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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Life After Divorce: How to Move Past the Hurt - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2012 from Marni BattistaFor most women the end of a marriage feels like starting life completely over from scratch. So although it might feel strange, divorce can ultimately become the “best, worst thing” that ever happens. And, armed with that mindset, life after divorce can signal a new beginning. One day, your ...
Views: 2696(1 vote) - Life Coach: Solving Your Life's Problems in Two Simple Steps - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2009 from Ed McDonoughHaving problems and challenges in life is something we all face at one time or another. For most people, problems drag them way down emotionally and almost completely drain the life energy out of them. But it doesn't have to be that way. By making a few simple adjustments in the way you view ...
Views: 1683(1 vote) - Life is Short. Live it Now! - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Susan SheppardWatching the news is depressing. Mother Nature is really agitated this year. Excessive snow storms, rain and floods, violent earthquakes, Tsunamis, the incredible surge of tornados this year is creating havoc in the world. With just minutes warning any of these natural disasters can change ...
Views: 1782(1 vote) - LIFE'S DETOURS CAN BE BLESSINGS IN DISGUISE - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2011 from Chelle ThompsonMany years ago, I was awakened in the middle of the night by the first verse of a poem — which would be called "DETOURS" — as it was blossoming in my head: Sometimes we experience slight dimensional snags ...Like catching your sleeve on an unforeseen splinter As you move through the ...
Views: 2688(2 votes) - Living With a Spouse With OCD - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2020 from Randi FredricksIf you've decided that your spouse has obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) and you’re trying to get help for the both of you, you’ve taken a step in the right direction. Recognizing that there's a problem with your partner’s behavior and that it needs to be addressed is the first step in finding ...
Views: 2692(2 votes) - Looking for Love in All the Right Places - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Joanna McDonaldAttract the partner of your dreams or spice up your current relationship with Feng Shui! Single or attached; are you looking for ways to spruce up your love life? Follow these easy steps to create a romantic, fulfilling space for you and the partner of your dreams! Remember when you first ...
Views: 985(1 vote) - Lost Trust in Your Partner? CORE Strategies Help You Regain It - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2012 from Daniela RoherLoss of trust in a love relationship can come about as a result of infidelity, a partner lying about money, one partner failing to be a loyal ally when needed, and many other ways. Regardless of the cause, when couples are faced with the dilemma of rebuilding trust after a betrayal, there are ...
Views: 1849(1 vote) - Love and Heartache - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2019 from Mary HorsmanIt hurts so bad. It can make you physically ill. It feels like it’ll never get better. Trust me. It does. It gets better. In fact, this edition of The Love Post is here to remind you that heartache is actually a demonstration of the strength and power of Love. If you didn’t Love, your ...
Views: 656(1 vote) - Love and Technology: Inspired or Lost within Technology Matrix - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2020 from Nataša PantovićWe live surrounded by an increasingly complex matrix of impulses allowing strangers of all sorts (TV, media, Internet) interfere in our mental, emotional and spiritual development. Understanding this intricate network and how does the human brain interacts with it is becoming our door to ...
Views: 1860(2 votes) - Love and the Four Noble Truths - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneThe Four Noble Truths are concepts derived from Buddhist philosophy - simploe yet profound principles to live by. Once we truly understand these principles, we can truly live in the moment, each moment. We can more readily accept whatever life is offering us, find the joy wherever we can, ...
Views: 2724(1 vote) - Love and You: Top Ten Tips for Loving Relationships - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2010 from Lynda KlauLove and You: The Top Ten Tips for Loving Relationships Lynda Klau, Ph.D. How many of us have learned how to build loving relationships? Where did we learn? At home? At school? There is an art and science to building strong relationships. These indispensable tips were written ...
Views: 2423(1 vote) - Love But Not In Love - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe BeamOften it is the kiss of death. One says to the other, “I love you, but I’m no longer in love with you.” The person speaking either wishes for a relationship with someone new or already has it. The “I love you” phrase often means, “I’m not really that angry at you; you’ve got some good ...
