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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- ***How To Deal With A Narcissist - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2010 from Judith OrloffAs a psychiatrist, I strongly believe that it is important to know about the narcissistic personality so you can have realistic expectations when dealing with coworkers, friends, or family members who may have some of these qualities. In “Emotional Freedom” I describe how to recognize a ...
Views: 9820(3 votes) - ***Love Is Saying You’re Sorry - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The most famous line from the wildly popular 1970 book (and subsequent movie), Love Story, by Erich Segal is, “Love means never having to say you are sorry.” As a New York Times number 1 bestseller, the book became the top selling work of fiction ...
Views: 1898(12 votes) - ***Should I Try To Save My Marriage? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As we have said for many years, “Most marriages and relationships are worth saving and can be saved, but not all!” Here’s what we mean. In the case of abuse – sexual, physical, mental – many failing marriages and relationships are simply not ...
Views: 2158(24 votes) - ***The Importance of “WE” in Great Marriages - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The feeling of togetherness is one of the key ingredients of a successful marriage. It is the feeling of “we are in this together and are stronger because of our relationship.” While the importance of togetherness is easy to understand, for many ...
Views: 1962(24 votes) - ***The Internet is Full of Fake Experts about Love and Marriage! - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Increasingly, there are folks who post lots of vacuous stuff on the Internet who purport to be experts. They imply through their postings that they are all-knowing – that they have actually written widely about their topic, done the research to ...
Views: 2133(12 votes) - 10 Ways to Show Respect: Master the Art of Conversation - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2011 from Sonia Di MauloThink of someone that you are uncomfortable talking to. •Why is it so difficult to talk to this person? •Do you feel defensive? •Do they feel listened to? •Do you avoid this person? These are signs that the relationship is lacking trust and respect. One way to help you have successful, ...
Views: 3973(3 votes) - Complaining: Does It Help or Hinder - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2011 from Elaine CorreiaRecently, I was working with a local contractor, who was commenting about the performance of my employees. Since this was already a sore point with me, it didn’t take much to get me on the complaining track. After about 15 minutes, I had to stop. A stray thought flitted through my mind and ...
Views: 1998(3 votes) - Do You Get Frustrated With Others? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2010 from Margaret Paul"I feel so frustrated when Mark is late," complained Shauna, during our phone session. "What am I supposed to do with all this frustration?"Shauna believed that her feeling of frustration was being caused by Mark. But this was not the case.Frustration is the result of an ...
Views: 4505(3 votes) - Dr. Romance on: 11 things people won't tell you about divorce - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2014 from Tina TessinaThere's a lot of misinformation about divorce, and Dr. Romance would like to clear up some of the confusion. Here are 11 things people will not tell you about divorce. 1. Divorce will not make you happier, unless you’re leaving an abusive relationship.2. Divorce sometimes seems ...
Views: 1580(3 votes) - Healthy Caregiving: A Loving Energetic Exchange - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2011 from Debra RebleHealthy caregiving is a loving, energetic exchange in which we are the conduits for light force energy. This exchange results in a positive energy flow first to ourselves and then to others through the heart center. As a true caregiver, we can open our heart compassionately in healthy detachment ...
Views: 1258(3 votes) - How to Catch a Man and Keep Him Happy - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2011 from Jonathon AslayIt doesn't take a rocket scientist to realize that men are attracted to gorgeous women, but it does get complicated for women to understand what keeps men interested. As a Guy Spy into the Male Mind women are always asking me what men are looking for in a woman. They want to know what he needs ...
Views: 2793(3 votes) - How To End An Affair - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe BeamYou are not quite sure how you got yourself into the affair, and even less sure about how to get out of it. You are in love with your paramour but hate the sneaking and cheating. You vacillate between ending the forbidden relationship and giving yourself totally to it. You feel intense emotions ...
