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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- What to Do With the Ring After a Broken Engagement - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2019 from Catherine PalmerOnce the engagement finally breaks, the logistics that both parties are required to follow are downright maddening. All you want to do is wallow in melancholy and anger, yet the barrage of ‘matters that need to be handled’ hits you with a relentless force, as if fate is in a ...
Views: 1241(1 vote) - What to do with your irritability? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporCan you become a calmer person? Yes. And I will tell you how to do it. THE FIRST MISTAKE OF THE MISTAKEN Worrying about making a mistake is an EVEN BIGGER MISTAKE. We always worry when we are wrong. And this is the first mistake of the one who realized his mistake. Because experiences are ...
Views: 725(1 vote) - What To Realize For Getting Your WIfe Back From Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2012 from Robert LeesIt took me a lengthy time to discover the correct path for the finest way to get my ex wife back again, and for quite some time, a lot of the time of 2 years it was quite very difficult avenue indeed. But immediately after realizing the way I was trying to win back the love of my wife was ...
Views: 7482(1 vote) - What Woman Really Want for Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2013 from Ana ColeThis articles is for all the men, who are looking forward to impress their better half on the 14th of February. If you are uncertain how to make St. Valentine's Day a night to remember (in a good way), here is a feminine point of view on what woman really want for Valentine's Day. Valentine's ...
Views: 749(1 vote) - What You Should Do When Feeling Depressed After A Break Up - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2011 from Andrew HunterNo one can really blame you if you're feeling depressed after a break up. After all, relationships are an integral point of any person's life. It's normal for you to feel bad if you lose something this important to you. But what should you do if you are finding it hard to work through the day ...
Views: 1155(1 vote) - When Did We Become Enemies? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Renee Richardson M.Ed.Article: Written by Renee L. Richardson When Did We Become Enemies? Through many years of observation and failed relationships, I have become interested and dedicated to studying human interactions on an intimate level. Because I am an African American female, I spent countless amounts of ...
Views: 2480(1 vote) - When does being clingy become a problem in a relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2019 from Dada BhagwanIt's wonderful to find a person we love and enjoy being in their company, but the problem transpires when this love for them becomes overly clingy and oppressive. Do you know how does our affection for our loved become so clingy? It is from one’s own lack of insecurity and emotional neediness ...
Views: 598(1 vote) - When is Constructive Criticism Not Constructive? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2013 from Nicole NenningerDoes this sound familiar: “Would you mind if I give you a little feedback?” Or, “Can I be honest with you?” (Here comes the criticism!). You know what’s coming and your body reacts immediately. Maybe you catch yourself holding your breath for a moment, your heart picks up a beat, or your ...
Views: 1805(1 vote) - When Mr. Close Enough, Turns Into Mr. Wrong! - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2015 from Pamela SchulteSociety, at least as it was when I was a young adult, expected that women should and would get married. In fact, women still didn't really even have to worry about having a career - as long as we married and had a man to take care of us. And heaven help us if we made it into our mid to late 20's ...
Views: 1160(1 vote) - When The Other Man Becomes... A Roommate! - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2015 from Pamela SchulteRoommates, you may have had one when you were in college or just starting out so that you had someone to share the burden of expenses while you worked to become financially independent. Then eventually you met someone, took the leap of marriage and rather than having a roommate you now had a ...
Views: 1445(1 vote) - When “Make Nice” Doesn’t Work In Divorce (by: Anne Brown PhD, RN) | DivorceForce - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownUnfortunately, there are several types of people who are going to be contentious in a divorce and they have to be handled differently. And many personnel involved in the divorce process do not prepare or educate the spouse of a contentious person correctly. If you have ever been told or if you ...
Views: 912(1 vote) - Where to find a man for a relationship - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2020 from Alvina JenniferYou are a pretty, young and interesting woman. But in personal life, everything does not go well. And that is to say the least. You yourself do not remember when you had your last relationship. It seems to you that you are wasting your energy looking for a man and do not want to be alone at all. ...
Views: 1168(1 vote) - Which Is Better To Pursue; Enlightenment Or Emotional Independence - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2013 from David SamuelThe most attractive is of course enlightenment, spiritual realization, self-knowledge or anything in that direction. Promise of this draws many people, and although it would be wonderful to have a large following, I will not claim to have achieved or promise something I cannot deliver. What I ...
