transition means that we are between stages and identities: no longer single but not quite married; no longer a non-mother but not quite a mother. These in-between zones are ...
Views: 4657(2 votes) - Engagement Anxiety Relieved: Working with Projection - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2010 from Sheryl PaulMost people in an intimate relationship will, at some point, find themselves stuck in a projection about their partner. Projections are a bit challenging to define and even more challenging to see it when you’re in it. In Wikipedia’s words: “Psychological projection or projection bias ...
Views: 5865(3 votes) - Essential Tools to Achieve Strong Family Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2020 from Vivian HarteFamily relationships are some of the most important in your life. There are many families that you may be relating to: • the family you grew up in • your extended family of aunts, uncles, grandparents, nieces, nephews, and all their husbands and wives • your current family • perhaps the ...
Views: 6905(1 vote) - Express Your Love in Spanish - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from A. JuniorFinding love is like finding a rare jewel. It is something that you cherish and you want to keep finding ways to make it special. There are many languages that are thought of as romantic languages, but there is one language that is not often thought of. Spanish is not only a romantic language, ...
Views: 1110(2 votes) - Facing Yourself via Facebook: An Opportunity to Expand Your Self-Growth & Personal Development - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2011 from Doron GilFacebook as a social media offers many functions to its users, from enabling them to connect with friends and family, to develop business liaisons, to dating and meeting others, and on to marketing one’s own expertise and products. Another role that FB can be useful to the individual, which ...
Views: 1164(1 vote) - Fast-dating And Attraction - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2011 from Marie MalacamanSpeed dating parties are a common to quite a few clubs and bars. Serving the city’s singles’ scene, these are definitely hosted at least once a week to offer singles a centered an opportunity to connect with and greet. Helping singles to get out there and even meet to get to know a big range ...
Views: 1384(2 votes) - Find Your Perfect Anniversary Gift by Year - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2009 from Jimmy WagnerOver the years several traditions have developed for anniversary gifts by the year. There are lists for every year, with the most well-known remaining the silver 25th Anniversary and the golden 50th Anniversary. Husbands can find wonderful gift ideas by using both the time honored lists as well ...
Views: 533(1 vote) - Finding a Soul mate: 5 Biggest Love Life Traps That Most People Fall Into Blindly - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2009 from Stephen PetulloAfter more than 25 years of empirical research involving relationships, spirituality, compatibility assessment and match making, we discovered that too many people fall into these three love life traps: Love Life Trap #1: Assuming you have only one soul mate Love Life Trap #2: Waiting for a ...
Views: 764(1 vote) - FINDING LOVE - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2011 from Jennifer Elizabeth Masters8 COMMON DATING MISTAKES MOST PEOPLE MAKE ON THE INTERNET Finding love We all want to be loved. It is a very profound human need. But how do we get it? Where do we look for it? Why don't we find it? ...
Views: 1963(1 vote) - Finding Mr. Mrs. Or Ms. Right - Setting Boundaries In Life and In Dating - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2011 from Cheri ValentineSetting personal boundaries is important in relationships. It allows you to be centered, indicates to others how to treat you, and helps you find the right person. If we do not set personal boundaries, we can become resentful, stressed, and quickly disappointed in attempts at dating. We ...
Views: 1181(2 votes) - Finding Mr. Mrs. Or Ms. Right - Where To Find Them? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2011 from Cheri ValentineIn searching for Mr. Mrs. or Ms. Right, I am often asked, “Where Can I Find Them?” Many do not enjoy going to bars and feel like a fish out of water when they do go. Other people think they are too busy to look. First of all you can find them anywhere doing what you already do. This works ...
Views: 776(1 vote) - Finding Your Soul Mate with Parents' Help - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2013 from Farheen RizviCultural practices largely affect how we might select a partner to marry. In the western society, the responsibility of finding your spouse lies solely on your shoulders. Whereas in many areas of the eastern world, this job is solely for the family and sometimes to the extent that your opinions ...
Views: 1792(2 votes) - Five Simple Things You Can Do to Make a Relationship Work - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2009 from Andrew HunterRelationships can be very difficult. Simply taking two completely unique people and tossing them together all their habits is bound to result in at least a little friction. Learning the secrets of making a relationship work is very key. You can always work things out no matter what stage things ...
Views: 3111(3 votes) - Five Things to Avoid to Win Her Love Back - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2010 from Andrew HunterSoon after finding yourself dumped, it could be harder for many men to win their exes back. They can not endure the hurt that they are dealing with after being so terribly damaged. Some men around simply want their girlfriends back because they really want to confirm it to themselves and to the ...
Views: 4523(4 votes) - Five Ways to Make Your Relationships Bloom: The August Full Moon in Aquarius - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Ron Archer"Let us be grateful to people who make us happy: They are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom." -Marcel Proust (1871 - 1922) A few months ago a friend gave me a small African Violet when he came over for a dinner party. It was very sweet and a thoughtful change from the usual ...
Views: 2045(1 vote) - Flirt Together with your Ex-Boyfriend - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2012 from Michael LoisDo you need to get back together with your ex-boyfriend? Remember what brought you together inside the 1st place: Attraction. Bring the spark back by obtaining his attention and exciting him for the things to come. A strategy to light the fire up is to flirt along with your man. Flirting ...
Views: 4497(2 votes) - For a Stronger Relationship, Resolve Your Conflicts - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2012 from Michael BroderNo two people can agree on everything, but disagreements or arguments in your relationship don’t have to end with one or both of you angry or in tears. Here are some suggestions to make the bumps in your relationship a little less difficult and more satisfying. Create a code word -Very rarely ...
Views: 1326(1 vote) - For The Weak At Heart, How To See Things You Do Not See About You And Others - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2010 from Dr Char Richards, DD,Msd,CHT,NLP,CLC,DEFor The Weak At Heart The Best Things Are The One Given To Times Of People Seeing What Is Really Important To Them, Such As Our Children, Our Lovers, Family, Friends And Other Loved Ones Because Some People Get Stuck In Spots Where They Think Only One Thing Matters Or They Are Hurt Or ...
Views: 1435(1 vote) - Forgiving Your Parents: An Excerpt from the Book - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2009 from Tim KellisHere is an excerpt from the book “Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage” A life-altering conversation Only about a month later I would have a conversation with my friend Kent that would change my life forever. I call this day the most important day of my life. I had an epiphany. ...
Views: 1319(2 votes) - Four Reasons Why Women Dump Men - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2010 from Andrew HunterThere are four causes why women dump men. With as little as one of these things in the relationship, the woman will eventually leave the man. We will go over the four occasions so as you can see if your own relationship may need some improvement. The first basis is control, which can come ...
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