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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Internet Dating Do's and Don'ts - by Submitted on May 22, 2007 from Amy SchoenHere is some Internet dating etiquette to help you along the way with any relationship questions you may have. With so many choices to make in life, it never hurts to receive advice from a relationship coach to help guide you through the various online dating websites. Just as being honest ...
Views: 2436 - Why Do We Fear Close Relationships? - by Submitted on May 21, 2007 from Robert NajemyAlthough we want to love and be loved, we also fear both. Our past experiences have programmed us to associate loving and being loved with unpleasant experiences and especially with feelings of vulnerability. For these and other reasons, we have developed fears and subconscious resistance ...
Views: 24537(8 votes) - How to Have a Great Relationship - by Submitted on May 20, 2007 from Leo RyanThis is being written to put forward an understanding of relationships that can enable us to have the relationship we all want. It is also being written after having worked as a counsellor for over twenty years and dealing with numerous relationships during that time. I believe I have arrived at ...
Views: 717 - Reconciliation Counselling - by Submitted on May 16, 2007 from Gary DirenfeldReconciliation Counselling Some people look across the great divide of a fractured relationship feeling it can never exist again. In such situations, the parties may be at odds with respect to their version of events. They may feel there must be agreement on the version of events, without which ...
Views: 2851 - Building Greater Relationships - One Shoe at a Time - by Submitted on May 14, 2007 from Lori RandallBuilding Greater Relationships – One Shoe at a Time The long awaited camping trip had finally arrived. Our fifth wheel trailer was packed to the gills, our kids were strapped in and the other two couples had started a caravan behind us to our lakeside destination. The lady at the ...
Views: 838 - Tips for Handling Extreme Religious Differences - by Submitted on May 11, 2007 from Margrit HarrisAre you a modern day Romeo and Juliet? Are you dealing with as much pain and struggle making your impossible relationship decisions as your fanciful predecessors? Recently this heart wrenching question was submitted to our online relationship advice column: "What do I do, my boy friend is an ...
Views: 1738 - The Secret of Perfect Relationships - by The less we learn to long for -- or depend upon --
Special understanding from others,
The less we will suffer for not receiving this.
The less we suffer over what others
Seem incapable of giving to us,
The less unhappy will we find ourselves
In these unanswered moments of our lives
Spent ...
Views: 853 - Remove The Distance In Your Relationship - by Relationships usually start out great. People treat each other with love and respect. Then something happens and we get upset.
When you are upset at someone, you can’t be with the person. There are a million miles of distance between you and the person you are upset with.
Before long, ...
Views: 17543(2 votes) - Are You Terrified of Social Rejection? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealDoes your shyness and fear of getting rejected keep you from having the relationships you want? Are you lonely much of the time? Everyone gets rejected at times, but for those of us who are socially confident, rejection is a minor matter, and people who are confident quickly bounce back from ...
Views: 2515 - Love Is Gentle - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2010 from Gina LakeI was listening to a song the other day, and some of the words were "Love is gentle, and love is kind." The truth of that really touched me. We think of love as being a feeling—an emotion—but true love is more of a doing. Love touches, love gives, love is gentle, and it is kind. That's how we ...
Views: 1007 - How to Talk to Your Friend in Pain-Part 1 - by Submitted on May 09, 2007 from Jennifer BrostKimberly was 24 years-old and scared. She had been recently diagnosed with Lupus, a serious and potentially life-threatening illness that could rob her of a bright future. Doctors had already warned her against having children. She felt she should stop dating her new boyfriend because she ...
Views: 922 - Want Highly Responsive Leads? - by Leads are not just leads, they are your CUSTOMERS! If you treat your leads well, they will be your customers for life.
Part of treating your customers well is to continually build a relationship with them. As your relationship builds, so will the trust and loyalty your leads have for you. One ...
