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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Dr. Romance: I get upset that he hasn't been responding at all - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I just wanted to express to you how I thoroughly enjoyed your article about how there should be a tennis match type of communication. The guy I like hasn't been responding when he usually responds and though he's a busy professional, I get upset that he ...
Views: 2452(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have always been a good mom - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am writing to you for your professional opinion regarding my teenage son. His behavior overall is good but when he gets angry he throws things swears a lot and just a few minutes ago destroyed my vacuum cleaner in one blow to the floor. I am a single parent about 9 ...
Views: 1323(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have lost the umph for even planning the wedding - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I heard you on "How to Stay Happily Married" podcast. I am getting married in June to someone I know for 3 years and lived with. He is now deployed in the Army and has been since last May. This is my 3rd marriage and I feel like my eyes are wide open now and I know ...
Views: 1267(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I have never put up with any crap until this one came along - by Submitted on May 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I met a girl about three years ago at work. We both saw a connection, but neither one of us followed up on it. We were both in relationships, she was married. Several months later she told me things weren't good at home and we had started talking. She and I became ...
Views: 1318(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I lost everything - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:I read your article about "Age Differences in Dating" and thought you might be interested in a case history. I was married to a younger man for twenty years.He was 21 and I was 40 when we met.I had been in a very unhappy marriage for twenty years and had three ...
Views: 1394(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Really Wish I Could Go Back in Time and Fix This - by Submitted on May 07, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I have read some of your articles and am very impressed. I am about to write about something that will probably be one of the most bizarre cases you have ever heard. About 12 years ago, I felt a strong attraction towards a girl who was in my high school. We both were in ...
Views: 1902(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want a man in my life that I can trust again. - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: After experiencing alot of physical and emotional abuse in my life, my last relationship was very damaging emotionally and physically. Now, many years later, I haven't had a serious relationship or even a date since. I've had two opportunities this year, but one wanted ...
Views: 2110(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want the playgirl, but they like the bad boy type - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: This is something that's puzzling me for along time. I often do want the playgirl, but they like the more bad boy type. I know for sure I want sex without strings attached, many men get this, but I simply attract women who want a boyfriend, and I ...
Views: 2033(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want to find myself - by Submitted on May 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was married at the age of 21, was married for 7 years, separated from my spouse a little over a year ago, and I'm in the process of divorce. I dated various people shortly after separation, but I was lost, broke some hearts, and simply didn't know ...
Views: 1799(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm wondering about a "blind date" - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have been reading your article "The Fine Art of Squirrel Hunting". I certainly will appreciate any wisdom or guidance that you can share. I'm a minister who ministers to congregations, and I was widowed several years ago. 1. I've pretty much ...
Views: 1282(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I've always been asked out - by Submitted on May 30, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance : I just read about you and some articles you wrote about Age Differences in Relationships and really enjoyed what you had to say and how you said it. I now have a question: I am 49 years old and very attractive. I look ...
Views: 1299(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is Facebook romance hopeless? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in an unusual situation. I was speaking to a random person on Facebook one time. We became Facebook “friends”, and we kept chatting back and forth on e-mail. This girl was already dating someone (not very happy though), but I guess she kind of ...
Views: 1284(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Is Facebook romance hopeless? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in an unusual situation. I was speaking to a random person on Facebook one time. We became Facebook “friends”, and we kept chatting back and forth on e-mail. This girl was already dating someone (not very happy though), but I guess she kind of ...
Views: 1284(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: it was like our relationship didn't matter - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am hoping you can help. I made a query about maintaining a marriage over long distance and noted your book The Commuter Marriage My wife and I have been married for 12 years and have had our ups and downs. We are both commited to our relationship. We lived in different ...
Views: 1659(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: It's as if something turned out bad - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a friend who's asking for an advice and accidentally, I saw in the Internet your advices to some heart problems. So I told myself to try ask help from you also. This lady friend of mine is well, kind of in love with a man who's also in love with her. ...
Views: 1267(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: my sisters are now calling me 'The Black Widow' - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance:Thank you for your article "Age Differences in Dating". I am a fortysomething woman whose fiance' died in my arms of heart failure three years ago. He was in his late sixties. Then I dated an ex-pro athlete who had a stroke and lost ...
Views: 1342(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Please help, our family is growing apart - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Q: My father died 1 1/2 years ago.My mom always snaps at me and my older brother and I think she has a serious problem. I personally think it's a power struggle because she fells like she is loosing control over my brother and I. But, what she ...
Views: 1377(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I give up on her? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance A question for you: I have a female friend that I dated for 7 months - she dumped me - and is, I think, dating some other guy. The question is: I have tried to ask her for 5 or 6 different events - and have gotten turned down for each one - with some excuse - the excuse sounds ...
Views: 1272(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I give up on her? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance A question for you: I have a female friend that I dated for 7 months - she dumped me - and is, I think, dating some other guy. The question is: I have tried to ask her for 5 or 6 different events - and have gotten turned down for each one - with some excuse - the excuse sounds ...
