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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Top 7 Tips For Surviving An Affair - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Brenda StewartEven solid relationships can face this situation at one time, of having to deal with surviving an affair after one of the partner cheated. Curiosity, desire, temptation, many people find it difficult to deny that "something else ". When other people come into their lives, a simple affair can ...
Views: 2007(1 vote) - Toxic Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2012 from Michael ClearmanToxic Relationships Every person reading this piece is either in, has been in, or knows someone who has been in, a toxic relationship. The term is self-descriptive, the relationship is poisonous, and it is deadly. Remaining in this type of relationship may or may not lead to physical death ...
Views: 2800(3 votes) - Traffic Light Colours... the art and practise of Tender Loving Care - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2010 from Jenni P Parker-BrownIn relationships, before we can be fully present for another, we should know how to be fully present for ourselves. This complete presence is the finest form of attention we can give anyone or anything. It is how we see (with William Blake) …‘the world in a grain of sand and heaven in a ...
Views: 1746(1 vote) - Transform Your Image at Work - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2010 from Max-Marc FossouoSome people were born with the golden spoon and fortunately never had to work truly hard to transform their image. For the majority however, it’s not the case. One has to work hard on his job and also on the image he/she reflects. It can be at work, at home, with friends. How do you manage your ...
Views: 2488(1 vote) - Transform Your Relationship With A Negativity Fast - by Submitted on May 01, 2012 from Susan DerryI would like to challenge you to go 30 days without judgment, harsh words, criticism or complaint in your relationship. This challenge can seem daunting especially if your relationship is struggling. Think of this as an experiment. Take the challenge and notice what happens inside of you and ...
Views: 1025(1 vote) - True Beauty: Honor the God or Goddess Within - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: Extreme makeovers are all the rage these days, with botox injection parties, and reality shows. Plastic surgery is on the rise. Many people are trying to match the extraordinary measures actors and actresses go through to look perfect on the screen. ...
Views: 1415(1 vote) - Trust Rebuilding Tips When You're Back with Your Ex Who Cheated - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsIt's been a turbulent couple of years for Selena and Robbie. After living together for over 5 years, Selena was shocked and outraged to learn that Robbie was having an affair with another woman who also lives in their apartment building. She was so upset about this, she packed up her ...
Views: 3277(1 vote) - Tuning Up Our Relationships Begins With Ourselves - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2008 from Amy HaleHave you ever wondered why it is you meet the people you meet? Have you ever attracted the same type of people and situations over and over again? Have you ever been confused about why people act a particular way around you? Almost everyone, at one time or another, has pondered these ...
Views: 1451(1 vote) - Turn Up the Volume in Your Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2011 from Kay PackardOne of the most effective ways I’ve found to connect with a friend, family member or partner is to understand their preferred style of relating. Coming at the relationship solely from our perspective won’t provide positive results. Imagine the benefits of knowing how the other person likes to ...
Views: 1276(3 votes) - Turning Poison Into Medicine - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2015 from Tina TessinaThe revered Sufi poet, Rumi, wrote: “We turn poison into medicine and our sorrows into blessings” I’m thankful for many things. I live a wonderful life, surrounded by loving friends and my beloved husband, Richard; I have the privilege of doing ...
Views: 1270(1 vote) - Twenty Questions Identify Codependency Issues - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineIs Codependency a Problem in Your Life and in Your Relationships? Take the Quiz To find out if codependency is a problem in your life, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Do you put others’ feelings, desires and needs before your own? Are you drawn to ...
Views: 1936(1 vote) - Two Ingredients of Good Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2009 from Jacqueline MarshallShowing respect is a way of demonstrating love. The feeling of love or affection doesn't have to be present in order to give it. When you show another (or yourself) respect, you are acting out of love. If someone said he or she loved me but consistently treated me with disrespect, I am ...
Views: 1607(1 vote) - Understand the Libra Man - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2010 from Annie SherwoodThe dating game can be very complicated. Are you looking for a guy who is easy-going, loves art, and can hold a great conversation? Then you should date a Libra . Libra guys are very appreciative of beautiful things, and they understand that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. They are not ...