Views: 14141(3 votes) - Life Beyond Belief, Dismantling the Illusion - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from Yvonne RacineIt’s interesting to see how much confusion there is in life as we stare at what is right in front of us through the veil of the beliefs, concepts and stories we live by. We do not see the world as it is, we see it as we believe ourselves to be. The core beliefs which our life experiences reflect ...
Views: 1506(3 votes) - Love Tarot: Using the Tarot to find Love - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2011 from Carolyn NaimanWithout doubt, the most common inquiry during a Tarot reading is about love. It often seems as though true love is something that is outside of one’s self, that it is an external force or act of fate that we have little control of. In truth, finding love begins within our own selves. Love is a ...
Views: 2389(3 votes) - Oprah's advice to women about men -- from Tuchy's book "Oprah In Her Own Words" - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2011 from Carl Tuchy PalmieriOprah Winfrey– “If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.” —“Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship ...
Views: 13559(3 votes) - Should You Get Divorced or Stay Married? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe Beam“She’s pregnant by her lover. But she says she has come to her senses, loves me, and wants to save our marriage. My family practically hates her and wants me to divorce her and have nothing else to do with her ever. I don’t know what to do.” Call him Jim. Call her May. Every year situations ...
Views: 3312(3 votes) - ***Chick-fil-A: Marriage and Free Speech - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a ...
Views: 3012(20 votes) - ***Am I In A Relationship With A Controller? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2010 from Judith OrloffAs a psychiatrist, I have observed that relationships are one of the major sources of exhaustion for many of my patients. In “Emotional Freedom” I discuss how to deal with different kinds of draining people to avoid getting fatigued, sick, or burned out. It’s important to identify if you are ...
Views: 6222(5 votes) - ***Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #4 - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #4 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a ...
Views: 1812(10 votes) - Being "Right" vs. Being "Alive" - An Excerpt from "How to Have A Match Made in Heaven: A Transformational Approach to Dating, Relating and Marriage" - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2014 from Ariel and Shya KaneIn most relationships, an ongoing fight simmers just below the surface. Sometimes the conflict appears subtle but at other times it is outright war. People have grown up in a sea of discord and have been socialized to expect it and accept it. In other words, fighting is "normal." ...
Views: 3347(10 votes) - Ready for Love? Five Daily Practices to Cultivate Love in Your Love - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Janbreathe@aol.com Janbreathe@aol.comWe all long to love and be loved, but sometimes it just doesn't happen for us. For many years I thought that love had passed me by, until I finally realized that I was the source of love for me. I learned that I needed to BE the love that I wanted to have in my life. I decided to cultivate the ...
Views: 2584(5 votes) - Seven Powerful Ways to Make Your Marriage Last - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinMarriage is supposed to last “forever,” isn’t it? When we decide to get married, we truly believe that forever will happen. Sometimes that’s easier said than done, because most of us don’t have realistic guidelines or tools to know how to make a marriage last. When we fall in love, we usually ...
Views: 4089(5 votes) - ***Parents, Love, and the Holidays - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. This Holiday Season again reminds us of the importance of being with those you love as you celebrate the joy of the season. We have heard repeatedly during our many interviews with successfully married couples around the world the importance they ...
Views: 3590(37 votes) - ***Sustaining Love In Tough Economic Times - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. For the past several years the economy has been in decline, the unemployment rate has gone up, and home ownership has taken a dip. Sometimes, watching the Evening News causes one to wonder if the good old USA is in decline, if the financial state of ...
Views: 1728(9 votes) - ***Is Your Spouse Your Best Friend? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Here’s the rub – being IN love is easy. It expresses an emotion common to those relationships that have transcended the millennia. Being in love is central to the best marriages – to the best relationships between two people. But being in love is ...
Views: 1914(17 votes) - ***Looking for Love in All the Right Places - by Submitted on May 14, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We believe that many folks are afraid of marriage because they read the dire predictions about marriage in the news, they watch way too much television where the focus is, more often than not, on glorifying sex and multiple relationships, and because ...