Views: 776 - Help Your Relationship Flourish by popping the Question??to Yourself! - by According to Hale Dwoskin, author of The Sedona Method, our relationship problems stem from need, not love. we are really looking for love in all the wrong places and in all the wrong ways, he says. Love gets mixed up with or covered over by other feelings, and therein lie such problems ...
Views: 736 - Transforming Through Conflict - by Conflict is a natural stage in the development of relationship between two people, or between members of a group. But because most of us have been taught to avoid conflict, when we encounter it in groups, we retreat to the safety of shallow relationships with one another. Conflict is often a ...
Views: 869 - 5 Ways to Improve Your Dating Experiences - by Submitted on May 02, 2007 from Amy SchoenToday, we're going to discuss relationship issues with dating. Dating can be a very frustrating experience. Don’t you wish you could go up to a computer and punch in all the characteristics and qualities of your ideal mate and then, abracadabra that person appears custom made for ...
Views: 2420 - From Codependency to Cocommitment - Part 1 - by Submitted on May 01, 2007 from Robert NajemyTwo new words have become very popular in studying the Psychology of Relationships. They are codependence and co-commitment, which describe two totally different types of relationships. CODEPENDENCE Codependence describes a situation in which two people are dependent or addicted to each other. ...
Views: 1353 - 3 SECRETS OF THE HAPPY FAMILY HOLIDAY - by Submitted on May 01, 2007 from Angela SaundersPressured to take a family holiday, but dreading the prospect of close proximity? So many times when the family is thrown together the little niggling problems from normal family life seem to loom larger and louder. Guilt can so easily move into the deckchair along with you as you search for an ...
Views: 1571 - The 10 Most Common Relationship & Communication Triggers - by Submitted on May 10, 2010 from Dr. Cindy BrownAs a relationship specialist over the past 15+ years I have coached lots of people in person and on the phone to have better intimacy and communication in their personal, as well as in their business relationships. Here are some of the most common ways I have found that you may trigger each ...
Views: 1373 - Emotional Intimacy - by Emotional intimacy is not the same as sexual intimacy. Sexual intimacy can take place with or without emotional intimacy, and emotional intimacy often does not occur within any kind of sexual context.
Emotional intimacy is a psychological event that occurs when the trust level and ...
Views: 42255(6 votes) - Why Relationships Break Down Without the Proper Mindset - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2007 from adrian masterMind setting is a valuable practice for setting goals and achieving them with commitment and hard work. Mind setting is also important in relationships. Whether you are building relationships with family members, friends, or significant others, mind setting can be a great way to deal with any ...
Views: 787 - Seven Ways to Defang Difficult People - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2007 from Tom RussellDifficult people are on the hunt for a quarrel. It's not personal, usually. It's just that you happen to be the most convenient target. Difficult people are insecure. They want YOU to think and live like THEY think and live. Misery indeed loves company. They feel ...
Views: 1587 - Create and Maintain a Conscious Love Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2007 from Robert NajemyWe present you with a brief outline of some basic points necessary to tend to in order to create a harmonious and loving relationship. INNER PREPARATION Internal preparation is prerequisite for developing the maturity necessary to succeed in creating a conscious loving union with our love ...
Views: 2121 - Relationship Matters - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2007 from Harry SegguThis is one of the hardest things that we have to cope with in life—Relationships. Yes indeed, and it really does matter. If you think that it doesn’t, then think again. Everything that we do in life literally, has an impact on relationships. It can be a relationship with your ...
Views: 1317 - Just Divorced - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2007 from Robert NajemyMargarita’s husband just left her for another woman. Her world has collapsed. She feels rejected, betrayed, hurt, depressed, belittled, shamed, fearful, bitter, injustice and anger and even revenge at times. She fears that she will not be able to cope with life alone. She fears that ...
Views: 821 - How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything, Discovering Your Relationship DNA - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneStart with the idea that how you do anything is how you do everything and it will empower you to investigate how you relate, not just in a love relationship, but also with yourself and all others. This defuses the mindset of looking to fix what is ‘broken' and sets you on the path to ...
