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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- No benefits- all friends? - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Maryanne ComarotoIt’s that time of year. Spring has sprung and the fever pitch is HIGH! No more bundling up your chakras, you say, it’s time for some “sex on the beach”! A few spring fling tips: 1) Pay attention (pay now or pay later); 2) Think it through. Make sure the good outweighs any potential side ...
Views: 1392(3 votes) - Overcoming Fear of Commitment and Creating a Long-Lasting, Healthy, Happy Partnership - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2011 from Allura JoySo how do you feel about the “C” word? – no, not THAT one. I’m talking about commitment. It is one thing to choose to date someone exclusively, as you both may agree to be monogamous and fully committed to one another – until you get bored with it and move on to someone else. But to level up and ...
Views: 2786(3 votes) - Pouring ‘Cold’ Water - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeHave you ever poured ‘cold water’ over somebody else’s happiness? In a literal translation from the Chinese language, ‘pouring cold water’ means dousing the flames of passion. This usually happens when the opposite party is feeling elated about a new love, promotion or business deal, and ...
Views: 833(3 votes) - Relationship Advice - Handling Things and Getting By - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2011 from Sarah Anand AnmaThe longer I love, the more I see how universally beneficial it is to give someone the dignity of their own experience. I have so many examples where, when I allowed someone to do what they needed to do-no matter how much I thought I knew the solution to their problem - they always seemed to ...
Views: 1709(3 votes) - Relationships: What Does A Relationship Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is no doubting the importance that relationships have in life. They have the power to create incredible happiness, meaning and fulfilment. And they also have the power to create extreme unhappiness, pain and emptiness. For some people, the good that a relationship brings, outweighs the ...
Views: 1864(3 votes) - Relationships: What Others Love & Remember Most About Us - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Krystal KuehnPeople will forget what you did; people will forget what you said; but they won’t forget the way you made them feel. ~unknown We all love to be around people who make us feel good. They may make us laugh and not take life too seriously. Their attitude and perspective may encourage us. They ...
Views: 1712(3 votes) - Release the Pressure - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from Julie FarhaWe are so intense about our relationships that it sometimes feels like we’re in a pressure cooker! Here are a few suggestions to release the pressure, remember what is real and enjoy your relationships more. • Have more fun. Go for a drive. Take a walk or a hike. Cook a meal together. Watch ...
Views: 1430(3 votes) - Secrets to Getting Along with Cancer, Leo and Virgo - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2010 from Christofer FrenchAstroMagnetism As a student of Astrology since 1975, I have listened to all the party talk about this sign and that sign and what they seem to be like. Of course, most people are talking about their particular Cancer, their most beloved buddy - Leo, or their hated parent - Virgo. When you ...
Views: 8585(3 votes) - Sex Whys Versus Relationship Why - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2009 from Jan DeniseINSIDE RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, OCTOBER 16, 2009 Sex Whys Versus Relationship Why Despite all our science, many men still talk about what women want as though it's beyond their comprehension. In light of new research, perhaps some of it's because men confuse what ...
Views: 1391(3 votes) - Slow Down! Enjoy More - by Submitted on May 10, 2010 from Susan DerryWe live in a fast paced world particularly in the western hemisphere. There is a song, “I’m in a Hurry” by Alabama that aptly describes many of our lives: “I'm in a hurry to get things done Oh I rush and rush until life's no fun All I really gotta do is live and die But I'm in a hurry and ...
Views: 2099(3 votes) - Steps To Reconcile With Ex Boyfriend Or Girlfriend After Breakup - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from Jason OrbanAre you interested in with your ex after a recent break up? Can I ask you this tough question - How are you feeling after just recently breaking up with your ex? Getting back together or reconciling with an ex after a breakup is very possible if your determined to put an effort fourth too make ...
Views: 14928(3 votes) - Talk to a woman - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2011 from R. Paul ElliottTo talk to a woman seems to be one of the most written about subjects in the world. Also other parallel subjects such as, how to meet women, how to talk to girls, countless articles about strategies and plans for getting dates, seduction tips and it seems the list goes on forever. Shades of ...
Views: 1188(3 votes) - The Art of Intimacy - Part Two - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Guy RussellHaving a close relationship with the love of your life is both easy and challenging. If you start off your relationship being close it is much easier to continue this as your relationship grows, but it is never too late to get closer. A key element of a happy and rewarding relationship is ...
