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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- I Didn’t Mean That, ‘Emotional Containment’ - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2011 from David SamuelMany times people, in the heat of the moment, will say something, and then quickly upon realizing that it was inappropriate, try to stuff the words back in their mouth pleading that they did not mean that or they were just joking. The problem is that retraction is not possible. If I asked ...
Views: 1833(2 votes) - I Don't Like To Be Corrected - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2010 from Eloisa RamosI don’t like to be corrected, not even if the correction comes from me! I laugh because just last week my offer to help was met with resistance and I couldn’t understand why. I walked into the kitchen to find my husband making breakfast. I noticed a couple of burnt pieces on the plate and ...
Views: 4662(1 vote) - I Don’t Want To Be Lonely Anymore - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2011 from Jesse BirkeyI Don’t Want To Be Lonely Anymore We all have the desire to find someone special that we can share our life with. We want someone to be able to talk to when we are excited and to brag to when something great happens to us. We really want to do those things with someone that we know cares about ...
Views: 7508(2 votes) - I see it Differently - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2012 from Cindy Dillon“I See It Differently!” Has someone told you that physical or emotional distress is something you’re just going to have to live with? Cindy Dillon says… “I see it differently! You can break free of old patterns and embrace a full, healthy, peace-filled life.” Why is Cindy ...
Views: 1286(1 vote) - I'm Right; you're Right - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2014 from John JohnsonYou are correct if you say we communicate using words- partially though! We also employ voice tone, gestures and body language, emotional state, clothing, the physical location (aka time/place setting) we occupy, and more; this is, in addition to the words we use. Even the lack of communicating ...
Views: 1369(1 vote) - I've Had an Affair… Now What? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Jay LindsayMichelle called me from San Francisco. She had found my website about the private marital therapy weekend intensives I do for couples in crisis. Several days earlier, Michelle had admitted to her husband, Tom, that she was having an extramarital affair. The affair was with an old boyfriend ...
Views: 2490(1 vote) - Ideas How to Look After Your Happy Love Partnership - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2012 from Georgi StanevPhysical contact and physical intimacy Physical contact is of extreme importance within a marriage and is to be reveled for as long as possible. God made physical bodies with billions of contact receptors all over the skin to take in love from a loving touch. Sleeping skin to skin creates ...
Views: 839(1 vote) - If Your Question is About Getting My Ex Back- Here’s the Way Out - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from robin brainIf your question is about getting my ex back then your first endeavor will be finding required information either from the Internet or from other valuable sources that could be books, journals, and articles that could be available in a good general or university library. Searching the Needle ...
Views: 590(1 vote) - Important Advice Before You Try to Get Your Ex Back Fast - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2011 from robin brainPeople regret after their break up and feel nasty about it. They wish they could get back again with their ex as before. The thoughts of their ex overshadows their thinking process and disrupts the normal mental state. They keep on wishing that they could go back in time and said or did ...
Views: 469(1 vote) - Important Don'ts to Win Your Boyfriend Back - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from robin brainAre you planning to get your ex-boyfriend back in your life? Always busy with thoughts of how to win back your ex-boyfriend? Trying to rekindle that flame of love? Whatever you might do to win him back, do not do any of these while busy in your efforts to win back your love: Do not beg to ...
Views: 636(1 vote) - Improve Communication: Are You Listening? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Krystal KuehnCommunication problems are probably the greatest barriers to happy and healthy relationships. Somewhere in the exchange of thoughts and information something goes wrong. Words come out one way and are meant another. What was said is not interpreted in the way it was intended. Some thoughts ...
Views: 1234(1 vote) - Improve Your Relationships - Agree to Disagree - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2013 from Cynthia OrtizHow often do you find yourself in an intense argument over a disagreement? Too often, relationships tear apart due to disagreements. Why do we feel the NEED to be right? If someone does not agree with you why give them the cold shoulder? Is it really worth it? Does it make you feel good? ...
Views: 2897(3 votes) - Improving Your Marriage May Begin With You - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Jay Tow, M. S. Counselor, Life Management and Relationship CoachMy approach to working with couples has always started with the following: Two people coming into a relationship with their own set of issues. They act out on these issues within the relationship. In order to deal with the issues that may be having a negative effect on the ...
