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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Healthy Boundaries = Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2009 from Isabel KirkRelationships are a beautiful thing but they can also be challenging. I love a cartoon that reads as follows: “Relationships: a mess worth making.” It very well illustrates how many times relationships can be messy or unhealthy. The main cause of unhealthy relationships? Unhealthy boundaries. ...
Views: 3710 - Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2008 from Kathryn MorrowWhat a challenge it is in this world today to create balance in a relationship. I use the word create because usually a happy relationship does not just happen, it takes work, creativity, and of course love. My husband and I think very differently, we are very different. His thinking is pure ...
Views: 1215 - Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Jo Anne WhiteLove by itself isn’t enough to keep your relationship healthy. Here are some important tips to follow to keep your relationship thriving. Kindness and Compromise: All relationships require some effort. You’re not going to agree on every detail even if you want to. What's important is ...
Views: 1968 - Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on May 27, 2011 from Guy RussellHealthy relationships are dependent on the health of the people in the relationship. This is not exclusive to physical health; in fact the physical health is lower in importance for realizing a healthy relationship. Mental and Spiritual health are the most influencing factors when it comes to ...
Views: 1172 - Healthy Relationships: Assessing the Emotional Safety - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2007 from Lisa KiftCouples seek relationship counseling for numerous reasons. As a professional who works with many different couples with a variety of issues, I’ve identified one similar thread that runs through all of them. Their relationships lack in varying degrees of “emotional safety.” Typically, the ...
Views: 1249 - Heart Freedom Exercise (10): Lovers' Days - by Submitted on May 29, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHeart Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland Lovers’ Days Asking your lover for what you want and giving your lover whatever has been requested are two sides of the same coin—a yin/yang balance of receiving/giving, and passive/active pleasure. Just ...
Views: 603 - Heart Freedom Exercise (11): Lovers' Scissors - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHeart Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland Lovers’ Scissors Although this is an intercourse position, in this instance the focus is not on orgasmic release or simple physical pleasure. By combining mental focus, conscious breath, genital connection, and ...
Views: 1126 - Heart Freedom Exercise (12): Love Poems - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandTime for Exercise: five minutes to one hour Properties Required: books of poetry Steps: Browse through books of poetry to locate poems that elicit an emotional reaction when you read them. The poems might be about love, romance, commitment, or sex. Copy those you like the ...
Views: 1144 - Heart Freedom Exercise (15): I'm Yours - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandI'm Yours Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour Properties Required: colored pens with washable ink suitable for writing on skin Steps: Take turns writing loving, sexy statements on your body and your lover’s body. Read each other aloud “like a book.” ...
Views: 602 - Heart Freedom Exercise (16): We Belong Together (For Men) - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2008 from Al Link and Pala Copeland
Views: 637 - Heart Freedom Exercise (17): Gift Wrapped (For Women) - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandGift Wrapped (for Women) Time for Exercise: one to two hours Properties Required: clay and paints Steps: With clay, papier mâché, or simple play-dough form a likeness of your yoni (Sanskrit for vagina). Paint your yoni with stunning colors and symbols. Wrap it ...
Views: 619 - Heart Freedom Exercise (18): No Boundaries - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandNo Boundaries Sacred lovemaking has no goal (you are not trying to get to orgasm) but there is a purpose—the union of the lovers. During sexual/spiritual ecstasy, the boundaries between lovers disappear. If you have secrets and barriers to protect yourself emotionally from your lover, ...
Views: 678 - Heart Freedom Exercise (19): Magic Wand - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandMAGIC WAND Time for Exercise: five to 15 minutes Properties Required: magic wand Steps: Make a magic wand from materials you find around the home, anything simple or elaborate, but beautiful. Take turns with the wand. Say to your lover, “With this wand I ...
Views: 694 - Heart Freedom Exercise (2): Novocain - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandNovocain How do you dull your emotional pain? How do you hide from hurting? Time for Exercise: five to 15 minutes Properties Required: none Steps: Identify any strategies you use to dull, deny, avoid, or suppress emotional pain. The first step for healing emotional pain is to ...
