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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Are You Just Like Him? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2013 from Dwayne KlassenBruce (not his real name) is a man that was once at the top of the corporate world for 13 years. Two years ago, he was given a layoff package as part of the company's down sizing scheme. Bruce is the proud father of a precocious 8 year old girl and an inquisitive 6 year old boy. He is the loving ...
Views: 1514(2 votes) - Are you taking it Personally? - by Submitted on May 13, 2011 from Steve DahlAs with any relationship, it's nice to apply one of the 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz; "Don't take anything personally". No matter what anyone says or does, no matter how personal it seems it really has nothing to do with you. It is just the other individual trying to work through the stories ...
Views: 1622(2 votes) - Chocolate Anyone? How to Create More Intimacy in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonDo you wonder what happened to that yummy closeness you used to have with your mate? Is the sweetness of that chocolate-like intimacy missing from your relationship? Read on to discover 7 simple ways you can whip the confectionery delight of intimacy back into any relationship. So what do ...
Views: 1924(2 votes) - COMMITMENT ~ The reasons why couples commit and how you can get there too. - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachToday's world is filled with hookups, casual encounters, and fast and furious flings. Summer romances and brief passion may be exciting to read about in romance novels, but living it may be a short-lived thrill that ultimately disappoints you, especially if you want something ...
Views: 1429(2 votes) - Couples Challenges: The Series - Successfully Navigating the Lifestyle aka Swinging - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2009 from Mark KauppMany couples face a point in their relationship when the feelings of boredom and monotony begin to set in. The couple begins to feel like they’ve lost the spice and spontaneity that once came so easily. Now they have to work for that same excitement which tends to make things seem tedious and ...
Views: 4592(2 votes) - Dating tips women should avoid - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2012 from Beth SocialYou may have an unhappy relationship wih these types of women: Too attached to their parents. These women tend to tell at least one of their parents everything. Perhaps they expect or ask their parents to pay for things—like that rug they really, really have to have, etc. Be careful. Soon the ...
Views: 1495(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: He wants to call all the shots and refuses to compromise - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband left me this past April. We are in our early twenties and we have been together since we were teenagers. We grew together so well, until he left me. He is Hispanic and very dominating and controlling. He wants to call all the shots and refuses to compromise. I ...
Views: 1322(2 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I find a good man to love me for me? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mom, of a teenage son. I was never married to his dad (if you want to call him that). I have the hardest time finding a relationship cuz I am on SS income and I am judged by that. I am a loving person, the good guys want a woman that works or is very ...
Views: 919(2 votes) - Defensiveness: The Poison Pill to Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2007 from Jim TammIn 25 years as a judge dealing with relationship issues I almost never had to resolve legal disputes. People were almost always before me because someone got defensive and became a bad problem solver. Defensiveness is a poison pill to good relationships. In conflict, defensiveness is like ...
Views: 30382(4 votes) - Dr. Romance Says: Lighten Up: Cures for Marital Boredom - by Submitted on May 24, 2012 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: The old folk songs say it: Oh, love is handsome, love is fine Love is a jewel when it is new; But when love's old, it waxes cold And fades away, like morning dew. Folk wisdom says it: If newlyweds put a penny in a jar for every time they make love in the first ...
Views: 1958(2 votes) - DWELLING AS CHANGE BRINGS PEACE - by Submitted on May 21, 2019 from Brenda ShoshannaWe all hold on to that which we love, or that which we feel makes us secure. There is an innate fear of loss and change. It could even be said that our entire lives consist of a struggle to hold everything together. We want things to be stable, remain exactly as they were. When change comes ...
Views: 4969(2 votes) - Eating Cake - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2010 from Mike EdwardsIn a recent article by JD Dean Signs of a Cheating Boyfriend there appears a reference to a well know incorrect saying; "You can't have your cake and eat it" Why is this incorrect? Simply, you can have your cake and you can eat it, it is just that there will be no cake left. However, ...
Views: 2898(2 votes) - EFT Tapping to Overcome Fear of Criticism and Deal with Critical People - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2013 from Sonal PandeyNo matter how sweetly it is packaged, criticism hurts. It comes disguised as feedback from your boss or professors, belittling taunts from friends, customer complaints and nagging from family members who seem to get secret satisfaction in pointing out your flaws. There is an amazing ...
