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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Help for Shy Women - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2013 from Gus KemperThis article describes a remarkable treatment where a man - who is afraid of women - solves his anxiety (shyness) by occupying himself in curing the shyness of a woman. After that the man has cured the shyness of a woman (that is, the woman is able to be vulnerable to others), he will receive ...
Views: 5023(2 votes) - Foursomes: And How They Can Spice Up Your Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2015 from Mike HatcherIf we could all sit down and be honest with ourselves, we would more than likely admit to the fact that at some point or another, we fantasized about adding an additional person into our monogamous relationship. This is not something you should feel ashamed of or embarrassed about, because ...
Views: 5020 - How to Convince Your Ex to Get Back With You? How to Convince Him to Give Me Another Chance - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2016 from Michael UadialeTrying to convince your ex soon after the breakup will not yield positive results; in fact will only firm their resolve to stay clear of you. You need a much nuanced approach to convince them that you are their best bet and here is how you can do that. Read on Let the anger dissipate No ...
Views: 5018(1 vote) - The Art of Conscious Flirting: Playful Interactions in the Dance of Life - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Joan HeartfieldIn our natural, loving state, we are turned on by select individuals and by life in general. As we encounter others, we recognize that each person has a unique quality that enlivens us. Learning a safe, elegant way to play with this enlivening attraction is part of putting conscious flirting ...
Views: 5012(2 votes) - Conversation Secrets On How To Talk To Anyone About Anything - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Greg BakerThis very simple and easy to follow procedure will help you develop strong conversation skills with people you know and people you don’t know. This skill is meant to help you build lasting connections with people and feel at ease while doing it regardless of your knowledge of the subject or ...
Views: 5009(2 votes) - The Truth About the No Contact Rule After a Break Up - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Andrew HunterHave you heard of the “No Contact” rule that many people say you should follow following a break up? What is this rule and how can it help you heal after a break up or even win your ex back? That’s what we’re talking about today. What is the No Contact rule? It’s fairly simple really. ...
Views: 5009(1 vote) - NEPTUNE in PISCES: The Urge to Merge . . . and Then Some - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2014 from joan pancoeNeptune, the planet named for the God of the Sea, has now fully entered his home sign of Pisces until 2024. Our Neptunian energies govern a range of consciousness from illusion to illumination, delusion to enlightenment. Neptune's transit of Pisces means that we can expect everything associated ...
Views: 5001(1 vote) - My Wife Has Given Up On Our Marriage: My Wife Has Checked Out Of Our Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Wife Has Given Up On Our Marriage: My Wife Has Checked Out Of Our Marriage It obviously takes two to make a marriage work. You already know this since you and your wife have been together for some time. You two are a tag team and over the course of your relationship, you've discovered how ...
Views: 5000 - Love and Law of Attraction: How loving Myself (Finally!) Got Me the Relationship of My Dreams - by Submitted on May 09, 2012 from Vania Dimitian"I am so miserable! I am just SO MISERABLE!!" These were the kind of thoughts and feelings I would have on a regualar basis, especially after getting married. Let me take you back a little to give you a clearer picture of my situation. I pretty much came out of my mother's womb a shy and ...
Views: 4997(3 votes) - Are Your Expectations Too High for Your Relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Guy RussellWe are all human beings, and as such have strengths and weaknesses. One of the benefits of being human is the ability to work on our own weaknesses and improving our own lives and others around us. There are numerous “self help gurus” whose basic principle is improving how you view yourself to ...
Views: 4990 - Selfish Feelings - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2011 from Radomir SamardzicAre we our feelings, or we just have them? Sometimes it seems that we are made of them. Feelings pervade our every day lives. How do we manage them and how we use them or abuse them? We have good feelings and bad feelings. When we feel good we appear to be a totally different person than when ...
Views: 4981(1 vote) - How do you measure a healthy relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2009 from Rhonda RabowThe challenge is how does one measure it? What is a reasonable expectation and what is asking too much? It doesn't mean that you never argue, are never upset or angry, always in love and always happy. If you expect perfection, you will always be disappointed. On the other hand, there are ...
