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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- After the Wedding: What to Expect During the First Year of Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2009 from Lauri Allison LaBadieBy this time, most of us have probably attended at least one wedding this summer. I went to one last weekend, and my dear friends Lauri and Jeff, the co-owners of TherapyLinx.com, will be tying the knot in just a few weeks. That got me to thinking how these happy, glowing effervescent brides’ ...
Views: 10779(2 votes) - Age Differences in Dating - by Submitted on May 29, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance gets a lot of letters about older women dating younger men, which appears to be shocking to some people, but I don’t find it so unusual. Why would a younger man want to date an older woman? Who isn’t attracted to success, smarts and experience? Young men can find this ...
Views: 1379(2 votes) - Align With What You Desire for Powerful Purposeful Action - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2011 from Nanette GeigerA common misconception about positive manifestation is the idea that your problems and shortcomings are simply going to vanish just because you want them to. If you've ever heard a life coach or self-improvement guru say anything, you've probably heard of the phrase massive action. The question ...
Views: 1826(1 vote) - Amazing Ways for How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2010 from Jessica AndrewsBeing separated from your beloved partner who's company you're used to can be very tough to adjust yourself to. A lot of things can put a physical distance between a couple, such as a job in a different city, and it may not be long before one or both of you are asking how you can Make a Long ...
Views: 947(2 votes) - Anger & Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2009 from Michael PaulWhen there is a build up of anger in a relationship, healthy communication is clearly absent. Both ears and mouths are not working properly. Messages being given are likely to be interpreted through a filter that hears only what anger expects to hear. The message, as it might be offered, is ...
Views: 1859(2 votes) - Aphrodisiacs: For A More Satisfying Sex Life - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraSex is essential to a marriage or any other romantic relationship. Without it, no matter how much you love each other, you will feel there’s something missing. Sex is an expression of your love and it releases tension and makes you feel good afterwards. But no matter how much you love to have ...
Views: 1041(1 vote) - Are monkeys more sexually evolved than we are? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoListener Question: Tell me, why does dropping one’s drawers have to be the line of demarcation? Is that really the point of no return? If so, then why do you consider it as such? My studies of aboriginal Polynesian societies have led me to delve into customs of touching in other nearly nude ...
Views: 1336(2 votes) - Are You (or are you with) A "Commitment-Phobe"? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanWe hear it all the time. "He just won't make a commitment." "She just wants some space right now." "I'm not sure if I'm ready for a serious relationship." What does having a fear of commitment really mean? Actually, it means basically what it says. For SOME reason you, or someone you are ...
Views: 2502(1 vote) - Are You a Cheating Husband Who Is Ready to Get His Wife Back? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2012 from Jacob Elichmann"I cheated on my wife, and now I'm beginning to lose hope that she will ever forgive me for cheating on her..." I'm sure that when you first decided that you want to save your marriage after cheating, you fantasized and hoped that the moment you displayed any effort, your wife would come ...
Views: 2189(1 vote) - Are You a Princess? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerIf you're going to be a successful dater (which means you have fun and meet good men), an essential tool is the ability to empathize with the men you meet. Empathy is not feeling sorry for someone. It's being able to put yourself in their shoes and understand their experience. I believe that ...
Views: 2968(4 votes) - Are You An Island Girl? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2010 from John KuypersElton John sang his famous song, Island Girl, in the 1970s, idolizing the women of sun, sand and surf. But there is another kind of Island Girl. These are women (and men) who share a common and often unspoken challenge: fear of intimacy. People who are afraid to let other people get too ...
Views: 3236(1 vote) - Are You Aware that You Might Be Sabotaging Your Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2011 from Doron GilWe all want to think we know ourselves well enough. That we know who we are, what kind of a relationship we want to have and how to behave with our partner. In all likelihood you are no exception. Yet there might be some things about yourself that you DON’T know. Unfortunately, these ...
Views: 1409(4 votes) - Are You Dating Like a Grownup? - by Submitted on May 17, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerI’m often asked what I mean by Dating Like a Grownup. It’s obviously a great question that I probably should answer every so often. (I am, after all, the CEO of Date Like a Grownup!) I’m going to give you my definition, and then I’m going to tell you about a great book I’ve read that does a ...
