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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- My Girlfriend Left Me! My Heart Was Shattered And I Woke Up - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2012 from Robert LeesI had been going out with my girlfriend for about three and a half years. We were in a serious relationship and both still quite young, I got home one day from work one day and she had left me. Honestly guys, she had organized a truck to turn up in the morning, chucked her stuff on it and moved ...
Views: 2681(1 vote) - My Newest Book Release - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance's NEW book! Find it on Amazon! This is a perfect book for any woman who wants to do more than talk about changing her life, it's a road map to her goal. The 10 Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make Before Forty 2nd ...
Views: 886(1 vote) - Narcissist in Your Life? Get The Support You Need.... - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2018 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachIf you have been dealing with an individual who has severe Narcissistic or Sociopathic Traits, your experience has probably left you reeling and searching for answers! I may be able to help you through your challenges. I am a sought after Relationship Coach and author that specializes ...
Views: 1456(1 vote) - NARCISSISTS ARE CODEPENDENT, TOO - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2017 from Darlene LancerWriters often distinguish narcissists (someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and codependents as opposites, but surprisingly, though their outward behavior may differ, they share many psychological traits. In fact, narcissists exhibit core codependent symptoms of shame, denial, ...
Views: 1371(3 votes) - NARCISSUS AND ECHO: THE HEARTBREAK OF RELATIONSHIPS WITH NARCISSISTS - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2017 from Darlene LancerThe poignant myth of Narcissus and Echo crystallizes the tragic problem of relationships with narcissists. They were tragic Greek characters in a story told by the Roman poet Ovid in Metamorphoses. Sadly, both partners are locked into a painful drama, where neither feel satisfied or sufficiently ...
Views: 2036(3 votes) - Negative Empowerment - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2010 from Denise PendletonEmpowerment, that’s a good thing ~ right? Any time we have the ability to empower someone to do their best or make good decisions, it’s a positive in their life. So how do we get caught in the trap of negative empowerment? And what exactly is negative empowerment? Have you ever noticed ...
Views: 5317(1 vote) - NEPTUNE in PISCES: The Urge to Merge . . . and Then Some - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2014 from joan pancoeNeptune, the planet named for the God of the Sea, has now fully entered his home sign of Pisces until 2024. Our Neptunian energies govern a range of consciousness from illusion to illumination, delusion to enlightenment. Neptune's transit of Pisces means that we can expect everything associated ...
Views: 4997(1 vote) - Never Give Up! - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Susan SheppardOverwhelm is something everyone faces at one time or another. When things seem like they are insurmountable, what do you do? I was at Bridesworld Expo talking with hundreds of brides to be, their mothers, sisters, bridesmaids and husbands to be. It was very interesting to observe how ...
Views: 1522(1 vote) - New Book: Dr. Romance's Guide to Finding Love Today - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaAnnouncing: Dr. RomanceTM’s Guide to Finding Love Today Please order and review on Amazon.com "I learned so many skills from reading this Guide. When I went out this weekend I was SO aware of going out to have a good time instead of going out in hopes of ‘meeting someone.’ Hung out with ...
Views: 1337(1 vote) - New Moon Reading 11/26/2019 New Love and New Beginngs! - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2019 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonBeware of compromising your integrity in order to belong. Do you hide who you really are in order to play a role within your household or society? This will never fulfill you. Now is a time to assess your willingness to be real. Authenticity is true self-expression and the only way to empower ...
Views: 1124(1 vote) - New Year’s resolution: I resolve to put more romance in my relationship - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2019 from Merlyn SeeleyIt’s that time of year when everyone is thinking what they can do to make this next year the best it can be. People make resolutions in the hopes that they are going to successfully make a positive change in their lives. Some choose to lose weight, get into shape, own a home, and stop smoking or ...
Views: 1295(1 vote) - No Contact Rule: When You'e Addicted to Love - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2013 from Jim HallNo Contact Rule Cutting Out the Ex and Moving Forward Healthy people who experience a relationship break up generally experience universal stages of grief such as anger, sadness, and disappointment. Eventually they come to accept the loss and move forward. For love addicts, moving ...
Views: 2763(1 vote) - No Reason - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2011 from Janet PfeifferNo Reason Ten years ago, my Uncle John passed away. Although in his eighty’s, it was hard on his son, Johnny. Three months later, Johnny’s only child, his beautiful fourteen year old daughter, was in a car that plunged into an icy Ohio River where she tragically drowned. Her mother, Johnny’s ...