Views: 4979(1 vote) - DWELLING AS CHANGE BRINGS PEACE - by Submitted on May 21, 2019 from Brenda ShoshannaWe all hold on to that which we love, or that which we feel makes us secure. There is an innate fear of loss and change. It could even be said that our entire lives consist of a struggle to hold everything together. We want things to be stable, remain exactly as they were. When change comes ...
Views: 4976(2 votes) - What To Discuss That Will Make Your Ex Girlfriend Fall In Love With You Again - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldWhat to discuss with my ex girlfriend - You can’t manufacture natural love; my famous relationship guru by the name of Charles Knox once said, “Attraction isn’t a choice.” It would be nice to be so ridiculously attractive that you could just pick and choose any girl you wanted to have a long, ...
Views: 4975 - Why Men Won't Commit - by Submitted on May 08, 2008 from Kim SarrasinThe question I probably get asked the most from my female clients and participants is "Why do men have such a hard time with commitment?". Men actually don't have any problem with committing to a woman. Without women, men really aren't up to much. Yes, they work hard at their jobs, put more ...
Views: 4975(1 vote) - Marriage Proposal Ideas: 3 Romantic Marriage Proposals To Make Her Say Yes! - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2009 from Michael LeeWant to know some of the most romantic marriage proposal ideas to make her say “Yes!” without a hitch? This article will reveal them to you. But first, why go through all the fuss? Well, the proposal is one of the most important parts of your relationship. Friends and relatives will ask you ...
Views: 4973(3 votes) - Transitions: The Art of Letting Go - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2010 from Sheryl PaulTransitions provide continual opportunities to practice the art of the letting go. At each new threshold, the task is to let go of the old lifestyle, identity, and belief systems that are no longer serving us so that we can gracefully move into the new stage. The adolescent lets go of childhood. ...
Views: 4971(24 votes) - ***How is the Current Recession Affecting Marriage? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. For the past several weeks we have been pouring over as much data as we can get our hands on to answer a question we are often asked – “How is the current Recession affecting marriage in the USA?” The answer is complicated. Here’s what we do ...
Views: 4960(45 votes) - 6 Ways to Stay Focused on What You Really Want in Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon RivkinNo matter how young or old you are, or how hard things have been, it’s never too late to review what works and what doesn’t work in your life. It’s easy to lose focus on what you really want due to the daily demands of life. However, there’s always a way to look at your life differently, to ...
Views: 4960 - Psychological Tricks to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back After A Breakup! - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2011 from Charles UadialeFor several years even centuries relationships has been studied by expert psychologists and doctors to know the actual problems in the relationship and get better from there. It looks like relationships are aspect of nature that is what everybody passing through. However the main issue in the ...
Views: 4960(1 vote) - The Secret to Making More Friends - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealWhen you meet new people for the first time, do you usually like most of the new people that you meet? Or do you find that you usually dislike new people, unless they can eventually prove after a long time that they deserve your friendship? Perhaps you have never thought about this ...
Views: 4956 - Stop Worrying Your Relationships Away - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonDo you lack the self-esteem and confidence you need to create healthy and satisfying relationships? Do you sometimes find yourself worrying so much about what other people think of you that motivation or positive thinking is all but out of your reach? Low self-esteem is a common problem that ...
Views: 4954 - *** "I'm Consumed With My Ex - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2012 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Discover why you might be obsessing about an ex and how to stop. ________________________________________ "How do I stop allowing my ex to consume my thoughts?" asks Tammy. "Is your ex consuming your thoughts, or are you consumed with your ex?" I ...
Views: 4952 - The Magic Spark of Attraction and How Couples Come To Be - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Allura JoyThe question “How did you meet your life-partner?” is one I love to ask couples – especially if they’ve been together for a long while. Most often they light up when recounting their nostalgic reminiscence of how their companionship came to be. It is interesting to listen to various personal ...
Views: 4951(1 vote) - Three Resons Why Guys Breakup with Girls - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2010 from Andrew HunterMany my women friends ask me why guys breakup with their female partners. I made a decision that this was really quite a fascinating issue. You’ll see other women complain quite often about all the reasons why they suddenly find themselves alone. But I made the decision to dig just a little ...