Views: 2384(2 votes) - Infidelity: Whose Fault Is It? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2012 from Lara StewartIf your lover has cheated, you are far from alone. Experts estimate that as many as one-third of people cheat on a significant other at some point in their lives. Infidelity can be devastating, and can leave you wondering: is there any way I could have prevented this? Who is to blame for ...
Views: 4730(1 vote) - Inspiring Families - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Hugh DeBurghInspire Your Family; families don’t really exist until they “connect.” Personally, I don’t define a family by who its members are or even by how those members might be related to each. I define a family by how it behaves and by the degree of connectedness and cohesion between its members. Even ...
Views: 1306(1 vote) - Is breakup that hard to overcome? - by Submitted on May 14, 2019 from Kalyna KapurWe humans are social animals and in fact we cannot live without our social circle. We are evolved this way and it is one of the basic instinct that we developed at a very early stage of our evolution. So you can say we humans love to be around people, love to have conversation with people around ...
Views: 692(1 vote) - Is He Really Thinking, “Nothing??” - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2016 from T. Renee RichardsonAloha! Men are from earth. Women are from earth. Here we are. Deal with it. Love it up, even! The way to deal with and appreciate it, especially for more spiritually-based women, is to realize that while we’re all from the same planet, our spiritual growth processes occur differently. ...
Views: 1479(1 vote) - Is it Codependency or Just Not The Right Partner? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2014 from Dominica ApplegateAs we struggle with codependency, it’s hard to consider that our current partner really just might not be a good match for us. Sure, I believe that many problems can be worked out in a relationship, but only if both partners want to work on them honestly and openly. For the codependent, ...
Views: 1674(1 vote) - Is it Love or Codependency? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownHow do I know if I am acting codependent or loving? This is an excellent question and often confusing for many for different reasons. Let’s look at the definitions of codependent and loving and see what we find. Love: An intense feeling of deep affection. For the purpose of this article, we ...
Views: 1876(1 vote) - Is It Safe? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2012 from Gary DirenfeldIs It Safe? Marital or couple counseling is an intimate experience that by design enables couples to disclose and address issues held secret. Those issues held secret may be from each other or from outsiders – including therapists. Once the word is out there though, the next issue is how ...
Views: 1303(1 vote) - Is Jealousy An Obstacle Preventing You Surviving An Affair? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Brenda StewartAfter you find out about the affair, do you feel like you can not trust your spouse again and even the smallest hint of betrayal is making you extra-vigilant? When you are going to the restaurant, if your spouse smiles at the waitress or maybe takes a phone call from a friend of the opposite ...
Views: 1344(1 vote) - IS LIFE WORTH A LIE? LIFE IS NEVER WORTH A LIE! - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2010 from Susan (Teacher Su) McKenzieNOTHING IS TOTALLY BLACK AND WHITE Lies in the virtual world and lies in the real world are a fact of life. The seriousness of such lies and how we react to them depends on our values and how serious we view the lie. Lying is never good and for some people totally undermines a budding ...
Views: 1787(1 vote) - Is Long Distance Relationship Possible to Live Through? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2013 from Joshua NyamacheBeing in a long distance relationship is challenging. There are many reasons that will lead partners to live apart from one another like studying abroad and work opportunities in different regions. This shouldn't be a barrier although. Even under normal circumstances relationships do face many ...
Views: 1433(1 vote) - Is Matrimony Guidance Well Worth the Time and Attempts - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2012 from Georgi StanevMany individuals nowadays have lost immediate physical connection with their lovers and other members of the family and so place in danger the presence of their partnerships. Despite the fact that divorce statistics worldwide is high, real number of damaged partnerships is significantly greater, ...
Views: 692(1 vote) - Is My Abuser a Narcissist Psychopath or Sociopath - by Submitted on May 19, 2016 from Randi FineNarcissist, Psychopath or Sociopath? Excerpt from Randi Fine's Upcoming Groundbreaking New Book, Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Guide to Healing There is a great deal of false information on the internet about narcissistic personality disorder and its ...
Views: 2149(1 vote) - Is My Ex Girlfriend Over Me? Figure It Out Here - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2011 from Mika MaddelaAre you trying to figure out if your ex girlfriend is still in love with you? It's not too hard to decipher her actions and interpret how she feels about you. You can easily tell if she is over you. Her talks with you would lack substance, that is if she ever talks to you at all. She'll also be ...
