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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Senior Dating Tips - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2006 from john waltzerFifty plus and wish to start dating again after a long long gap. Many would think it is an overwhelming task- especially when dates are difficult to find at that age. No it isn’t. Start searching on an online adult dating site in a category dedicated to senior dating. Searching through ...
Views: 868 - Boost Your Relationship with Humor - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2006 from Debbie MandelDo you get annoyed when he teases you about being clumsy or talking too much? Do you wonder if you married one of the Three Stooges when he tells a rehearsed joke with crass body language? Do both of you sit at the kitchen table slinging sarcastic remarks at each other? It’s time to ...
Views: 1333 - Too Close for Comfort: Recognizing the Signs of an Unhealthy Attachment to a Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from John MooreTOO CLOSE FOR COMFORT Recognizing the Signs of an Unhealthy Attachment to a Relationship authored by John D. Moore, Ph.D., co-founder of http://www.mychicagotherapist.com In this article: · Exposing the problem of Relational Dependency. · Examining the unhealthy attachment style ...
Views: 16992 - Ask A Simple Question to Jumpstart a Stalled Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2006 from Cynthia WallINTRO: Do you long for the early times of your romantic relationship, when support and affection flowed freely? A couple’s therapist promises you can recreate this mood by asking one simple question. In the early days of a new romance, couples delight in pleasing one another. Each is ...
Views: 5317 - Understanding the True Nature of Giving - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2006 from Laura YoungWe'll call him Spike. He was big, tattooed and pierced, on lots of narcotics and, oh yeah, without a job. I was on the team to try to help him turn his life around in 5 weeks. (Did I ever mention my former career was challenging?!) Spike had a pregnant wife. Very pregnant. They had no car ...
Views: 1309 - Appreciate The Differences For A Great Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2006 from Tony ThomasAccording to a report at Salary.com, a Stay-at-Home Mom is worth 134k per year. I so agree with that. Stay-at-Home Moms have been and always will be the backbone of this society. A bold statement? Sure it is and I stand behind it. Although their time taking care of the home, the kids, the wash, ...
Views: 866 - 7 Ways to Deal with the Negative People in your Life - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2006 from Lori RadunHave you ever been faced with trying to stay positive when others around you are negative? Negative people can be a challenge to be around. They will bring you down and drain your energy. A negative person can throw your best laid plans to be positive right out the window. Whether your child ...
Views: 44696(6 votes) - 5 Relationship Killers and How to Avoid Them - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2006 from Margaret PaulAs a relationship counselor, I am constantly being asked why so many relationships fail. In the 37 years that I have worked with couples, I have discovered five major relationship killers: CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR Most people enter a relationship with a deep fear of rejection, and this fear ...
Views: 2936 - The Biggest Mistake Men Make in Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2006 from Helene RothschildHELENE ROTHSCHILD, MS, MA, MFT, is a Marriage, Family Therapist, intuitive counselor, author, teacher, workshop facilitator, and speaker. Visit http://www.lovetopeace.com for more free articles, free newsletter, and a Personal Success online course. “I don’t understand,” said ...
Views: 1621 - RELATIONSHIP ADVICE: Honey or Vinegar - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2006 from Karen JonesI would guess you’ve heard the old saying, “you’ll catch more bees with honey than with vinegar”. Of course that makes sense, and you’d never DREAM of trying to attract a bee with vinegar, would you? So why is it that so many of us behave as though nagging, ...
Views: 1693 - Creating Lasting Love - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2006 from Lance OngMany people are able to get into relationships. And many are able to attract partners who are suitable for them, physically and mentally. But for many people, their relationships do not last much more than 3 months! This is a shocking truth of the dating world. Why does this happen? Why ...
Views: 905 - Challenged by your relationships? Good! - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2006 from John RobsonWhy are our relationships such a challenge? By their very nature, relationships always push us toward duality, toward the opposites. They take us into both the light of our souls and the darkness of our subconscious. They force us to look at the light and experience the shadows. If we deny ...
