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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Trust - The Road To Love - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2011 from Anatoliy KoychevPeople speculate a lot with the word trust and they do it on purpose. I would like to make a few clarifications about it... Many times trust is mixed with faith. But to have faith is one thing and to trust someone is something completely different. Faith is pointing outwards, it is created ...
Views: 1358(2 votes) - We Must First Love Ourselves - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2010 from Beatrice ElderExperiencing change helps us to engage and see where and how we have been living our lives. We face so many challenges and the ones that hurt the most are those which affect us personally. Relationship hurt affects us all differently! Some people can recover quickly and move on to the next ...
Views: 3485(2 votes) - Who is in Command? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2010 from Elsabe SmitI am always fascinated about how our questions get answered - and sometimes how we are steered in a direction without even asking the question. Someone very dear and close to me is at a point where he has no dignity or quality of life left. He had told me in so many words that he is not ...
Views: 1477(2 votes) - Why Love Relationships Fail - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from Bob MakranskyLove relationships fail because at no time in our training by society are we given a factual model of what a love relationship is, or how to make one succeed. There are fundamentally three levels on which intimate relationships operate, and our social training only prepares us to deal with one ...
Views: 1955(2 votes) - Why Snoring Is The Silent Relationship Killer - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2010 from Jennifer Ross-TaylorWhy Snoring Is The Silent Relationship Killer Snoring isn’t called 'the silent relationship killer' because it doesn’t make any sound. On the contrary, the sometimes raucous sounds that are called snoring could often rival a freight train going through the bedroom! Snoring has earned the ...
Views: 10408(2 votes) - Why the single life is best - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomI will tell you why the single life is best. We live in a modern age where anything goes. Marriage has become unnecessary but sometimes advantageous or wanted. There are more people than ever having children outside of marriage or choosing to live alone and not have children at all. The good ...
Views: 3525(2 votes) - Your Job on Earth - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2013 from Tina TessinaIn Peace, Love and Healing, Dr. Bernie Siegel says: “Whatever your age, if you learn to listen, your inner voice will speak to you about your path... your ‘job on earth.’ This wisdom that is directing you from within is your birthright... an inner message, an inner awareness, that says, ‘This is ...
Views: 1591(2 votes) - Your Personal Growth and Success with Intimate Relationships Depends on Your Being True to Yourself - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Doron GilAre you a person who tells yourself stories in order to justify to yourself why things go one way and not another? Do you convince yourself that whatever happens in your life happens because of such and such reason, unwilling to look reality in the eye and acknowledge that after all, things are ...
Views: 1167(2 votes) - Your Relationship Broke Up - What to Do? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2011 from Jonathan HuieYour relationship broke up and you are heart broken. What should you do now to heal the hurt and move on with your life? First, examine what Not to do. These are things that will make your situation worse. 1. Don't try to get back together. There must be some very strong reasons why you ...
Views: 2810(2 votes) - “I’m Not In Love” - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2011 from Sheryl PaulA few weeks ago had a great session with the man I’ve referred to as “Matthew” in these posts. We’ve been working together for quite some time and have uncovered layer upon layer of false beliefs that are contributing to his unhappiness. But in this particular session we uncovered what I believe ...
Views: 2029(2 votes) - ***What to Say to the One You Love? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have learned lots of interesting and important lessons from the thousands of successfully married couples we have interviewed over the years – of that you can be sure. There is no question – the wisdom of these wonderful marriages humbles us when ...
Views: 5585(39 votes) - ***Are You Scaring Away Your Chance At Love? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzAre You Scaring Away Your Chance At Love? By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Several months ago we penned an article entitled, “Great Love Is Best Not Rushed.” Our principle theme was this – in the beginning of a budding love relationship, don’t get in a hurry in your quest for ...
Views: 3675(38 votes) - ***Newlyweds Should NEVER Makes These 7 Mistakes - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Ah, wedding season. That time of year when brides and grooms say, “I do” and live happily ever after. Unfortunately, dreaming of “happily ever after” can create unrealistic expectations and lots of problems down the road. So much of marriage ...
Views: 2052(38 votes) - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #7 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #7 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a ...
Views: 1780(15 votes) - ***The Best Marriages on Six Continents of the World - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The “heart of the matter” is this – successful marriages around the world are bound together by their commonalities – certainly not by their differences. Learn the lessons, emulate them, practice them, take them to heart, and engage in the simple ...
Views: 4577(28 votes) - ***Love and Marriage Cinderella Style - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The Cinderella Story is a wonderful story. It does, indeed, warm the heart. It certainly inspires. Love is always inspiring! But the truth is, it is an idealized version of falling in love that rarely ever approximates the reality or the truth of ...
Views: 3024(37 votes) - ***The Valentine's Day Gift of Time - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In these tough economic times we think it is important to again remind folks that the best things in life are free. To love, to be loved, and to give the gift of time is the best gift you can give to someone. This is an especially important message ...
