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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- How a Financial Tune-up Month Can Change Your Life - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2011 from Mindy Sitton-HalleckHow a Financial Tune-up Month Can Change Your Life by Mindy Sitton-Halleck Did you know that integrating a financial tune up month into your busy year can lessen your stress, protect your finances, your relationships and improve your overall health? That’s a tall task, I know, but it’s true. ...
Views: 1590(1 vote) - How a Woman Can find a Good Man and Keep Him - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2017 from Furqan ArshadA good and trustworthy man is a rare germ particularly in the modern society where sincere love and infidelity are a rare character. This does not however mean that there are no good single men that can rock your world. Dating is challenging for every woman, but we know there is kind of girl ...
Views: 1783(1 vote) - How Can I avoid a Break up With my Lover - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2010 from Tom JanicThere are many signs that your partner may be cooling towards you, if you suspect that this is happening to you, then you should be on the lookout for the little things you always do together that suddenly no longer happen. It could start with something simple like the usual phone calls or texts ...
Views: 573(1 vote) - How can we hold on to a man? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2020 from Valeria TariThe society of today increasingly wants to make us think that a certain stereotypical woman exists. Types of thought-processes, products, and services surface which condition us to reach for the currently worshipped ideal, even at the cost of degrading our own selves. But if we look deep within ...
Views: 994(1 vote) - How Can You Control Your Life and Achieve Anything You Want? - by Submitted on May 17, 2010 from Marry BellBasically, our mind is already programmed to give us anything we ask for, and that's a fact. What is left for us to do is to ask for it. But don't get me wrong – it can be tricky, because just asking is not enough. You have to have a deep meaning when you do so. Your subconscious doesn't listen ...
Views: 2146(1 vote) - How can you tell a TRUE friend from a FAKE one? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2013 from Sam VakninA TRUE friend supports you only when he believes that you are doing the right thing in your self-interest and welfare; A FAKE friend supports you always, no matter what you do. A TRUE friend respects you only when you have earned respect and act respectably; A FAKE friend "respects" you ...
Views: 3104(2 votes) - How Depression Destroys a Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2016 from Randi FredricksIf you are having problems in your marriage, depression may be part of the reason. Recent studies have indicated that depression is associated with the quality of a relationship. Additionally, the quality of a relationship can affect a person’s level of depression. Not surprisingly, someone ...
Views: 2032(2 votes) - How Differences Can Make a Better Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Shela DeanHalloween. Every year it's a challenge to be creative and accommodating to my I'm-not-wearing-that sweetie at the same time. I love creative costumes. My ex was cooperative. He once allowed me to dress him as a topless dancer. The boobs I made for him out of balloons, cut up pantyhose, and ...
Views: 1515(1 vote) - How Do I Get My Ex Back If She Has a New Boyfriend? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2011 from robin brainThere is no dearth of such guys that get dumped by their girlfriend and they on turn dump all their works to get back the favor of their ex girlfriend. Most of such people have the very pertinent question how do I get my ex back. And such question becomes even more pertinent if he has the ...
Views: 714(1 vote) - How Do I Get My Ex Back? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2013 from David BrittoIf you find yourself wondering, "how do I get my ex back?" you aren't alone. Amazingly, there are ways , which you can win back the love of your life. There is absolutely no reason why you should not be able to re-ignite the lost love with the person you adore, so long as you remain assured and ...
Views: 2216(1 vote) - How do I know whether or not a man is serious about me? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2020 from Valeria TariMany of us have first-handedly experienced that during the acquaintance period of a romantic relationship, the man leads us on, makes empty promises, makes us believe he will down the stars from the sky for us, and he stops at nothing in order to get us in bed with him. Once the particular ...
Views: 1504(1 vote) - How Do You Know If It’s Time To Break Up? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2015 from Alex J. StevensonRelationships don’t always go the way we want. Things may start to get rocky despite the few months or years of being in a honeymoon phase. There comes a moment when it’s just time to go between you and your partner. So how do you know if it’s time to break up? There are several ...
