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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- ***Make Love Your New Years Resolution - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. This is the time of the year when so many of us make promises to ourselves and to others that we rarely ever keep! These so-called “New Year’s Resolutions” sound good when we make them but, all too often, we ignore them by Valentine’s Day. You ...
Views: 3689(36 votes) - ***Lessons of Love From Your Dog - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. You can learn a lot about love from a dog. Over the years, we have learned much about the essentials of a loving relationship by observing our dog, Jake. We are proud to tell you that Jake is truly a Wonder Dog. He is loving, caring, intuitive, ...
Views: 3410(31 votes) - ***Toilet seats can come between you and your spouse! - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As we say repeatedly, the simple things matter in love and marriage. Do the simple things and your marriage or loving relationship will prosper. Charley learned his lesson some 43 years ago! He grew up in a rural area of Missouri back when ...
Views: 4821(39 votes) - ***How Will I Know I Am In Love? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzHow will I know I am in Love? By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In our many interviews with people “in love” we ask them, perhaps, the most revealing question of the interview – “How will I know I am in love?” We have heard very consistent answers. And conversely, many people ...
Views: 10623(37 votes) - ***The Seven Most Common Mistakes Made By Marriage Counselors – Part 2 - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzContinued from The Seven Most Common Mistakes Made By Marriage Counselors – Part 1 By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. 4. Making marriage too difficult to understand when, in fact, “simple things matter.” We have been saying this for years – our 26+ years of research on ...
Views: 8298(38 votes) - ***The Future of Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The fact of the matter is this -- marriage is alive and well in the United States and around the world! It is the single greatest contributor to social order on planet Earth. And the fact of the matter is this -- marriage is the most profound ...
Views: 4117(36 votes) - ***Is time alone necessary for a great marriage? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. There is absolutely no question about it, great marriages require time alone – time away from each other! We have witnessed time and time again marriages in which one or both partners failed to understand the importance of being alone, not only ...
Views: 4005(39 votes) - ***So What Is This Thing Called Marriage? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We live in a world of mixed messages. Our world is neither black nor white. The world we live in is full of powerful emotions. And the truth is, the world we live in is complicated – so very complicated. And for those of us who have lived in ...
Views: 2470(28 votes) - ***On the Road to Love in Morocco - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. For the past five days we have been in two remarkable cities – Tangiers and Casablanca, Morocco. We came to Morocco by boat from Tarifa, Spain – a distance across the Mediterranean Sea of just nine miles. In many ways, however, the short distance in ...
Views: 4215(31 votes) - ***How To Talk Serious With Your Mate - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Over the many years we have been conducting research about love and marriage, we are continually reminded of the important role effective communication between couples plays in the overall health and well being of their relationship. The “heart ...
Views: 4065(40 votes) - ***A Symphony Of Love And Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Tonight, we heard the sounds of love! Over the years we have seen love, felt love, heard about love, observed love, and been in love. But tonight, we heard the sounds of love! We heard love tonight through the magnificent sounds of the St. Louis ...
Views: 3476(32 votes) - ***Avoiding Your Feelings by Focusing on Your Partner - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Margaret PaulWe all have many addictive ways of avoiding feeling our painful feelings and taking responsibility for them. Some of the ways are obvious, such as using substances and processes. Some of the ways can be very subtle.Leon often struggled with feeling empty inside. Inner emptiness is a symptom of a ...
Views: 5545(3 votes) - ***Can You Save Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2014 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Most marriages and relationships are worth saving and can be saved, but not all!” Failing marriages involving sexual, physical or mental abuse are simply not worth saving. In fact, to attempt to save them puts one or both partners in the ...
Views: 1912(6 votes) - ***Having Children Is Not The Purpose of Marriage - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In the last several years a great deal has been reported about the purpose of marriage, lamenting the fact that Americans no longer consider children among the most important purposes of marriage. While most experts are concluding that this is a ...
