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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Cheaters guide to get back with your ex girlfriend. - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2011 from Jay RuggOk, you cheated on your girlfriend and now want to know how to get back with your ex girlfriend... She probably won't have anything to do with you, right? Maybe you have had some time to think it over and now know how big of a mistake you made. What can you do now? All is not lost, you still ...
Views: 967(2 votes) - Cheating Man - Why Did My Husband Cheat on Me and How Do I Prevent It Next Time? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2011 from Lisa Penn-JamesFor those discovering suddenly that they have a cheating man at home, obsessive thoughts are what you have to deal with after the initial shock and devastation. One of the haunting questions is: Why did he cheat on me? Why do cheaters cheat? Is she better than me? Will he cheat again? How do I ...
Views: 2649(2 votes) - Choose to be Positive Today - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2010 from Bruce MillsWhy not Choose to be Happy today instead of mad. We all can choose the minute we wake up if we want to have a great day or a bad day. Once you get out of bed why not tell yourself that today is going to be a great day. Talk about some things that you are going to accomplish today. It is so much ...
Views: 3891(3 votes) - Christian Codependency: Four Biblical Reasons You Need Strong Relationship Boundaries - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2012 from Karla DowningIf you are struggling with Christian codependency, you probably have weak boundaries. This article will give you four biblical reasons you need strong relationship boundaries. People will know their choices carry consequences. God has established the law of reaping and sowing to teach people ...
Views: 2171(1 vote) - Clear Expectations - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2010 from William Diedrich“Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good person is a little like expecting the bull not to attack you because you are a vegetarian.” Dennis Wholey Everyone has expectations. We expect people to treat us a certain way. As leaders we expect people to perform well and ...
Views: 2476(1 vote) - Codependency: Don’t Dance! (revised) - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2013 from Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed. LCPC CADCCodependency: Don’t Dance! Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC www.HumanMagnetSyndrome.com www.RossRosenbergTherapy.com Codependency: Don’t Dance! The “codependency dance” requires two people: the pleaser/fixer and the taker/controller. This inherently dysfunctional dance requires ...
Views: 2403(2 votes) - COMING TO THE TABLE - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from Sadie SheafeOften couples carry baggage from relationship-to-relationship. They do not realize that their new relationships fail as a result of the previous baggage. In any new relationship there is always one constant…themselves! Often, problems first arise with the couple's intimacy. These can have ...
Views: 1955(2 votes) - Communicating your Painful Stories to Others - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThis is the time to give expression to your stories – to communicate the details that were revealed in prior chapters through intuitive self-reflection. Sitting with your listening partner in a comfortable position, share your first painful experience, including each of the aspects you wrote ...
Views: 800(1 vote) - Communication Breakdown: Steps To Better Communication With Your Spouse to Avoid Divorce - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Debbie SchaeferEvery couple has a communication breakdown in their marriage at some point. In fact, most couples have numerous breakdowns in communication throughout their marriage. Communication is really a simple thing, but somehow as humans, we complicate things and blur the lines of communication with ...
Views: 3075(1 vote) - Communications and Personality Type – Extravert & Introvert - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2012 from Pam HollisterCommunication is central to our life—we communicate with others every day, throughout the day. Understanding, appreciating, and accommodating personality differences in communication style can bring major success to our effectiveness as a friend, spouse, employee, supervisor, trainer, leader, ...
Views: 2932(1 vote) - Compliment Men and Win Their Hearts - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2011 from Bellaisa FilippisWhen you think about attracting men and winning their hearts you may not think of compliments and using them to your advantage, but I'm here to tell you that if you use compliments the right way you can puff up their manhood and win their affection. When we give compliments we tend to focus ...
Views: 1501(1 vote) - Confessions of a Former Dating Loser - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2012 from Dana McIntyreI met my husband three years ago on Match.com. Many times when I tell people that they get this shocked look on their face as if to say “What were you thinking by dating on-line????” Well to be honest, it wasn’t my idea. I was a 10+ year Realtor who was suddenly faced with limited ...
Views: 1943(2 votes) - Confident vs Neediness - where is the line? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2016 from Joe VeThe current wisdom is that people are attracted to those who are confident in their demeanor. They know what they want and they go after it. They know with certainty who they are, what they're worth and that they are worthy. On the other hand, wisdom also holds that men are interested in the ...
Views: 1263(2 votes) - Conscious Dating; The Art of Asking - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2009 from Joan HeartfieldAsking for what we want can difficult. As regards relationship, historically in Western society men have been the askers and pursuers. They are the gender that is expected to take the first step. This is challenging for many men and women. It is not easy for a man to ask when he does not know if ...
Views: 1435(2 votes) - Context is Everything - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Gregory MorganTrue Love involves loyalty, humility, commitment, fidelity and honor. Ideals that form the fundamental context of life long relationships. Context is the environment of relationship: The framework of ideas, assumptions, traditions and beliefs that form a certain perspective. Some are ...