Views: 4581(37 votes) - ***The Recipe for Finding Love Again - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We know how you feel! Starting over is really difficult when it comes to love and marriage. Getting a divorce, breaking up, or losing the one you love due to their death can be overwhelmingly painful. The simple truth is this – you entered into ...
Views: 3870(35 votes) - ***Married With Children: Jon and Kate Have It All Wrong - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Like us, we are sure many of you have been following the on-going saga surrounding the so-called “reality” show, Jon & Kate Plus Eight. Well, it seems like Jon and Kate are going to go their separate ways – divorce seems eminent. Ah, but ...
Views: 3267(33 votes) - ***When A Good Woman Marries A Bad Man - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are eternal optimists – make no mistake about that! With us, glasses are always half full, not half empty. The sun is always shining where we live! We are eternally hopeful that tomorrow will be a brighter day – and it usually is! We love life ...
Views: 5214(31 votes) - Buy a Ticket - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2009 from Ariel and Shya KaneAn Excerpt from "Being Here, Modern Day Tales of Enlightenment." Our assistant, Christina, came to work in the office one Saturday and we noticed that she seemed a bit subdued. She didn't look like her beautiful, lively self and so we sat down with her over a cup of coffee and asked if ...
Views: 1866(9 votes) - ***Cheating On Your Spouse Is Not Okay! - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. It appears that the Governor of South Carolina, Mark Sanford, has admitted to having an affair. His extramarital love affair with a woman from Argentina has again driven home the point that trust is at the heart of the most successful marriages, and ...
Views: 3333(43 votes) - ***How Will I Know I Can Trust Him? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Here is an undeniable truth about life – actions speak louder than words! We know, you’ve heard this all before! But the truth is, you can, and must, judge a man by his actions and not by his words! Words are cheap. Actions mean everything! The ...
Views: 10933(39 votes) - ***Tough Economic Times Can Strengthen Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Let’s face it – the economy of the USA is in turmoil. And the truth is, the unemployment rate is approaching 10%, and will probably exceed that rate in the coming months. The times are tough in America today. Not good news, for sure. Tough ...
Views: 4187(39 votes) - ***Bullying Never Works In Love - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBullying Never Works In Love By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Bullies--don’t you just hate bullies! They try to get what they want by bullying you, by intimidating you, and by making you feel inferior to them. If you are like us, this NEVER works! Yet, so many good folks ...
Views: 2004(7 votes) - Broken Heart Advice: Coping Tips When You Just Can't Let Go - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2009 from Susie and Otto CollinsBreaking up or getting a divorce might have been your idea. It could be that you, your partner or both of you were caught in destructive behaviors that could only be stopped by ending your relationship. Maybe there was abuse of some kind involved. Or perhaps the troubles in your ...
Views: 5783(7 votes) - What Do Men Want? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Bob GrantWhat do men want from women?... I hear this question every week from at least one my clients, or one of my customers who purchased one of my e-books. The truth is that what men actually want is really pretty simple. Deep inside the heart of every man is a secret wish to be trusted. When ...
Views: 1744(7 votes) - ***The Marriage Ref is an Idea Gone Terribly Wrong - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzRemember the television show, “Seinfeld?” Like you, we laughed ourselves silly over the antics of the show. It was funny and full of uproarious one-liners. When Jerry Seinfeld decided to promote the idea of a new show called “The Marriage Ref,” he and everyone else surely imagined that it ...
Views: 3381(40 votes) - ***Marriage, Divorce, and Pre-Nuptial Agreements - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have said it before and we now say it again – the divorce rate in the United States of America is NOT 50%! It is more likely, closer to 40%, perhaps, slightly less, according to some estimates. Here are the facts. According to Brad Wilcox in ...
Views: 5346(36 votes) - ***The All Star Game and Summer Love - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. There is something about the summer that encourages love. Maybe it’s the bright summer sun. It could be the warm summer breeze. Maybe it’s the refreshing summer water! Perhaps, it is the summer vacation. And isn’t the All Star Game played in the ...
Views: 3545(36 votes) - ***Love Like A Rock On Gibraltar - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Our ongoing search for the world’s best marriages took us to Gibraltar today, or as some refer to it – the Rock of Gibraltar. Doing interviews with happily married couples there seemed like a nice transitional thing to do since we are on our way to ...
Views: 4076(34 votes) - ***Is Advice About Marriage Fact Or Fiction? - by Submitted on May 08, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As we prepared for the work of the day this morning it dawned on us while watching a television show – there is a lot of bad advice about marriage and relationships in the popular media today. We watched these so-called “experts” wax on about what ...
Views: 2576(39 votes) - ***The Fast Track to Falling in Love - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Falling in love does not have to be complicated. Sometimes it is as simple as meeting someone for the first time, falling head over heals in love with them and spending a lifetime together. It can be just that simple! Several days ago, we ...
Views: 3886(44 votes) - ***Making Marriage Work in Tough Economic Times - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. There is an old saying that many attribute to a Chinese proverb that goes like this – “May you live in interesting times.” To say that is an understatement of our world today is, well . . . an understatement! We are experiencing unprecedented ...