Views: 4844(1 vote) - Love from Inside Out- Love yourself first to better love others - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2013 from Terai KoronuiLOVE YOURSELF TO BETTER LOVE OTHERS When you know that to love yourself first is critical to cultivate loving relationships, you will then understand and accept it as the ONLY foundation on which unconditional love, compassion and a desire to help and serve others evolves. The perception ...
Views: 1417(1 vote) - LOVE IS ALL AROUND: ARE YOU OPEN TO RECEIVING IT? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Cari MurphyLove is ALL Around: Are YOU Open to Receiving It? We all have a yearning to connect! So many of my readers, radio show listeners, and clients are wondering “How can I find my soul mate? When will I experience true love? Why does my relationship feel so empty? Is there something wrong with ...
Views: 1738(1 vote) - Love Is Not a Power Game - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2012 from Joanna WarwickI recently heard said that in relationships that all arguments, tensions and breakdowns are based on one thing’ Do I Matter to You?’ The western world seems fuelled by one up man ship; who has what, owns what, whose thinner,sexier, richer, more successful, more intelligent or more popular. ...
Views: 1238(1 vote) - love is not enough in relationship - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2013 from Mohit sachanWe think that the hardest thing in a relationship is finding the right person. After that, we fall in love and live happily ever after, right? Those in a relationship know all too well that fairy tales are only true in the movies. The truth of the matter is that having and maintaining a ...
Views: 1832(1 vote) - Love Letters For Him That Will Work - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2013 from David BrittoLove letters are a special part of any relationship. They're considered to be the keenest tool to speak out to your love , to inform him how special he's for you and how much you love and like him. Occasionally we seem to run right out of words when we are discoursing on the phone, or while ...
Views: 4340(1 vote) - Love Spells for Finding Your True Love - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Kerry PaulIf someone is searching for love spells, the odds are that they are looking to gain love, looking to mend a break up, or looking to intensify their love life all for the better. Love is something that each of us longs for- however, not all of us are lucky enough to find it in life. When one ...
Views: 448(1 vote) - Loving and Understanding a Man - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2011 from Ann YangIt is important that women understand a man's love language; so I decided to share some information to assist us ladies in getting some understanding about the bro's. Now mind you I am in no way an expert although I do get asked a lot of relationship/marriage questions. I'm also aware that there ...
Views: 789(1 vote) - Loving Yourself - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2011 from Rohan and Mohan PereraYou have heard that it has been said, ‘you have to love yourself before you can love others’. And that, 'you must 'learn' to love yourself'. This is like saying, you have to learn to breathe for yourself. Love is the breath of life for the spirit, and loving is like breathing for the spirit. ...
Views: 1530(1 vote) - Lying as a Form of Control - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2010 from Margaret PaulAll of us, as we were growing up, learned a myriad of ways to try to have control over getting love, avoiding pain, and feeling safe. One of the ways we might have learned is to lie.We all had many opportunities to learn this way of protecting ourselves, which is a form of manipulation/control:A ...
Views: 4350(1 vote) - Lying Vs Telling The Truth In Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2015 from Brian KrallNow I know what your probably thinking…what an obvious answer to this question it is that “Honesty is the best policy”…Right? But if the answer was that obvious why would I write a whole blog on it? Obviously this is still a necessary topic, as so many people in relationships still lie to ...
Views: 4580(1 vote) - Magical Thinking About Finances Can Put A Strain On Your Relationship - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2008 from Dan And JenniferAt some point or another, almost all of us have used magical thinking to give us the confidence to go on when a relationship hits a rough patch. Most people are able to move through this stage by taking risks to confront their partners. They realize that heated discussions, arguments, even ...
Views: 2522(1 vote) - Maintaining Composure - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2011 from Ginger London,“At times, do you feel like you are about to lose your mind? Are you constantly on the go wishing for “one moment” to relax?” Are your emotions “boiling over” because you are holding them prisoner on the inside instead of expressing how you really feel? Are you “stressed” trying to meet the ...
Views: 5358(1 vote) - Make a New Friend Now - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2012 from Rosemary PriceMake a new friend now... Many of us are so busy rushing around or working we do not stop and think about ourselves but the happier we are and the more at peace we are the better we can be towards those around us. Now that we spend so much time online it is natural to want to make friends to ...