Views: 3867(27 votes) - ***Healing Love and Approval Addiction - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2010 from Margaret PaulAre you love or approval addicted?Do you often feel empty inside if you are not in a relationship?Do you often feel empty inside even if you are in a relationship but your partner is not paying attention to you?Do you get anxious when a person you are dating does not contact you when you expect ...
Views: 5093(3 votes) - ***The Crazymaking Trap: Proving Your Worth Over and Over - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2011 from Margaret PaulMarcus grew up the eldest of three, with a highly critical mother and an absent father. Marcus's mother frequently told him or implied that he was too stupid to take care of himself - that he would be nothing without her. She programmed him to believe that she was his only source of love and ...
Views: 3632(3 votes) - 7 Steps to Overcome Withdrawal from a Break Up of an Addictive Relationship - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Jim HallAre You a Love Addict? Are you in a Break-Up from an Addictive Relationship? There is no doubt that for most people, “breaking up is hard to do”… for love addicts, breaking up is especially difficult. One of the most disturbing and defining features of addiction is withdrawal and obsessive ...
Views: 14695(3 votes) - 7 Tips to Honor Your Boundaries - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2010 from Geoff Farnsworth1. Begin by becoming aware of your boundaries. Take notice of your feelings. They are your inner messengers, your inner guidance system. When a boundary is crossed, there is a definite physiological response. If someone’s comments or actions make you uncomfortable, notice how you react ...
Views: 1993(3 votes) - Advice to Help You Set Boundaries with Your Flirting Partner - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsFlirting between two people can be fun, sexy and harmless...unless, of course, one of those two people is already in a committed relationship with someone else! When you are the one who watches (or hears about) your partner flirting with another person, it can be emotionally painful and it ...
Views: 8079(3 votes) - All Broken Up - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Keith and Maura Leon - Relationship Specialists, Best Selling Authors, Master Relationship Coaches and TrainersDear Keith and Maura, I broke up with my lover last August, but still now I have his feelings. I didn't know why he left me without even telling me. I stayed for some time but now am dying of his love. What do I do? Please help as soon as possible. Broken Hearted in Kenya Dear ...
Views: 2030(3 votes) - Become a £50 per hour Agony Aunt by Rosemary Price Psychic - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomFamous agony aunt tells you how to get a job as a professional paid agony aunt. Having worked as an agony aunt for many years I do know exactly how this business works, the sort of people who are suited to it and how to get into it. Let us first look at the facts. 99% of customers who consult ...
Views: 12716(3 votes) - CAN YOU TRUST HIM? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Jordana SandsTrust is vital in a good relationship, and of all the ingredients that create a really good relationship, trust is a biggie. How much should you trust? How soon should you give this trust? Are you jaded by some past jerk that lied to you or cheated on you? You don’t want to judge someone by ...
Views: 1365(3 votes) - COVERT TACTICS MANIPULATORS USE TO CONTROL AND CONFUSE YOU - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2019 from Darlene LancerMany of us don't recognize manipulators or even realize they're trying to control and confuse us. We may have an uneasy feeling in our gut that doesn't match the manipulator's words or feel trapped into agreeing with a request. Most people react in ways that escalate abuse or play into the hands ...
Views: 1114(3 votes) - Do You Feel His Thoughts? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2010 from Ann Marie O'DellA joy or depression settles for no apparent reason, and sometimes even a silent kiss. A confused fog, as if experiencing two minds in one body can indicate telepathic communication. The Japanese have a word for the ideal relationship called “ ...
Views: 3891(3 votes) - Emotional Intimacy Starts With Touching - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2010 from Shela DeanTouch is essential to intimacy. Okay, I know you think I've just stated the obvious but I'm not talking about that kind of intimacy. I'm talking about emotional intimacy and the hand holding, arms around the waist, bear hugging, back rubbing, cheek kissing, fist bumping, high fiving, shoulder ...
