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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- An Engaged Life - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2011 from Angela van de RietImagine you were given a small, plain houseplant. You watered it regularly, made sure it had enough light, fed it fertilizer, and maybe you even played music for it. Over time, the plant grew strong and bloomed. It became beautiful and it filled you with joy every time you looked at it. Now ...
Views: 807(1 vote) - An Introduction to Retroactive Jealousy - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2014 from Rick DaviesJealousy can be one of the most and disruptive and harmful of emotions. Often jealousy in relationships is directed at the present or the future. It is rooted in a fear of future loss - fear that one may lose their partner to something that is happening currently, or might happen in the ...
Views: 4288(2 votes) - Anger Management Tips for April Fools' Day - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2009 from Dr. Lyle BecourtneyApril Fools' Day is a day marked by the carrying out of practical jokes of varying degree on friends, enemies, colleagues, and neighbors. While most April Fools' Day pranks are taken in stride, there will always be some that elicit very strong emotional reactions. Feelings of shame and ...
Views: 3368(2 votes) - Anger Management Using the Compliment Sandwich - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2009 from Dr. Lyle BecourtneyDo you ever find yourself getting more and more angry and frustrated while trying to explain what is bothering you? Perhaps you feel like others are not really listening to you or trying to understand things from your perspective. In such circumstances, you may end up raising your voice or ...
Views: 2988(2 votes) - Anger Management: Three Rules for Managing Your Anger - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Kristina von RosenvingeAnger is a useful healthy emotions because it alerts us to the fact that something is bothering us. It is what we do with our anger that makes the difference between handling anger well or not. Anger can be such an overwhelming emotion that people often feel that they are losing control. It ...
Views: 4837(1 vote) - Anger: Cleansing Squall or Hurricane? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2012 from Tina TessinaAnger is the emotional energy within each of us that rises up when something needs to change. If you act on the need to create change, your anger can be channeled effectively; but it’s not redirected to something effective, your frustration will build, sometimes to hurricane force. Anger ...
Views: 1921(1 vote) - Answer The Question; “Why Am I Here?” An Explanation of Limitations, Business Success, Life Purpose, and Regaining Motivation - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from David SamuelWhen we are young we ask the question of why am I here. This is normal for most people. Some have stopped asking and forgot they asked at all, and others still ask no matter how old they are. We look for an answer, ask our parents, teachers, anyone, but do not find anyone who can give a ...
Views: 1643(1 vote) - Apologizing- How To Make It Right Again - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraAs human beings, we are all prone to mistakes, as a matter of fact; it is synonymous to making mistakes. But as human beings, we are also given a choice to redeem ourselves from the mistakes we did through apologizing. For some, it is an arduous task, because their pride gets in the way. But if ...
Views: 2027(1 vote) - Are You Blocking Love? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Christine AryloWhen I first met my now husband Noah, who I affectionately refer to as “Walking Love” for his great ability to give love fully and freely, my love quotient – my capacity for receiving love -- was the size of a pea. Which meant that although I had finally manifested a man into my life that could ...
Views: 1606(1 vote) - Are You in an Abusive Relationship? 25 Warning Signs - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThe recent tragedy between Rihanna and Chris Brown has left many people scratching their heads. How could someone as beautiful as her get into such a relationship? How could he do that to her? Why would she put up with it? Why did she go back to him? Abusive relationships are difficult to ...
Views: 1477(2 votes) - Are You in Control of Your Own Life or a Victim of Circumstances? You Can Change All That. - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2011 from Edith SiegAre You in Control of Your Own Life or a Victim of Circumstances? You Can Change All That. Many of us have “Good Days” and “Bad Days” and most of it is out of our control. Or is it? Sometimes we get out of bed and something bad happens right away and we might say, “It’s gonna be a bad day.” ...
Views: 1451(1 vote) - Are You Just an OPTION For Someone Else, Instead of Their PRIORITY? - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Elaine SiheraOn the welcoming page of my Relationship website I have 12 Lessons in Life which are very important to me. Among them is the statement: Never make someone your priority when to them you're only an option. Those words have ended up being the most popular search key words for the website, ...
Views: 8899(4 votes) - Are You Married Single? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2012 from Sammy MaloofI have the absolute privilege of being a speaker and it is truly a privilege. It is also very rewarding to be able to help people. I want to share one of my topics with you. In my travels I come across numerous people who are having challenges in their relationships. Here is an excerpt from my ...
Views: 2490(1 vote) - Are you Spending Enough Time Together? Relationship Counseling Advice - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2016 from Nicola BeerTime can be a big source of conflict in relationships. When you get married “your time” also becomes “their time” and if you have children then you need to also schedule in “family time” and time for family chores. Many couples I speak to are feeling so busy and stressed by feeling pulled ...
Views: 4119(1 vote) - Are You Stressed Because of Someone’s Potential Reaction? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Robert VibertI’ve written about how we can get stressed over what might happen, when we jump to conclusions. Here I’d like to focus on one variant of this situation, the one in which we can almost forecast what is going to happen when someone reacts to what we say or do and, as a result, we stop ourselves ...