Views: 704 - Heart Freedom Exercise (3): Wishes Of The Heart - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandOpen your heart. Keep your heart open. Open it again every time it closes. Time for Exercise: one minute Properties Required: none Steps: Imagine the one best thing that could happen for the following people in your life. What if you could grant each of these people one wish? What ...
Views: 626 - Heart Freedom Exercise (4): Freeing the Fool - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHeart Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do On Your Own by Al Link and Pala Copeland Freeing the Fool Time for Exercise: five to 15 minutes Properties Required: none Steps: When have you felt foolish, embarrassed, or humiliated? Recall the circumstances of those situations. What if these ...
Views: 707 - Heart Freedom Exercise (6): Eye Gazing - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHeart Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland Eye Gazing So through the eyes love attains the heart: For the eyes are the scouts of the heart, And the eyes go reconnoitering For what it would please the heart to possess. Guiraut de Borneilh, ...
Views: 2158 - Heart Freedom Exercise (7): Three Out Of Three - by Submitted on May 05, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandThree Out of Three “I want you. I need you. I love you.” Could there be any sentences sweeter than these to hear your lover speak? Time for Exercise: 15 minutes Properties Required: none Steps: Prepare in advance what you will say to your lover for each of these three ...
Views: 611 - Heart Freedom Exercise (8): Permission Please - by Submitted on May 08, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandHeart Freedom Exercises Exercises To Do Together by Al Link and Pala Copeland Permission Please Time for Exercise: one minute Properties Required: none Steps: Ask your partner’s permission to be her lover. Look into her eyes and hold her hand while you speak. Most important is how ...
Views: 677 - Heart Freedom Exercise (9): Yin Yang Yes! - by Submitted on May 13, 2008 from Al Link and Pala CopelandYin Yang YES! The familiar Chinese yin/yang symbol suggests a balance and harmony between the yin (feminine energies) and yang (masculine energies) or between any pair of opposites. Examples of yin/yang in relationship are following/leading, surrender/control, opening to the mystery/making ...
Views: 892 - Heartaches At First Sight - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2008 from E. (anagarika eddie) Raymond RockWe meet someone, we like them, want to see them again, and soon we are forming a deep relationship. This seems like a very natural, innocuous, and innocent thing to do, and we do it every day. What we seldom realize, however, is that we are also forming a psychological attachment. After we meet ...
Views: 628 - Hearts and Flowers, or Heartaches and Frustration? Five ways to break free of conflict and experience connection - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2007 from Suzanne VachetToo often our relationships seem not to warm us, but rather to push our "hot buttons." What's going on when this happens? Let's look at five reasons why we might experience conflict in our relationships: 1. We are not being authentic 2. We are listening to our inner voices instead of the other ...
Views: 775 - Heeding Relationship Red Flags - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2008 from Janice BennettThe sport of auto racing traditionally uses a system of colored flags to communicate important messages to the participating drivers. Typically, there is a primary flagman who waves the flags atop a flagstand in the middle of the course. But because many drivers may not be able to see the ...
Views: 4120 - Heightened HYPER-SENSITIVITY A by-product of Betrayal - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Elizabeth McNallyBetrayal, big or small, trashes your heart to bits. You do survive and heal. When it has been shattering, your scar will usually be deep and render you hyper-sensitive. You may have a tendency to armor yourself in order to protect yourself from any other injury. This armor may be so ...
Views: 2045 - Help for Dealing with Emotional Bullying - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Tara SpringettThe following case-study about how to deal with emotional bullying demonstrates what can be achieved by practicing the simple self-help practice higher-consciousness healing. Charlotte (55 years) came to see me because she was stressed in her job as a teacher in a deprived school where she ...
Views: 1378 - Help in Relationship - 9 Signs For Break Up And 4 Ways To Help You Cope Up - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Johnny WayneBeing in a relationship is one of the great things that can ever happen to you. Dreaming of a long lasting relationship can be possible to happen, but it is hard to achieve. Thus, a help in relationship can be useful as a guide to uplift the relationship of every man and woman, and in turn will ...
