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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Your State of Being - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2012 from Linda RadfordWhen I first awaken in the morning, I check into my ‘state of being’. How do I feel? Are there any sensations in my body? What space is my heart in? What thoughts are going through my mind? How am I really feeling? Awareness of my ‘state of being’ means I take a barometer reading of where I ...
Views: 1315(1 vote) - Zen + Sex = Starting Over? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaMen and women have to redefine themselves after a relationship ends, and reinvent their lives. If they do it well, it can lead to the most satisfying and successful years they've had. Dating successfully after divorce or a breakup require several steps to recover from the ...
Views: 1246(1 vote) - “My spouse wants a divorce and there's nothing I can do about it...” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsLindsay feels as if she's trapped in a nightmare. She was well aware that her marriage to Sam has been rocky over the past year or two, but she always believed that the two of them would eventually work out their problems. She was completely unprepared when Sam came home from work a few ...
Views: 2861(1 vote) - Breaking Up is Hard to Do!! - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown(A simple way to let go with dignity) "The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread." Mother Teresa If schools had offered a course called "Breaking up is hard to do", I suspect we all would have enrolled. Why aren't we taught these difficult challenges ...
Views: 1482(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Rescue Others Instead Of Rescuing Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is experiencing some kind of inner pain or drama, they can take a closer look at what is taking place and start to look for solutions, or they can focus on what is taking place around them. Through placing their attention on something or someone else, it can allow them to avoid ...
Views: 838(1 vote) - ***There is No Recovery from Infidelity - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Frankly, if we hear yet one more person talk about infidelity in a relationship as if it were okay, not a big deal, and forgivable, we are going to get angry! We have studied the best marriages for nearly 28 years and we know this – the best ...
Views: 7059(25 votes) - ***Jolt Your Relationship from Negative to Positive - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. With our fast paced society and the ever increasing demands of everyday life, more and more couples are finding that negativity is taking over their relationship. An abrupt interject of positivity into a relationship is the only way to change the ...
Views: 4070(22 votes) - ***Love is Colorblind to Those in Love - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzReal Love Is Colorblind By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The romantic 1955 movie, Love is a Many Splendored Thing, tells the story of an American reporter who falls in love with a Eurasian doctor. And as you might have guessed, they encounter prejudice from both of their ...
Views: 4025(21 votes) - ***Love the Second Time Around - Falling Back in Love - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. People in love sometimes fall out of love. But sometimes, they fall back into love all over again. While we have seen many instances of this in our interviews over the years, a great example of what we are talking about is the love affair between ...
Views: 5097(19 votes) - ***Seven Tips to Avoid the Seven Year Itch - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. According to the available research evidence, there are several periods in a marriage that seem, on average, to be particularly troublesome – the first year, the seventh year, the fifteenth year, and the 30th year. Marriages that survive and thrive ...
Views: 5404(17 votes) - ***Love is Best Not Rushed - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. A few days ago we ran across a marvelous quote by Jonathan Carroll, author of Outside the Dog Museum. It goes like this: “You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later ...
Views: 3128(16 votes) - ***How Does Age Difference Matter in a Marriage? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzAmerica’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts Over the years, we have been asked if the age differential between people contemplating marriage really matters. Our answer – it depends! In our thousands of interviews on six continents of the world, we have learned this – when you are truly in ...
Views: 8153(14 votes) - ***In Building Relationships the Simple Things Matter - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Thirty years of research on successful love and marriage has taught us many things, but first and foremost – no love has blossomed or been sustained without doing the “simple things.” Big things don’t matter until your relationship has mastered the ...
Views: 3607(14 votes) - ***How Will I Know If It Is True Love? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As our many readers know, we have been studying successful marriage and relationships for nearly three decades. And frankly, one of the most important questions we get asked is, How will I know if this is true love? The answer is simpler than you ...
Views: 6551(25 votes) - ***Can Being Alone Enhance Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have witnessed time and time again marriages in which one or both partners failed to understand the importance of being alone, not only for themselves, but for their spouse as well. When we first introduce this concept to others, the reaction is ...
Views: 3341(12 votes) - ***Do Great Marriages have a Cinderella Life? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have constantly and relentlessly pursued this question in our interviews around the world – “Do the great marriages have a Cinderella life?” And the answer is – drum roll please! – NO! Too often, people assume that those who have the most ...
Views: 3169(12 votes) - ***How to Know if Your Marriage is in Trouble - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In our thousands of interviews around the world over the past three decades, we have discovered many truths. Among these are the warning signs of a failing marriage and relationship. The telltale signs of a relationship going down the tubes are ...
