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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- The Secret to a Successful Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Albert GaroliHuman Relationships can be enlightening and supporting but can also cause drama and trauma. This is also and especially the case of male-female relationships. You can see such a relationship as a special kind of interaction where two different physiologies and two different biological strategies ...
Views: 3089(10 votes) - The Secret to a Successful Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Albert GaroliHuman Relationships can be enlightening and supporting but can also cause drama and trauma. This is also and especially the case of male-female relationships. You can see such a relationship as a special kind of interaction where two different physiologies and two different biological strategies ...
Views: 3089(10 votes) - Want to Achieve Greater Happiness? Research Reveals Happiness Is a Team Sport - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2010 from Terry CrosbyIf you believe that greater happiness is something you can achieve on your own, think again. In his groundbreaking A Primer in Positive Psychology, Chris Peterson summarizes positive psychology in three words: "Other people matter." Happiness resides in the individual, in one-on-one ...
Views: 6902(10 votes) - The Main Causes of Your Irrational Anger - by Submitted on May 12, 2010 from Greg BakerPeople often get angry and many times they don't even know why they get angry. As a counselor, I've dealt with many people who are genuinely puzzled why they got so angry. Have you ever gotten angry over something small, stupid, or just plain silly? Have you ever sat down later and felt ...
Views: 14070(3 votes) - *** Communication Clinic: 5 Ways to Get Your Husband to Listen - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2009 from Richard NicastroWhat motivates someone to listen to another person? Understanding this question will help you work toward more effective listening in your own marriage or relationship. 1. Clear message, favorable outcome Clearly communicating your needs is the foundation of effective communication and a ...
Views: 2350(6 votes) - *** It's All About Love! - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhat is life REALLY all about? It's all about love! But what does this mean? Most people, when thinking about love, think about BEING LOVED. But, as an adult, the deeper soul's journey is not about being loved - it is about BEING LOVING. For small children, the main focus is on being loved, ...
Views: 3773(3 votes) - *** Marriage Advice: Turning Conflict into Opportunities - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Richard Nicastro"I really hate it when we argue…but I've also learned so much about my husband from our fights and we have a stronger relationship now." ~Sandra, married seven years Even the most effective communicators get into spats now and then. And despite your best efforts at marital bliss, you and your ...
Views: 1727(3 votes) - *** Relationships: The Dance of Victims and Perpetrators - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2009 from Margaret Paul"He is always blaming me for the bad things that happen in his life, and then he tells me it's my controlling him that is making him so angry. He yells at me and puts me down rather than deal with his own feelings. How can I get him to see that he is the one trying to control me? How can I ...
Views: 4127(6 votes) - ***He's Probably Not Emotionally Unavailable After All: Beware Of Mislabeling - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Katarina PhangFreedom, separation, aggression, conquest, goal seeking and sex are the basic nature of testosterone. You’ve seen how many wars and conquests have been waged by men since the beginning of time. That’s the side effect of testosterone. It has also contributed to so much magnificence in the ...
Views: 18856(3 votes) - ***Is Neediness Part of a Healthy Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2011 from Dr. Neill NeillAs you contemplate entering a committed relationship, the greater your neediness, or his, the more likely codependency, dysfunction and disappointment will follow. Focus on what you want, not on what you need. I once knew a woman who as a teen dated a man in his twenties. He had a strong need ...
Views: 1821(3 votes) - ***Is Your Prince Charming The Right Guy to Marry? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We all know the Cinderella Story. For sure, it is a wonderful story worth telling and re-telling. The story does indeed warm the heart, lift the spirit, and it gives all young women the hope that they will find true love for a lifetime. The ...
Views: 1886(9 votes) - ***Let's Agree to Face Our Fear - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerDo you go month to month, year to year, repeating the same mantra about men? It leaves your mouth in various forms, but you’ve got only one point: to release yourself from any responsibility and keep you safe and snug-as-a-bug-in-a-rug without the worry of that pesky intimacy thing. "There ...
Views: 1712(6 votes) - ***Managing Expectations Goes A Long Way In Keeping Your Man Attracted To You - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Katarina PhangMen have a love-hate relationship with their mothers. They love their moms to death, yet they loath the feeling of being mothered (i.e. being told what to do/not to do). Now they are adults and live on their own, they don't need another woman -and much younger at that- replacing their mother's ...