Views: 3655(3 votes) - Helping people find a lasting relationship - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2010 from Bruce MillsWouldn’t it be nice to have a guide or map to a relationship like a golf course has for a golf hole? The below info or guide I got from a friend on Facebook and wanted to pass it on. Many of my friends really liked it and said that it helped explain why things their past relationships have ...
Views: 1801(3 votes) - How To Accept Differences - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Dr. Rick SchaeferPerception is far more important than reality. My seventeen year-old son James and I were talking about playing tennis this weekend and our focus went to how it feels to hit a tennis ball with the racquet. I described it as similar to swinging a badminton racquet with the strings and the ...
Views: 2611(3 votes) - How To End a Relationship and Move on To a Healthier Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2011 from Bellaisa FilippisHow you end a relationship matters. In fact it matters so much that it can affect your next relationship in a positive or negative way. So when ending a relationship you need to take that into consideration! There are two common feelings that can occur from a bad end to a relationship. They ...
Views: 1104(3 votes) - I Know Who I Am And I Know What I Want - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from David SamuelThat is the problem. You do not know who you are, and you only know what you think you want. There are many sayings that tell us to find our self, be that in religion, Shakespeare or in common conversation. ‘Know thyself’ “To thine own self be true” ‘Don’t think who you are, know who you ...
Views: 2250(3 votes) - Love Tarot Readings: The Crossroads of our Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Carolyn NaimanOne of the most common inquiries during a Tarot reading typically concerns matters of romance and partnerships. Naturally, people consult the Tarot for answers about love. One would expect that most people would want knowledge about their future love life: who and when that special somebody ...
Views: 12098(3 votes) - Make Every Moment a Special Moment - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Guy RussellWe all want to have those special moments with our partner. We want, sometimes desperately to make them experience the greatest nights of their lives. We plan, we try, and we spend a fortune trying to produce that once in a lifetime event. If only we realized that the true ingredient for special ...
Views: 7167(3 votes) - Manifesting Love - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Kristy Robinett"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." A Course in Miracles With Valentine's Day fast approaching, I thought it would be fitting for me to focus in on love and relationships, which is probably the ...
Views: 1046(3 votes) - Six Ways to End Bickering About Money - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from Jonathan HuieOne of the most common causes of arguments between couples is disagreements over money, mostly about how it should be spent, or not spent. Arguments over money generally fall into two general areas, differences in fundamental attitudes, and bickering over day to day details. Sometimes the ...
Views: 2125(3 votes) - Stop Fighting! The 12 Best Solutions to Keeping Your Love Alive - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Kathi Calahan, Career CoachThe bad news is, every loving relationship begins with baggage from the past. The good news is, no matter how far back that history of damaging baggage goes, it can be reworked and healed. We practice what we’ve learned, even if it means damaging our relationship or marriage. And crazy as ...
Views: 2218(3 votes) - The Importance of making Time for One Another - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Guy RussellNo matter if you are married, live together, live apart from each other, or you are in a long distance relationship; it is important to make some time for just the two of you. Our days can be filled quickly with the day to day responsibilities of work, family and household duties. Those ...
Views: 3979(3 votes) - What to Do When Your Jealousy Threatens to Destroy Your Marriage - by Submitted on May 11, 2010 from MONICA FRANKWHAT IS IRRATIONAL JEALOUSY? Frequently, I am asked how to handle irrational jealous feelings. Usually, the individual recognizes that her feelings are unreasonable with no valid evidence but feels incapable of controlling the jealousy. In addition, the person usually recognizes the ...
Views: 3668(3 votes) - What You Should Know about Narcissists, Their Partners, & NPD - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2019 from Darlene LancerPoor Narcissus. The gods sentenced him to a life without human love. He fell in love with his own reflection in pool of water and died hungering for its response. Narcissism was named for him. Like Narcissus, narcissists only love themselves as reflected in the eyes of others. It’s a common ...
Views: 1633(3 votes) - “I work so hard for my relationship...so where's my payoff?” - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsDoes it seem to you that you're always the one in your relationship being flexible, giving and self-sacrificing? If it does, you're not alone. Many men feel like they bear the brunt of the work. They keep the yard mowed, go to work everyday, change the oil in the car, watch the kids and ...
