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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Effective Ways To Win A Girl Back - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2011 from Mika MaddelaAre you looking for the best ways to win a girl back? Maybe the two of you just broke up or you probably did something bad and now she won't talk to you. Either way, you want this problem fixed. If you have already done everything with no result, then here are some ways to win a girl back that ...
Views: 727 - Effects of Divorce on Children -- And What You Can Do About It - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2008 from Menno SpijkstraAn increasing number of marriages ended up in divorce over the past few years. A couple’s inability to communicate which leads to relationship breakdown most often causes divorce. Having a lasting relationship or avoiding separation is never easy, but once the decision to separate is ...
Views: 517 - Ego and Intolerance vs. Higher-self--Two Different Viewpoints - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2017 from Scott & Stephen PetulloYour spiritual-self, or higher-self sometimes contrasts with your ego-self’s expectations in everyday affairs. According to the theories of reincarnation and karma, your soul selects conditions and circumstances prior to your birth in order to learn and understand. But after incarnating, ...
Views: 1578 - Ego and Marriage - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2012 from Cameron A Bailey SrMy carnal mind tells me that the most important thing is that I am/be right. My spiritual mind tells me that the most important thing is WHAT is right. Here's a gold nugget and a piece of spiritual steak to chew on: In your marriages, engagements and dating be responsible for your own ...
Views: 3650 - Eight Low Stress First Date Ideas - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2008 from Laura GilesIt’s always nerve wracking trying to come up with an affordable, appropriate, interesting first date idea. You don’t want to come across as too eager, too cheap, or too dull. You don’t want to be unoriginal and do the same old “dinner and a movie” thing. You also don’t want to over commit ...
Views: 4652 - Eight Telltale Signs You Are the Selfish Partner - by Submitted on May 22, 2020 from habib ahmed mithuIn every relationship, there are times of strife. Long-lasting, successful relationships are plagued with various storms the couple must weather. Sometimes, your partner is to blame, other times it's you. The question is whether or not your relationship can stand the test of time. Any ...
Views: 851 - Eight Ways to Improve Your Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2011 from Adam BlumThe following eight practices, developed from my years of working with couples as a couples counselor, may help you deepen your relationship this year. They may sound simple, but they have been proven to work. Cultivate compliments Come up with ways to compliment your partner on a weekly ...
Views: 1429 - Electronic Hit and Run - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2010 from Wayne KehlIf you are alive and breathing, you have probably noticed that a lot of folks seem to think it is okay to criticize other people for their actions. They criticize them behind their backs and they criticize them in public. The boldest people criticize other people to their faces in an effort to ...
Views: 1298 - Eliminate Avoidance In Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2008 from Crystal HernandezWhen it comes to habits you can bet that change is going to require an act of the will. Habits are the attitudes and behaviors that generally work for us in some way. They're so effective that we come to rely on them. Some habits are harmless, like leaving your keys in the basket on the baker's ...
Views: 1768 - Eliot Spitzer's Morality Lessons For Sandwiched Boomers - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2008 from Phyllis GoldbergThe media spotlight the past few days has been on Eliot Spitzer, the Governor of New York, and his link to the Emperor's Club VIP prostitution ring. Whether his damaging behavior is related to an inflated sense of entitlement, the dark side of his self righteous attitude, a feeling that he's ...
Views: 1325 - Embracing Self-Care and Resilience - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2022 from Emma ViglucciThis is about the toughest week of the year… This is when we have Blue Monday, supposedly the saddest day of the year. Bills come in from the holidays, attempts at new habits start falling to the wayside, hibernation is knocking on our door, and things just feel heavy. It’s rough to get going ...
Views: 735 - Embracing Self-Connection and Radiance (VIDEO) - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2022 from Emma ViglucciAs we are wrapping up January and turn towards the month of Love, things begin to look up… The mad pressure to hit the ground running in January and kicking off the year with a bang, is now behind us. We can now truly embrace more self-compassion and set the right tone for the upcoming year… ...