Views: 12551(3 votes) - ***Why Less Is More In Dating Emotionally Unavailable Men - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2017 from Katarina PhangThe key of dating an emotionally unavailable man who wants to take things slow is to let him set the pace. Expect that he will go hot and cold. Mirror him in everything he does. When he's hot, reciprocate that, this is your time to establish bonding. When he's cold, also keep a distance. ...
Views: 32842(3 votes) - 3 Easy Ways To Having A Meaningful Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2011 from Lisa PhillipsDo you want to know how to take charge and stay in a loving relationship? In today’s world everything is so fast paced that we tend to have short and shallow relationships with others. It can be very difficult to stay in a dedicated relationship when most people have such short attention spans. ...
Views: 1814(3 votes) - 3 Ways to Determine If He Is Cheating - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2010 from Andrew HunterWhile human beings live on the planet earth, you will see cheaters in our midst. It may not be right, nonetheless it is a sad truth. Say you guess that you may not be the sole woman involved in your man's world, listed here are a number of clues he is sneaking around behind your ...
Views: 1208(3 votes) - 4 Signs of Emotionally Unavailable Men - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2012 from Marni BattistaAre you frustrated by your "broken picker?" Learn how to navigate the tricky space between picky and selective using these four tips! If you are sick of attracting men who are emotionally unavailable, it's not because you have a "broken picker!" More likely, you are not listening to what he ...
Views: 4211(3 votes) - 5 Personality Types of Women and How To Attract Them - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2016 from Chris ChandraIf you don’t have much experience in the dating field you might make the mistake of believing all women have the same personality types and treat them the same way. Or You might already know that you have to treat different personality types with a unique approach but not know what those ...
Views: 8144(3 votes) - 5 Ways To Show Appreciation In Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Rachel MohebanI’ve met so many couples whose main relationship complaint boils down to not feeling appreciated by their partner. It’s so easy to take each other for granted and to get caught up in a pattern of not expressing your appreciation of each other. So what can you do to really let your partner ...
Views: 5397(6 votes) - 7 Factors That Influence the Quality and Life-Span of Romantic Relationships and Marriage - by Submitted on May 23, 2009 from Ismini ApostoliWhen most adults embark upon a new romantic relationship, they do so with the best intentions in mind. Yet most romantic relationships usually fail within the first three months, others break down within the first year and some that last longer and even lead to marriage create more pain than ...
Views: 8245(3 votes) - 8 Choices That Will Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2012 from Susan DerryThe state of our lives and our relationships are the result of our seemingly small everyday choices. If for some reason we are unhappy with our relationship or our life, the best place to begin is to consider the choices that we have been making. William James said, “Human beings, by changing ...
Views: 2159(3 votes) - An Angel in Disguise - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2011 from Tim ReynoldsHave you ever had something happen to you that was so bad it made you feel worn down? For me, that event was my first marriage. It was a nightmare. To be honest, I married a guy I should never have married. Even on our wedding day, I felt it wasn’t right. But I walked down the aisle ...
Views: 1573(3 votes) - Aren’t Gardens And Relationships The Same? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2009 from Dan OhlerYahoo, it’s spring! It’s a great time to focus on the garden – and relationships. They are the same, aren’t they? Imagine this… As the grass began to grow, I knew it was time to connect with nature and get our garden ready for another productive year. It was fun to work in the garden ...
Views: 3231(3 votes) - Astrology - How Can Couples Work As Individuals? - The Triad of Sun, Moon And Rising - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2010 from Christofer FrenchFrom Aries to Pisces Ego - Outer Personality - Interior Self - The Triad of Understanding Astrology can get complex. I personally have 3 yods. Do you even know what a yod is? Take all the planets, spin them around, thrown in major asteroids that have been out there for aeons. Don't forget ...
Views: 2109(3 votes) - Attracting Your Soulmate - 10 Top Ways - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2010 from Maryann CanditoAttracting your soulmate doesn't have to be for the lucky ones. You can deliberately create an ideal relationship with the partner of your dreams. Over the years, by working on myself and with clients through law of attraction coaching, I have discovered my own magical formula to help you ...
Views: 3223(3 votes) - Building Trust in Your Relationship Using these 7 Critical Steps - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2010 from Helena JacksonThese 7 steps to building relationships are critical to couples looking for long-term love and partnership. However, some of these tips are not what most of us think of first! These deceptively simple steps are most effective in improving and maintaining your trust and connection together in ...