Views: 1827(1 vote) - Nonverbal Communication and Body Language Power - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2010 from Donna MartinGood communication is the foundation of successful relationships, both personally and professionally. But we communicate with much more than words. In fact, research shows that the majority of our communication is nonverbal. Nonverbal communication, or body language, includes our facial ...
Views: 1876(1 vote) - Offended: Should Someone Apologize If Another Person Is Offended By Them? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone might have the desire to speak their mind, it doesn’t mean that they will end up doing so. If one was to take a step back and to reflect on why this is, they could find that it’s because they don’t want to lose other peoples approval. Fitting In Their priority is then going ...
Views: 1394(1 vote) - On Integrity - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2011 from Radomir SamardzicHere is the theme and the statement of the day: In order for any relationship to work and have any lasting prospect of existence what it must have first and foremost is INTEGRITY. So, what is this thing we call integrity? We use the word usually in relationship with others, like ...
Views: 1858(1 vote) - On Spiritual Teachers: "Buyer Be AWARE!" - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2014 from joan pancoeSpiritual teachers come in all shapes, sizes, colors and sexes—and many of the truly Great Ones will always choose to remain in disguise and anonymous while in a human incarnation. Here is the definitive teaching of the Buddha on this subject, called The Four Reliances: Rely on the ...
Views: 2369(1 vote) - Only Funny in the Sunday's - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2012 from Janet PfeifferI love reading the Sunday funnies. One of my favorites is For Better or Worse by Lynn Johnston. In a recent comic, the young child, Mike, was having a bad day. Trying to construct a building out of Lego-type pieces, gravity was working against him as the entire structure collapsed. In a fit of ...
Views: 2036(1 vote) - Our Words Define Us More Than Our Actions - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Greg BakerWe think that our actions define us more than our words. But the reality is exactly the opposite. Our actions are important, but our actions are psychologically used to verify the truth of our words and not the other way around. Be careful what you say. This article attempts to prove that your ...
Views: 8447(1 vote) - Overcome The Blue—What to Do After a Painful Breakup - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2013 from Elisa IemmolaDealing with breakup can be painful. So things didn’t work out and she dumped you. After a long time of thinking that you’re on top of the world, she shoots you down the way they do in old Westerns and runs off with your horse. You’re appalled, heartbroken; there’s a nagging pain in your chest ...
Views: 1177(1 vote) - Overcoming The Fear of Committment - by Submitted on May 07, 2009 from Brenda Shoshanna"Most women ultimately want their relationships to lead to marriage. They feel they need a man to make a commitment in order to feel secure. This need can scare men away, making them feel like an object, as if they’re being used for a woman's security. No man wants to feel as if he's being used. ...
Views: 8614(1 vote) - Owning Our Inner Pluto before . . . It Eats Us for Lunch - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2014 from joan pancoePluto, the planet of transformation, was discovered in 1930, coinciding with the birth of Fascism and the rise of the third Reich in Germany. Its name is synonymous with Hades, God of the Underworld, and, if one believes in synchronicity, represents the transpersonal force of our collective ...
Views: 10627(2 votes) - Parents - Reboot Your Connection - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2016 from Daydree HornerBusy parents sometimes don’t communicate well with each other because they’re - well, busy. They’re preoccupied with their work, children and all of the responsibilities that go along with them. Sometimes as a result of this juggling act, mom and dad lose a wee bit of the warm and loving ...
Views: 1299(1 vote) - Passion - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2014 from Dr. Anne BrownThere is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” Aristotle OK we all know this right? And yet how many of us enter into the most intimate relationship with our partners “saying nothing.” For those who still can’t discuss sex, it is time to lift that veil. ...
Views: 1179(1 vote) - PERSONAL RESPONSES TO CONFLICT: Where are you and where are they? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from H AtkinsonHave you ever been embroiled in a dispute at work, home, or with a stranger and wondered how to extricate yourself from the mess? Well it might be worth knowing that there really are a lot of choices. The real question is how you feel about yourself and what resolution will cost you in money, ...