Views: 2386(6 votes) - On Truth and Lies - by ON TRUTH AND RELATIONSHIPS:
The big game of relationships is life. The relationship between ozone and skin cancer, between kindness and wisdom, between a mother and a son, between two lovers, between mass its speed and its gravitational balance. Everything in this universe is based on ...
Views: 1967 - Yin Yang Relationships - How to Find YOUR Perfect Partner - by Yin Yang is the ancient, Chinese symbol for balance. It depicts the strong attraction and complementary nature of opposites. Just as magnate and metal attract, while oil and water repel, we too are subject to these laws of nature in our relationships. For example, we have all met people for whom ...
Views: 2787 - Relationships and Self Esteem - What to Do if your Relationship isn't Working - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2007 from David Bonham-CarterBeing in a relationship which doesn’t feel as if it is quite working can be a paralysing experience and usually doesn’t help your self esteem. If you are not careful you can end up spending most of your time, worrying about: * What you should do * Whose fault is it * What if I get ...
Views: 2710 - When You Have Problems In a Relationship - Should You Forgive and Forget? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealIf someone has let you down or hurt you repeatedly you may wonder how many times you should "forgive and forget" before you give up on the relationship. No one else can really tell you what to do, although you may wish to ask others for their advice. If you are always being let down or hurt ...
Views: 3298 - The Telephone Cable - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2007 from Wayne MisnerMen are forcing themselves to suppress pain and by doing so, are also suppressing love. Humans cannot filter or suppress one set of emotions without impacting all emotions. He now appears to be insensitive, hardened, unfeeling, callous, thick skinned, numb, and sometimes dead. Try cutting a ...
Views: 1419 - Relationship help from the I Ching - by Everyone has difficulties in their most important relationships. Problems in love cannot be set aside and forgotten ? they are ever-present, and can threaten to devour your whole existence. Perhaps more than in any other area of life, relationships are full of unanswered questions.
What do I ...
Views: 896 - Learning About Relationhips - by As a psychologist it is apparent to me that when most people marry they believe their relationship will remain rewarding and loving; they do not expect to divorce. Yet the divorce rate is about 60% for first marriages, and is even higher for second marriages. So, we have a situation where people ...
Views: 795 - The Top Ten Tips for Being an Excellent Listener - by One of the biggest secrets for being successful with both your personal and your business goals is learning the skills of listening with excellence. Pick one of the tips below and practice applying it throughout the day today.
1. Detect whether the person talking to you is expressing facts or ...
Views: 1615(2 votes) - The Singles Scarcity Myth - by Submitted on May 20, 2010 from Ken DonaldsonBeware singles...you are about to be invited into a deception regarding the singles scene in your local area. According to the 2006 “Best Cities for Singles” research from Forbes.com (http://www.forbes.com/lists/2006/3/06singles_Best-Cities-For-Singles_land.html ), your home town may ...
Views: 969 - Uncoupling - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2007 from Wayne MisnerYou have heard it said, “Caught hook, line and sinker”. However, it is a pleasant caught. A mutual decision most of the time. You both start out in life your own color. Maybe you are red, they are yellow and as a couple when you are both mixed together you become a pair that is ...
Views: 1362 - Painful Relationship? Here's Pain Relief - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2007 from Love Coach RinattaDear Reader, your almost-to-be ex-partner has treated you badly. You have been neglected, unappreciated, rejected, not communicated with. You may have been cheated on. You have been unsupported. You have been abandoned. You have been reacted to badly over and over again. You have been forced ...
Views: 1924 - Fan the Flames Of Love and Passion - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2007 from Kara OhYou can bring back the passion in a long-term relationship by doing the following exercise: Each of you take time to be alone and think back to when you were "in love" and "in lust" with your partner, particularly in the beginning. Write down all those things you did for each other, all the ...