Views: 4601(1 vote) - Is Neediness Ruining Your Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesIn a recent survey conducted at MarsVenus.com, “neediness”—clingy, controlling, possessive, and/or demanding behavior—was one of the most commonly cited reasons for ending a relationship. Dating couples are calling it quits because they feel they either cannot or do not want to please their ...
Views: 1781(1 vote) - Is Your Ex-Girlfriend Is Dating Again? Don’t Make This Mistake If You Want Her Back! - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2011 from Mika MaddelaIt’s not easy to move on from a painful breakup… especially if your ex-girlfriend is dating again. Even if you have already accepted the breakup, it can be devastating to find out that your ex-girlfriend is dating someone else. If you want to get her back, make sure you apply these things down ...
Views: 7012(1 vote) - Is Your Friend Manipulating You? - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from nancy traversYou’re feeling vague resentment, but you’re not sure why. Your friend seems to ask more of you, expect more of you, than you’re willing to give. You’re feeling guilty for not capitulating to your friend’s request. You find yourself wondering why you’re doing something when you really don’t want ...
Views: 1258(1 vote) - Is Your Marriage Over? - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2011 from Joe BeamThe only time I believe in giving up on a marriage is when one of them dies, or if after their divorce one of them marries someone else, or if one of them continues involvement in an activity that makes the marriage impossible. Otherwise, I believe there is a chance to reconcile. The first ...
Views: 3356(1 vote) - Is your Psychic, Psychic? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2010 from Michelle CaporaleIs your Psychic, Psychic? Everyone has “Intuitive” abilities, we are born with natural instinct. It’s common sense. Think of those who trade on the open market. These talented people have some sense of a feeling to sell or buy. Yes, the watch the market and stocks but they still go on ...
Views: 1408(1 vote) - Is Your Relationship Toxic? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2017 from Darlene LancerHealthy relationships nourish and support us. Like poison, a toxic relationship is one that is damaging to us. Instead of uplifting us, it makes us feel worse. When it ends, we might experience post-traumatic stress or a lessening of our self-esteem and trust in ourselves and others. Although ...
Views: 1897(2 votes) - It Sucks When Nice Guys Finish Last - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2014 from Chris Chandra“Nice guys finish last” I’m sure many shy men can relate with this statement. I’ve seen over the years that shy men have an air of “I’ll always be nice no matter what.” They are easily forgiving of others regardless of what the situation is. Overly NICE guys also tend to remember things ...
Views: 1745(1 vote) - It's time to have Inner Peace! Learning to say NO - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2011 from Marion LicchielloLearning to say NO! Being Authentic to Yourself Are you the type of person who always says yes? I’ve come to learn that it is very important to learn to say NO! It’s okay. People are still going to like you. They may even respect you more because they know you are being authentic. I’m not ...
Views: 2231(1 vote) - It’s Time to Play Your 2015 Endgame: “TRUTH or KARMIC CONSEQUENCES” - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2015 from joan pancoe“We are in the perfect circumstances for our Souls to learn whatever they designed this whole game to learn. If we come back into form from having merged with All That Is, what the Buddhist call nirvana, we are in the world but not of it. We play the cosmic sport. We fill the forms though there ...
Views: 1473(1 vote) - Juicy Relationship For Couples: Rules For Creating And Keeping It - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2016 from Dr. Anne BrownI could write on and on about what you can do, should do, must do, and could do. We have all been frustrated with and in our relationships especially regarding a juicy relationship for couples. I had one of my students write me an entire letter the other day on all the ways she hated everything ...
Views: 1496(1 vote) - JUPITER EXALTED: The Trip to Bountiful - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2014 from joan pancoeWe have just until July 16th, 2014 to remember all the lessons and reasons for gratitude we've received from the passage of Jupiter in the sign of his exaltation, Cancer. To review: "What is the body? That shadow of a shadow of your love, that somehow contains the entire universe." ...
Views: 2180(1 vote) - JUPITER in LIBRA: “And in the End, the Love You Take Is Equal to the Love You Make”* - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2016 from joan pancoeJUPITER in LIBRA: “And in the End, the Love You Take Is Equal to the Love You Make”* “In love’s circle there's another kind of serenity; in love’s wine, another kind of hangover. What you learned in school is one thing, love is something entirely different.” RUMI For more: Ruminations ...