Views: 2184(1 vote) - Pornography and Infidelity in a Marriage - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2011 from Rakesh SethiThis is a very interesting subject in a marriage. When you have not engaged in a physical act of sex with a third person, have you cheated on your partner? Should pornography be considered infidelity in a marriage? Pornography is a big in our culture and growing like a weed. Growing in this ...
Views: 2529(1 vote) - Positive Ways In Getting My Ex Back - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2013 from David BrittoI experienced an emotional breakup with my ex girlfriend. I would have liked to resume the relationship as soon as possible but I had to face the reality that this barely happens. My first instinct after the breakup was to call text and email my past lover. Fortunately , fact sat in and I ...
Views: 6881(1 vote) - Power Struggles - Being Right or Being Loving - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2005 from Margaret PaulMandy and Evan consulted with me for couple’s counseling because they were always bickering. Every little thing seemed to become an issue between them. They loved each other very much, but the bickering was certainly getting in the way of enjoying each other. I ask Mandy and Evan to come ...
Views: 3025(1 vote) - Pre-Marriage Counselling Tips- Find Positivity in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Dr. Dan DaltonCouples who are going through a difficult period in their relationship should consider the support of a pre-marriage counsellor or marriage counsellor to help provide them with tools for managing their challenges. Pre-marriage counselling and marriage counselling is a process of identifying, ...
Views: 1188(1 vote) - Premarital Counseling: Ten Ways to Increase Sexual Intimacy through Couples Counseling. - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2011 from Jim BowenSo many couples don’t discuss important aspects of marriage until AFTER they’re married. Will you have children? Will both of you work, or just one of you? Where will you live? Who will be in charge of which chores? How much personal time will you give each other? How do you both see finances ...
Views: 2778(1 vote) - Problems Faced by Wealthy Marriages - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe Beam“Our problem,” he said, “is that everyone in my life listens to what I say and does what I tell them. Then I come home and it doesn’t work that way with my wife. I don’t like that.” She didn’t either. The comment was neither unexpected nor unusual. In workshops for marriages in crisis, ...
Views: 3829(1 vote) - Put On Your Big Soul Panties - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2014 from Janbreathe@aol.com Janbreathe@aol.comWhen I'm upset about something and feel challenged, a higher voice within lovingly says, “Put on your Big Soul panties and deal with it.” Putting on my Big Soul panties means shifting out of the limited view of my little ego self into the expansive perspective of my Big Soul Self, seeing the ...
Views: 1540(1 vote) - Quick Tips to Help You Get Back Your Ex Partner - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2011 from robin brainWhen someone breaks up with their partner, they lose their ability to think clearly. This happens because of the emotional chaos that the mind goes through in that state. In such a case, the mind mainly wanders on the thought that how can I get my ex back. But is that the right question to ask, ...
Views: 538(1 vote) - Radical Ownership - Not For The Faint of Heart - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2014 from Janbreathe@aol.com Janbreathe@aol.comWhat is radical ownership? It’s seeing and owning that life is a mirror reflecting me back to me. All the things that happen in my life have one thing in common…ME. I am the common denominator in all that keeps showing up. Mike Dooley describes it beautifully in his Notes from The Universe: ...
Views: 3235(1 vote) - Rational decision works for you - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2020 from Sri TulasiMaking a rational decision involves an analysis of the inputs (information, assumptions, and biases) that form part of your reasoning, as well as the outputs (decisions, assumptions, and biases) that result from your reasoning. The intellectual roots of rationalising dates back to Socrates, ...
Views: 670(1 vote) - Re-awakening Intimacy after Childbirth - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2014 from Dr. Elsbeth Meuth, EdD & Freddy Zental WeaverThe time during and post childbirth for a mother is signified by GIVING. No matter if you nurse or not you give continually to your baby for months. The first step to returning to intimacy is to give to yourself: This starts with listen more deeply to yourself and having moments and practices to ...
Views: 1265(1 vote) - Reacting Vs. Responding – And Why Is This Important In Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2008 from Radomir SamardzicReacting means to act again, re–act. Reacting is based on what we already know and often so well that we do it automatically. Some reactions are very useful for our survival, like pulling our hand back from a hot furnace or jumping away from an oncoming car. In other words when our bodies sense ...
Views: 2224(1 vote) - Real Dangers Of Getting An Ex Back That Women Have To Face - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2011 from Brenda StewartThe way your relationship ended makes you believe that you may have another chance to start all over again but you are afraid that you will suffer once again. Beside that, getting an ex back after a relationship is not always the best thing to do and is possible that everything that was between ...