Views: 2231(1 vote) - Crash and Burn-ology: 6 Signs There Won’t Be a Second Date - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Lisa DailyYou like him, but does he really like you? Is there any way to tell how well a first date is going? 1) What day of the week did your date ask you out? It’s generally a good sign if your date asks you out with a few days notice — it means he’s thinking about you and wants to lock in weekend ...
Views: 6622(3 votes) - Creating Family Acceptance - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaLately, I’ve gotten so many anguished questions from people who are being criticized and rejected by family for making relationship choices the families don’t like, usually for cultural or religious reasons, that I changed my mind about what I was going to write this month. ...
Views: 1297(2 votes) - Creating Harmony In Your Life And Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2010 from Candace CzarnyWhen you are in a state that doesn’t support a harmonious existence, things can get very unpleasant. You don't feel right, nothing makes you feel content, and you often will feel as if there is nothing right in your world. The only workable solution is to get to the heart of the matter and take ...
Views: 1563(3 votes) - Creating Lasting Love this Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2010 from Nanette GeigerValentine's Day brings out the romantic in most of us. At the very least, it's a day that we'd LIKE to have the romantic brought out in us. In a relationship or not, when you think about Valentine's Day don't you remember those silly little cupid cards we sent around to our class mates in ...
Views: 889(4 votes) - Crystal's Gift - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2010 from Crystal ChurchMy purpose is to be honest. To empower others by not holding back my intuition and knowledge from them. It may very well be the piece they need to the puzzle in their life. I could be that one bit of information that creates a spark in their mind and makes them pull down the wall that has been ...
Views: 1002(1 vote) - Custom Pictures- Getting A Shot Of Still Life Image - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Azalea WrightCustom pictures photography has many uses in our visual art. The subject of this kind of photography is unlimited that allows you to capture something unique and unusual. Custom pictures are best subjects for any canvasses. They are actually better than a ready-made portrait because they are ...
Views: 983(1 vote) - Dating a Widow - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Gregory SmithDating a widow or widower is not necessarily just for people older than 60. Women in their 30s and 40s become widows every day due to accidents, or illness, etc. Since finding widows out in the dating world is really not all that uncommon, I thought I would put together a list of guidelines ...
Views: 1933(2 votes) - Dating Advice for Women Over 40 - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2012 from Marni BattistaDating Advice for Women Over 40 It’s safe to say that when you’re over 40, the dating game changes significantly. You aren’t imagining it. In fact, the challenges of dating for women over 40 are so specific that getting good advice is critical to finding love with less heartache, pain, and ...
Views: 6405(2 votes) - Dating Advice: Why Do Men Lie? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeI asked a few men why they lie. There were varied answers. The surprising thing was that none of the men I asked denied that they lied. There were some typical answers. A common one was, 'If we tell the truth you won't believe us.' Steve had the most interesting repsonse that summaried the ...
Views: 1755(3 votes) - Dating Divorced Men ~ The Real Mission Impossible? PART II - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2011 from Jonathon AslayDating Divorced Men ~ The Real Mission Impossible? PART II In Part I we talked about three key elements for women to consider when dating a divorced man. As the Heart Protector of Women, let me remind you that before allowing him to participate in any “undercover operations”, you must ...
Views: 2308(2 votes) - Dating men of 40: Time, Attention and Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2011 from Jonathon AslayAs a Relationship Coach to Women over forty, I have the opportunity to give a listening ear to many who have either been dating for a while or are just getting back into the dating adventure. A lot of the women I hear from are frustrated because they feel the man in their life does not give ...
Views: 2378(2 votes) - dating online with a wealthyman - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2011 from lucy websterDate a millionaire is not very easy. But the final success and happiness belongs to those who have good preparations. Don't you think so? For serious singles, any dating site is possible for him/her to find a perfect match. For those who are not serious, even the biggest match.com will not work ...
Views: 1244(2 votes) - Deal Breakers for Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2012 from Marni BattistaWhen you first start dating someone, there are a few specific clues you could recognize as red flags. Nobody is perfect, but there are few characteristics and behaviors that should absolutely be deal breakers for you. Below you can find the Dating with Dignity List of Deal Breakers in ...
Views: 2525(2 votes) - Dealing with Jealousy in a Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2010 from Gregory SmithDealing with jealousy in a relationship can be an incredibly challenging endeavor because jealousy is among the ugliest of emotions, and can cause the worst of behaviors in people. Your best bet is always to recognize jealousy early in a new relationship, and then immediately address that ...
Views: 3441(5 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Age-Gap in Gay Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for such a wonderfully positive article on "generation-gap" relationships. I just finished reading "What's Behind the Trend of Women Dating Younger Men?". Although I am in a gay-relationship, I read the article with ...
Views: 1383(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Am I Insane? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance, I seek some understanding & hope that you will be able to help. I think that I don't know what love is & it has me in constant turmoil. I married when I was 23 yrs old & have 2 beautiful children. Regrettably, the marriage ended in divorce. I am ...