Views: 5814(32 votes) - ***Does Online Dating Lead To Marriage? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Oh, the times, they are a-changing! This refrain is from a very famous Peter, Paul, and Mary song. And the truth is, people are finding love in different ways than they did is year’s past. Online dating is a reality today. According to recent ...
Views: 8118(37 votes) - ***Great Marriages Require Unencumbered Time - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Make no mistake about it – great marriages require unencumbered time! You have read our musings about the fundamental predisposition of every human being to have time alone – to have time only to their private thoughts. In our book, Golden ...
Views: 4135(37 votes) - ***Thank the Angels in New York City and Philadelphia - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are currently on an East Coast swing promoting our new book, Building a Love that Lasts: The Seven Surprising Secrets of Successful Marriage (Jossey-Bass/Wiley, 2010, available wherever books are sold). We have had multiple radio and TV ...
Views: 3856(37 votes) - *** Relationships: The Art of Listening - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2009 from Margaret PaulIn 1974, Dr. Virginia Satir presented the concept of mirroring in her groundbreaking book, "Conjoint Family Therapy." In 1975 Dr. Thomas Gordon wrote a best-selling book called "Parent Effectiveness Training." In the book he taught parents to "active listen," which ...
Views: 4293(5 votes) - ***A Place Where Love Knows Your Name - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Once upon a time there was a wonderful television show called Cheers. It took place in Boston. Each day, the local patrons would gather at Cheers to discuss the events of the day, contemplate life’s burdens, explore life’s joys, and cry over a beer ...
Views: 2298(30 votes) - ***Phone Psychic: Accurate Answers, Your Part in A Good Reading, as the Caller - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Emily Erickson-SandstromPhone Psychic: Accurate Answers, Your Part in A Good Reading, as the Caller Caveats about Integrity: This article begins with your call. It assumes you have done your homework choosing whom to call. Briefly re that: Integrity on both sides is a good thing. There is a world of dishonest ...
Views: 4328(5 votes) - ***Should You Try To Save Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have said for many years, “Most marriages and relationships can be saved, but not all!” And our corollary has always been – “Most marriages and relationships are worth saving, but not all!” Here’s what we mean. In the case of abuse – sexual, ...
Views: 3725(30 votes) - Dealing With Separation - Breaking Up, Letting Go And How To Move On - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2009 from Psychic LillyWhy do we get so attached to another human being? A fixation on a former love is not unusual. Many have trouble letting go after a relationship is over. The depression that follows the break-up of a relationship is considered by mental health professionals as a normal part of grieving. However, ...
Views: 31886(5 votes) - Five Tips for Relationship Stress - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2010 from Aila Accad, RN,The most difficult stressor for most of us is other people. We often blame other people for our feelings, thoughts and choices we feel forced to make. The truth is other people are not responsible for any of these things. When you give others control over your feelings, thoughts and choices, ...
Views: 2921(10 votes) - Healing Emotional Abuse - Signs, Symptoms & Help For Relationship Problems - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2009 from Kathi Calahan, Career CoachIt begins at home, rears its ugly head in school, becomes apparent in early love relationships, dating, marriage and finally your children pick it up from you and unknowingly pass it on to their children. It’s the cycle of abuse. Abusers always have a history of childhood abuse. They don’t ...
Views: 4004(5 votes) - Passive-Aggressive Behavior - by Submitted on May 04, 2009 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantHave you ever felt confused when speaking with someone? He or she might be smiling but you were uncomfortable by how they were acting? Well, it might be a passive-aggressive behavior you are experiencing. Passive-aggressive behavior is a manner of interacting with others in passive ways as, ...
Views: 2575(5 votes) - Relationship Wish List - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from Julie FarhaIt’s time to get real with your relationships. Whether you are currently single or in a relationship, I invite you to ask yourself the following questions because this is part of the process of healing your relationships. In doing this you can heal those from the past, embrace the present and ...
Views: 4911(5 votes) - ***Building a Love that Lasts for a Lifetime - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Today is a day to remember! Our publisher officially released our multiple award-winning book in paperback! Our labor of love – our heart’s work for the past 26+ years – has come to fruition in a format that will reach even more people. Excerpts ...
Views: 4932(38 votes) - ***The Seven Most Common Mistakes Made By Marriage Counselors - Part 1 of 2 - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have studied successfully married couples for over 26 years on six of the world’s seven continents. We have traveled in more countries than we can remember. And while our focus has been on those who have made their marriages work; we are also ...
Views: 5927(38 votes) - ***What’s Sex Got To Do With It? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2007 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Older adults between the ages of 57 and 85 make sex an important part of their lives! That’s the results of the first comprehensive national survey of the sexual attitudes and behaviors of older adults as reported in the New England Journal of ...
Views: 2509(28 votes) - ***The Divorce Rate Is Not 50 Percent - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Let’s face it; the oft-quoted statistic that 50% of marriages in America end in divorce discourages a lot of couples who are contemplating marriage. Who could blame them? Who wants to get into relationships where there is the expectation of failure ...
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