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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Don't Defeat Yourself With Negative Manipulation - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2010 from Bob LancerWhen you use feelings of disappointment to manipulate someone into giving you your way, you program yourself to relate with your experience as a defeat. This costs you your freedom. There is really nothing wrong with your situation. The present offers you every opportunity. But you bind ...
Views: 3235(1 vote) - Don't Drown Trying to Save Others - by Submitted on May 06, 2016 from Julie DohertyEach of us have people in our lives that just seem to Struggle with Life. Everything that can go wrong does. Because you are a caring person feelings of sadness, sympathy and an eagerness to help come over you. How can you help, what can you do? These people can be friends, work ...
Views: 1992(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: "The Nail in the Fence: Healing Wounds" - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2010 from Tina TessinaThis arrived in Dr. Romance 's e-mail: “There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the ...
Views: 2062(1 vote) - Dr. Romance's 10 Behaviors to Enhance Your Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2014 from Tina TessinaWant to make sure your relationship is a success? Here are ten ways to bring the sparkle back and keep it going. Dr. Romance's 10 Behaviors to Enhance Your Marriage 1. Talk frequently and honestly to each other --about your frustrations, about sex, about anger, about disappointment, ...
Views: 1441(1 vote) - Dysfunctional Relationships Dynamics Part 1 - Power Struggle - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2011 from Robert Burney"In our disease defense system we build up huge walls to protect ourselves and then - as soon as we meet someone who will help us to repeat our patterns of abuse, abandonment, betrayal, and/or deprivation - we lower the drawbridge and invite them in. We, in our Codependence, have radar systems ...
Views: 2348(2 votes) - Embrace the art of self-care for increased self-regulation and resilience - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2020 from Emma ViglucciIt’s amazing how often I hear that people don’t have the time to do self-care… When their lives literally depend on it… I’m not sure if they look at self-care as a luxury – like having a spa day or laying on a chaise eating bonbons – that they shouldn’t have? But really, in this day and age to ...
Views: 813(1 vote) - Emotional Freedom Technique: Empowering Tool for Achieving Success in Everything! - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Ellen RichterMaybe by now you have heard the buzz about EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) but are not really sure what it is or what it’s used for. Emotional Freedom Technique is a simple, effective and powerful modality that is changing lives! It entails tapping on acupuncture meridian endpoints while ...
Views: 2668(4 votes) - Emotional Incest: Will He or She Change? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2009 from Margaret PaulSharon, one of the members of our website, emailed me asking me to write more on abuse, particularly covert incest. She was in the process of ending her 4-year marriage with her covertly abusive husband, who is emotionally incestuous with his adult daughter. "There is no physical involvement, ...
Views: 3921(1 vote) - Emotional Intimacy - by Emotional intimacy is not the same as sexual intimacy. Sexual intimacy can take place with or without emotional intimacy, and emotional intimacy often does not occur within any kind of sexual context.
Emotional intimacy is a psychological event that occurs when the trust level and ...
Views: 42423(6 votes) - Enlightened Relationships: Quality vs. Safe Problems - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2013 from Joeel A. RiveraLet’s face it, no relationship is perfect, and there’s always room for improvement. The relationship that stops growing, evolving, and developing will suffer the consequences: problems. It is important to realize that relationships are a partnership, a team, and cannot be dependent (long term) ...
Views: 2255(1 vote) - Even Ralph Kramden Used Self Talk - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2009 from Dr. Lyle Becourtney"Pins and needles, needles and pins; it's a happy man that grins." These classic words were made famous by Jackie Gleason in his role as Ralph Kramden in the 1950s TV sitcom, The Honeymooners. So why in the world was America's favorite bus driver so intent on repeating this phrase whenever he ...
Views: 3839(2 votes) - Every Behavior Has a Positive Intention - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Charles BenderWhy drilling down to a behavior's true purpose changes everything One of the most powerful NLP presuppositions is that every behavior has a positive intention. This does not imply that everything that a person does is 100 % positive - that would be utter denial of the truth - this presupposition ...
Views: 4290(1 vote) - Fair Fight Guidelines - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2012 from Tina TessinaThirty years of marriage counseling and twenty-five years of a second marriage have convinced me that fights are not necessary in a marriage. Married couples need to have discussions, they need to solve problems, and sometimes they need to disagree, but they don’t need to squabble, argue, ...