Views: 1091(3 votes) - The Greatest Reason Why Marriages Struggle To Recover From Problems - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2010 from Greg BakerEvery couple will have their ups and downs. But more and more marriages struggle to recover from problems, issues, and difficulties. Many marriages survive these problems, but they don’t recover. They are like a volcano sealed with a plastic lid. It won’t hold. It will explode. But why? ...
Views: 3042(3 votes) - Turn Regret Into a Positive Emotion - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2011 from Lori Anne ChanceWe all have something we’ve regretted doing – or not doing – in our past. From passing up a fantastic career opportunity to hurting someone’s feelings, experiencing regret is a way for us to learn. It’s part of being human. In the past, researchers identified that the two largest areas of ...
Views: 6786(3 votes) - What's love got to do with it? part3: "We must grow." - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2011 from Eric LittleHey! I know it's a truly a stretch to establish real conversation beyond the superficial as it relates to love and relationships. I will passionately press this topic as far as I must to offer a helpful contribution to the conversation. To those that may be following this conversation I thank ...
Views: 1427(3 votes) - When Relationships Hit a Rough Patch - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2011 from Jonathon AslayThe evening was planned a week ago. Romantic dinner, tickets to see your favorite band in concert, just a night of fun with the man you love. But in what seemed a moment of time everything changed. Oh, you still had the dinner and tickets, but what you didn’t see coming was the temperature ...
Views: 5390(3 votes) - Why Good Communication is More Important than Ever Now - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2009 from Patrick IwobiDo you talk to your partner? When is the last time you had a conversation about something more significant than what to have for dinner or who needs to pick up the kids after school? In most marriages, the answers are not going to be reassuring. We’ve all heard experts talk about the importance ...
Views: 1693(6 votes) - ***The Risks of On-Line Dating - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The on-line scams are numerous and recurring. Most of them cost you money. And worse! Just today, someone co-opted a friend of ours by using a fake email address similar to his and sending it to a zillion people asking them to wire him money. ...
Views: 3513(44 votes) - 3 Blaring Signs Your Ex Wants You Back - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2010 from Andrew HunterBreaking up is not something I wish upon anyone, even my worst nemesis. It can cause you to have all sorts of emotions. It happens a lot to people, wanting to know if your ex wants you back or having second thoughts about you. Especially if you there weren't any signs of a breakup. These clues ...
Views: 7901(8 votes) - Conflicted about a Conflict? - Tip for the Day: How to Bridge the Gap and Not Jump Off the Bridge - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2010 from Patricia ClappOne of my email buddies wrote about something very interesting this morning that gave me yet, another morning coffee AHA moment that I would love to share with you. Just as I had referred to that annoying voice inside our heads in my last blog, how do we stifle the real life of the whiners or ...
Views: 1750(8 votes) - Natural Relationships - by Submitted on May 04, 2010 from Radomir SamardzicIn the last few years since I’ve been selling The Relationship Saver and coaching people in their relationships, I have come to see an interesting trend in age-old beliefs and behaviors taken for granted, never questioning whether they work or if there is a better way to do things. Namely, there ...
Views: 1960(8 votes) - She Will Fall in Love With You - But You Have to Know How to Make Her Feel That Way - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2010 from Chris TylerSo, you've met or know a woman that you just cannot seem to get out of your mind. Everywhere you go and everything that you do, you find yourself drifting back to thoughts of her. You want to be able to make her fall in love. You want her to say that she feels the same way about you. Feeling ...
Views: 1421(8 votes) - The Secret to Love that Lasts - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2010 from Katherine ShinaultRelationships I can talk about relationships all day and they don’t have to be romantic; all relationships in our lives are important and worth evaluating to make them better. With this thought in the back of my mind, I recently read a blogpost, “The Key to Lasting Love May Surprise You,” ...
Views: 1359(8 votes) - Why Every Married Couple Ought To Date - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Greg BakerFor some reason, many couples find that much of the intrigue and interest in their relationship dwindled after marriage. One reason may be that the effort of pursuit and being pursued as evidenced by dating is no longer a part of the couples’ lives. Dating, at least once a week, will renew the ...