Views: 9120(1 vote) - Understand Your Emotional Brain - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2011 from Dr. Mike GoslingThe physical brain To perceive emotion is to receive and interpret information from both external (world) and internal (body) environments. Your senses – sight, smell, touch, taste and hearing – connect you to the world around you, through your physical brain. Perception is the process by ...
Views: 1436(1 vote) - Understanding the hierarchy of values - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Maria ErvingWhy understanding each others values can help resolve conflicts. Assuming that you have taken your time to identify your values, it's very important to become clear about the hierarchy they are in as well. Why is that? Because we can share values with the people we surround ourselves ...
Views: 5859(1 vote) - Understanding the Mind of a Distancer - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2024 from Darlene LancerPursuer-distancer relationships cause a lot of heartache, especially for a pursuer. Learn about the mind of a distancer to understand your own or your partner's behavior so you won't take it personally.As codependants, we usually gravitate toward insecure relationships where we're a distancer or ...
Views: 447(1 vote) - Understanding the Mind of a Narcissist - by Submitted on May 16, 2018 from Darlene LancerDespite having a seemingly strong personality, narcissists lack a core self. Their self-image and thinking and behavior are other-oriented in order to stabilize and validate their self-esteem and fragile, fragmented self. Poor Narcissus The gods sentenced him to a life without human love. ...
Views: 1511(2 votes) - Understanding Your Response to Rejection - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2019 from Giorgos LagiosNo matter how often we’ve heard that it is a part of life and growth, rejection hurts. The experience is like a double-edged sword with an initial blow and the lingering effects. The tendency can be to mold our routines and lives so that we avoid potential instances of rejection. While this ...
Views: 760(1 vote) - Unleash Your Warrior Goddess With Class and Reslience - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachSince the early days of civilization Greek, Roman and Mayan Goddesses instinctively understood a "Woman Code". One of empowerment, resilience, inner strength and class. In today's competitive and stressful society it is all too easy to fall prey to feeling unheard and voiceless, overwhelmed ...
Views: 1617(1 vote) - Unrealistic Expectations : An Unhealthy Ingredient of Addictive Love - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2013 from Jim HallAs human beings, we live our lives with certain expectations. For emotionally healthy individuals, expectations are more likely to be realistic and rational -- based on reality. For individuals whose emotional health is less-than healthy, expectations are often unrealistic and impractical – ...
Views: 4673(1 vote) - Useful tips to get your girlfriend back - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from robin brainWhose fault was that? If you are still tangled in such kind of scenarios, forget it you will ever get your girlfriend back. Forgiveness is the key to unlock heart you cannot even give up, if you still have madness for your love. This is a very common feeling among men who worry that a breakup ...
Views: 577(1 vote) - Using Anger Mindfully - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2011 from Beth PattersonMany of us, especially those on the spiritual path, tend to look at anger as an entirely negative emotion. However, anger used mindfully can be extremely positive, powerful and ultimately healing. Anger is simply energy, and we always have a choice as to what to do with it. Dzogchen Ponlop, in ...
Views: 1886(1 vote) - VENUS RX KARMIC KRAZY GLUE ALERT: “Who Do You Love . . . and Why?" - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2015 from joan pancoe"The magic moment is the moment when a 'YES' or a 'NO' can change our whole existence." Paul Coelho Dear Friend, Happy Summer! Over the next few months, we’ll have a golden opportunity for some potentially life-changing healing and growth as Love Planet Venus retrogrades over ...
Views: 1911(1 vote) - VENUS RX’S FALL FOLLIES: All Our Karmic Kinks Are Coming Up for Review - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2018 from joan pancoeTo view all visuals and activate all links, CLICK HERE: http://joanpancoe.com/page-newsletter-details.php?nl=129 “In most of our human relationships, we spend much of our time reassuring one another that our costumes of identity are on straight.” RAM DASS Dear One, Welcome ...
Views: 1305(1 vote) - Verbal Warfare! Make Up Or Break Up? (Video) - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2008 from Dan And JenniferIf you find yourself in a relationship where you find yourself constantly arguing and fighting with your partner, you're not the only one. You're also not alone if you genuinely love this person and want to make the relationship work. Are you doomed to a breakup? Not necessarily... Dear Dan ...