Views: 1732(1 vote) - Just Me and My Shadow... - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2011 from Jeffrey Sumber"The shadow, which is in conflict with the acknowledged values, cannot be accepted as a negative part of one's own psyche and is therefore projected--that is, it is transferred to the outside world and experienced as an outside object. It is combated, punished, and exterminated as 'the alien out ...
Views: 1246(1 vote) - KISSAway Anger - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2013 from Janet PfeifferMy guest on my radio show today, Dr. Erica Kosal, has been dealing with the devastating illness of her husband, Jim, for the past five years. Understandably, she has experienced a wide range of emotions including stress and anger. But this college professor and mother of two refused to allow ...
Views: 1802(1 vote) - Know When to Fold 'Em - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysWritten April 12, 1990 How do you know when it's time to say goodbye? To move on? To go separate ways? There comes a point for many people, whether it's with the true love of your life, the gang at church, your oldest friend, or a group you used to hang with, when something is just not the ...
Views: 2141(2 votes) - Ladies Wear the Pants, but Keep the Skirt - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2012 from Sudani ThorneWomen are afforded the ease of starring in one of two big roles when it comes to relationships. The first being, the popular role of the damsel-in-distress, we've seen her before, bewildered pretty girl, dusty lonely road, insert flat tire, cue in dramatic music, swoon in handsome gent to the ...
Views: 1713(1 vote) - Lasting Love Is All About Connection - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from Diana Weiss-WisdomEmpty Nesters Dear Dr. Diana My husband doesn’t understand my feelings at all. I’m beginning to wonder if he ever did. Our youngest son just graduated from high school and leaves for college in a couple of months. With the kids gone, I don’t know if we have anything in common anymore. ...
Views: 1632(1 vote) - Laugh and Play Your Way to Healthy, Happy Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Janbreathe@aol.com Janbreathe@aol.comMy husband Tom and I have been getting high on some really potent stuff and I want to share some with you. The great thing about it is it's free, readily available and has no bad side effects. What is this great stuff? It's laughter. We laugh on purpose like crazy and before we know it we're ...
Views: 1236(1 vote) - Laugh and Play Your Way to Healthy, Happy Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Janbreathe@aol.com Janbreathe@aol.comMy husband Tom and I have been getting high on some really potent stuff and I want to share some with you. The great thing about it is it's free, readily available and has no bad side effects. What is this great stuff? It's laughter. We laugh on purpose like crazy and before we know it we're ...
Views: 1189(1 vote) - Learn How To Heal After An Affair And Rebuild Your Self-Esteem Using These 3 Steps - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Brenda StewartKnowing how to heal after and affair is just like a gift to you and to others around you. After you found out that your spouse is cheating on you and details about the affair, your self-esteem has diminished and you don't believe in you anymore. But you have to know that the first most important ...
Views: 6883(1 vote) - Learn to Pay Attention to Your Life by Using Your Internal GPS - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2012 from Don NenningerHow you live a great life by learning how to discover and follow your path (excerpt from the book The 5 Laws of Conscious Living) Living life from your center means that your experience of life is not determined by external life situations. As you grow, you learn about yourself, and you ...
Views: 1227(3 votes) - Let the Dating Begin! 10 Common Sense Rules for Healthy Dating - by Submitted on May 26, 2013 from Telka Arend-RitterLet the dating begin! 10 Common Sense Rules for Healthy Dating Determine COMPATIBILITY before making a sexual or long-term COMMITMENT. *Dating is defined as the information gathering stage of an adult relationship designed to determine the overall compatibility of a potential life ...
Views: 4487(1 vote) - Let your Love open the Door - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2010 from Joan Marie WhelanIn Pete Townsend’s song, he sings “Let my love open the door.” From this moment on, I want you to let your love open the door to your own heart. What I mean by that is that you must love yourself first in order to discover the love and positive energy that surrounds you. It is more prevalent ...
Views: 2276(1 vote) - Letting Go Of Emotional Baggage - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2012 from Roseanna LeatonSometimes we experience emotional overload and find it difficult to cope. It's impossible to completely wipe your memory clean but what you can do is change your emotional reaction to your memories and circumstances. Emotional baggage can reach a great weight or even enter the category of ...
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