Views: 5837(38 votes) - Fall Out Of Love With a Married Man - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2012 from Cristina AguilarThere are ways to fall out of love with a married man, once you recognize completely that he is not FREE to love you back. It doesn’t matter how powerful his vibes and feelings may be. I doesn’t matter that he is romantic and tells you things that lift you to the highest highs. I doesn’t matter ...
Views: 39556(2 votes) - *** Why Don't I Have Friends? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Margaret Paul"Why don't I have friends?" asked Isabella in one of our phone counseling sessions.Isabella, 25 and very attractive, was having a problem that many people have. Sometimes, if people don't keep their high school friends or meet friends in college or at work, they may have trouble making ...
Views: 5071(2 votes) - ***"I Can't Do It" - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2011 from Margaret Paul"He can who thinks he can, and he can't who thinks he can't. This is an indisputable law." - Henry FordHave you ever noticed how often you say, "I can't"?"I can't lose weight.""I can't find my soul mate.""I can't find a job I love.""I can't ...
Views: 3244(2 votes) - ***"I Don't Deserve to be Loved" - by Submitted on May 19, 2011 from Margaret PaulHave you ever said to yourself, "The reason God doesn't love me is I don't deserve to be loved?"Have you ever looked inside to discover why you might not be loving to yourself and answered with, "I'm not worthy of love"?I hear this all the time from my clients. It is often ...
Views: 3587(2 votes) - ***3 Signs of True Confidence - by Submitted on May 25, 2016 from Valeria ChubaIf there is one thing in this world everyone wants to have more of, it’s confidence. Men and women everywhere wish they could be more assertive, self-assured and secure. Confident people make it all look so easy. There is something magnetic and enviable about their unshakable sense of self. ...
Views: 9903(2 votes) - ***Are Kindness and Tenderness Signs of Weakness? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2010 from Margaret Paul"Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair but manifestations of strength and resolution."~Kahlil GibranOver the 42 years that I have been counseling individuals and couples, I have heard countless times:"If I cry in movies people will think I’m ...
Views: 4492(2 votes) - ***Can't Say "No" to People? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2010 from Margaret PaulWhat are you afraid of if you say "No" to people? Here are some of the things my clients have told me regarding their fear of saying no: "I'm afraid of hurting their feelings. Then they will get angry at me and I will feel like a bad person." "I'm afraid of ending ...
Views: 9665(2 votes) - ***Do You Believe What You Perceive? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Margaret Paul"Perception is a mirror not a fact. And what I look on is my state of mind, reflected outward." - - A Course in MiraclesI remember many years ago seeing the movie "Rashomon" (starring Toshiro Mifune and directed my Akira Kurosawa) where three people saw a murder committed and ...
Views: 2813(2 votes) - ***Does Crying Make you Feel Better? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2011 from Margaret PaulA recent study indicates that crying does not make people feel better. But there is a problem with this study.(Crying shame: Tears don't make you feel any better, study shows, By Cari Nierenberg, ...
Views: 2757(2 votes) - ***Fall In Love All Over Again - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2014 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. It is hard to accept by many, but love sometimes ends. Marriages fail. Relationships collapse. The flames of love die out. What started out with so much promise sometimes ends in disaster. Couples who fell passionately in love once now find ...
Views: 1938(8 votes) - ***Personal Growth Becomes Mutual Through Reality-Testing Your Faith - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2011 from Emily Erickson-SandstromLet's say your question is how to get out of an undesirable situation or how to make a desired situation happen. Asking the question is an act of faith in the universe, whether you address the question to Tarot or anywhere else. Your answer contains a suggestion to act upon. It says to deal ...
Views: 3076(4 votes) - ***Safety With an Open Heart - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2010 from Margaret PaulDo you live your life with your heart mostly open or mostly closed? Do you spend most of your time protecting against rejection or being taken advantage of, or most of your time open to sharing love with others?As children, many people had very heartbreaking experiences that caused them to close ...