Views: 3265(22 votes) - ***What are the Warning Signs of a Failing Marriage? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have studied marriage around the globe for three decades. And while our focus has principally been on successful marriage, we have interviewed a lot of folks whose marriage was in trouble – whose marriage was falling apart. There is nothing ...
Views: 11032(22 votes) - ***Learning About Love From Your Dog - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. You can learn a lot about love from a dog. Over the years, we have learned much about the essentials of a loving relationship by observing our dogs. We are proud to tell you that our Louie is truly a Wonder Dog. He is loving, caring, intuitive, ...
Views: 3356(21 votes) - ***Marriage and the Empty Nest: Five Strategies for Rediscovering Your Spouse - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Okay, the children have all left home. You and your spouse are finally alone after two decades of marriage. Now what? How do you cope? What lies in store for the two of you? These are questions faced by millions of married couples worldwide ...
Views: 10974(21 votes) - ***7 Assumptions You Should NEVER Make on Valentine’s Day - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Never, ever assume that Valentine’s Day – that once-a-year celebration of love – can take the place of 365 days of your expressions of love throughout the year. Make no mistake about it – Valentine’s Day is an important day of celebration for ...
Views: 3965(10 votes) - ***Can Holidays Cause Marriage Breakups? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. A study done by McCandless and Bryron analyzing breakups on Facebook recently concluded that more breakups happen from Thanksgiving to Christmas. Unfortunately, this is a completely unscientific study that makes conclusions based upon entries by ...
Views: 4661(10 votes) - ***Are You Married to a Bully? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Don’t you just hate bullies! They try to get what they want by bullying you, by intimidating you, and by making you feel inferior to them. If you are like us, this NEVER works! Yet, so many good folks succumb to the bully. And we wonder ...
Views: 7106(19 votes) - ***Can You Imagine Life Without Your Spouse? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. At the end of every interview we conduct with happily and successfully married couples we ask the most powerful question of our interview protocol – “Can you imagine life without your spouse?” The question always draws tears to the eyes of the couple ...
Views: 5114(19 votes) - ***Imagine Life Without Someone To Share It With - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Okay, we are madly in love after all these years! We have been married for nearly 46 years and we cannot imagine life without each other. We are each other’s constant companions and wouldn’t want it any other way! But we must admit, we often ...
Views: 3590(18 votes) - ***Love in the Pyrenees: Five Ways to Lasting Love - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Our current European trip is part of our continuing search for great marriages around the world. This time our travels have brought us to the tiny principality of Andorra. Following our interviews in Prague in the Czech Republic three days ago ...
Views: 5488(18 votes) - ***Having to Say You're Sorry IS Love - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. “Love means never having to say you are sorry.” This line from the wildly popular 1970 book (and subsequent movie), Love Story, by Erich Segal helped it become the New York Times number one bestseller and the top selling work of fiction for all of ...
Views: 2188(17 votes) - ***Compatibility in Marriage: The Core Values of Love - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Over the past 30 years, we have learned much about what makes great marriages tick – about what makes them successful. Even in spite of ominous odds from time to time, the best marriages survive and thrive, and we know why! They survive and thrive ...
Views: 3906(8 votes) - ***Marriage Secrets from The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. If you are like us, you are sick and tired of all the debate about what constitutes a successful marriage or relationship. Does it really matter what others think about OUR love, who we marry, or what makes us happy in life? Shouldn’t the real ...
Views: 4044(24 votes) - ***Paris is the City of Love and Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are delighted this week to be in the romantic capitol of the world—Paris, France! We are here on another leg of our endless search for great marriages around the world. First, a few facts about love and marriage in France that you might want ...
Views: 3454(24 votes) - ***Can Marriage Thrive on the Seventh Continent – Antarctica? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Every once in awhile you meet extraordinary people! We had that great pleasure recently in Long Beach, California. Our lives will never be the same! We looked in the faces of love and saw an extraordinary marriage! We have seen this look before, ...
Views: 3153(23 votes) - ***Celebrity Marriages that Work - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Who says celebrity marriages don’t last? We guess you might say, “They’d be wrong!” We have conducted an endless search of data sources to find out the success rate of celebrity marriages. And before you ask, we excluded politicians, political ...
Views: 2763(23 votes) - ***Anonymity Versus the Truth about Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Often we wonder, silently and out-loud – why have so many good folks fallen prey to the lies and distortions about marriage in the USA promulgated by so many uninformed people or people with some kind of political agenda? Many times, they have an ...