Views: 2326(2 votes) - Feng Shui And Love - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2010 from manuel gilMany "Feng Shui Consultants" believe that the perfect approach to attract love and happy relationships is to adjust the living environment by re-placing images of Lone Figures with pictures and paintings of happy couples, by creating cozy seating arrangements, by removing televisions out of ...
Views: 1196(2 votes) - Get Over Being Dumped - 7 Helpful Guides Towards Successful Moving On - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2011 from Johnny WayneTo get over being dumped is a challenge for you! You will have the biggest fight with your EMOTION, so be ready. It might be too painful for you to recover easily especially on facing the fact that you're done and it's over.You always suffer from the pain he caused you, you feel worthless and ...
Views: 3946(2 votes) - Getting to Yes - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2012 from Tina TessinaThe average person pays more attention to what she's saying or thinking about than what she is hearing, or how her words are "landing" on the other person. This self-involvement gets worse during an argument. You can become a much more effective communicator by using "attentive speaking" a ...
Views: 3111(2 votes) - Guidelines On How To Save Your Marriage - Putting your Relationship Back in control - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2012 from Olivia PeterMarriage can certainly be full of pleasure, but it can also be full of pain. For many people, it seems the happiness has actually been gone for so long that it's impossible to ever get it back. Even so it doesn't have to be like that. When considering how to save your marriage, there are several ...
Views: 1544(2 votes) - Heartbroken? Roll the Dice! - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Nicole NenningerHere’s some interesting advice: If you are looking to get over a broken heart and can’t seem to get your ex out of your mind, keep thinking about them! It sounds counterintuitive but in a recent study, participants found relief from incessant thoughts about their ex by consciously thinking ...
Views: 1639(4 votes) - How to Build Charisma and Draw Others to You - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2011 from Ashley ArnYou've probably noticed that some people just radiate a wonderful energy, drawing people to them with seemingly little effort, and chances are that you've wondered how you can build charisma to radiate that same great attitude. Perhaps you've been thinking that charisma, magnetism, or star ...
Views: 1499(2 votes) - How to Change Your Love Life This Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2010 from Dr. Diana KirschnerIf you're single and looking for love, Valentine's Day can be one of the most FEARED days of the year. While everyone else is having candle lit dinners, there you sit watching a sitcom or cruising a dating site. Being single on a day that is dedicated to romance can be more than a little bit ...
Views: 1803(2 votes) - How to Save Marriage From Divorce – 3 Uncommon Ways to Save Your Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2011 from Lisa Penn-JamesI was so happy the day I married my husband. We were both sparkling eyes and hearts full of love. We swore to be together forever and we meant it. Cut to 11 years later. Every day I ask myself how to save marriage from divorce. We hardly ever talk or see each other. A silent anger is between ...
Views: 1647(2 votes) - How to Win Back Your Ex-Boyfriend? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from robin brainEvery relationship experiences up and downs and goes through difficult stages. Sometimes you are incapable of handling them and you break up with your boyfriend. But some time later, you realize that your ex-boyfriend was the perfect one for you and you are ready to do anything to get back your ...
Views: 659(2 votes) - How to Win Back Your Husband or Wife - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe Beam“You actually want to stay married to this guy?” She didn’t hesitate a moment. Yes, she wanted to save her marriage. She and her husband were 40ish, married about twenty years, with a couple of children. One evening he told her he was in love with his assistant, that he already had a lawyer, ...
Views: 8089(2 votes) - How Well Do You Know Your Partner? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2004 from Dave ShieldsFor my birthday last year my wife made up a beautifully framed picture of my name, and then underneath it she listed 32 positive qualities I possess. Needless to say, it was one of the finest gifts I have ever received. Some of the qualities even taught me about me. After that ...
Views: 11831(2 votes) - If We're Honest About Physical Attraction - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe BeamWe did an online poll for my visit with on-air personalities Woody & Jim today on 107.5 The River in Nashville. The question was, “Which is most important to you?” The choices were: 1) your mate takes care of his/her body and keeps looking good, 2) your mate fulfills your sexual desires but lets ...