Views: 1790(3 votes) - Are You Entering the Anger Danger Zone? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2010 from Rachel MohebanYou began the conversation with altruistic intentions. The intensity and staccato of your voices signal that you and your partner are approaching a full-blown argument. You don’t want to fling insults and accusations. You just need a time out. What can you do? The next time your ...
Views: 1163(2 votes) - Are You Guilty of Horsetrading - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Gina GardinerPure love is very simple. You love the person for who they are – right now, whatever they are doing or not doing. In its simplest terms, you love them and give your love unconditionally. Many of us believe that is what we do, ye, the reality is, we love them, but we want something in ...
Views: 2352(1 vote) - Are You Jealous? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2011 from Brooke AlexandriaCan men and women really just be friends? It depends a lot on the individual, but it does seem possible. However, this doesn't make it any easier for some people to accept their partner's friends of the opposite sex. A little bit of doubt about your partner's opposite-sex-friendships is only ...
Views: 1883(1 vote) - Are You Part of a Dating Disaster? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2011 from Kimberly MitchellAt one time or another, all of us have found ourselves infatuated, in lust, and even in love during our days of dating. We meet someone who either looks, acts, or just is incredible in our eyes. That's why first impressions are so important…or are they? Most times, when you're trying to meet ...
Views: 1456(2 votes) - Are You Ready to Teach and Tame Her? (FemiTypes - The Epilogue) - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerOver the past few months I’ve profiled six types of women – I call them FemiTypes – who have less than healthy relationships with men. I’ve written about The Princess, The 18 Year Old, The Scaredy Cat, The Wow-Me Woman, The Bitter Woman and The Sexpot. Why have I written about women when you ...
Views: 2052(1 vote) - Are You Relationship Ready? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanSo, you want to fall in love? You are certainly old enough and moving well along your chosen career path. Many of your friends are either married or in committed relationships. You have grown weary of the singles scene and the solitary life. Therefore, you must be ready, right? Not ...
Views: 1548(1 vote) - Are You Showing Up in Your Relationship these Holidays? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciAre You Showing Up in Your Relationship these Holidays? The Holidays are always a difficult time of year for people for many reasons. At the risk of adding to the plethora of writing on this topic, I still feel called to share with you how you can use this time as an opportunity for change and ...
Views: 1860(1 vote) - Are You Too Critical? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2010 from Kathy Thompson"Are You Too Critical?" First of all, Criticalness breaks up more relationships, than anything else. And that criticalness is usually over the children or money! Criticalness can be seen in eyes that slant down. They notice anything that is out of line and can spot problems ...
Views: 6164(1 vote) - Are You Waiting to Be Wowed? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerNewsflash: Women constantly push really good guys right out of their lives without even knowing it. We do it by behaving in ways that, until pointed out by someone else, are a complete mystery. Finally having this pointed out to me in my early 40s was a huge part of my transition from a ...
Views: 2870(5 votes) - Are You With the Right Partner? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2013 from Pat LaDouceurAm I with the right partner? As a couples therapist, I've been asked this question a lot. The couples I see are usually frustrated, and often for good reason. They've tried to solve relationship problems by talking, by not talking, by changing their behavior and by not changing it. ...
Views: 1801(1 vote) - Aries Women Compatibility - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2010 from Annie SherwoodAstrology can be very useful when you are trying to find the right partner to share your life with. You can learn a lot about a person based on the traits of their sun sign. More and more people are turning to astrology to get help in finding that perfect someone. Aries are a little bit ...
Views: 1282(1 vote) - Ask Lisa Daily! Why Did My Girlfriend Dump Me? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, I am a man, and I would like to know why my girlfriend dumped me! Women also do the dumping! Why do you NOT have a WHY WOMEN DUMP MEN column on your site? Is it only a figment of the mind that men are also human? –Representing Dear Representing, Yes, men are human. Most ...