Views: 2267(8 votes) - ***The Truth about Dating, Single Men and Strong, Independent Women - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerAre you a single woman over 40 who is smart, independent and thinking there are no good men out there? I hope you don’t mind my saying this: you are wrong. As a dating and relationship coach – and a woman who was a first‑time bride at 47 – I’m quite aware of what we tell ourselves: Men ...
Views: 4766(5 votes) - ***Why Do Men Change After Sex? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2009 from Margaret Paul"Why do men so often change after sex?" asked Shelley in our first phone session. "Tell me what you mean by this. What has been your experience?" I asked her."I meet a guy who I like. We are very attracted to each other - lots of great chemistry. It doesn't take long ...
Views: 10265(5 votes) - ***Why Do Women Like Players? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.It’s often asked to me why women like Jerks, Badboys, and Players, and while I teach that much of the reason rests in the fact that to the brain, arousal due to danger and threats can be easily confused with arousal due to sexual appeal, there is a bit of a difference between a guy who is a ...
Views: 10531(5 votes) - 5 Things to Never Say to a Woman - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Lisa DailyIf you’ve ever said something you considered to be completely innocent, only to have your wife or girlfriend flip out, you may have stumbled on to one of these taboo topics: 1) “Relax” You may think you’re being helpful, but to us, it feels like you’re being dismissive of how we’re feeling — ...
Views: 2260(10 votes) - A Sure Marriage-Killer: The War Between the Sexes - by Submitted on May 06, 2010 from Noelle NelsonYou glare at your husband over the kitchen table, the family checkbook held hostage between you. “Dryer!” you snap. “Carburetor!” he retorts. “Pay down credit cards!” you demand. “Put away for savings!” he insists. And it’s like this all the time. It’s not just that you can’t seem to agree on ...
Views: 1462(5 votes) - Are You Missing This Essential Attraction Secret? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2011 from Kara OhHow attractive you are on the outside is what gets his attention. But how attractive you are on the inside is what keeps him coming back for more. When you’re positive, kind, appreciative and gracious, your energy glows and that’s what he will begin to crave. At the core of the energy you ...
Views: 1905(5 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why this compulsion to cheat? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm looking at myself and asking the question, "Why this compulsion to cheat?" What will it take to keep my eye from wandering around? I'm divorced, technically, but trying to make amends with the ex. I love my kids, and an absentee father just doesn't fit my taste. I'd ...
Views: 2794(5 votes) - Dr. Romance: Stop Reacting and Start Relating - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Richard and I will celebrate our 28th anniversary next month, and we agree there’s no better delight than sharing life with a loving partner, when you get along as well as we do. Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage is all ...
Views: 1678(5 votes) - Get over an ex by Rosemary Price Psychic - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomGet over an ex by Rosemary Price psychic. Your ex has decided to finish your relationship. How to get over an ex?! While things were going well you were happy or at least content and you probably had no idea that things would turn out so badly. Either your partner changed and there was no way ...
Views: 1754(5 votes) - How Your Differences Can Make You Closer - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2010 from Kara OhYour relationship cannot be as close as you’d like it to be if you’re not willing to shift your attitude about your differences, i.e. what causes the friction between you. In the beginning, you probably thought his differences were cute, adorable, enchanting even. As you became more familiar, ...
Views: 2220(5 votes) - Invest Yourself - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2009 from Charles LutzWhen life is complete, what is the legacy you want to leave behind? One of policy, plans, procedures and rules? Or, do you want a to leave a legacy that represents your true self? If your answer is the latter, then read on. At home, work, or play - if you want to leave a legacy that is of true ...
Views: 1296(5 votes) - The Love Language of a Man - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2011 from Jonathon AslayAs a Relationship Confidant, I frequently get asked questions that could be issues of concern for many re-entering the dating scene. One gal was distraught over the lack of appreciation she felt from her man due to his memory loss when it came to special anniversary dates. She also felt he ...
Views: 7565(5 votes) - Tips for Attracting Your Soul Mate - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2011 from Beata KulitskayaI’m no philosopher but I am a good observer. And in my 15-years as a Feng Shui consultant, I have met many clients anxious to find their soul mate. When I ask what approach they have taken, I get the usual answer. “My friends try to play Cupid for me.” “I joined an internet dating site.” ...