Views: 1387(1 vote) - Who Am I Who Are You - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Naomi TickleWho Am I Who Are You We all read faces from the moment we meet someone, we get a sense about who that person is. Over the years we subconsciously record these patterns and when we see someone’s face it triggers off a connection or memory we have noticed in the past. Face Pattern Recognition, ...
Views: 1304(1 vote) - Who Can I Trust - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2011 from Jesse BirkeyWho Can I Trust? I am fairly certain that we all want someone who we can place our trust in. The only question is “Who is that someone going to be?” Who are you going to place your trust in? If the answer is yourself then you are going to be frequently disappointed. If you answer is your ...
Views: 1891(1 vote) - Who Is A Sociopath? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2021 from Dr. Anne BrownWho is a Sociopath? "Sociopaths/Psychopaths are fun, exciting, seductive, charismatic, impulsive, sexy, AND unfortunately, individuals diagnosed with an anti-social personality disorder." — Dr. Anne Brown What does this mean to you? After you have been drawn into their world, then you ...
Views: 965(1 vote) - Why A Man Won’t Emotionally Commit - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2010 from Christian CarterWhy A Man Won’t Emotionally Commit Have you ever hid your true feelings from a man because you thought you'd "scare him away?" This is a frustrating situation. Shouldn't you be able to just be yourself, and have him love you for who you are? Unfortunately, there's a common mistake ...
Views: 6148(1 vote) - Why Couples Fall out of Love - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaIn my counseling office, I frequently deal with people who’ve heard the dread phrase, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” How can it happen that a couple who were once thrilled with each other can fall out of love? It seems like a mystery, but it’s not. And, ...
Views: 1346(1 vote) - Why Do Bad Breakups Happen? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2012 from Jesse MartinBreakups hurt as anyone going through one will attest to. Some people feel sad for a while, change some routines in their lives, reconnect with friends, and bounce back rather swiftly. Others, however, become entrenched in insurmountable sadness and gut wrenching grief. Why is it that some have ...
Views: 3533(1 vote) - Why Do You Get SOOOOOOOO Angry? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Telka Arend-Ritter“It’s only fair when I yell at you, she said to me once. You had a better Childhood.” Brian Andreas Consider the last time you felt angry. What set you off? Traffic. Stress at work. Long waiting lines. High phone bill. The mess at home. Computer problems. He was drunk. ...
Views: 3758(1 vote) - Why Does Phone Sex Feel Uncomfortable For Me? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2016 from Madeline FosterNot Everyone is Confident Enough to Share Their Feeling's There are many obvious differences between men and women. And perhaps one the most striking is the way that men and women communicate and listen to each other. This of course, is also reflected when either one engages in phone sex. ...
Views: 3253(1 vote) - Why is coitus always the most important for men? Why do they always want THAT? - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Valeria TariAmong women, this question arises very often and not without reason, since nearly all of us have experienced this phenomenon. Men always want THAT! Yes, this is true, and it will not change either! Men expedite the development of a physical relationship and go to limitless extents in order ...
Views: 935(1 vote) - Why Is It So Difficult For Some Men To Stay Monogamous - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2013 from Clif KWhen it comes to relationships, one of the more sticky issues, and one for which many people seek relationship advice, is men who have problems staying monogamous. Now to be fair, it is sometimes an issue with the other side of the equation too. But that is another article for another day. ...
Views: 1163(1 vote) - Why Jerry Maguire Pisses Me Off - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2012 from Carisa HolmesThere is a lie lurking in the collective human consciousness in regards to romantic love. Many people hold the belief that once they find the right person, they will finally be happy. They assume that the deep, nagging feeling that something is wrong that has underpinned every past relationship ...
Views: 2003(1 vote) - Why Men Are Afraid of Commitment (And How To Help) - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2012 from Brenda ShoshannaAfter a relationship ends, women ask what went wrong, again and again. In this revealing article we see that often it has nothing to do with the woman. The article explores some patterns and needs that cause men to run from relationships. It also offers specific guidelines and advice to help. ...