Views: 2724(4 votes) - Ask Lisa Daily: Broken-hearted Swim Guy - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Lisa DailyDear Lisa, I just got jacked around pretty good by a gal. I’m too nice, as people say, I just don’t want to play games. I haven’t done anything yet that can be construed as being a jerk about it. (Just an email venting a little, but nothing mean.) I have never been able to play the game ...
Views: 1761(1 vote) - Aspects of Hypnotherapy/Psychotherapy and Love Addiction - by Submitted on May 03, 2011 from Vincent TreacyI am directing you to a podcast I made with Counsellor Annie Bennett. She had been working in the field of psychotherapy and counselling since 1994, when she trained and worked for Cruse Bereavement Care in North Surrey, England. She later trained for Surrey Alcohol and Drug Misuse and continued ...
Views: 2085(1 vote) - Avoid Dating Burnout by Thinking More Like a Man - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerThis week I spoke with my client, “Sue,” who recently entered the online dating world. Right off the bat she had scoped out a profile she really liked and emailed him. He seemed interested, attentive and pretty fabulous on paper. The next thing you know…she has a date! When they met in real ...
Views: 3340(5 votes) - Barriers to Intimacy - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Sylvia FlanaganBarriers of intimacy ultimately mean breakdown in communication. This breakdown usually manifests in one of two ways – blame/criticism or shutdown/withdrawal. Intimacy doesn’t always feel good and it sometimes includes wrestling with issues and a struggle. But, if done properly, and with ...
Views: 1533(2 votes) - Be Your Own Person – 5 Tips to Say Goodbye to Co-Dependency - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2011 from Nelson BerryBy The Pioneer of Subliminal Messages Online. Have you ever heard about the subject of co-dependency? Co-dependency is no mystery, and yet, there is a need to ask that question because many people are deeply co-dependent on key persons in their lives without knowing it. This means that you ...
Views: 2254(1 vote) - Become a Love Magnet - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2010 from Candace CzarnyThe odds are good that you have seen those people who seem to magically draw people to them. They always seem to have a date or someone who wants to date them. You're not alone. Many people feel like everyone else is more successful in love than they are. It has less to do with physical ...
Views: 1429(1 vote) - Being a Friend in Need - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Eduard EzeanuA solid friendship is born when you can help the other person in need, and the can do the same for you. Learn to be a friend in need and you will strengthen your relationships. You don’t know how strong a friendship really is until it is tested. The classic test a friendship encounters is ...
Views: 1759(2 votes) - Being Physically Attractive and Emotionally Attractive To Men - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from lalayne jewfrewYou may or may not be aware of this, but while a lot of women want to be beautiful, so many couldn’t be bothered putting the effort, time and commitment to color coordinating and matching their clothes, put some make up on and smile for the day. It sounds crazy, but it's true. Most women only ...
Views: 1621(2 votes) - Best Services of Astrology - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2013 from kirtika SolankiAstrology is a branch of ancient jyotish vidhya we can say which provided services from so many olden eras. Astrology is the study of movement of stars in any individual’s horoscope. Yes, due to movement of stars anybody can affect with it. Movements of stars in any individual’s horoscope can ...
Views: 1158(1 vote) - Best Ways For Women To Attract Aquarius Men - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2010 from Annie SherwoodOne of the first things you have to do to attract an Aquarius man is to be able to hold a good conversation. Aquarius men are always up-to-date on the latest happenings and they are often very involved in activities around town, as well as in humanitarian efforts. You can catch his attention ...
Views: 8898(1 vote) - Better Community Equals a Better Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.With divorce being at epidemic proportions, couples today are seeking ways to have a better relationship and prevent becoming part of the statistics. Reports have shown that over a 40 year period, 6-7 out of 10 marriages will end up in divorce. These numbers also do not represent divorce ...
Views: 1573(1 vote) - BLAM!!! Laugh, Cry, Anger - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Carolyn BatesYou’re thinking your life is wonderful, no current crisis is on the horizon, no big decisions to make, everything seems to be rocking along. Then, out of the blue, something happens in five minutes, your world is turned upside down, you have to make some instant decisions. Your emotions are ...
Views: 1281(1 vote) - BOYZ, GUYZ, MEN~ - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoWill your partner make a good Dad? You have amazing sex. You're physically compatible. You have great dates. Each time you're, well, intimate, you're reminded of how great you are together. But is that all there is? What if you're not alone? What if – even if you took precautions – you end up ...