Views: 1686(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Can short guys date? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : I'm a 5'4" 34yr old male. I've searched online dating sites for a few years now and read thousands of women's profiles. In doing so, I recognized a peculiar trend in women's descriptions of their ideal mate. It's exhilarating to read ...
Views: 1381(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He hasn't told his Mum - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am having a little issue which I'd like some advice on; Firstly my partner had liked me for a few years before asking me out. We have been together for almost a year, yet he hasn't told his Mum that we are in a serious relationship. I have approached the subject but ...
Views: 1310(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: he is still stuck in his bad habits - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read most of your book, It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction and loved it. I work at a center where in talking to our clients, we have found repeated patterns of dysfunction (generational), over and over and over again, so your ...
Views: 1230(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He says he can't give me what I want - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I hope that you will be able to help me with a problem that i find i now have. I meet a man on line and he and i are great together everything was going great then a ex girlfriend had him put in jail saying that he was stalking her when he was really just going to his brothers ...
Views: 3696(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He says that I am cheating on him, but I don't feel that way. - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My boyfriend and I have been having problems in our relationship lately because of of the time I spend in chat rooms. I estimate that in a 48 hour period I spend 8 hours chatting with my friends. He estimates that I spend 15 hours there. One ...
Views: 1474(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He wants it to be over - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I found your site by accident and I hope you can help me. I have been divorced for one year and have been seeing a co-worker for most of that time. I have known him for five years and have been in a "relationship" with him for one of those. He is my ...
Views: 1527(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He would like to have sex every time he thinks about it. - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My partner says I turn him on which means, it seems to me, that he would like to have sex every time he thinks about it. It's almost too much and I don't know how to handle it. My background with sex, including the children's dad, has been: ...
Views: 1609(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Help me deal with this person without going insane - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I'm a victim of emotional & mental abuse by my hopefully soon-to-be-ex husband. The sad truth is that this person doesn't or refusing to recognize what he's doing and I'm very worry for my 8 years old son who I'm sharing 50% custody with the father. I ...
Views: 1331(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He´s a Jehovah Witness and am a Pentecostal - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I just saw write up on the issue of older woman and younger man. This have been a great issue for me, I make friends easily with people and at the end of the day they want a relationship and all to find that am older than them. Its been happening to me for ...
Views: 1325(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Make My Family Understand I Love Him? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Ok so I am 19 and am kinda falling for a guy who is 20 years old than me. I am not asking your opinion on if it's wrong and nor do I want to hear "that's disgusting" my mother and father were 23 years apart in age. I like older guys cause I can relate to them better than ...
Views: 1792(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How Do I Make Him Understand? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How do I make him understand? So my soon-to-be-ex is still in the house as well as myself! This is not working! He keeps trying to make things better, but I don't feel anything for him anymore. He has been better to me but is still very rude to our son and says hurtful ...
Views: 2017(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a substance abuse counselor - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I work at an Indian health clinic in northern California. I am a substance abuse counselor, or Certified Addiction Treatment Counselor . After scanning a book I found on a colleague's bookshelf called The Real Thirteenth Step I felt compelled to seek it out, and I ...
Views: 1266(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sure if I am considered his "girlfriend." - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I like your article "Stupid Cupid" and find that all your down-to-earth questions should be applicable in a daily life of a relationship. I will forward it to my friends. I'm writing you about a guy that I met at my dance class. I ...
Views: 1370(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't decide if she's as in to me as I am her - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My situation is different that some. See I have only been in 2 relationships, but they were really long term. My first I was 16 till I was 21. Second from 22 till 26 years old. Both of those relationships were an on off kind of relationship. So inbetween the ons and off, ...
Views: 1278(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Can't forget him after 10 years - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I live in Southeast Asia. I knew about you from the internet. I have a problem that I haven't found the way out till now. Before I tell you anything, first please forgive me if my english is not too well. I am in my late 20's and for most local people at that ...
Views: 1879(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I caught tremendous flak from co-workers - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Excellent advice and a most excellent article I just read about older women dating younger men and age differences. I'm a 50 year old single male and have been single for 15 years with no children and have dated younger women on several occasions but did ...
Views: 1708(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I discovered he crossdressed - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:When I was 20, I met a man of 37. For many reasons, including what I thought was love, moved in with him 3 weeks later. After getting engaged to my partner, I discovered he crossdressed. I cried, but he said he did it cuz he was alone for so long before he met me. Flash forward ...
Views: 1912(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Don't Want to Leave without Saying Goodbye - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I have developed feelings for my co-worker and during the past several months, we have had very brief encounters that were limited to greetings. Due to the small work place, I could not go and talk comfortably to him without eliciting attentions/rumors. I will be leaving ...
Views: 2596(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Feel Like We Have to Sneak Around and Hide - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am in a relationship with a man who twenty years younger. He is black, and I am white. We are very much in love. The problem is that my parents are very much against my dating a black man. They do not like the age difference either, but the being black is worse. This is ...
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