Views: 1164(1 vote) - Recovering From Affair - Dealing With Negative Thoughts Using Transparent Communication - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Brenda StewartAfter the affair nothing is the same in your relationship and you are on the edge of breaking up but despite all the negative feelings and emotions you have decided to give your marriage a second chance. You have to start somewhere to repair the damage your marriage has faced and the best thing ...
Views: 1327(1 vote) - Recovering From Affair - How To Get The Truth From My Husband About The Affair - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2011 from Brenda StewartFinding out certain details about your husband's affair is not always the best thing to do, especially when there are some information that is better left as it is because once you know something it is impossible to take it back and you will have it forever in your mind preventing you recovering ...
Views: 2256(1 vote) - Red Flags to Lookout for in a Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2019 from Katrin De OcampoRelationships are not that easy and sometimes it can be hard to discern whether the relationship you're in is toxic or not. In case you are in a bad relationship, there's a possibility you're struggling to see your partner. It's common to get cleared up in a connection and miss the warning signs ...
Views: 951(1 vote) - Relationship Advice on Mens Mother Complex - Rape of the Heart - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2011 from Richard ColeInsights For Marriage Counselling This article describes a common relationship pattern where men have closed down their “ability to feel’. The origin of this pattern is the man attempted to fill his father’s role when he was a boy. He attempted to meet his mother’s needs at the cost of his ...
Views: 9662(1 vote) - Relationship Advice for Women: Build a Feelings-Friendly Relationship for Your Man - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2010 from Richard NicastroMen, Marriage & Emotions As a marriage/couples counselor, I often witness the emotional mismatch men and women struggle with when it comes to the world of feelings: For women, feelings are the pathway to emotional intimacy; closeness and connection are achieved by acknowledging and ...
Views: 1716(1 vote) - Relationship Advice – Why Relationship Forums Can Help You Out - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2011 from Bellaisa FilippisThere are many different people out there willing to give you relationship advice. The problem is that most people have different opinions on what relationships should be like, how to fix relationship issues, and how much crap you should put up with in a relationship. Not only does their ...
Views: 902(1 vote) - Relationship Advice: Love, Couples & Friends - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2010 from Krystal KuehnBefore you got into a couples relationship, you had your own friends to hang out with and have fun. You never had to worry about a partner who did not like your friends or did not want to hang out with them. You never had to concern yourself with problems that could arise if you simply wanted to ...
Views: 1857(1 vote) - Relationship Advice: What Is Needed For Deeper Emotional Intimacy - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2011 from Richard Nicastro"I'm tired of feeling alone in my marriage." ~Christian, married three years Often times, when couples complain about a break down in communication or some other marital/relationship problem, part of their distress centers around feeling emotionally disconnected from each other. This lack of ...
Views: 1596(1 vote) - Relationship Anxiety - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2023 from Darlene LancerAnxiety is common at the beginning of a relationship, but relationship anxiety can continue for the long term. It refers to intense worry, fear, doubt, and insecurity about a relationship and is associated with interpersonal dependency and interpersonal avoidance. Insecurity about ourselves, our ...
Views: 628(2 votes) - Relationship as a Spiritual Path - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2009 from Darlene LancerWhat makes us "spiritual" beings? The concept of spirituality is derived from "spiritus," meaning vitality or the breath of life. When we are connected to that force, like an electric charge, our soul awakes; the more we stay connected to that energy, the stronger and more alive is our soul. ...
Views: 1872(1 vote) - Relationship Coaching ~ 3 Reasons It Can Transform Your Life! - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2017 from Laney Zukerman The Relationship CoachHi Friends, Relationship Coaching is empowering! It will help you transform your relationships (including the one with yourself!). Relationship Coaching is all the craze these days and you don't need to spend countless months or years in therapy. Here are 3 Reasons why it can ...
Views: 2263(1 vote) - RELATIONSHIP CONFLICT AND TRIANGULATION - by Submitted on May 29, 2019 from Parul PatelIf there is conflict in your relationship and you have difficulty reaching a resolution, you may be caught in a rigid pre-defined role with your partner. To break out of this dynamic and work towards a healthy connection, you will need to change the way you handle ...
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