Views: 3523(15 votes) - ***Can You Trust Him? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. All too often in life, people fall in love blindly. They refuse to make note of how the actions of another person define them. They pay too much attention to words and way too little to actions. Here is an undeniable truth about people – actions ...
Views: 4504(15 votes) - ***Terrific Marriage Advice from Madonna - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. WENN News reported that Madonna gave one piece of advice to the couple who got engaged during her recent Amsterdam concert. Madonna’s advice was, “ Never go to bed angry.” She just gave the couple the best advice possible. This is the same advice ...
Views: 3198(21 votes) - ***The State of Our Unions: Is Marriage in Trouble? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In Middle America, marriage is in trouble! So say W. Bradford Wilcox of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia and Elizabeth Marquardt of the Center for Marriage and Families Institute for American Values in New York ...
Views: 3470(14 votes) - ***Hollywood's Version of Normal is NOT - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Hollywood, the media, and the Internet pundits have contributed greatly to the notion that the "abnormal" is "normal." Our research on all seven continents of the world over the past 30 years tells us clearly that "traditional norms" still ...
Views: 2530(27 votes) - ***How Can I Have A Successful Marriage? - by Submitted on May 28, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Are there ways to ensure that your marriage will be a successful marriage? The answer is of course, no. Life, love, and marriage do not come with absolute guarantees. However, there are ways to greatly increase your odds of having a successful ...
Views: 2114(27 votes) - ***From Prague with Love - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Here we go again – interviewing successfully married couples around the world! This time we have made a return visit to Europe and are pleased to say that we have added two countries we have not been in before – Andorra and the Czech Republic! In ...
Views: 3832(20 votes) - ***Words and Phrases You Hear in Great Marriages - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have been engaged in marriage research for nearly three decades around the world and have never been asked this question until recently – “Are there words or phrases you listen for when you interview the best marriages around the world?” This is ...
Views: 4568(20 votes) - ***Married or Not: Growing Old by Yourself Can be Lonely - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. “Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.” (Tommy, age 6) Our recent marriage interviews in Southern California brought our attention again to the two undeniable truths of ...
Views: 3098(19 votes) - ***5 Secrets to a Happy Marriage are Universal - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Our continuing search for great marriages around the world has brought us to the incredibly beautiful country of New Zealand. Our travels have taken us to the cities of Auckland (the largest city) and Wellington (the capital city) on the North ...
Views: 2613(25 votes) - ***Lie, Steal and Cheat Your Way to Love - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Okay, we admit it – our favorite new love-story movie is Leap Year (2010). We simply love the movie and have now watched it three times! The movie speaks to many of the research findings we have found over the three decades we have researched ...
Views: 5348(25 votes) - ***4 Lessons Dogs Teach Us About Love - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2013 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth Schmitzb>By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Dogs are amazing animals. As man’s best friend, they show us everyday how to love. We are proud to tell you that our dog, Louie, is truly a Wonder Dog. He is loving, caring, intuitive, intelligent, handsome, and a wonderful friend and companion. ...
Views: 2289(24 votes) - ***Learning to Dance: Love and Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Over the past 32 years, we have studied successful marriage in the United States and around the world. In our just-released book entitled How to Marry the Right Guy , we describe the thirty-three indicators a woman should look for in choosing her ...
Views: 2088(6 votes) - ***Love Someone Today - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Dear Friends: Tomorrow, we celebrate our 45th Wedding Anniversary! We got married at the Lutheran Church of the Master on Santa Monica Boulevard in Santa Monica, California in 1966. It is amazing to realize that so many years have passed so ...
Views: 3500(24 votes) - ***How to Deal with Money Problems in a Marriage - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. While times are tougher than normal in the country today, the best marriages and love affairs will sustain the test of tough times for all the right reasons – during good or bad times the best loving relationships find ways to survive and ...
Views: 3913(23 votes) - ***Should the rules of marriage be re-written? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. There are times when we just want to retire to a remote island in the South Pacific! Why, you ask? Simple, really. As marriage researchers for nearly three decades, we have learned a lot about what makes marriage and relationships work. And ...
Views: 3580(23 votes) - ***What Are the Myths About Marriage in the USA in 2011? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. First, here are the facts. If you get married before the age of 24 in the USA, you have a MUCH higher chance of getting divorced than those who get married at 25 and beyond. The divorce rate for those getting married after the age of 25 is ...
Views: 3927(23 votes) - ***The 5 Things You Should NEVER Say to Your Spouse - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Just as important as saying the right thing to the one you love is to avoid saying statements that have the potential to destroy the foundation of the relationship. Saying just one wrong thing can negate an entire day of good statements and actions. ...
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