Views: 4220(2 votes) - ***What to do When You Can't Communicate - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Margaret PaulWhat do you usually do when you get stuck with someone and can't communicate?Do you:Try harder to get your point across, talking louder or faster?Get angry, shouting to intimidate the other person into hearing you and/or agreeing with you?Cry in frustration?Feel resigned, give in and just listen ...
Views: 3008(2 votes) - 4 Commonly Overlooked Ways To Make A Relationship Work - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2010 from Andrew HunterUps and downs are part and parcel of relationships. It’s usual for two people to start seeing each other as they are content with each other. But it’s not always easy to keep the happy times forever in a relationship. It’s not easy to make a relationship work sometimes, but with the right ...
Views: 2969(4 votes) - 4 Tips to Help Under Stand How to Manage your Anger - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Ari NovickOne of the most common questions asked of me, "is there a an simple way to not get so absolutely angry?". There is not a quick and simple answer to that very innocent question. Anger is an feeling. Recent psychological research shows that we still don't know if we have "control" over our ...
Views: 1279(2 votes) - 5 Enablers of a Civilized Divorce - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2013 from Jane WarrenReal things you can do to make all the difference to your divorce negotiation experience. When I pick up the phone to answer a new inquiry it’s not unusual for the person on the other end to say something like “Is this Civilized Divorce?”“Yes it is.” “I want one of those.” To which my ...
Views: 1715(2 votes) - 5 Healthy Reasons to be in a Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2017 from Pritom DasEvery single person in this world needs someone to share their life with, to love and be loved, to care and get care, to support and have support and to encourage and stay encouraged. We all do have many Dreams in our life, we set a goal and achieve it and go to accomplish another one. But we ...
Views: 1052(2 votes) - 5 Keys to Peaceful Celebrations - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Camille ScielziWith the holiday season upon us, do you find your hope-filled plans mixed with anxiety? Do you long for the perfect holidays of your youth but fear a repeat of last year’s performance? This year, invite peace and pleasantry to your party. Using these 5 actions creates a holiday celebration ...
Views: 1587(2 votes) - 5 Things to do When You Recognize a Soul Mate - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2011 from Judy Lynn KoonsI know I am connected to someone psychically in this life and in another life too. I actually have past/concurrent life recognition. I can see scenes from when we have interacted together from what seems from another time on Earth. Now what? First off, how do I know? Well the short answer is ...
Views: 2285(2 votes) - 7 Ways To Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2005 from Margaret PaulGood relationships don’t just happen. I’ve heard many of my clients state that, “If I have to work at it, then it’s not the right relationship.” This is not a true statement, any more than it’s true that you don’t have to work at good physical health ...
Views: 25173(6 votes) - Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2010 from Jennifer Zurick-WitteIn the movie Date Night, Tina Fey and Steve Carrell play a couple struggling to revive the romance of the early days of their relationship. When they confront this issue, they turn to fantasies as one way to re-ignite the spark. Steve confesses that his fantasy is to be with 3 other women, to ...
Views: 3895(2 votes) - Advice Column - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomAs people have become more accustomed to owning and having instant and easy access to computers and the web it is becoming increasingly popular to turn to websites for information, help, advice and sources of knowledge. There are online courses, advice columns, problem pages, agony aunts, ...
Views: 1559(2 votes) - An Easy Path to Intimacy - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Stuart BlochOften people think intimacy is learning about their partners and teaching their partners what they want their partners to know about them. In actuality, the word "intimacy" says it all – IN TO ME SEE. Seeing intimacy as this simple phrase can be the key to unlocking the door to true openness ...
Views: 2575(2 votes) - Anger Management: The 5 Relationship Killers - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2010 from Joe JamesAnger Management: The 5 Relationship Killers At times, every marriage or significant relationship has times in which anger management would be helpful. Its pretty hard to live with someone and not get angry with them at some point. Interestingly, research has shown that its not the number of ...
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