Views: 1249(1 vote) - How Do You Know if You are Connected to Someone Psychically? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Judy Lynn KoonsAre You noticing a stronger attraction to someone, than normal? Do You remember dreams where the person You are feeling connected to shows up, in your dream, but they look different? Does it seem like maybe You have known this person before? Did You meet seemingly in a synchronistic ...
Views: 4476(1 vote) - How Do You Know Your Husband's Cheating? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Brenda StewartMaybe you thought your love will last forever and that he is the right person for you, unable to fall in love with someone else. But for some time now you are suspecting your husband of infidelity. What could be worse than having this uncertainty: "Is he cheating on me or not?" So, how do you ...
Views: 1152(1 vote) - How Do You Recover From An Affair - 3 Steps For Eliminating Negative Thoughts! - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2011 from Brenda StewartAfter you found out that your spouse cheated on you, how do you recover from an affair when you are struggling to eliminate all the negative thoughts and fighting with the images about the affair that are constantly appearing in your mind. The best way to recover after an affair is to seek for ...
Views: 1248(1 vote) - How Engagement Counseling Can Affair-Proof Your Marriage - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2010 from Sheryl PaulMy clients call me with a variety of anxiety-based questions (many of which I’ve discussed in previous articles): Does my anxiety mean that I don’t love my fiancé enough? How do I know that I’m making the right decision? Is there someone out there who’s better for me? Does the fact that I’m not ...
Views: 2853(1 vote) - How Not To Be A Wicked Stepparent - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2015 from Tina TessinaAre you a stepparent? Are you struggling to make the right decisions for your newly created family? If so, here are four tips to help. 1. Give your blended family a chance to bond. Don’t worry if everyone doesn’t settle in right away; bonding takes time. Hopefully, you all got to know each ...
Views: 1448(1 vote) - How Not to Fight: Myths about Fighting In Relationships (And What to Do about Them) - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2012 from Tina TessinaIn my counseling practice, couples are often surprised to learn they can communicate and solve problems effectively without fighting; but sometimes you may find it’s not so easy to give up your struggles. You may have trouble letting go of the fighting habit because of two factors: social ...
Views: 2798(2 votes) - How Our Tendency to Assume Can Serve as an Opportunity for Growth - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2019 from Stephanie Lewis“We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more from imagination than reality.” -Seneca We make so many assumptions - those stories that bounce around in our heads about why someone did something or what people are going to do. Someone didn’t say hi when you passed one ...
Views: 872(1 vote) - HOW SHAME FEELS AND WHAT MAKES IT TOXIC - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2019 from Darlene LancerSprawled on the hallway floor, skirt flying, hitting and kicking, I wrestled with Tina before a crowd of junior high school schoolmates, including a dozen boys from my class. Tina was a gang member who had recently transferred from another school. She and her cohorts had taunted and insulted me ...
Views: 1402(2 votes) - How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Sylviane NuccioI personally know some success coaches that would tell you that it’s easier to attract money than it is to attract your dream partner. Well, I disagree with that, because if I were to believe it, it would be like believing that the law of attraction is partial when it’s not. The law of ...
Views: 2363(1 vote) - How to Avoid the Divorce Process? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2019 from Jason WilsonAccording to the recent poll statistics, the number of divorces exceeds 80%. In the east, for example, in India, decaying marriages are less than 2%. So you can avoid divorce. One should only approach this issue with the utmost seriousness and sincere desire to save the family. 5 tips given in ...
Views: 779(1 vote) - How to Be a Happy Couple and Build a Strong Relationship - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2018 from Kalyna KapurYou might be in your 30s, 40s or even your 70s, but the most important part in your life is the relationship and building a strong bond with your partner. You will see countless couples living together over many years, but that does not mean they are actually living a happy life together. ...
Views: 778(1 vote) - How to be a Lesbian - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2011 from Michele OMaraNo one is ever surprised when they learn I am a lesbian. Well, I suppose my grandma did seem a little taken aback, asking, “How did that happen?” Interestingly though, aside from my appearance I am seriously lacking when it comes to a lot of common stereotypes of a lesbian. My friends even ...