Views: 1582(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should she tell the man she's in love with him? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a friend who's asking for an advice and accidentally, I saw in the internet your advice to some heart problems. So I told myself to try ask help from you also. This lady friend of mine is well, kind of in love with a man who's also in love with her. However, a ...
Views: 1324(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Strangely, I still love this man - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Last year, my boyfriend he broke up with me 3 days before my birthday. On the actual day, he didn't even so much as text or call to wish me a happy birthday - or even send me a card. I was devastated, esp because I really made a big deal of his birthday last ...
Views: 1383(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: The constant problem has been broken trust - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, My girlfriend is 17 years older than me and we have been dating for over 2 years. The past year has had lots of fighting and has been very tough on both of us. We are currently taking a break, trying to work out our differences. The constant problem has been broken trust. I ...
Views: 1719(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Was there anything else I could have done? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance Recently, I have gone back to online dating but have some very strong concerns. I just severed a 5-year relationship with a man who seems to have an internet addiction. He worked from home and was constantly on the porn and personals (by looking ...
Views: 1503(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: What is being a therapist like? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2015 from Tina TessinaQ & A with a Dr. Romance reader: Q: I would like your advice and input. I have been working in business for 12 years as a CPA and have recently been quite frustrated with it. Recently I did some career/interests/aptitude testing and found that the work I do now is pretty much what I ...
Views: 1247(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: What type of dating safety precautions should one take? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one be sure that a person they met through a dating service is not disturbed in any way? What type of safety precautions can one take? Dear Reader: Love has a much better chance to be realized if you make some of your choices mentally, as well as by emotional ...
Views: 1911(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Which one should he choose? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : A man loves woman #1 but he was unhappy with the relationship for some reason. He was stressed financially. He was supporting his family. He has 2 children with woman #1 all he wants is the best for them and them to be happy and have a family. He has been going ...
Views: 1154(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why do I always find cowards? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I like your article "Stupid Cupid" and find that all your down-to-earth questions should be applicable in a daily life of a relationship. I will forward it to my friends. I'm writing you about a guy that I met at my dance class. I ...
Views: 1455(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Encourage Older Women to Date Younger Men? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : After reading: "Older Women, Younger Men Relationships" I feel compelled to write to you to express my disagreement. Age difference is more than an "adolescent worry", unless the older partner is still an adolescent. ...
Views: 1661(2 votes) - Decoding Men - A Time Tested Formula To Trigger Your Beau To Commit - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2012 from Tony CimbaSadly, there are many dudes who seem to take to hooking up for years without even mentioning the topic of marriage. When it comes right down to it, this leaves women seriously disillusioned because a girl practically never wants her relationship to give out in the dating stage. What makes ...
Views: 1349(1 vote) - Desperately Seeking YOU - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2016 from Joe VeThey are the three "Ds" in your life - desperation, dependency and doubt. They sneak in without you realizing they are there, create havoc and ruin relationships. But, when you are aware of the potential problem, you can stop the problems before they start, whether you are manifesting the ...
Views: 1031(2 votes) - Desperation Doesn't Work - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2011 from Stella SinglesYou’re on a date. It’s going well. You enjoy the person you’re with, and while it’s still too early to know for sure, you have a feeling this could be something serious. Additionally, you’ve been searching for that someone for quite some time, and are tired of the whole dating scene. You may ...
Views: 1299(2 votes) - Diet plan Principles for Breastfeeding Ladies - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2011 from Tamatha HelenLactation is possibly a amazing and fulfilling period in a woman’s life. It's in this stage that mothers share nutrients and strength to a very dependent newborn. Typically, nursing mothers should have much more calorie intake to meet the regular milk requirement of her physique. It can be ...
Views: 808(1 vote) - Disadvantages of Debating and How To Avoid It For Better Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2010 from J. AcobArguments - what's it good for? Debates are rarely "won." When you think you won an argumentation, what did you gain? The "loser" at least learned something, right? But what did you get? arguing practice, ego satisfaction, and diminished Brain power. Argument Decreases Brain Power? At ...
Views: 5066(1 vote) - Discover How to Date Your Spouse Again - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2011 from Mika MaddelaFor many people, a trial separation means the end of your marriage. For others, it means a new beginning for their marriage. Marriage separation gives couples a chance to evaluate what they want out of their life and how their spouse fits in. If you and your spouse are temporarily separated to ...
Views: 10791(1 vote) - Discovering the Secrets to Getting Back Together With Your Ex Lover - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2012 from Raymond EhomaIf there's a particular inclination that any individual who may have recently experienced a break-up has got, is definitely the inclination for that person to panic. Panic is one of the challenging barriers to just about anyone's likelihood of successfully winning an ex lover back again. When ...