Views: 1877(3 votes) - Faith, Family, Friends - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Dr. LaVerne AdekunleThe Acceptable 3 F’s (Faith, Family, and Friends)” Our focus today should be faith, family, and friends. I want to emphasize the importance of all three because each increases the quality of your life. Find time out of your schedule for each priority of faith, family, and friends. These ...
Views: 7259(1 vote) - Find Out How To Save A Relationship That Is Falling Apart - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2011 from Andrew HunterLike you, relationships also have their good days and they bad days. However, too much bad days could be an indication that your relationship is in trouble. If you want to learn how to save a relationship that is falling apart, then read on and make use of these three effective ...
Views: 2565(1 vote) - Find Out If Your Friend Likes You In 5 Simple Steps - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2011 from Michael LeeThere are various ways to find out if your friend likes you. In this article, I'll share with you some of these subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) ways of getting to the bottom of things. Are you ready to find out if your friend likes you? Read on! Step 1: Say Something ...
Views: 2816(1 vote) - Five Steps to Snag Your Knight in Shining Armor - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2010 from Hannah KeeleyIs your marriage staler than a Moon Pie at the discount bakery outlet? I hear you, Mama. If you're staring at that man scratching his bee-hind and flipping through the TV stations and longing for your knight in shining armor, then you better think again. That IS your knight in shining armour. ...
Views: 1626(1 vote) - For the Love of Your Wife - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2010 from Aryana HudsonA couple happy and excited about the birth of their first child is a lovely reality however there are hidden traps that will no longer be hidden if they are examined ahead of time. This question will open that Pandora's box: If you had to choose between the life of your wife or the baby which ...
Views: 1900(1 vote) - Four Things Necessary for a Happy, Whole Love Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsMargaret Ruth, I am heart broken over my break up. What went wrong, we were so in love? Margaret Ruth, I have made so many mistakes in love. What do I need to be certain of a long term, happy marriage? Intimate love relationships can obviously be the most rewarding and the most painful to ...
Views: 1194(2 votes) - Fourteen Romantic "Time-Outs" for Parents - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2004 from Susie CortrightHere are fourteen spontaneous time-outs, specially designed to help you pay the small attentions that are so integral to lasting intimacy. Day One: Spend 15 minutes kissing. Many married couples report that the simple act of kissing is the first part of intimacy to disappear. Today, ...
Views: 1349(1 vote) - Friendship Day , Is Friendship is everything in your Life ? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2011 from rammanohar prasadThe concept of friendship day isn't new however we've realized the importance of this present day in a very later purpose of your time. Friendship day is incredibly widespread in Western countries however currently India isn't so much behind when it involves celebrate the foremost very important ...
Views: 1134(1 vote) - Fundamentals of a Successful Relationship: A Marriage Counselors’ Perspective - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Allison MupasHave you ever wondered how ‘that couple’ stayed together all those years? What is it they are doing right? What are the things that contribute to the success of healthy long term relationships? There are a few fundamental things that will improve the chances of a relationships success. Those ...
Views: 16065(2 votes) - Gay Couples-Tips To Successful Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2008 from Lena LaursenIn fact there are common elements in every type of relationship but gay couples have their own special problems and challenges to live through as well as benefits of course. First of all, they have to permanently fight with the rules and barriers of our homophobic society and it's not an easy ...
Views: 4665(1 vote) - Get Inspired with 10 Powerful John Gray Quotes - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2012 from John GrayJohn Gray helps men and women understand, respect and appreciate their differences in both personal and professional relationships. John’s books have sold over 50 million copies in 50 different languages. His groundbreaking book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, was the best-selling book ...
Views: 9902(1 vote) - Getting Your Ex Back Into Your Arms Again - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2009 from Ram GunjalDid your boyfriend tell you its over without giving reasons why? Do you feel it is really over and agree with him? Well, if your answer is NO, then definitely you have to do something as soon as possible. Remember, TIME is gold. If you feel you two are really meant for each other and you ...