Views: 1525(1 vote) - Make Love, Not War - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2012 from Amy TorresMaking love starts in the mind. It is what we're thinking that turns us on or off. Making love can be using the body sexually to express love, tenderness, and pleasure. Making love can be purely sensual-e.g., giving your partner a massage or a bath-fragrant with essential oils. Making love can ...
Views: 2183(1 vote) - Make Your Ex Miss You Like Crazy - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2013 from Abu ZaforWant to make your ex miss you like crazy? In order to make your ex miss you, you need to get yourself in the right mind frame. Here’s what you need to say to yourself: My ex misses me. My ex really wants me back. My ex want to make me jealous. My ex is testing me ...
Views: 875(1 vote) - Making It Fair: Sharing Household Tasks - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2008 from John SchurmannHOW TO SHARE RELATIONSHIP ROLES Making It Fair: Who Will Do What and Why? (Includes a Couple Exercise) WHY ROLES ARE IMPORTANT? 1. Roles relate to how couples handle leadership responsibilities and divide household tasks. 2. As a couple, you will be involved in an almost endless number of ...
Views: 2260(1 vote) - Making Love Work - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2010 from Dr. D. Ivan YoungManaging conflict is the foundation of a lasting relationship. There were many implications that support the hypothesis that positive affect and de-escalation are predictive of positive outcomes in any relationship, including marriage. To the extent that positive affect and de-escalation ...
Views: 4456(1 vote) - Managing Conflicts with Loved Ones, Helps Love Grow! - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2007 from Nora Femenia,We are all sure that having peace and harmony in our relationships keeps us healthy, vital and productive. We all know that, on the other hand, conflict can make us tense, sick and unhappy…only because we are scared of its consequences. Unfortunately, harmony gets broken because we ...
Views: 1819(1 vote) - Maria Shriver: Hold Your Head High - by Submitted on May 20, 2011 from Darlene LancerIt's must be cellular that a woman automatically feels humiliated when her man cheats. Maria has done nothing to be ashamed of. Too often, women feel embarrassed for their husbands' behavior, whether it's domestic violence, emotional abuse, drug or alcohol addiction, gambling, or sex addiction, ...
Views: 1793(2 votes) - Marriage Counseling: How to Get the Results You Want - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2010 from Joe JamesOne of the questions I am most frequently asked is what makes for successful marriage counseling. Naturally the training and background of the therapist is very important in making for a successful marriage counseling experience. However, I am going to focus on that in a separate article which ...
Views: 1637(1 vote) - Marriage Counseling: What Kind of Relationship Do You Have? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2010 from Joe JamesIn my close to 20 years of being a marriage counselor, I’ve come to the conclusion that relationships often fall into one of four very broad categories. Do any of these sound like you? Fulfilled: You are best friends and lovers in every sense of the word. You feel supported by and are ...
Views: 913(1 vote) - Marriage Counsellor Suggestions: 3 Do’s and 3 Don’ts for a Healthy Marriage - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Dr. Dan DaltonA marriage counsellor can help you make your marriage loving and long lasting. Whether you are already married, or are considering getting married, whether you live in a small town in Ontario or a big city like Toronto, it’s a good idea to find a marriage counsellor in your area to help you ...
Views: 1291(1 vote) - Marriage Counsellors Suggest You Use Thoughtful Language to Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Dr. Dan DaltonMarriage counselling is a common type of therapy sought by couples in London and throughout Central Ontario. Marriage counsellors can help you with a variety of situations, but often focus on improving communication skills. Many counsellors and mental health professionals teach couples better ...
Views: 1080(1 vote) - Marriage Fails - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2011 from Jesse BirkeyMarriage Fails Marriages are failing! As I reflect on the state of marriage I see almost complete and utter failure. Here is the latest statistic I found: • 50–60 percent of marriages end in divorce, according to multiple online sources. That is failure. What this statistic leaves out ...