Views: 1274(3 votes) - Divorce to Remarriage: What Happens When You Rush to Wed The Second Time Around - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Alyssa Johnson50% of first marriages end in divorce. 75% of those divorcees will remarry. At least 60% of those remarriages will end in a re-divorce. Sobering statistics aren't they? But why are they this high? 50% of first marriages end in divorce I'm not even going to make a guess at the reason for ...
Views: 8248(1 vote) - Do All Men Make You Mad? The Bitter Woman - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerDo All Men Make You Mad? (FemiType #5: The Bitter Woman) In an effort to help you understand the man side of this midlife dating experience, I’ve introduced you to The Princess, The 18 Year Old, The Scaredy Cat and The Wow-Me Woman: all FemiTypes* that send good men running. Today I’m going ...
Views: 2610(3 votes) - Do You Continue Creating Emotionally Unavailable Lovers? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2009 from Nanette Geiger"I often seem to create the one who is emotionally unavailable. What can I do to change that"? This is a question that came from one of my clients. Coincidentally, that was the strongest negative vibration I had from my lengthy string of failed relationships. They were either emotionally ...
Views: 1414(5 votes) - Do You Have to Hide Your Happiness to Please Your Partner? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2012 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondRita was happy and Norman hated it! Rita was on top of the world and Norman hated it. He couldn’t stand seeing her so comfortable in her own skin, and in such good spirits. It turned his stomach. It was unfair. What right did she have to feel so good when he felt lousy? Despite her ...
Views: 2163(1 vote) - Do You Love to Gossip? Learn How to Stop It - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2011 from Nelson BerryBy The Pioneer of Subliminal Messages Online. Don't you just love to gossip? For some reason it is very interesting and engaging to talk about other people's lives. But then you also know that gossip is entirely wrong. It is completely unproductive and destructive. A lot of relationships ...
Views: 1008(1 vote) - Do You Make or Break Your Romantic Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Cherry Norris"Man's greatest motivating force is his desire to please woman" so writes Napoleon Hill in his iconic book, THINK & GROW RICH. According to Hill, men who accumulate large fortunes, gain power and fame do so to satisfy their desire to please women. If this is so, you have to consider: If a ...
Views: 1772(3 votes) - Do You Perceive Yourself to be a “Special” Person, therefore Not Succeeding at Having an Intimate Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2012 from Doron GilIf you are unsuccessful in developing an intimate relationship you might – like many others - perceive yourself as being “particular” – hereby justifying to yourself the fact that you are unsuccessful. But the fact of the matter is, “particular” are those who are willing to develop ...
Views: 1432(2 votes) - Do You Swear To Tell The Truth, The Whole…? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2012 from Geoff LaughtonWhether or not you’re currently in a relationship with a lover/partner/spouse, you know that relationships of ALL kinds are a crucial ingredient in what makes life worth living (at least that’s how I look at it). You probably also know that managing a relationship with anyone easily and quickly ...
Views: 1612(1 vote) - Do You Want a Successful Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2004 from Mark BrandenburgWith a divorce rate in this country that approaches 50%, and a fairly sizable percentage of marriages that aren’t particularly blissful, it’s difficult to avoid searching for the answer to the battle of the sexes. Would you like to stop searching? We’ve moved through the ...
Views: 2015(1 vote) - Do You Want Your Ex Back? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2011 from Kara OhDo You Want Your Ex Back? September 27, 2011 by Kara Oh Filed under All About Men Leave a Comment Do You Want Your Ex Back? by relationship author Kara OhIt’s a common scenario. He breaks up with you, then BAM!, he’s immediately in a new relationship. But you’re still in love with ...
Views: 1673(1 vote) - Do's And Dont's Of Texting A Guy That Will Make You Stand Out From The Rest - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2017 from Katarina PhangText messaging is one of the most powerful ways to flirt and build attraction and to lay a great foundation for a lasting relationship with a man. Unfortunately, many women are at a loss for how to properly leverage this technology to make a man feel intense level of attraction toward her ...
Views: 38563(6 votes) - Does It Make You Weak if You Stay with Your Husband After He Cheated? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2011 from Andrew HunterIf you’re reading this, then there’s a good chance that your husband cheated on you in your marriage. If that’s the case, I’m truly sorry. I know only too well how painful the betrayal of adultery can be. Maybe women often assume that this means that the marriage is a failure and that it’s ...
Views: 4334(2 votes) - Does Marriage Counseling Work? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2009 from Pat LaDouceurThe short answer to this question is a resounding “Yes!” Dr. John Gottman spent forty years researching how couples create close, lasting relationships and what it takes to turn a distressed marriage around. Using his approach, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, 85% of couples were able to ...
Views: 2327(2 votes) - Does She Love Me? - How to Know for Certain - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2010 from Andrew HunterOkay, so you’ve begun spending time with a girl. Possibly you and her have gotten intimate already. Maybe not. But after some time you begin to question “Does she love me?” In other words, does she have her sights set on a more long-term relationship. Allow me to talk about a number of ...
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