Views: 1596(1 vote) - Break or Breakup? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachBreak or Breakup? I recently had a discussion with a couple of friends about the controversy of “taking a break” from a relationship that may be heading south. It seemed that the consensus was if it was basically meant to be you wouldn’t need a break. “If someone wants a break, it is ...
Views: 1499(2 votes) - Breaking Up Tips - The End of Dating or Love - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2009 from Bob PiersonBreaking up a relationship is always going to be tough and is never fun but with some Breaking Up Tips you can make the process a little more bearable and smooth for the both of you. Breaking up is usually the result of coming to the realization that the other person is just “not the one” or ...
Views: 880(3 votes) - Breaking Your Relationship Pattern, Part 3 - by Do you want to put to rest the people and situations from your past so they do not interfere with your current and future relationships?
I bet you said yes. Who doesn't have something in their past they want to put to rest? Then let's talk about what action steps you can take to create the ...
Views: 2100(1 vote) - Breaking Your Relationship Pattern, Part 4 - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2002 from Love Coach RinattaFinally, after all of the hard work you have done completing your past, here is a way to break your relationship pattern. Relationship choices are often based on patterns created in our childhood. These patterns are automatic and subliminal. We believe ours is the way relationships ought to be. ...
Views: 5523(1 vote) - Broken Promises - A Five-Step Plan to Get Your Husband to Keep His Agreements - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2010 from Laurie WeissAre you a woman who has moments when you sometimes want to murder your loving husband because he agrees to do everything you ask him to do and then somehow never seems to get it done? It's even more frustrating when you gather your courage to talk to him once more, and he promises he'll ...
Views: 9204(1 vote) - Building Intimacy With Your Network - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2010 from Max-Marc FossouoIf you want to create a really dynamite network, you have to really follow through when you say, “I’d like to get to know you.” From my previous post (Make Yourself Unforgettable) I’ve shared the idea stating that each person we meet up with or get introduce to represent a doorway to ...
Views: 1335(2 votes) - Building Trust - The Foundation of a Healthy Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2013 from Noreen RuthBusiness associate, friend, family or lover - all relationships are built on the foundation of trust. And just like the foundation of your home, trust is built over time, going through multiple processes before it is strong enough to handle the stress of all that sits on top of it. Cultivate ...
Views: 4491(2 votes) - Can A Separation Save Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2013 from Lee BaucomIn the past few days, Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones announced they are separating. Reportedly, the reason for the separation is to “take some time apart and work on themselves.” The 13 year marriage has endured Douglas’ throat cancer and Zeta-Jones’ diagnosis of suffering from ...
Views: 2034(1 vote) - Can I Stop My Divorce? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2011 from Nea Joy JusticeCan I stop my divorce? I’m sorry you’re in a predicament that leads you to ask this question, but you’re not alone. In the United States, more than 50% of brides and grooms give up on living happily ever after. Instead of renewing vows and growing old together, their marriages end in divorce. ...
Views: 1657(3 votes) - Can You Walk the Six Steps for Your Marriage Counseling Journey? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamThe Six Steps of ‘Save Your Relationship’ Marriage Counseling Guide Six steps of my Marriage Counseling processes are reviewed; the various qualities of being a marriage counselor, a psychologist, a life coach and a relationship advice provider are outlined. Step # 1: I ask to speak loud ...
Views: 2700(1 vote) - Capricorn Women Compatibility - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2010 from Annie SherwoodThe Capricorn woman is a strong, hard working woman who is as practical as she is realistic. This woman is very determined and ambitious. She doesn't let anything stand in her way. A Capricorn woman only takes risks when she absolutely has to, and she never takes them without first doing a lot ...
Views: 2458(1 vote) - Celebrate the Week of Love - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2012 from Sarah AshlinThe month of February is the most romantic month of the year. As on 14th of February, the entire world celebrates Valentine's Day, the entire week, i.e., 7th of February to 14t February is celebrated as the valentine's week. This is the perfect time for the lovebirds or say, the couples to ...
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