Views: 3835(2 votes) - If You Think an Ultimatum is Your Only Option… Think Again! Marriage Advice - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2016 from Nicola BeerAre you sick and tired of your spouse’s behaviour? Do you have no more to give? Are you at the end of your tether? Do you think an ultimatum is your only way out? We hear people giving ultimatums every day. “If you don’t stop doing X then Y will be the consequence.” However, more often than ...
Views: 1658(2 votes) - Is Love a Drug? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeWhat makes people fall in love? We find someone we are in love with, but two years later we wonder what we ever saw in them. No one can say this hasn’t happened to them, whether it was a high school crush or our first romance. Unrequited love is harsh. IT leaves us feeling rejected. Our feelings ...
Views: 1681(4 votes) - Is Your Relationship Failing? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2010 from Ryan D'eathWhen a relationship begins, it can be positively thrilling! We get so tangled and engrossed with each other and think that it will never end...sometimes however it does... So how do you know if your relationship is going down hill? No. 1: Are you spending less time together? When you ...
Views: 961(2 votes) - Keeping Your Female Partner Happy - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Hugh DeBurghThis article is aimed at my masculine readers. If you are of the feminine race, please read this as well, and set me straight if you disagree. You certainly know this subject better than I! Let me start out by stating that this post is a hopeless generalization. When I refer to relationships ...
Views: 2079(2 votes) - Listen Up (2013), Part 2 - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2013 from nancy traversCouples who learn to actively, mindfully listen to one another have a better chance of having a deep, intimate relationship. It makes sense: When you listen well enough to understand your partner’s point of view, you understand him or her better, and the bond between you strengthens. So how ...
Views: 2242(2 votes) - Live and Let Live - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Hugh DeBurghLive and Let Live “There will always be war, famine & poverty as long as anyone believes that he has the right to impose his will on another.” I wrote that on Twitter a few weeks back and it seemed to resonate with some people. That sentence is my conclusion of what people like you and I must ...
Views: 1792(2 votes) - Long Distance Relationship Can Remain Alive - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2010 from Donna MartinKeeping a long distance relationship alive can be a real challenge. In addition to the usual relationship drama there is the added stress of not having the physical contact with your partner. Dealing with the distance in a positive way will require some creativity and a true commitment to making ...
Views: 1396(2 votes) - Love Addiction Recovery: Detachment, Boundaries, Self-Care - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Jim HallLove addiction recovery is about reclaiming our own lives. One part of our path to recovery learning and owning our right to focus on and take care of ourselves, build on our strengths, and ask for and accept help with our limitations. Many of us find it difficult even to begin this ...
Views: 3236(2 votes) - Love Tarot: What The Fool Can Teach Us About Love - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2010 from Carolyn NaimanOne of the most common inquiries I receive as a Tarot reader is the question of Love: When will I meet Mr. or Mrs. Right? Although the Tarot often refers to future possibilities and potential outcomes, finding love is really up to each individual. The Tarot is a reminder that we are the ...
Views: 3581(4 votes) - Observation of Love - by Submitted on May 17, 2011 from Eddie CorbynYou’re sitting in your garden appreciating the beautiful trees, fauna and flowers all around you and you’re feeling very good. The sun was low on the horizon and a loving breeze enveloped you. Suddenly, without warning, you’re aware that you’re still to meet and connect with your soul ...
Views: 1654(2 votes) - People are Innocent - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Mary Dee FreemanI have to tell you about this friend of mine. She’s been driving me crazy lately. Don’t get me wrong; she’s one of the nicest people I know. The problem is that she is a consummate fixer and can be a little pushy about it. You know the one… She always knows what’s best for everyone. ...
Views: 1321(2 votes) - Rebuilding Trust After Lying - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonHas someone close to you broken your trust by lying? Is it difficult to get back on track and reestablish that trust relationship you thought you had? If so, there is hope! It's possible to get back to having a healthy and satisfying relationship with a person who has been lying. Understanding ...
Views: 21938(2 votes) - Relating To People When You Have Changed - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Adam BenedettoDo you find yourself stuck in the same role in life, not only with yourself but with the people you know? Because people see you in a certain way, do you keep acting that way? Sometimes it is hard to be who you really are when the interactions you have with people keep you locked in a certain ...