Views: 1181 - Help Me Please! My Boyfriend Is No Longer In Love With Me - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2011 from Andrew HunterDid you and your boyfriend recently break up? Maybe you recently found out that he doesn't love you anymore. Then, your inner world must be in total and utter chaos. Our relationships are very significant in our lives and when someone we greatly love walks out on us, it's just normal to feel ...
Views: 656 - Help Me Understand Why My Wife Cheated - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2012 from Jacob ElichmannYou know that your wife cheated. You're wife's infidelity has left you shocked. Affairs are confusing. They don't make sense. You're probably asking yourself... "Why did my wife cheat on me?" "What could I have done to stop her from having an affair?" "Is it my fault that my ...
Views: 4874 - Help on How to Get My Ex Back - Ex Boyfriend, Ex Girlfriend, Ex Wife, Ex Husband - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2016 from Tiemo DonaldHelp On How To Get My Ex Back - Ex Boyfriend, Ex Girlfriend, Ex Wife, Ex Husband At the time I first ended the relationship with my ex, not long later I kept asking for how I can get my ex back as well as started searching for solution to reconcile with my ex. Nevertheless, there are lots of ...
Views: 2118 - Help Save Marriage Advice For Christians - by Submitted on May 27, 2011 from Amuro WesleyIf you are searching for ways on how to save a Christian marriage, here is my help save marriage advice for Christians who have just been married or married for years. First of all, separation or divorce is not allowed in Christian marriages as it is perceived that divorces can seriously ...
Views: 711 - Help Save Marriage Guidance Is For Your Taking - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2011 from Jake FlashStep one is always to carefully, and honestly, analyze the way you treat your spouse. There is certainly no such thing as a 'joke' if it hurts your spouses feelings. If you've ever said something and they said that your comment produced them feel bad and you replied with something like "it's ...
Views: 679 - Help to deal with Your Spouse's Affair - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2012 from Stephany WoodsOur partner having an extramarital relationship is among the hardest experiences within a married life. If you suspect that your spouse is having an affair with another female, then the least to expect are rough situations within your marital life. Your husband's extramarital relationship either ...
Views: 354 - Help With Relationships - Three Things You Need to Get Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2010 from Daryl CampbellNobody has to tell you about the ups and downs of being in a relationship. Sometimes it was a thrilling ride which you hoped would never end. Other times you wanted to jump off and get as far away from your significant other as possible. No big deal. Even the best of relationships can feel that ...
Views: 628 - Help Your Marriage Survive The Death Of A Child: Saving A Marriage Can Be Difficult After Losing A Child - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2020 from Kelly LaceyHelp Your Marriage Survive The Death Of A Child: Saving A Marriage Can Be Difficult After Losing A Child Many people wonder what they need to do to be able to rebuild their marriage after the loss of a child. Losing a child can often cause a rift to form between a couple that can be hard to ...
Views: 784 - Help Your Relationship Flourish by popping the Question??to Yourself! - by According to Hale Dwoskin, author of The Sedona Method, our relationship problems stem from need, not love. we are really looking for love in all the wrong places and in all the wrong ways, he says. Love gets mixed up with or covered over by other feelings, and therein lie such problems ...
Views: 806 - Help Your Teen Avoid Love Life Grief: 7 Tips - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2012 from Scott & Stephen PetulloWe get many questions from young adults about love life dilemmas. So many of them fall into traps that could have been avoided with good guidance and advice. It leaves one wondering, “Didn’t their parents or mentors help them distinguish love life fantasies from reality?” Sadly, many parents ...
Views: 2454 - Help! My Spouse is Driving Me Mad – 6 Steps to Deal with Annoying Habits - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2015 from Nicola BeerWhat’s are your spouse’s most annoying habits? Is it the way they talk, eat, sit, clean up? Do they perhaps hum an annoying tune or crack their knuckles? When was the last time they did something that irritated you? Last week? Yesterday? An hour ago? One of the most annoying things about ...