Views: 1542(3 votes) - Can Opposites Be Compatible? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2011 from Jay LindsayMary, a young wife, sat in my office looking at me with a hopeless expression. "We're just too different," she said. "We don't get along... and we never will." Her husband Tom nodded solemnly. "Yes, we're complete opposites. We clash constantly. We're incompatible, and I don't see that ...
Views: 993(3 votes) - Can You Find True Love? - by Submitted on May 11, 2011 from Leah FriedmanMost young Americans dream of finding true love, getting married and living happily ever after. But the alarming divorce and domestic violence statistics tell a different story. Some statistics show that 49% of all marriages end in divorce and every 15 seconds a woman is severely assaulted by a ...
Views: 1117(3 votes) - Dating After Divorce - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2020 from Randi FredricksMost of us found dating difficult prior to getting married, and it isn’t generally any simpler after divorce. Everybody has baggage, but divorced people frequently have a tendency to carry much more of it, particularly when they’re just coming back towards the dating scene. This is one of the ...
Views: 1584(3 votes) - Dealing With Heartbreak - Some Time-tested Methods - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2010 from Andrew HunterYou can't believe she dumped you - and took with her your reason for living. Unhappy and disillusioned, you can't seem to find anything to focus on, to give yourself direction. You likely can't think of any feeling worse than what you're going through now, but as time goes by, that feeling will ...
Views: 5319(3 votes) - Dealing With Other People's Anger - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2010 from Greg BakerThere is a very revealing verse in the Bible that helps define the psychology of an angry person. Proverbs 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: The warning is very poignant. Angry people are exceptionally difficult to deal with. But for many ...
Views: 4300(3 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: Guidelines for Relating with Love - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2012 from Tina TessinaClick here to view the video. A good marriage can be the most precious thing in your life, and bring you lasting comfort and joy. There's nothing better than a long-lasting, solid, loving relationship you can count on. Dr. Romance shows you how to open up the love and joy in your ...
Views: 1848(3 votes) - Dr. Romance: Why am I assumed to be a cougar good for only one thing? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a single woman in my late 40's. I've had several serious relationships, but unfortunately, although I lived with a couple of them, I've never been married. I have a minor physical disability, a stomach condition, but I am attractive, I look younger than I am, I'm well ...
Views: 2426(6 votes) - Empowering Yourself With the Law of Attraction and Attract Love This Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2011 from Nanette GeigerSometimes I'm not sure which is more difficult: attracting an available, compatible lover, or dealing with the difficulties of staying on the path of persisting love. Here lies the problem. Let me explain. The world is designed on a physical level to manifest more experiences into your life ...
Views: 1960(3 votes) - Five Steps to Loving Yourself..... Then Love Everyone Else - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2012 from sherrie campbellWhy is it that so many of us put ourselves second? Why is it that we often sacrifice what is good for us to make someone else happy, and why is it such a difficult transition to start putting ourselves first? I see this issue not only every day in my office but also at times in my own life. Of ...
Views: 1591(3 votes) - For Women Only: How to Have the Relationship of Your Dreams - by Submitted on May 11, 2010 from MONICA FRANKIf women could just change one thing, they would find that they could have almost everything they want in a relationship. Of course, I'm talking about women who are married to the average decent non-abusive man. I don't know how often I've heard a woman say, "But I shouldn't have to ask." ...
Views: 1338(3 votes) - Getting Past Emotional Pain - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraAll of us have been emotionally hurt at one time or another—it doesn’t matter who and what you are, really. However, there are also people who seem so totally unreceptive to emotional pain. These are the type who doesn’t give a smack when someone tries to get close to them with a bit of an ...
Views: 4619(3 votes) - Hoping You Will Get Back Together after the Breakup? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2009 from Intent.com Authors“Just get over it!” “Get past it!” These commonly-given and common-sense responses to our breakup experience just don’t help for some of us. There are many reasons why we are not open to moving on after a heart break (usually in this case we are the Break-ee as opposed to the Break-er; ...
Views: 4441(3 votes) - How Anxiety Disorders Affect Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2016 from Randi FredricksAlmost all relationships experience a certain level of difficulties. However, when one of the partners has a psychiatric disorder, such as an anxiety disorder, the relationship will have new challenges, and their previous problems can be worsened. Each has shown that people suffering from ...