Views: 2405(3 votes) - Are Your Expectations Working For Or Against You? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2010 from Susan DerryIn all of our relationships we have expectations of how things should be, this applies in our intimate relationships as well. Many of these expectations have not been clearly defined in our own mind and frequently we have not openly shared our expectations with our partner. As our partner bumps ...
Views: 1944(2 votes) - Are your thoughts causing your stressful feelings? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Robert VibertThere is a prevalent theory making the rounds, time and again, that your thoughts are what create your emotions and therefore your stress. One of the expressions of these is what is called “Appraisal Theory”, which has been summed up as follows: Event ==> thinking ==> Simultaneous arousal ...
Views: 1965(3 votes) - Attract Love: Five Key Secrets To Manifesting Love - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2008 from Kay HutchinsonYou may have read life coaching books on dating that give rules or techniques increasing the interest of the opposite gender. I suggest putting intricate rules aside and focusing on self development as way to attract love and create deep, meaningful relationships. Self Knowledge There is ...
Views: 1714(1 vote) - Attraction, Desire, Self-Awareness and Intimate Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2011 from Doron GilThere are some surprising similarities between Sexual desire and Self-Awareness with regard to Intimate Relationships, some of which you might have never thought about. And why would you? The two seem to be worlds-apart. But are they? SIMILARITIES BETWEEN SEXUAL DESIRE AND ...
Views: 3552(1 vote) - Before You Blow Up, Cool Down - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2010 from Larry JamesAnger spills over into all areas of your life. Unresolved anger transfers to others you are in relationship with. Anger, when released, without dumping on your relationship, is good. Anger is not bad. We only call it bad because we feel its negative energy. It is only bad when we express it ...
Views: 1826(1 vote) - Benefits of Deep Breathing for Work and Personal Relief - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2011 from Ashley ArnIn the professional world, we focus on so many things at once that the benefits of deep breathing might not be immediately obvious. After all, if the deadlines aren't met, who cares how we breathe? As long as we're alive, we're doing it correctly, right? Wrong. Here we'll take a look at how ...
Views: 1022(1 vote) - Can You Go Longer than 17 Seconds? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2010 from Carrie HoffmanIn The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Dr. Gary Chapman, the author states that research has found that, while conversing, the average person can only go 17 seconds before interrupting or interjecting their own thoughts. Seventeen seconds! One ...
Views: 2024(1 vote) - Challenged by your relationships? Good! - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2006 from John RobsonWhy are our relationships such a challenge? By their very nature, relationships always push us toward duality, toward the opposites. They take us into both the light of our souls and the darkness of our subconscious. They force us to look at the light and experience the shadows. If we deny ...
Views: 1199(2 votes) - Change in Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2010 from Diana and Richard DaffnerHow Can Change Happen Within a Relationship? “The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.” This quote by French writer Marcel Proust is especially applicable when speaking of change in committed relationships. A relationship is indeed a voyage of ...
Views: 2148(2 votes) - Choosing Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2009 from Carl MassyI asked myself a question the other day. Which is the harder relationship to manage; intimate relationships or business relationships? Are all relationships essentially the same thing or ‘same same but different’? The end result was an exploration into the often unconsidered realm of business ...
Views: 1204(1 vote) - Christian Codependency: 7 Signs You Are A Christian Codependent - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2012 from Karla DowningAre you struggling with Christian codependency? These 7 signs will help you to decide whether you are a Christian codependent or not. When we are being "codependent" it means we have an unhealthy way of reacting to a problem in a person close to us or a pattern of coping with life that is ...
Views: 1955(1 vote) - Communication in Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2010 from Michael FehlauerGood communication in relationships is a result of skills that can be learned. How to listen is a huge first step in developing healthy communication in your relationships. Even more so, learning what to listen for is another key. David Schwartz says, “Big people monopolize the listening. ...
Views: 1542(1 vote) - Communication Strategies that Work - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2013 from Joeel A. RiveraIn your relationship, are you trying to live a dream that you were sold or are you creating the reality that you want? Throughout our lives we are sold two dreams; however, neither of them paints a realistic picture of a truly rewarding relationship. The first dream unfolds when we are ...
Views: 1051(1 vote) - Cosmetic Dentistry Advancement - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2011 from Wendell DemontFifty years ago, cosmetic dentistry was something only the privileged could afford. A perfect smile was something that you only saw in movies and magazines, but in today's world, the smile of your dreams is attainable. Modern cosmetic dentistry is not only accessible, but affordable. Dental ...
Views: 793(1 vote) - Couples and Money: Don’t Let Financial Stress Ruin Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2009 from Karen McCallFinancial fear is creating tremendous stress for many couples. Yet, money problems can actually help couples draw closer together, rather than tearing them apart. The “statistic” that money is the number one cause of divorce is absolutely false. While financial disagreements may be the ...
Views: 4214(2 votes) - Couples, How to Stop Verbal Abuse in its Tracks - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Geoff FarnsworthFrustration and anger can lead to mean-spirited, disrespectful communication. We sometimes reach the breaking point and say hurtful or belittling comments, often while raising our voice. For example, Sarah is watching TV with her husband Erik. A commercial for a fast food company comes on and ...