Views: 4951(1 vote) - How My Father Impacted My Life - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2009 from Shari JonasMy marriage ended not long after it began. One child was conceived and before he was 3 years old, I was living with my son, all on my own. Anyone who has been through a divorce (or the end of any serious relationship) knows that it takes years for the final curtain to close. So, you can imagine ...
Views: 4950(1 vote) - The Pros and Cons of Open Relationships - by Submitted on May 27, 2011 from Francis HoseinAn open relationship has been debated in many meeting place whether it would benefit a committed relationship or not. Shirley MacLaine talked openly about having open relationships during her 30-year marriage when she was a guest on Oprah. She claimed that because they both agreed on an open ...
Views: 4950 - 2 Ways to Break Your Communication Stalemate - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2008 from Susie and Otto CollinsHave you ever wondered how a casual conversation with your mate can somehow end up an argument? Maybe you two started out talking about something as mild as the weather and in some way one or both of you were triggered and ended up shutting down. If you’re tuned in to yourself and your ...
Views: 4943 - A Seven Step Plan For Detaching From Manipulative People - Christian Relationship Help - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2012 from Karla DowningAre you looking for Christian relationship help? Then here is a seven step plan for detaching from manipulative people. People do all kinds of things to pressure us to do what they want us to do. It is up to us to see through the manipulation and do what is right for us. People use guilt, ...
Views: 4938 - ***Building a Love that Lasts for a Lifetime - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Today is a day to remember! Our publisher officially released our multiple award-winning book in paperback! Our labor of love – our heart’s work for the past 26+ years – has come to fruition in a format that will reach even more people. Excerpts ...
Views: 4937(38 votes) - Warning Signs when Dating Divorced Men - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Jonathon AslayOftentimes when a woman has come out of a failed marriage her vision is not as clear as it needs to be regarding dating. Re-entering the social arena can be a bit daunting especially when her prospects will most likely be divorced men. There are several danger zones one must recognize in ...
Views: 4937(2 votes) - Men who cannot Commit - by Submitted on May 10, 2012 from Rosemary PriceMen who cannot commit can make difficult partners and for the woman who is keen on or needs a totally serious one to one relationship can be described as a waste of time. In my thirty odd years of working as a relationship expert, life coach and agony aunt most of my clients have been women ...
Views: 4932 - Love and Relationships - The Difference Between Loving and Being Attached - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2013 from Linda SimmonLove and relationships, and in particular jealousy, presents each of us with an opportunity to better understand ourselves. Jealousy is most often the result of attachment and expectations, beliefs, projections, delusions, envy, guilt and low of self-esteem. What do you do when you're ...
Views: 4928 - Marriage Alert: Are Sexual Fantasies Harmful To Your Marriage? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2008 from Richard NicastroEd and Brenda have been married for nine years. Both describe their marriage as fulfilling and generally happy, and they experience the typical ups and downs that many couples face. They report that they share a good, solid sex life, and--as in all relationships--the passion between them ebbs ...
Views: 4924 - ***Healing Envy - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2010 from Margaret Paul"I have a question about envy. I'm not talking about jealousy but specifically envy and how to be happy for someone else's good fortune. I feel like I have broke new ground on this issue as I have genuinely been able to feel happy for someone else recently who achieved something I hadn't but ...
Views: 4923(2 votes) - ***Caring For Aging Parents Can Challenge Your Marriage - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are “baby-boomers.” Like some 80 million Americans, we were born during the period 1946-1964. We are that generation of Americans born to what former NBC anchor Tom Brokaw called, “The Greatest Generation.” Our parents survived the Great ...
Views: 4922(32 votes) - Don't Know How To End An Extramarital relationship? Let Me Reveal How - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2011 from Brenda StewartYou will find 2 parts to every story. Very much the same holds true for any extramarital affair. You'll find 3 or even more parties involved in an extramarital affair, those people being the cheating spouse, the husband or wife, and also the other man or woman. At times, additionally there are ...
Views: 4922(1 vote) - How To Fix A Relationship.Mending fences and building bridges. - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2013 from Devango BobsRelationship advice is often seen as something exclusive to a best friend, or a very close family member. The reason for that is fairly simple; we usually listen to someone whose opinion we highly value. We think, weigh the advice and act accordingly because we trust the source. Oftentimes, ...