Views: 2103(1 vote) - Voice - A Forgotten Path to Success - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2015 from Anne CookHave you ever considered what part the sound of your voice plays in the role of your success? In the book Voice and Diction it says, "People who have poor speaking voices - the kind that set your teeth on edge- are almost always unaware of this." When I was in broadcast school I had to read ...
Views: 2018(1 vote) - Wake up in your relationship! - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Susan SheppardThe Wake Up Call by Susan Sheppard Be conscious, aware, and alert. Pay attention. Remember when you were in elementary school and the teacher used to say pay attention now, this is important? Well, this is important. Wake up! What does it take to wake up an adult? Many people go ...
Views: 1085(1 vote) - Water Signs Love Reading for August 2019. (Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces) - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2019 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonRight now you may be feeling like you have bad luck when it comes to matters of the heart. Things may not be going as anticipated due to a feeling loss or unfairness that has taken place. Have faith and hope that better times are ahead. If you have been arguing with your love one, know that this ...
Views: 790(1 vote) - Ways We Damage Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2019 from Kare AndersonWhen things go wrong, we tend to blind ourselves to other’s feelings. We are more likely to fall into a destructive behavioral trap. Sadly, when we do, we cannot be empathic. We weaken that human bond that’s vital to re-grouping and resilience. These blinding mindsets make us feel dumb, ...
Views: 843(1 vote) - We Don’t Need Another Crisis - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2011 from Frances LucasWhen things happen to others everyone seems to want to reach out to help. When countries are hit with devastations, when families lose a loved one, or when people are in need for whatever reason, we all want to pitch in and do what we can. It is great we are people who care but why do some of us ...
Views: 1122(2 votes) - We’re Tired of Choosing! - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2011 from Beate CheletteWe’re Tired of Choosing! Today’s woman doesn’t want to choose anymore. Between work and home and personal life and career. She’s had it with the balancing act. Heresy, right? But why is it that men don’t really have to choose and that we women, after a half-century of social progress, ...
Views: 2502(3 votes) - What a Man Craves in a Woman - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2010 from Bob GrantAdmiration One thing that men crave is admiration. As boys, they fantasize about scoring the winning point in the championship game, or being applauded by thousands of screaming fans. As they grow up, they reach a point where they know the championship game or rock star fantasy is just…a ...
Views: 5521(1 vote) - What Does Commitment Mean? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2011 from Chris HartwellCommitment in a marriage refers to how you think and how you behave. This requires you to remain committed, even when you do not necessarily feel like doing so. Commitment also refers to more than just sexual fidelity. Commitment also refers to how you spend your time. Marriage requires you ...
Views: 2405(1 vote) - WHAT IN THE WORLD IS A LIFE COACH? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2013 from Marina RatmanskyMany people have no idea what or who is a life coach and why in the world would they need one? OK, I will attempt to explain it to you. A life coaching is the relationship based on trust. The life coaching process helps people to identify what makes them frustrated and unhappy in their ...
Views: 855(1 vote) - What Is a Real Friend? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2010 from Greg BakerFor most people having friends is having someone who likes them. And it is true, that a friend will certainly like you, but being popular-which is the goal of most people seeking friendship-is not the same as having a real friend. If your goal is to be popular, be with the in crowd, be well ...
Views: 2953(1 vote) - What is Accurate Life Prediction by date of Birth? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2020 from Sri TulasiWhat is Accurate Life Prediction by date of Birth? Free accurate life prediction by date of birth and time is an astrological report based on Vedic astrology. This report gives you a detailed analysis of your life in various aspects. Want to predict my future online? then this report ...
Views: 1001(1 vote) - What is Intimacy? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe BeamShe interrupted my talk to tell me that I should say the word differently to make its meaning clear. Instead of intimacy, I should say it into-me-see. She had a great point. The Dictionary defines intimacy as “a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with ...
Views: 3460(1 vote) - What is love - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Margit Miryam HerburgerLove is a word we live to understand, walking our paths we plead to comprehend. Our eyes will search and our ears will listen, for what we hope we will find bliss in,” taken from my poem entitled “Learning Lessons.” Movies and fairytales have been stereotyping love for centuries with ...