Views: 2903(3 votes) - ***Infidelity is Not Okay and it is Not Forgivable! - by Submitted on May 23, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Frankly, if we hear yet one more person talk about infidelity in a relationship as if it were okay, not a big deal, and forgivable, we are going to get angry! We have studied the best marriages for more than 25 years and we know this – the best ...
Views: 5620(34 votes) - ***Prenuptial Agreements May Guarantee Failure - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We believe that Prenuptial Agreements are a bad idea, period! Just imagine, telling someone that you love him or her, but you don't trust them! To us, this is analogous to having two separate checking accounts in a marriage -- one for him and one ...
Views: 3991(31 votes) - ***Caring For Aging Parents Can Challenge Your Marriage - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are “baby-boomers.” Like some 80 million Americans, we were born during the period 1946-1964. We are that generation of Americans born to what former NBC anchor Tom Brokaw called, “The Greatest Generation.” Our parents survived the Great ...
Views: 4919(32 votes) - ***How to Fall In Love Again with Your Spouse - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Let’s face it – we love our spouse more than life itself. And frankly, we cannot imagine life without them! But the truth is, from time to time, our love for each other needs renewal. While love can be forever, it often needs nurturance, ...
Views: 9456(42 votes) - ***Helping Your Mom and Your Marriage – Finding a Balance - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We owe our moms a lot. While we are lucky that we get to have them around, we have to find a balance between helping our mom and nurturing our own marriage. Over-committing time in a helping relationship at the expense of your marriage will, in the ...
Views: 3563(39 votes) - ***Simple Things Matter in Marriage – Even in Venice! - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Have you ever been to Venice, Italy? Wow, what a wonderfully romantic place! When you ride in a gondola together by Marco Polo’s house, stroll on St. Mark’s Square while holding hands, enjoy the grandeur of the Doges Palace, or share a bottle of ...
Views: 2646(26 votes) - ***Open Marriage for Mo’Nique and Sid - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Just when you think you have heard it all, along comes Mo’Nique! Here is what she says about her marriage to Sid -- "Could Sid have sex outside of his marriage with me? Yes. That's not a deal-breaker," she says. "That's not something that would ...
Views: 5796(47 votes) - How to Express Yourself to Others - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2010 from Greg BakerOne of the hardest things to do when you're communicating with someone is expressing yourself. How many times have you said something that just didn't come out the way you wanted it to? How many times have we said something that we really didn't mean, but we were too frustrated to stop it from ...
Views: 31474(14 votes) - ***Core Sadness vs. Wounded Sadness - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2010 from Margaret PaulVery often, in my work with my clients, when I ask them what they are feeling they say, "I feel sad." Often, they do not know why they feel sad.Sadness comes from two very different sources.Core SadnessCore sadness is sadness that is in reaction to something that is happening or has ...
Views: 6042(7 votes) - ***"If I'm Perfect, No One Will Reject Me" - Healing Perfectionism - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2011 from Margaret PaulDo you believe that being "perfect" gives you control over how people feel about you?"If you do, then you are coming from 3 big false beliefs that are causing you much unhappiness.False Belief #1"I can have control over how people feel about me."Think for a moment ...
Views: 4904(4 votes) - ***Am I in a Healthy Relationship? - by Submitted on May 12, 2010 from Margaret PaulFrequently, my clients and members of our website ask me, "Is my relationship healthy? How do I know if it is healthy?"Just as physical health is on a continuum, emotional health and relationship health are also on a continuum. And, like physical health, each person may have different ...
Views: 5413(4 votes) - ***Are You Making These 4 Mistakes? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2011 from Margaret PaulI, like many of you, was brought up and programmed to believe in a number of ideas that have turned out to be untrue. These false beliefs led me to make various life and relationship mistakes. I didn't like making mistakes any more than you do, but it is from my mistakes that I've learned so ...
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