Views: 1803(1 vote) - How to Bring Back Lost Love and Save Your Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Gerry RestriveraDating stage and the first few years of a marriage or relationship are the sweetest and the happiest. You are discovering new things with each other and enjoying each other’s company. But when the relationship is aging, you are getting more familiar with each other and starting to have fights ...
Views: 1867(1 vote) - How to Build Trust in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from Michael JibunorEven though most newlyweds live together, they still need to work on building trust in their marriage. Trust, after all, is the glue that holds couples together – even when they face great challenges. Without trust, couples might be more likely to split in times of crises, fail at getting ...
Views: 4222(1 vote) - How to choose your next summer vacation - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2019 from Hotels Etc.comHave you and your family made the decision to plan a summer vacation this year? If you have, you are not alone. Each year, a large number of families decide to vacation in the summer months. If you have already selected your summer vacation destination, you are one step ahead of most ...
Views: 1789(1 vote) - How to Communicate Better with your Partner - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2012 from Jan RakoffWe've all heard it before: Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. While this has sort of become a cliché, it does hold some truth. In fact, communication is the fundamental building block for any successful relationship, both romantic and non-romantic. For instance, if we don’t ...
Views: 761(1 vote) - How to Communicate Effectively In A Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2011 from John Michael MandeyAs we know, communication is an important part in a relationship. Poor communication will destroy a relationship while good and well-established communication will make our relationship more harmonious. Ineffective communication can lead to misunderstanding and conflict. It's often we hear ...
Views: 594(1 vote) - How to Convince Your Ex to Get Back With You? How to Convince Him to Give Me Another Chance - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2016 from Michael UadialeTrying to convince your ex soon after the breakup will not yield positive results; in fact will only firm their resolve to stay clear of you. You need a much nuanced approach to convince them that you are their best bet and here is how you can do that. Read on Let the anger dissipate No ...
Views: 5015(1 vote) - How to Cope with Toxic Friendships - by Submitted on May 03, 2015 from Tina TessinaResearch shows that the happiest and healthiest people are those who are well-connected to friends and family, but all friendships are not beneficial. A healthy friendship has mutual caring, mutual respect, mutual responsibility and good communication. Breaking up with an important friend ...
Views: 1674(1 vote) - How to Create a Strong, Satisfying Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2010 from Yvonne SinclairSlow down and listen. When we communicate, sometimes we ignore what our partner is saying. Instead of focusing on our partner, our thoughts are consumed with what we plan to say next. If you pay attention to your partner's words, and then you reflect back what you hear them say or ...
Views: 4019(1 vote) - How To Date/Marry A Widow or Widower - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2012 from Ellen GerstIf you are dating or planning to marry a widow or widower, here are some suggestions and thoughts to consider. LEARN ALL ABOUT GRIEF Do some research about grief, read books and talk to others in similar situations. Know what to expect on anniversaries, birthdays and other days that were ...
Views: 27191(1 vote) - How to deal with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2017 from Nancy CarboneThose with borderline personality disorder (BPD) have an underlying fear of abandonment and often misinterpret interpersonal situations where they end up feeling worthless or mistreated. They can have a distorted sense of self and view of others. The see themselves and others as split, as ...
Views: 1965(1 vote) - How to Deal With Conflict About Different Beliefs in New Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2011 from Bellaisa FilippisThe first disagreement can turn into a fight quickly! And that can lead to questions about the solidity of the relationship and whether or not you want to move forward with it. It’s natural to feel like that. The first bit of tension in a relationship is going to be upsetting to the core because ...
Views: 1253(1 vote) - How to Deal with Difficult People - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2011 from Terry DeMeo"We need to talk," your partner says. You hear The Tone and glance up from your book. They've got that Look on their face. You know, The Look. The closer they get, the more sure you are. Trouble. With a capital "T". Cue the opening bars from the Jaws soundtrack. A sick feeling in your stomach ...
Views: 1143(1 vote) - How to deal with negative people - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2011 from Luminita SaviucHow do you deal with those negative people that keep showing up in your life? You know how I always say that nothing in this world happens by accident and how everything and everybody is here to teach us all a lesson. Well, apparently I don’t always walk the talk. I have to confess to you that I ...