Views: 1759(2 votes) - Got Closure? How to Move Forward Powerfully and Positively - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2010 from Lissa CoffeyEach of us experiences some kind of loss in this lifetime. People come and go from our lives, whether by choice or circumstance. How we cope with these events affects how we move forward, how we see the world, and how we feel about our lives. I’m not the only person to have been through a ...
Views: 3805(5 votes) - GROUP INTUITION: TWO HEADS ARE BETTER THAN ONE - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Jim WawroEndless wars in oil-rich lands. Oil gushing into the Gulf of Mexico. Through-the-roof electricity bills in our all-electric house. And we live in a spot where the sun shines brightly most days of the year. “Why don’t we look into solar?” she says. We call the local rep for a national solar ...
Views: 1865(1 vote) - Guidelines for Determining a Toxic Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from Dr. Anne BrownShould I leave my relationship? This question is probably one of the top ten reasons people have come into my practice asking for help. I am a therapist who prefers to work preventatively. I would like someone who is in the market for a relationship to already be in therapy. A good therapist can ...
Views: 1675(2 votes) - Handling Difficult Conversations - by Submitted on May 30, 2010 from Joan CurtisHow do you respond to difficult conversations? Do you hide from them? Do you push your way through them like a bull in a china shop? Each of us, whether we work independently or in an office environment, faces difficult conversations every day. You want to feel confident and in control when ...
Views: 2687(1 vote) - Happiness - You Deserve it - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2013 from KL AdamsThe number one mistake most people have when discussing happiness is the belief exterior forces have more control over his/her experience than they do. More often than not, we give our power over the experience away in hopes of it being a better experience than the one we could have created if ...
Views: 1958(1 vote) - Has Someone Burst Your Bubble? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2009 from Christine SherborneWe all have dreams, particularly when we are young and vulnerable. Have you had the experience of telling someone about dreams that you have in your heart, only to have them shoot them down in flames? They tell you all the reasons why you will fail, or that it can’t be done and will never ...
Views: 2244(2 votes) - Have fun and live longer! - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2010 from Wayne Kehl“We don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” George Bernard Shaw Famed Irish playwright and essayist, George Bernard Shaw lived from 1856 to 1950. He generated many quotes during his long life, but the one above is my favourite. I am drawn to the quote ...
Views: 1616(1 vote) - HE Said; SHE heard. - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from PD RiversHE said "You are gaining weight every day. Your body looks like you swallowed the Pillsbury Doughboy." SHE heard "Oh, God, I have to stop taking this medication. It doesn't matter that it is all that is keeping me alive. I am fat and my husband doesn't love me any more." Are you laughing? You ...
Views: 1445(1 vote) - He's Rich, She's Hot! So What? - Beyond Appearances and Towards Real Love - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Dr. Lisa Love - Best Selling Author - Attract & Keep Real Love, Law of Attraction, Soul SuccessIt's the stereotypical trade - sex objects for success objects. Attractive women (or men) for wealthy men (or women). This barter of status (looks and wealth) is ancient and deeply ingrained in the human psyche. And, it is pitched to us as the ideal over and over again in the media (television, ...
Views: 2872(2 votes) - Healing The Wounds Of Conflict - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2010 from Leah FriedmanWith America at war, the United States is faced with a conflict that affects the lives of every citizen. Billions of dollars are being spent and thousands of young Americans are at risk on the front lines. People across the country are fretting about the effects this war will have on them and ...
Views: 1352(3 votes) - Here Are 5 Fantastic Reasons to Give Roses - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2012 from Williams BistlineThe beautiful rose is considered a favorite flower with everyone thanks to it's lovely fragrance and beauty. The perfect arrangement of roses can speak volumes and convey a meaningful message when you don’t have the words to state how you feel. It is not a surprise why roses are so popular and ...
Views: 4504(1 vote) - High Maintenance Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhat is a high maintenance relationship? A high maintenance relationship is when someone is making you responsible for him or her in various different areas of life. Emotional High MaintenanceWhen a person takes no responsibility for their own feelings of safety, security, worth, lovability, ...
Views: 14358(3 votes) - Hooked Again! How to Break the Cycle of Relationship Addiction - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2009 from James KrehbielDana kept getting hooked in a relationship that was going nowhere. He came for counseling because he understood the self-defeating nature of his association with Kim. What he didn’t comprehend was how to break a convoluted connection that had a tight grip on his life. Dana confided that Kim ...