Views: 1148(2 votes) - The Man's Way to Finding True Love - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2006 from Lance OngEvery one of us is looking for an ideal partner, the person who fulfils our need to love and be loved. The problem is there are so many people who can pass the first-glance test that you can be looking your whole life and not know who to select. So how can you end up with an ideal partner ...
Views: 999 - Love is a Chemical Dance and a Four Letter Word - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2006 from Jaci RaeThere are few four letter words that conjure up a mixture of fear and/or elation like the word Love. Many confuse lust, infatuation, and ‘a crush’ for love, so let me explain a little bit about all of these chemical reactions. As unromantic as it may sound, the chemistry of love is ...
Views: 873 - Learn Social Skills for a Better Life - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2006 from YAMIN MEMONMany academic and professional geniuses also lack ability to handle various social situations in life. In this article we shall explore the need and advantages of learning various social skills like Effective Communication, Assertiveness, Presentation skills etc. You have attended meetings, ...
Views: 1184 - The Mirror of Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2006 from Margaret PaulNedra, one of my clients, was quite upset when she received an email from her friend, Roxanne, ending their friendship. The email was quite blaming, telling Nedra that she was narcissistic, selfish, and uncaring. Roxanne complained that Nedra just talked about herself and was never there for ...
Views: 2560 - The Secret Of How To Make A Marriage Last - by I hear it all the time. Couples come to me after going through every other marriage improvement method under the sun and tell me they experience a brief sense of relief from a certain program, but with passing of time, they fall back into their old ways.
This got me thinking. With the millions ...
Views: 2035 - How to improve communication skills - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2009 from Licia GinneHow to Improve Communication Skills One of the goals of individual and couple's psychotherapy is to improve your ability to know what you want to say and how to have it be heard and understood. If you can improve your ability to communicate success can follow in so many areas of your life. ...
Views: 1451 - Dating Advice: Deadline Junkie - No Time for Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2006 from Trisha StoneDating Advice: Deadline Junkie – No time for relationships I want a relationship BUT… When talking to singles about relationship there is one theme that I often hear “I would like to be in a relationship BUT I don’t have the time”. This is particularly ...
Views: 1280 - Consequences, the result of your Actions - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2006 from Michaela ScherrMaybe you are looking at a sea or green change, career change, further education, having a child, or something else. Regardless of what changes you have in mind it helps if you take time to consider the consequences of this change, particularly if you are in a relationship and have children ...
Views: 5183 - 8 Ways to Heal When Love Hurts - by Submitted on May 29, 2006 from Lori RadunSometimes our loved ones hurt us. Dads can get physical or disappear from our lives. Moms can betray us with their anger and lack of support. A best friend can shock us by turning their backs on us. A spouse can be unfaithful and destroy our trust. Our children can take a destructive path ...
Views: 1309 - When It's Time to Say Goodbye - by Submitted on May 29, 2006 from Susan DunnOne of the things we all dislike about psychologists is terms like "vulnerable to loss." Who, pray tell me, is not "vulnerable to loss"? It is devastating to lose someone who made your world a better place. Or some thing that did, like a career, a special house, your left leg, the ability to ...
Views: 3152 - How to Be Romantic - by Submitted on May 14, 2006 from Jill BrennanNo one is born romantic. But like most things in life, being romantic is something that can be learned. Although romantic gestures may seem like they come easily to some people that is only because they’ve had lots of practice and because they are in tune with what motivates the opposite ...
Views: 1289 - Love is Not Enough - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2006 from Helene RothschildHELENE ROTHSCHILD, MS, MA, MFT, is a Marriage, Family Therapist, intuitive counselor, author, teacher, workshop facilitator, and speaker. Visit http://www.lovetopeace.com for more free articles, free newsletter, and the Personal Success online course. Do you feel disappointed and like a failure ...
Views: 1128 - Lamenting Being Single? A Beautiful Relationship is Easier Than You Think. - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2006 from Susan JeffersIf you’re one of the world’s millions of single people, you’ve undoubtedly asked yourself at some point, “Where are all the good men/women out there?” Why can’t I find a partner?” Or if you are in a less than satisfactory relationship, you’ve ...