Views: 1736(3 votes) - How Could This Be About Me? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Keith and Maura Leon - Relationship Specialists, Best Selling Authors, Master Relationship Coaches and TrainersDear Keith and Maura, I just found your website and podcasts yesterday and they totally resonate with me. I am a very active youthful 55. I was widowed suddenly at 32 with 2 babies. My soulmate died and I was lost and devastated. I banged around for 10 years raising my boys, working and ...
Views: 1534(3 votes) - How Self esteem affects your relationships - by Submitted on May 11, 2010 from Dr. Mama LovePeople with high self esteem are more likely to succeed in life and be able to find happiness. They have learned to value themselves. self esteem and self confidence go together and is found to be a turn on. People will find it very sexy. When we value ourselves we will also become successful in ...
Views: 1434(3 votes) - How to Get Your Husband into Couples Counseling - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2009 from Mark KauppHow to Get Your Husband into Couples Counseling by Dr. Mark A. Kaupp, MFT Although there is a slight change in the trend, women are the primary initiators of counseling. Perhaps it's because, in our culture, women are raised to be responsible for relationships. Or maybe it's because men see ...
Views: 1492(3 votes) - How to Heal a Rift with an Adult Child - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2013 from Tina TessinaFrequently I help my clients work through problems with their grown children. Sometimes, an offspring is angry about something, and the parent is at a loss for what is wrong or what to do about it. These struggles often have their seeds in things that happened long ago, when the child was young. ...
Views: 2665(3 votes) - How to Stop Fighting in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2009 from Love Coach RinattaIs fighting a problem in your relationship or marriage? Fighting is a very serious problem for many couples. The good news is that I am about to help you solve it permanently. First you have to understanding that you should not fight at all, with anyone. I don’t mean you should not disagree ...
Views: 16387(3 votes) - Hurt People Hurt People - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Ken FieldsPeople who are hurt, specifically in an emotional or psychological sense, tend to hurt other people. Hurt people can hurt people with harsh words, biting comments, derogatory statements, ridicule, condescension, sarcasm, yelling and screaming, cussing and innuendo about family members or ...
Views: 4294(3 votes) - I'd Rather Stay Single than be A Home Wrecker - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2011 from Grace AbonilloBeing a single mother, most of us happen to have a hard time getting into a serious relationship. Almost all the time it always ends up to a short lived love affair. There are some men who thought that when you are a single mother, you are that desperate to have a relationship and most likely ...
Views: 2687(3 votes) - Intentional Aligning and Creating Your Life Making use of Law of Attraction - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2011 from Nanette GeigerWhat does aligning energy even mean? And How do I do it? I keep in mind I initial heard the phraseology "energetic equivalent" numerous years ago and couldn't really figure out what the speaker meant. I by no means ended up discovering out what the idea meant mainly because I thought ...
Views: 1240(3 votes) - Love and Law of Attraction: How loving Myself (Finally!) Got Me the Relationship of My Dreams - by Submitted on May 09, 2012 from Vania Dimitian"I am so miserable! I am just SO MISERABLE!!" These were the kind of thoughts and feelings I would have on a regualar basis, especially after getting married. Let me take you back a little to give you a clearer picture of my situation. I pretty much came out of my mother's womb a shy and ...
Views: 4994(3 votes) - Love and Relationship Quotes - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2010 from Nea Joy Justice“True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked.” ~Erich Segal “Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.” ~Antoine de Saint-Exupery “Some of the biggest challenges in relationships ...
Views: 6251(3 votes) - Marriage advice: Why love is not enough--does your partner still like you? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2009 from Richard NicastroWhy is it that we have no problem lounging around in our favorite sweatpants (with the hole in the knee) and our favorite threadbare T-shirt (with the rip in the sleeve) in front of our spouse/partner, but if our friends/co-workers were on the way over, we'd change into something "decent" in a ...
Views: 1373(3 votes) - Marriage help: Are your arguments helping or hurting your marriage? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Richard NicastroQ: "I need some marriage advice. Is arguing bad for a marriage? My husband says it's healthy to argue from time to time but I try to avoid marital conflict at all costs. Can you shed some light on this for us?" A: Relationship conflicts are a natural part of marriage or a long-term ...
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