Views: 2012(1 vote) - How To Deal With Others - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2011 from Melodie WilliamsIn all applications of the fascination with people, you are encouraged to remember that your first goal, always and reliability, is a feeling of happiness in their minds. You do not have to try to encourage people to behave in a manner which you have created your own feel good about themselves. ...
Views: 1346(1 vote) - How To Deal with People Who Bring Us Down - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2009 from Andrew RondeauIt takes all kinds of people to make up the world we live in. In life, we have the opportunity to meet many people. Some of them we find are too difficult to deal with. These are the people we end up not liking and we try and avoid them as much as possible. Keeping well away from them might be ...
Views: 3030(1 vote) - How to Detach and Let Go with Love - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2020 from Darlene LancerAlthough it’s painful to see our loved ones be self-destructive, detaching allows us to enjoy our life despite another person’s problems and behavior. Attachment and caring are normal. It’s healthy to get attached to people we love and care about, but codependent attachment causes us pain and ...
Views: 1154(2 votes) - How to dump your partner by Beth Shepherd psychic - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomDumping a partner is difficult, no matter what the situation. You may be torn because of family or other commitments or problems but the odds are that you have thought about this for quite some time and you know that this is what is best for you. This does not mean it will suit your partner or ...
Views: 2669(1 vote) - How to End a Relationship in the New Age - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2015 from LaToya CampbellBreaking up is hard to do. Sometimes! This article is about how to end a relationship in which you are romantically involved. . There are a number of things to take into consideration when deciding on how to end a relationship. First, you need to be familiar with the type of person you are ...
Views: 2566(1 vote) - How to End Pain and Be Happy - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2011 from David SamuelMany people who believe in karma (the law of cause and effect in respect to previous incarnations if you believe in that) have the concept that the negative situations that happen to them are a type of karmic debt. That somehow they deserve whatever bad things have befallen them, either in ...
Views: 1448(2 votes) - How to Enjoy a Long-Distance Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2018 from Jane HurstLong-distance relationships are not easy, but this doesn’t mean that they are not worthwhile. In fact, if you are considering not getting into a long-distance relationship because you think it will be too difficult, don’t say “no” without giving it a lot of consideration. ...
Views: 1662(1 vote) - How to Erase Someone From Your Memory - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2015 from Alex J. StevensonErasing the memory of a loved one is not easy especially if you have been in a beautiful relationship which has suddenly gone sour. You experience a lot of pain and negativity when you lose your self-confidence and wonder what really went wrong. How to erase someone from your memory? ...
Views: 5347(1 vote) - How to Feel Better After a Breakup - People Who Don't Regret Know These Tips - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2015 from Alex J. StevensonSo you broke up. This is always painful, even if you are the one to initiate the breakup. Even if there is a good reason (or many) for you two not to be together anymore, it is never an easy thing to work through the aftermath. There will be stages of grieving the relationship, but there ...
Views: 1183(1 vote) - How to Figure Out What You Really Want in Life - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2013 from Anna StevensFive Critical Exercises to Help You Figure Out What You Really Want in Life "Life is not a matter of chance...it is a matter of choice. " ― Ka It is often very comfortable for people to just go with the flow in life, career, and relationships - just simply let someone else take charge, ...
Views: 1743(2 votes) - How To Find Happiness In Marriage: Relationships Thrive On Personal Responsibility - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2011 from Bob LancerNever underestimate the role of personal responsibility in marriage. Relationships do not replace our personal responsibility for our own happiness. You make yourself happy or unhappy in your relationship. Help yourself out of marital dissatisfaction by adhering to the following marriage advice: ...
Views: 1626(1 vote) - How to Find Healthy Relationships by Stamping Out Self-Doubt - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Jack PowersThere’s no doubt that self-doubt can keep you from having the relationships that you really want. If you doubt yourself, that doubt will cause all kinds of things like jealousy, insecurity, clinginess and all those things which drive people away and keep you from having high value relationships ...
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