Views: 2495 - Tuning Up Our Relationships Begins With Ourselves - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2006 from Amy HaleHave you ever wondered why it is you meet the people you meet? Have you ever attracted the same type of people and situations over and over again? Have you ever been confused about why people act a particular way around you? Almost everyone, at one time or another, has pondered these ...
Views: 1613 - Seven Words a Guy Likes to Hear from His Sweetheart - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2006 from R FBelieve it or not beneath the confident, silent exterior of a guy, lies a feeling or two. Ladies, we understand, are more verbal than men, and relationship experts tell us--as if it's big news--that the feminine of the genders has a need to hear words of affection. Expressions of love and ...
Views: 1472 - How To Stop The Fighting In Your Relationship - by For some couples fighting is the fire that keeps their relationships alive. It lets them know the other cares. Many are determined to win a battle that never ends. Others try to right the wrongs they have experienced in the past with someone new. Unfortunately, this kind of behavior is doomed to ...
Views: 7963 - Fear of Commitment - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2006 from Margaret PaulIn my counseling work, I often work with clients who have a deep fear of commitment. These individuals generally say that they want to be in a loving relationship, yet they keep picking “the wrong people.” Susan, 38, sought my help because she was in two relationships at the same ...
Views: 2881 - SPLITTING HAIRS OVER BALDNESS - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2006 from Terry L. SumerlinI’m a barber with no hair, and the oddity of it is such that it seems to startle people into saying something. So, regularly, there is someone who – in jest – comments about my bald head. Generally, it’s in the form of, “You’re not going to cut my hair like ...
Views: 941 - Fears of a New Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2006 from Margaret PaulKatie had not been in a relationship in ten years, and she was scared to death. In her last relationship, she had lost herself completely and then felt devastated when her boyfriend of three years left her for another woman. After working on herself emotionally and spiritually for a number of ...
Views: 2883 - Duplicating Success The Beliefs of Top Seducers - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2006 from Ranko MagamiWhat does it take to duplicate success? There are 3 things involved in duplicating success. * Beliefs * Mental states * mental strategies If you duplicate these the way somebody you wish to be like you'll have the same type of results. This can be a difficult task for some ...
Views: 1318 - Getting What You Want In Life - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2006 from Lesley Spencer PyleDo you know what you want in life? When is the last time you took a few minutes to think about where you are in life and more importantly, where you want to be? What types of aspirations do you have? What's stopping you from writing a few of them down and making them a reality? The answer is ...
Views: 867 - Relationships: Conflict Resolution Without Words - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2006 from Margaret PaulIn the last few decades, partners have spent countless hours trying to “work out problems.” Yet over and over again they often come up against a major roadblock: they just don’t see things the same way. No matter how long they talk and how hard they try, neither ends up feeling ...
Views: 2875(1 vote) - Love your LOVER - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2006 from Teresa GiosiaLove your LOVER Are you living your life with passion and desire? Every area of your life should possess both and sadly enough the one area that is most neglected is our relationship with our significant other. Here are a few tips and suggestions that will rekindle those flames of desire. ...
Views: 920 - What is a Karmic Soul Mate? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2006 from Dorothy ThompsonOne of the most interesting, yet baffling, things about life is that out of all the people in the world, a few fortunate ones will touch our lives in a special way and leave lasting impressions. One such person is your karmic soul mate. While other soul mates come into your life for intimate ...
Views: 9868 - Marketing Strategies to Make Your First Million - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2006 from Shelby CollingeLet’s learn how to build our business quickly and effectively. If after reading this article you want to learn more about me or my books, products, services or programs please visit http://www.r-m-m.com Please think about and answer all of the questions, below. This will start you on ...
Views: 1346 - Ending Relationships - Should I Stay or Should I Go? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2006 from Michael MyerscoughShould you stay with your partner or leave them? Is all the pain you suffer in your relationship worth it for the good times you have together? Will it really be worth all the pain of leaving them or is it better to stay and stick it out? In most relationships there comes a point when you have ...