Views: 1881(1 vote) - Marriage Help: How Your Relationship Expectations Shape Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Richard NicastroWe are all embedded in a continuous stream of experience—an endless current that is too expansive to for us to take in all the information at once. One function of the mind is to help you deal with this vastness: To select, order and ultimately, create meaning out of all the life that surrounds ...
Views: 1670(1 vote) - Married To A Single Man - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2015 from Pamela SchulteHmmm, I know, you're thinking, "how can anyone be married to a single man?". Yep, crazy. I would never have believed it possible either, then one day I realized that that is how I was able to best describe my marriage! Really! When I said "I do" I thought that meant that we (my husband and I) ...
Views: 1107(1 vote) - Matt Huston Ex2 System - Best Relationship book ever - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2012 from Mohamed Shajid shafeeMatt Huston's Ex2 System is the only one and most popular relationship book out there written by Matt Huston for Guys because of the recent broke-up with your lover then, you should consider using the Ex2 system. Matt Huston promises for how to get your girlfriend or wife back fully guaranteed. ...
Views: 1488(1 vote) - Meditate to Strengthen Your Relationship - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2019 from Katrin De OcampoMeditation nowadays is practiced by millions of individuals over the world. And with new studies turning out each year, the advantages of meditation seem to be ceaseless. Meditation today is acknowledged as a mental and physical recovery tool. One of these advantages has a great deal of heart. ...
Views: 1137(1 vote) - Meeting “The Right Person” Is Not a Matter of Luck or Time But of Being “Available and Ready” for a Relationship - by Submitted on May 24, 2011 from Doron GilYou probably know those who, when failing, time and again, in their attempts to develop an intimate relationship, tell you “it’s only a matter of time” until they will; “it is only a matter of meeting ‘the right person’”. What they don’t realize is that meeting “the right person” with whom to ...
Views: 3656(1 vote) - Menopause Effect on Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Kristina von RosenvingeMenopause is a natural stage in the life of a woman. This life transition is accompanied by physical and emotional changes that affect not just the woman but also the significant others in her life. It is a time of also confronting the reality that one is entering the second half of life. For ...
Views: 2317(1 vote) - Michael Mantell's Rule When People Suck the Life Out of You: Unsubscribe - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2014 from Michael MantellMaybe it’s just me. But lately, I’ve run into far too many people who I would best describe as “life-diminishing.” They are filled with judgments, criticisms, and negativity. They are quick to tell others what they must do, what they must refrain from doing, what they should and shouldn’t do, ...
Views: 1350(1 vote) - Monogamy Relationship Theory Related to Zodiac Sign - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2015 from KS InfotechFinding a true partner for yourself is not an easy deal, while finding a right partner for yourself you may come across a host of potential lovers who represents every sign of the Zodiac. Undoubtedly, everyone wants a partner who is genuine and truthful and someone who is willing to maintain the ...
Views: 1716(1 vote) - More Secrets to finding Happiness - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2012 from Carl Tuchy PalmieriHAPPINESS The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer ...
Views: 2750(2 votes) - Moving forward begins with making a decision… - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2014 from Larry CraneIf there is one thing that we would like to change, it would be the notion that we can change something that has occurred in the past. Perhaps you may agree that if something occurred in the past, we can accept what happened and choose to begin moving forward. We can decide to change how we ...
Views: 1556(1 vote) - Moving On - Was She Really That Amazing? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2010 from Tim NelsonHave you been thinking anything along the lines of this since the break up? "In my opinion everything about my former girlfriend is absolutely perfect, I would not change a single thing and I am confident that I will never find someone like her again." This is extremely common for ...
Views: 543(1 vote) - MOVING ON FROM A BREAK UP - PICKING UP THE PIECES - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Lydia StrehlauRelationships end for a number of reasons and sometimes it is the best decision, at the time, for both parties involved. Unfortunately with break ups, sometimes one person is still emotionally attached and may find moving on hard to do, while the other party is emotionally ready to move on from ...
Views: 4800(1 vote) - Must Read: Dating After Divorce - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownWhether this is your first time in the dating world or you are newly divorced and entering the dating world, there are some steps you can take to help guard against divorce. There are no guarantees and why not do everything you can to live happily ever after with that someone special? Guess ...
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