Views: 919(2 votes) - Relationship Advice - How to Keep Marital Satisfaction High After Children - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2016 from Nicola BeerThe effects of having a child are immeasurable. Whilst most parents say the greatest moment and thing in their life was the birth of their son or daughter. The effect that having a child can have on your marriage is immense. Marital dissatisfaction can ensue after having a child and it can ...
Views: 1341(2 votes) - Relationship Needs: Are Your Needs Hurting Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2011 from Richard NicastroNot everyone realizes they have relationship needs (emotional and physical needs that you expect your spouse/partner to meet). This is especially the case for older couples I work with who were raised in a generation where the phrases, "emotional needs" "emotional intimacy" and "need for ...
Views: 1486(2 votes) - RELATIONSHIPS LIVE ON THE TIP OF YOUR TONGUE! - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2011 from Stanlee PanelleHow, what and when we say what we say to those we love makes an impression that lasts. Words cannot be taken back. Nor can we read the minds of our lovers. How many times have you heard: “Oh … I didn’t really mean it.” Or, ”I’m sorry I said that. I take it back.” Or, “I was just angry and ...
Views: 1698(2 votes) - Remove The Distance In Your Relationship - by Relationships usually start out great. People treat each other with love and respect. Then something happens and we get upset.
When you are upset at someone, you can’t be with the person. There are a million miles of distance between you and the person you are upset with.
Before long, ...
Views: 17668(2 votes) - Romantic Relationships are the Ultimate Teachers for Spiritual Growth - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Ralf FritzingerNamaste beloved friends of Love and Light! I send you streams of love from my heart and I hope you are doing fine! Today I want to get into romantic relationships and personal sharing a bit for I AM actually in a wonderful divine relationship with a fine Lady and such a ...
Views: 2574(2 votes) - Saving a Relationship can be as Easy as 1-2-3! - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2010 from Andrew HunterTo begin, let's realize that adult relationships are intricate in nature. No two relationships are the same, and thus they cannot be treated as if they are: everyone is different, taking different approaches to the same set of circumstances. Because all relationships are unique, there can't be a ...
Views: 2571(2 votes) - Self-Centered & Demanding - When It's All About Me - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Krystal KuehnTo be demanding isn’t all bad, but there are many ways in which it can be unloving. It is one thing to be persistent in asking or requiring something, but excessively demanding one’s own way regardless of others’ rights or how they are treated indicates self-centeredness. Overly demanding people ...
Views: 14916(2 votes) - Stupid Cupid - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2012 from Tina TessinaMiley Cyrus is only 19, and she's just gotten engaged to Liam Hemsworth. Will it last? Well, the fact that it's a celebrity match is not in its favor -- celebrity couples don't have a great track record. As a little pre-wedding gift, here's what Miley and Liam can do to make sure they're ready ...
Views: 2063(2 votes) - The Last Word - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2010 from Azzrian VisionsDo you like to have the last word when in a debate, argument or confrontation? Are you able to just let it go and let the other person get the final word off their chest, have their say and be done with it? Some people feel a need to have that “last word” while others can simply walk away ...
Views: 18895(2 votes) - The ONE Major Cause of Relationship Problems! - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2010 from Margaret PaulWhat if there really is ONE major cause of relationship problems, one issue that if you address, would change everything? The good news and the bad news is - there is!The good news is that it makes it easier to understand why you might be having problems in your relationship.The bad news is that ...
Views: 5061(2 votes) - Three Steps for Surviving an Affair - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2010 from Kim OlverMany people ask, “Can my relationship survive an affair”? My answer is yes when you follow the three- step process outlined below. Step One: Prioritize Your Relationship The first step is for both people to realize that their relationship is important enough for them to attempt to heal ...
Views: 1881(2 votes) - Toxic Seeds That Feed Love Addicts Delusion - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Jim HallFrom the beginning of our childhood- we are planted with seeds in our conscious. These seeds are the messages on love, romance, and relationships love addicts (and all of society) have been consistently bombarded with- that feed the DELUSION of addictive relationships. These fabricated seeds are ...
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