Views: 1188(2 votes) - How emotionally mature are you in love? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2011 from Gina HardyMost of my lovely couples come to me in relational angst when their bag of long standing coping “tools” has run aground and they have nothing left with which to communicate their feelings and needs in a healthy way. Many couples just cope, rather than experience deeply fulfilling and ...
Views: 2947(1 vote) - How Our Past Affects Our Relationships Today - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2011 from Jonathon AslayThere are many dynamics to a relationship and I think most of us can agree that we rarely see everything going on under the surface, yet we feel the discomfort. As a Guy Spy into the Male Mind I would like to reveal three elements that can cause relational distress and ...
Views: 2285(2 votes) - How to Avoid Falling in Love with Love - by Submitted on May 02, 2009 from Jonathan HuieFalling in love with love has been the subject of parody from the time of ancient Greece, to Shakespeare's Twelfth Night, to the present. The 1938 Rodgers and Hart show tune describes falling in love with love as "falling for make-believe" and "playing the fool." Do real life people actually ...
Views: 1851(2 votes) - How to Choose a Couple Therapist - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Mark KauppWith couples divorcing and splitting up at the highest rate modern time, quality couple therapy is a must. And, finding a qualified couple therapist is essential. Only 14% of therapists in the United States that state they do couple therapy have actually had training in how to do couple therapy. ...
Views: 1814(1 vote) - How to Empty Your Basket of Resentment - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2012 from Robyn VogelAre you ready to go deeper into working on your relationship? Ready to learn how to clear a withhold? Yep. That's right -- a "withhold" - something you are holding back from sharing with your sweetie. You know...how you were angry that he left the toilet seat up? Or she didn't buy your ...
Views: 2322(1 vote) - How to end a friendship by Rosemary Price Psychic - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomHow to end a friendship by Rosemary Price psychic. Only we can decide whether or not we wish to end a friendship. I will tell you how to make sure you want to and how to end a friendship if you really do want to... There are all different types of friendships and there are all different ...
Views: 1779(2 votes) - How to End a Toxic Friendship - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Eduard EzeanuSometimes, the best thing you can do with a friendship is to end it. Unfortunately, most toxic friendships are not easy to end, and you need the proper tools to fruitfully do so. Every once in a while you may realize that you’re in a toxic relationships with another person. The relationship ...
Views: 7541(1 vote) - How to Forgive and Forget - by Submitted on May 11, 2010 from Susan LiddyWe have all heard the phrase, “Forgive and forget,” but how easy is it do either of those things? If only we could forget… maybe it wouldn’t be so hard to forgive. And sometimes we’ll offer someone our forgiveness… but the truth is that the scar of their unkind words or deeds remains. How do ...
Views: 1619(2 votes) - How To Get Past A Devastating Breakup - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2007 from Susan ElliottTen Things To Do After A Breakup To Get On With Your Life: 1. Know that grieving someone and missing them does not necessarily mean you want them. It means you hurt because you've had a loss. Perhaps that loss is the best thing but it's still a loss. Don't mistake grief for love. It's ...
Views: 31646(1 vote) - How to Get What You Want From Your Man in 3 Simple Steps - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2013 from Uadiale AmberYou KNOW what you want from your man. But he's let you down so many times that it's hard to believe he'll EVER change Fortunately, I've discovered three simple steps that will give you the confidence to start getting what you want from your man. Surprisingly, this actually makes you ...
Views: 1036(1 vote) - How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back in 8 Steps - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2009 from Ram GunjalBreakup with your boyfriend is painful, especially if until now you could not forget him. So, how to get your ex boyfriend back? There’s so many ways and here I will explain to you the 8 steps to get your ex back. 1. Find Information You’ll try to find out about how the ex (former boyfriend) ...
Views: 2854(2 votes) - How to Heal a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2011 from Carna Zacharias-Miller,We all experience severe heart break at some time in our lives. For many it happens in childhood or adolescence, the time when we are most vulnerable. A cold mother, an absent father, being different in any way from our peers and ostracized for it - these are some of the reasons for the early ...
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