Views: 1748 - HelpTo Restore Your Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2010 from Alvin PoliranSeveral web logs by adolescents all over the internet beg: please revive my relationship. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend is thought to be one of the most important instances in a adolescent's existence. It leads to a particular charged experience that makes you get silly but also feel ...
Views: 1402 - Her Attraction Signs Decoded - Find Out If She's in Love With You! - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2009 from Mark TaylorWomen can be really complex and tricky if they choose to be and as men, we have no other choice but get tangled to their endless web of mystery and riddles. But don't worry, it's not really that hard to read women (although it sounds way harder, doesn't it?). Truth is, women love to send mixed ...
Views: 3812 - Here Is Speedy Approach to Get Your Ex Back That has a Psychological Trigger - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2012 from Michael LoisThe data that i am about to expose would be to be used with caution. In order for you to receive your ex back than this psychological cause is incredibly strong. With minimal delay this method has profound effects on a human currently being. By subsequent the knowledge I am about to recommend ...
Views: 4847 - Here we show you how to save your trip while looking for taxis at the airport - by Especially when you visit a place for the first time, taking the first taxi to your hotel or residence can be a daunting experience. Not only this, but there are times when it can even be a potentially dangerous case if you have not done your homework at the point of arrival or have not taken ...
Views: 127 - Here we show you how to save your trip while looking for taxis at the airport - by Especially when you visit a place for the first time, taking the first taxi to your hotel or residence can be a daunting experience. Not only this, but there are times when it can even be a potentially dangerous case if you have not done your homework at the point of arrival or have not taken ...
Views: 173 - Here we show you how to save your trip while looking for taxis at the airport - by Especially when you visit a place for the first time, taking the first taxi to your hotel or residence can be a daunting experience. Not only this, but there are times when it can even be a potentially dangerous case if you have not done your homework at the point of arrival or have not taken ...
Views: 171 - Heroes and Role Models: The People We Admire - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from James KrehbielI think that it is important to make a distinction between some heroic figures that we value and the role models that have impacted our lives. What are the characteristics that differentiate heroes from people who have acted as role models for us? How do heroes and role models affect our ...
Views: 9660 - Heterosexuals, Come on out - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Martha Tara LeeYou might have come across the term ‘Coming out’. What does it mean? It is a figure of speech used by the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community in disclosing their sexual orientation and/or gender identity. Also referred to as ‘Coming out of the closet’, the beginning of ...
Views: 1127 - Hey, that's not what I was expecting! - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2020 from Martha BodyfeltSo I’ve been hearing this one thing a lot from readers and clients of mine who are trying to move the hell on... “It wasn’t supposed to be like this.” “We were supposed to grow old together.” “I was supposed to retire in a few years, but now I have to go back to work because of the ...
Views: 977 - He’s Ruining Everything! - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2011 from Kara OhWhen a man asks the question, “Is this all there is?”, somewhere between 35 and 55, they often go into what is referred to as Midlife Crisis. It is a serious time in their lives because it is the peak time (other than during the teen years) when they are most likely to commit suicide, to ruin ...
Views: 1657 - Hidden Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Want You Back - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2013 from Michael LoisYes, at this time is over the relationship with your boyfriend, and now you’re suspecting that want your life back. You have the security to do, but your ex boyfriend acts as if he wished. Want to know if you really really want her back in your life?. Here are some tips to know if your ex ...
Views: 743 - Hidden Traps for Life Partners Who Work Together - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2004 from Laurie WeissYou may think that it would be wonderful to be in business with your spouse, but the truth is that when life partners become business partners unspoken assumptions can cause significant problems. Neither couple I describe knows the other couple, but their stories are strikingly similar. ...
Views: 1820 - Hit a Home Run in the Game of Love!! - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Emma ViglucciAre you using the parts you love about yourself in your relationship? Do you bring the best out in each other? Do you complement and learn from each other? Are you a team working towards a common goal? Do you stimulate each other? What is the underlying theme to your interactions with your ...
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