Views: 1023(1 vote) - What Is Love? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2015 from Ilya TeslerWe hear it all the time, “opposites attract.” It’s said so often that nobody even stops to question what it means or whether the theory is correct. Much like most clichés, this one is a dangerous one. You meet someone and you start getting to know them. Of course, there’s a good chance you ...
Views: 1178(1 vote) - What Is Love? – The Investor’s Guide - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2015 from Ilya TeslerAt some point in our lives, most of us go through the process of searching for and finding our dream home. Equally, at some point in our lives, most of us go through the process of searching for and finding the person we will spend the rest of our lives with to live in that dream home. I draw ...
Views: 1065(1 vote) - What is Mahabhagya Yoga in astrology? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2020 from Sri Tulasi'Mahabhagya Yoga' is a god blessing… There are many Raja Yoga in astrology. And they all have their importance. But the most special of these is Mahabhagya Yoga. Mahabhagya Yoga is yoga beyond Raja Yoga. The person born in this yoga is especially blessed by God. As the name of this yoga ...
Views: 1002(1 vote) - What is more important: to influence the situation or change your attitude towards it? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporThe Western mentality pushes us to try to control the situation, the East sees wisdom in changing the attitude towards the world. But is it possible to balance these two approaches? WHY IS ONE IMPOSSIBLE WITHOUT THE OTHER? A person is unable to make the simplest changes in his lifestyle ...
Views: 755(1 vote) - What is the key to Hugh Jackman and Deborra-Lee Furness long- term marriage? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2019 from Tina TessinaAccording to twentytwowords.com, Hugh said “You love each other — and respect each other. You truly want to be together.” Respect and caring are so important in determining who will stay together. Respect and caring create what I call mutuality in the relationship. Mutuality means that love, ...
Views: 923(1 vote) - What Is the Role of Unconditional Love in Our Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2011 from Rakesh SethiWhat is unconditional love? Simple as it may appear, it is perhaps the most misunderstood & misused phrase in our relationships. Unconditional love is a benevolent feeling that emerges from deeper level of our Consciousness for all of creation. Universal Consciousness that is pervading through ...
Views: 1388(1 vote) - What Makes You Think You’re Right That Other People Should Change? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2010 from Adele Tartaglia INSTANT SUBCONSCIOUS REPROGRAMMING The Life Management Center 480/220-2089 eztherapy@gmail.comAs you proceed to go right on judging the loved one in your life, and labeling them, you forget you did attract them in and many of them by agreement, for a higher purpose. Maybe them being exactly as they are, and you being who you are in this moment of time, is your gift to yourself and ...
Views: 2840(1 vote) - What should I do, if I am the “other” woman? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2020 from Valeria TariShame, negative judgment, scorn is unfortunately a common side effect of this status. Thus most women do not open up about their situation, only suppress it. For this reason, we have no way of knowing the real numbers of how many women take on this difficult and unforgiving role, not to mention ...
Views: 1014(1 vote) - What Should You Know before Moving in Together? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2012 from Rebecca HendersonDo you think that you're ready to spend the rest of your life with your partner? I'm glad to hear that you have no doubt about that but let's take for a moment the rose-coloured spectacles and discuss what you should know before moving in together. Everyone who has been in loved before knows ...
Views: 1268(1 vote) - What To Do About Annoying People? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI'd venture to say that everyone of us has had to deal with annoying people at some point in our lives. Whether it's a family member who is in everyone's business, a coworker who continually needs your assistance, the know-it-alls who always have to be right or a friend who talks incessantly, ...
Views: 1363(1 vote) - What to Do After Being Falsely Accused of a Sexual Assault - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2020 from Kalyna KapurThere are several crimes in this world for which each day innocent people are charged with. If for some cases, misjudged or suspects are let go, many wrongful accusations and charges end up getting administered in the system. There is a difference between being targeted as a suspect due to the ...
Views: 730(1 vote) - What To Do When Husband Cheats - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Brenda StewartYou feel that something is not right with your relationship and you know that your intuition is not wrong? What should you do? Looking for evidence. But if the evidence is already checked? Then it is indeed a deadlock. How to fix this situation? You know best, but here are some useful tips about ...
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