Views: 1112 - FIGHTING RULES - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2007 from Wayne MisnerFIGHTING RULES “It is not necessary to understand things in order to argue about them.” Caron de Beaumarchais This proverb encouraged me to write “Fighting Rules.” Next time you are upset with one ...
Views: 1086 - Re-Ignite the Flame in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2007 from Leslie Gail"Re-ignite the flame in your relationship" For many people, after being married for a certain amount of time you get comfortable in your relationship. This is not a bad thing, however comfort sometimes leads to a lack of excitement. I myself have been married almost 11 years, and between ...
Views: 3169 - When Family Members Drift Apart - A Spiritual Perspective - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2007 from Julie RedstoneRelationships that are inherited often feel like they are not chosen. Some are peaceful and loving, but many are embattled or difficult in other ways. Sometimes the reasons for creating distance seem more compelling than the reasons for creating love, yet in all cases it is of benefit to the ...
Views: 899 - Nerds Need Love Too - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2007 from collin rosatiNerds Need Love Too On a beautiful summer day a couple of years ago, a woman came to me with a simple problem. She wanted to find her true love but she did not want to change anything in her otherwise successful life. She did not belong to any social groups or health clubs, and her only ...
Views: 869 - Relationship Therapy in One Session - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2007 from Tim DesmondThis article is also available at http://www.psychresources.net Communication problems are by far the most common reason that couples come in for counseling. However, learning new communication skills does not always address the true cause of their problem. For example, many people who have ...
Views: 991 - Anger & The Cycle Theory - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2007 from Wayne MisnerAnger & The Cycle Theory The cycle theory, consisting of some form of tension building stage, then the explosion stage, then the honeymoon stage, is just one of many theories around today. It does seem that when anyone holds in all of their emotions and tries to control them, the tension ...
Views: 1160 - 5 Needs Of A Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2007 from dale mazurekDoes anybody know what they want out of a relationship? Do you know what you’re looking for in a partner and what needs need to be fulfilled? Most of us get scared and mixed up when we start thinking about what we are looking for when trying to pick our significant other. But once you ...
Views: 3479 - STARTING AGAIN - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2007 from Wayne MisnerSTARTING AGAIN I had a male friend who would have breakfast with me on Sunday mornings every once in a while. On one of these occasions, we were eating breakfast and he seemed preoccupied and in his own little world. I asked him if there was anything wrong, and he started to explain that his ...
Views: 1196 - Communicating With Women - Listening Without Solving - by If you’ve ever listened to two women talking to one another, you have probably heard a different style of communication than you’re used to. When two women communicate, they generally converse their thoughts without offering solutions. They basically want to vent certain thoughts or ...
Views: 2633 - Friends in Pain: How to Help Your Hurting Loved One - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2007 from Jennifer Brost“Where’s your husband?” the nurse asked. “At school,” I struggled to respond. “What school?” the nurse knew he needed to get to the hospital ASAP. In what was a miracle, I named the seminary and recited the phone number. My husband made it to the ...
Views: 984 - How to Enjoy Stress Free Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2007 from michael atmaImagine how your life might be if you knew how to finally stop the stress in relationships that saps your strength, drains your energy and ruins your productivity! Until you have released the need for judgment, you will always have it reflected back to you in your relationships. This is one ...
Views: 1687 - The Golden Rule to Get Over a Relationship Break Up - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2007 from Joshua UebergangDid you know psychologists concur that having a relationship break up is like going through grief? Contrasting grieving and getting over a break up, you can probably see why. In both cases you lose someone you loved and you're unwilling to psychologically let them go. By using similar principles ...
Views: 15364 - Appreciate The Differences For A Great Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2007 from Tony ThomasMen and women are different. Yeah, I know that's not an earth-shattering revelation. However, it is a simple but deeply revealing concept that should be understood. It could mean the difference between being in a great relationship and being without one. Being married for many years, I feel as ...
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