Views: 4917(2 votes) - Relationship Wish List - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2010 from Julie FarhaIt’s time to get real with your relationships. Whether you are currently single or in a relationship, I invite you to ask yourself the following questions because this is part of the process of healing your relationships. In doing this you can heal those from the past, embrace the present and ...
Views: 4915(5 votes) - How To Please A Man And Make Him Love You More - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2009 from Michael LeeIt has been commonly thought that pleasing a man would require tons of research, experience, and a lot of other factors that you need to be good at. Well, you can take it easy. Just like any other skill; the more you do it, the more you become better at it; however, there are views on how to ...
Views: 4911(1 vote) - ***"If I'm Perfect, No One Will Reject Me" - Healing Perfectionism - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2011 from Margaret PaulDo you believe that being "perfect" gives you control over how people feel about you?"If you do, then you are coming from 3 big false beliefs that are causing you much unhappiness.False Belief #1"I can have control over how people feel about me."Think for a moment ...
Views: 4908(4 votes) - What Kills Relationships and How to Save Yours - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2010 from Nicole GayleIn a moment I'm going to tell you the root cause that kills all relationship and strangled yours. Right now you're suffering because of your relationship. The emotional turmoil and pain you're in because of your breakup or relationship problem is costing you your quality of life. You may have ...
Views: 4906 - 3 Ways to Be More Exciting to Your Boyfriend - by Submitted on May 18, 2012 from Jack HutsonThere is always a way you can be more exciting to your boyfriend. Even if you have been together for a long time, there is no reason he shouldn't still be attracted to you - even more than he was the first day you met. Usually, people lose interest in each other after some time, since they ...
Views: 4904 - How To Kill Your Long Distance Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2007 from Jeremiah LewisHow To Kill Your Long Distance Relationship Disclaimer: I am in a long distance relationship. While I have been guilty of some of the behavior listed, I am one of the ones who has tried to correct that behavior when I realize it's happening. Just so you know. This isn't like a subtle ...
Views: 4901 - What is Non-Love and How Does it Impact on Your Life? - by Submitted on May 25, 2009 from Sue PlumtreeThe first time I heard the term non-love was about five years ago. The context, at the time, was limited to a particular person and to a particular situation. The situation was simple. I had been calling my Mum every single day for over ten years. It was an expectation I had put on myself after ...
Views: 4899 - Hurtful Words Are Not Forgotten - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2012 from Danielle Daoustit takes 1000 attaboys to make up for one moment of meanness Words have power - the power to uplift, or the power to destroy... today I am talking about those mean, hurtful words that can take us down, sometimes in terrible ways. I've recently had a number of clients who were dealing with ...
Views: 4897(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I Date My Girlfriend's Best Friend? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need relationship advice!!!? I have been with my girlfriend for 4 months now and her best friend who's a girl is also my best friend and I'm very close with the best friend. Me and my girlfriend do fight a lot but there are times where I'm in love with her. And me and the ...
Views: 4895(2 votes) - Romantic Ways To Ask A Girl Out And Get That Date - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2011 from Michael LeeHaving trouble asking women out? Perhaps you’re being a little too forward. Why don’t you try coming up with more romantic ways to ask a girl out? Maybe then you’ll have more luck. Romanticists, after all, make the best lovers. Take a page from Cassanova and study these romantic ways to ask a ...
Views: 4891 - ***Your Relationship Comes First - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2011 from Dr. Neill NeillRelationships are the heart and soul of our society. If our relationships with others were to disappear, most of us would feel all meaning slipping away from our lives. Our husbands, our wives, our children, our parents and extended family, our co-workers and our friends help to create what we ...
Views: 4885(7 votes) - He's Not Sure If He Loves Me: My Boyfriend Says He Doesn't Know What He Wants - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2017 from Banks Robert"He's not sure if he loves me!" Ouch. Saying that hurts. Knowing that the man you are absolutely wild about isn't sure he cares for you is painful. Nothing can prepare you for that at all. Maybe he told you that he was never sure he truly loved you or perhaps he's just now feeling emotionally ...
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