Views: 8098(1 vote) - Why Men Pull Away - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2021 from Sahib BerwalAnd how you can tap into his deep desire for commitment... Maggie was confused. Rick had blown her away on their first two dates. No guy had ever worked so hard to impress her. And impressed she was. He was attentive, respectful, gentle and engaged. But then, just when she decided she'd ...
Views: 1055(1 vote) - WHY NARCISSISTS ACT THE WAY THEY DO - by Submitted on May 13, 2019 from Darlene LancerNarcissists can be charming, charismatic, seductive, exciting, and engaging. They can also act entitled, exploitative, arrogant, aggressive, cold, competitive, selfish, obnoxious, cruel, and vindictive. You can fall in love with their charming side and be destroyed by their dark side. It can be ...
Views: 1158(2 votes) - WHY ROMANCE TURNS TOXIC - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Darlene LancerMost everyone wants to fall in love, especially codependents. To us, love is perhaps the highest ideal, and relationships give our lives meaning and purpose. They enliven and motivate us. A partner provides a companion when we have difficulty initiating action on our own. Being loved also ...
Views: 2034(3 votes) - Why Sexy Women Make Men Feel Bad - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2010 from Donna MartinIt’s no shock that the description of women in magazines makes women feel like dirt. But did you know pictures of hot women make men feel worse, too? Everyone knows that the way women are portrayed in our culture – sexy, skinny, and tall – makes the most women feel a bit like the gum. When ...
Views: 3297(1 vote) - Why We Argue - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2012 from Susan Schwartz, Ph.D.In the midst of an argument with your partner there is no time to step back and ponder why this is happening, or to evaluate what about this disagreement is upsetting you so much. You can rely on the fact that when any of us are reactive in a variety of ways it shows we have some old issues, ...
Views: 2273(1 vote) - Why We Fall Out of Love - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2017 from Misty JhonesLife can give you a big present wrapped in several layers. You have to do your best to discover this present. Often our mistakes are not the mistakes at all. They are gifts for us from heaven to prosper, develop our talents, and discover our uniqueness in this world. Love can be happy and love ...
Views: 876(1 vote) - WHY YOU CAN LOVE AN ABUSER - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2019 from Darlene LancerFalling in love happens to us―usually before we really know our partner. It happens to us because we’re at the mercy of unconscious forces, commonly referred to as “chemistry.” Don’t judge yourself for loving someone who doesn’t treat you with care and respect, because by the time the ...
Views: 945(2 votes) - Why You Were Ghosted and What to Do - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2019 from Darlene LancerRejection and breakups are hard enough, but being ghosted can be traumatic. It can leave you with unanswered questions that make it hard to move on. Although ghosting also occurs in friendships, it’s usually associated with dating. More devastating, but less common, is when a spouse disappears ...
Views: 1114(2 votes) - Why Your Boyfriend Is Jealous Of Your Sexual Past (And What To Do About It) - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2016 from Jeff BillingsIf you’ve found yourself in a relationship with a jealous boyfriend, it can be quite a confusing and exhausting experience as you probably know. Especially when he’s not jealous about guys in the present, but about guys in the past. A man who gets all angry and upset about his girlfriend’s ...
Views: 13374(1 vote) - Workaholic Breakdown Syndrome _ The loss of INTIMACY - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2019 from Roberto CIaldiniTo be truly loving and compassionate, one must feel and be able to express not only genuine emotional support, but also grateful appreciation. The language, behavior and values of the Feeling function do this best. The challenge becomes how to develop mutual respect, trust and loyalty, while ...
Views: 1227(1 vote) - Working Together - We Can Create Friendship, Business and Love - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2012 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneAs a member of The National Writers Union for many years, I have been aware of the problems experienced by educated, professional writers. Many have been deprived of their contracted fees. Others have had their writing plagiarized or syndicated without their consent and without payment to the ...
Views: 1914(1 vote) - Worry and Love - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2012 from John and Elaine LeademMany of us grew up with the belief that to worry is to love. Those we love most may be in real trouble, and we realize that there is very little we can do to improve the situation. So we worry because we love. Unfortunately, worrying is really nothing more than the active practice of not taking ...