Views: 5356(5 votes) - After the Breakup: The Do’s and Don'ts of Dealing with Your Ex - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2009 from Lisa SteadmanEveryone knows breaking up is hard to do. But staying in contact with your ex following a breakup? That's where things get really tricky. By remaining in each other's lives, you run the risk of a post-breakup rendezvous, holding onto feelings for your ex, and in general delaying your ability to ...
Views: 12471(12 votes) - Bring Your Self to Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciBring Your Self to Your Relationship It is a phenomenon when we feel energized, connected, and alive past the infatuation stage of our relationship. At the beginning, we fall in love. We feel euphoric, on top of the world, passionate, sexy, wanted, lustful, etc. This stage lasts and can be ...
Views: 2184(12 votes) - True Love, Chemistry, and Other Confusing Love Life Issues—7 tips - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from Scott & Stephen PetulloIn the 1980s we believed that anything was possible for anyone involving love relationships. Many best-selling books say the same thing, even that the ideal love life, anything you want, is “your birthright,” and all you need to do is follow their advice to fulfill your dreams. Since then, ...
Views: 1897(12 votes) - ***Relationship Stress - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2009 from Jim ManganielloRelationship stress can be a huge source of misery and health problems. Studies show, for example, that marital stress and dissatisfaction go hand in hand with depression and heart trouble for both men and women. In one study, University of Pittsburgh researchers studied 500 middle-aged ...
Views: 2162(7 votes) - Breakup Avoidance in Three Easy Steps - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2010 from Andrew HunterEven when a breakup is warranted, it can be messy and painful. Things often are said that are later rued, and both people usually are hurt. Breakups rarely leave friendly relationships in their wake - the residue of a breakup can be every bit as acrimonious as that of a nasty divorce. Breakups ...
Views: 3761(7 votes) - Is He Mr. Right? Or Mr. Right Now? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Lisa DailyWe’ve all done it. We’re smack in the middle of a ho-hum, so-so, not going anywhere relationship. But, we don’t break up. We stay. We go out for linguini and clams every Friday night, have a sleepover every Saturday night, and continue on as though we might actually want to be with this ...
Views: 1968(15 votes) - Relationship Advice For Women: How To Keep Your Man Happy And Longing For You - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2010 from Michael LeeAre you in need of relationship advice for women? Then you’ve come to the right place. I have assembled some of the most important tips women need to hear, especially if they are in a relationship. If you’re ready to take some proven relationship advice for women, read on. Relationship ...
Views: 3949(15 votes) - Are You Giving More and Enjoying it Less? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2011 from JoAnne Ceccarelli-EganSince I was a child I have worn a red cape and enjoyed the experience. It was not until recently that I realized in order to wear the cape; I had to be an “enabler” and put the needs of others before my own. It all started innocently enough. According to the Myers Briggs Personality Test, I am ...
Views: 1282(2 votes) - *** Emotional Dependency vs. Emotional Freedom - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhat is Emotional Dependency?Lydia consulted with me because her relationship with her husband, Andrew, was falling apart. Andrew had moved out, stating that he could no longer tolerate Lydia's neediness and constant pull on him to make her feel loved and secure. Now that they were separated, ...
Views: 7671(6 votes) - *** Relationship Help: 5 Essentials to Keep Your Relationship Fresh - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2009 from Richard NicastroAnyone who is married or in a long-term committed relationship comes to realize that at some point there is a danger of falling into a lifeless routine. The vast number of marriage advice and relationship help books is a clear indication that couples are eagerly searching for ways to head off ...
Views: 1338(4 votes) - *** Relationships: Giving Yourself Up Can Kill You - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2009 from Margaret PaulYears ago, when on a book tour for our book, "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?", my ex-husband and I had dinner with a couple on the East Coast with whom he had become friends. I connected with Allison (not her real name) immediately. Warm and open, I could see that she was ...
Views: 5649(8 votes) - ***A Problem with Today's Parenting - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2011 from Margaret PaulThere was an interesting article in The Atlantic, entitled "How to Land Your Kid in Therapy: Why the obsession with our kids' happiness may be dooming them to unhappy adulthoods. A therapist and mother ...
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