Views: 8850(2 votes) - Crystal Clear Communications - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2009 from Hunter PhoenixOne of the biggest issues I've seen over the years working with clients is that of communications. So often, situations can go array simply for lack of crystal clear communications. Part of the problem is also part of the beauty; we all have different communication styles. And as much as this ...
Views: 1715(2 votes) - Dealing With a Broken Heart - Powerful Strategies - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2010 from Chris RobertsIf you are interested in dealing with a broken heart, there are a number of issues you should be aware of. First of all, you should understand that no breakup is fun, and completely getting rid of any trace of pain may be impossible. However, there are some powerful strategies that will help you ...
Views: 1521(2 votes) - Dealing with Criticism - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2009 from Stanley HibbsNo one likes to be criticized. I wish I could avoid it completely, but that’s not the way life works. I have spent many an hour listening to clients complain about the criticism they receive from parents, spouses, and bosses. They clearly need my empathy and understanding and perhaps ...
Views: 1238(1 vote) - Dealing with Difficult People - A Spiritual Perspective - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2009 from James LeGrandWe all have difficult people in our lives, and unfortunately, we must deal with them to get things done in life. It can be your ex, your parents or your in-laws. It could be your employer, employees or co-workers. Sometimes it’s the store cashier, the customer service agent or another ...
Views: 5800(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't think I want to be in this relationship after all - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am currently reading your book, The 10 Smartest Decisions a Woman can Make Before 40 and absolutely loving it. I have been married for a year and four months and we are going through a really tough time right now. I have suggested counseling and my husband ...
Views: 1510(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel almost embarrassed about being a virgin at my age - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I came across your blog while searching the internet for help for women In dysfunctional relationships. Your language and spiritual, yet non judgmental approach really resonated with me. I am an ethnically mixed woman in my thirties. My parents divorced when I was young and ...
Views: 2070(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I want a man in my life that I can trust again. - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: After experiencing alot of physical and emotional abuse in my life, my last relationship was very damaging emotionally and physically. Now, many years later, I haven't had a serious relationship or even a date since. I've had two opportunities this year, but one wanted ...
Views: 1038(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why doesn't he want me? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a housewife in my mid-thirties, married for 7 years, In our marital life I have never been satisfied, because our sexual interaction never lasts more than 15 min. It makes me unhappy. I have spoken to him regarding this matter but he didn't take it seriously. I feel ...
Views: 983(1 vote) - Dentist Draper - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2011 from Jonaha KnaacikIt is common for adults to ignore their oral health until it is presenting obvious problems. It is important that you have regular check-ups with your local Dentist Draper in your area. These are generally simple and quick when you stay on top of your periodical appointments and oral ...
Views: 637(1 vote) - Discover How to Get a Lost Love Back - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2010 from Gerry RestriveraAre you and your spouse or partner quarreling almost everyday? Do you feel that the relationship is going in a direction that you do not want to happen like divorce or separation? Keeping a relationship is hard but if you really want to make things work for you and your lover, you should know ...
Views: 1523(1 vote) - Discover the perks of being single on Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2010 from Rhonda RabowFor many people, Valentine's Day, is the day when you feel sad, depressed, neglected or alone if you are single. However, with so many failed relationships, nasty break-ups, or unhappy unions, some singles are seeing this time as a time to embrace their solitude. Ann Landers once said, "It is ...
Views: 2433(1 vote) - Do Opposites Really Attract? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2013 from Joeel A. RiveraJake is an atheist; Stacy is a devout Christian. Bill loves to spend; Cristy loves to save. Victor loves a vacation out in the woods, camping in a tent; Amy prefers a nice condo on the beach. Steve gets up at 6:00 am in the morning; Megan believes the day should start around 10 ...
Views: 1428(1 vote) - Do You Feel Stuck? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2010 from Susan DerryIf you have ever gotten your rubber boots stuck in a muddy garden, you will remember how hard it is to lift your boot out of the mud. Sometimes you can manage it by holding onto the top of the boot and pulling up as you lift your foot. This requires excellent balance and could result in landing ...
Views: 2076(1 vote) - Do You Have a Vision for Your Relationship? What You Need to Know Now… - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Carrie HoffmanHow do you envision your relationship in five years? Ten years? Twenty years? Many times we have a plan and a vision for other areas in our lives, like our career, business, or finances. It is much less common to have a clear picture in our minds of what we envision our relationships ...
Views: 1702(2 votes) - Do You Know Why You Drive Yourself So Hard? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2011 from Christine AryloReally, when was the last time you gave yourself a break? Or gave yourself credit for all that you do in a day or have accomplished already in your life (which I am sure is alot!) Or celebrated your accomplishments for more than a few days or minutes, Before focusing on what you needed ...
Views: 1845(1 vote) - Does She Want You Or Not? Female Signs She's Sexually Attracted to You - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2009 from Mark TaylorFemale signs are one of the trickiest signs to decode in this side of the planet. However, when it comes to reading her signs of attraction and finding out if she's sexually attracted to you, there are no more clearer signs there is. A woman is much easier to read when she's already into you. So ...
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