Views: 1628(1 vote) - Yes, You Can Have A Happier Holiday - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaRichard and I just indulged in our early December tradition – we watched our favorite Christmas movie, "Scrooge!." the musical starring Albert Finney, which kick-starts our holiday spirit every year. No matter what you observe: Ramadan, Kwaanza, Chanukah, Solstice or Christmas, this is a ...
Views: 1414(1 vote) - You Can't Say Yes if You Can't Say No - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2012 from Brenda ShoshannaFear is a great factor in relationships. It confuses our mind, undermines our confidence and prevents us from making choices that would be healthy for all concerned. A great source of fear is rejection by others. Not aware that we have rejected ourselves, we become overly hungry for the ...
Views: 8326(3 votes) - Your ADHD Valentine in Love and Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2013 from Laurie DuparAhh Valentine’s Day. A whole day traditionally devoted to celebrating love. And as it is quickly approaching, my thoughts turn to relationships, all sorts of different ADHD relationships, and how ADHD can be a test for even the strongest connections. When I work with adults, often the focus ...
Views: 3968(1 vote) - Your Bestest Friend – You - by Submitted on May 04, 2014 from Tina TessinaI have a friend, Maggie, who has been my friend since 1968, and she calls me her “bestest” friend as a way of appreciating our connection. It always makes me smile, and I feel the same about her. Often, my clients have trouble learning to appreciate and trust themselves, and I think ...
Views: 1768(1 vote) - Your divorce: Are you an Eeyore or a Tigger? - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Adele TheronI remember my first Pooh bear book when I was a kid. I loved it to death and pawed at the pages on a daily basis. I was so in love with the characters that when it came time to find ways to earn money for my school as a debutante, I even wrote and directed a play which starred almost my whole ...
Views: 1858(1 vote) - Your First Steps To Changing - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Therese BenedictYour First Steps To Changing By Therese Benedict In this world we walk around thinking that we are good people inside, yet we do such hurtful acts. In the beginning of our change, we need to recognize what belongs to us in those hurtful acts. Face them, say hello and put the actions with ...
Views: 2282(1 vote) - Your Inner Detective - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Tina TessinaThe biggest obstacle to most of my clients’ healing and recovery is their inability to understand and accept their feelings, and the emotional and behavioral clues that indicate where the problems lie. Most of us learn early that being too open with our feelings and thoughts is dangerous. ...
Views: 1426(1 vote) - Your Love Reading for November - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2019 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonThis is a time to take responsibility for your truest desire and follow it. Be honest with yourself about what you’re willing to do, invest, and give. Then choose. You cannot make a wrong choice—just a different one, with different consequences. When you move forward with a relationship, know ...
Views: 1153(1 vote) - Your Mental Attitude Shapes Your Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2011 from Pamela LevinYour mental attitude has everything to do with how you get along with with others. If you have a positive attitude, you tend to create positive relationships, while a negative mental attitude breeds more of that same negativity. But how to improve your attitude if you need to? Where were you ...
Views: 1541(1 vote) - Your Relationship is a Dance - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Jennifer Zurick-WitteHave you ever marveled at how a couple dancing can flow with grace and energy and then your eyes shift from seeing them as singular entity and you distinguish the distinct movements of each person? While as a couple the dancers display harmony, each dancer also expresses his or her character ...
Views: 2911(3 votes) - YOUR SEASONAL BOOSTER SHOT: Fully Loaded with Ambrosial Juju to Keep You on Your Toes (if not Jumping for Joy) - by Submitted on May 31, 2024 from joan pancoeRECOMMENDED: To see all visuals and activate all ...
Views: 483(1 vote) - Your Spiritual Love Reading for June - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2019 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonYou may feel the need to make a decision, yet unable to move one way or another due to feeling confused. Look at the situation logically and try a new approach to break the deadlock. You are not trapped and have full control on what you choose to do. Things are moving quickly and feeling chaotic ...
Views: 830(2 votes) - Your Spiritual Love Reading for September - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2019 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonIt’s time to address the unhealthy alliances you’ve formed and make a decision to heal the past. Not all relationships are dysfunctional, and not all of them will disappoint you. Don’t abandon yourself or the potential of finding love. You can connect to others in a healthy way once you ...
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