Views: 1509 - The Secret to Making More Friends - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealWhen you meet new people for the first time, do you usually like most of the new people that you meet? Or do you find that you usually dislike new people, unless they can eventually prove after a long time that they deserve your friendship? Perhaps you have never thought about this ...
Views: 4910 - How to solve relationship problems. - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2005 from Fatimah MusaRelationship problems either with your spouse, family, business partners or other people affect your personal growth, success and well being. If you value your relationship, you need to make better decisions and take specific actions to make them work. Here are some ideas to help you avoid or ...
Views: 1623 - Bonding With Your Partner - Without Candles, Wine or Lingerie! - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2005 from Margaret PaulA journalist interviewed me regarding intimacy in relationships. One of her questions was, “What are some of the easy ways in which husband and wife can bond - without candles and wine and expensive lingerie?” Easy ways? Well, it depends on what you mean by easy! Bonding has ...
Views: 3547 - Judge A Man's Love Potential By The Way He Kisses - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2005 from Yangki Christine AkitengWhether men are aware of it or not, a majority of women judge a man’s love potential by the way he kisses alone. Some women I have spoken to say that if a man is a "lousy" kisser (either he rushes in full-throttle practically eating away your face, drools so much you have to wipe your ...
Views: 15462 - A SIMPLE WAY TO MAKE A LIFE-CHANGING DIFFERENCE - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2005 from Terry L. SumerlinWhen our schedules permit, Sherry and I begin our day at a McDonalds that is conveniently located across the highway from Judson High School (Converse, TX), where she teaches. One morning as we were sipping coffee and chatting, she related the success she was having with one of her eleventh ...
Views: 1060 - Creating Intimate Connections: Genuine Listening Makes All the Difference - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2005 from Peri Coeurtney EnkinHow many times have you been talking away, wrapped up in a conversation, sharing something important, meaningful or revealing about yourself only to realize that the person you are talking with has drifted away and is obviously somewhere else? And, if you tell the truth, haven’t you done ...
Views: 804 - Codependent Relationships: Takers and Caretakers - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2005 from Margaret PaulTakers and caretakers – they often seem to find each other! As a counselor who has worked with relationships for 37 years, I can tell you that this is the most frequent relationship dynamic that I encounter. Takers are people who tend to be narcissistic – that is, they are ...
Views: 3478(1 vote) - It is time to Broadcast More New Age Energy Frequencies in Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2005 from Rev.Amelia de Pazos B/MscIt is Time to Broadcast More New Age Energy Frequencies in Relationships In the wake of the events from this past decade, there is a need to broadcast New Age energy. People need to multiply their own channeling (perceiving, receiving their own highest energy and the one from others) abilities ...
Views: 951 - The Top 10 Things I Learned Being An Identical Twin - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2005 from Susan DunnEvery couple of years the topic of identical twins hits the front cover of Newsweek. In fact it's about time now--be watching! Most people find the topic fascinating. The relationship between identical twins looks good from the outside; a seamless interface, and they seem to enjoy one ...
Views: 4426 - Ten Suggestions for Creating a Lasting Love...All By Yourself - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2005 from Susan JeffersThe power is yours. Whether your relationship simply needs some fine-tuning or whether it is in serious trouble, you will be amazed at how much relationship-healing you can do all by yourself. And if you are not in a relationship, there are many ways of approaching members of the opposite sex in ...
Views: 1667 - Power Struggles - Being Right or Being Loving - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2005 from Margaret PaulMandy and Evan consulted with me for couple’s counseling because they were always bickering. Every little thing seemed to become an issue between them. They loved each other very much, but the bickering was certainly getting in the way of enjoying each other. I ask Mandy and Evan to come ...
Views: 2987(1 vote) - Looking for Mr. Right? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2005 from Michael Myerscough3 ways to guarantee you’ll find him within a year Are you looking to find your Mr. Right? Your perfect partner? A man that you’ll love passionately, forever, and who’ll love you back even more? Then there are 3 things you must know or must do in order to make sure you get ...
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