Views: 694 - Embracing the Fear of No Contact - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2011 from Andrew HunterIf you’ve gone through a break up recently, you’ve probably heard of the No Contact Rule. In case you haven’t, it basically involves keeping yourself from contacting your ex for about one month. During this time you focus on yourself. This allows your ex to have the opportunity to miss you as ...
Views: 2307 - Emma by Jane Austen Book Review: The Power Of Unlikable Characters - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2021 from Rochi ZalaniThis article was originally published at rochizalani.com The novel is set in a beautiful, British, fiction town, Highbury. Austen’s Emma is beautiful, rich, smart but also meddlesome, deluded, and spoiled. She is not a likable character and you won’t really root for her when you read ...
Views: 807 - Emotional Abandonment By Husband: How To Deal With Emotional Abandonment In Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2021 from Bentley MilesEmotional Abandonment By Husband: How To Deal With Emotional Abandonment In Marriage Respect is very important in every home. And for any marriage to succeed, the head (the husband) must be respected. Men love respect. They are not happy when people, especially women, disrespect ...
Views: 1319 - Emotional Affair Signs - How to Know if Your Husband is Having An Emotional Affair - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Lisa Penn-JamesEmotional affairs are not any less hurtful than physical affairs. Actually, they pose much more threat to you marriage than a physical betrayal. This guide gives you emotional affair signs - So you could finally decide: Is your husband having an emotional affair? "While my husband was in the ...
Views: 7252 - Emotional Affair: How Emotional Affairs Differ From Friendships - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2008 from New Harbinger PublicationsEmotional affairs might begin as friendships, but they don’t stay that way. The friendship becomes transformed, sometimes slowly, sometimes almost immediately, into a fundamentally different relationship. There are distinct differences between friendships and emotional affairs. - An ...
Views: 8036 - Emotional Affairs- Why Your Relationship Could be at Risk! - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2012 from Raychel ChumleyAn emotional affair is defined as any infidelity that occurs through feeling or thought. It is when two people, who are not spouses, have an emotional relationship that causes problems with their marriages including: intimacy issues, creating emotional distance between spouses, and negatively ...
Views: 1776 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part Of Taking Responsibility For How We Feel In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that while relationships have the power to lift one up, they also have the power to bring them down. So one can experience just about every emotion on one side of the spectrum at one moment and then experience just about every emotion on the other side of the spectrum at ...
Views: 1671 - Emotional Competency Builds Healthy Passionate Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2008 from Dan And JenniferExplore the Logic of Passion Emotions are the primal bonds of our relationships. They are authentic, immediate, intimate, passionate, and memorable. They provide a window into another’s most genuine thoughts and feelings while they reveal our own true selves. Emotions are colorful, ...
Views: 1363 - Emotional Dumping: What Is Emotional Dumping? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be moments in everyone’s life when things are not running smoothly, with this being a time when they may need someone to open up to. If they were to reach out to someone, they could just go over what has been going on. After this has taken place, one could soon direct ...
Views: 3638 - Emotional Expression: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop Someone From Expressing How They Feel? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to explain something to another person, there are a number of ways for them to do so. It could be said that the most important thing will be for them to use words, as this will allow them to be understood. In addition to this, they can use their body and their emotions. ...
Views: 1170 - Emotional High - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2012 from Jaron WilliamsAre you still on an emotional high after the best first date you've ever had? When you meet that perfect someone who makes you feel everything is going right, your instincts are to keep that person as close to you as possible. After all, something that feels so good has to be the best thing for ...
Views: 858 - Emotional Honesty and Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from Kenneth MacLeanRelationships are ruined by the buildup of negative emotion. Eventually, you just have to get away from the other person because you can't stand it anymore. Here's a simple way to get things off your chest and keep your relationships on an even keel. I've always admired people who can be honest ...
Views: 2175 - Emotional Infidelity - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2011 from Tee EdwardsEmotional Infidelity is a term that is becoming increasingly common, because of the increasing instances of it. What is emotional infidelity? In short, it's a form of infidelity that excludes sexual relations. It's important that this term is clarified, because many people feel that if they ...
Views: 1368 - Emotional Infidelity: A Serious Heartbreaker - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2008 from Menno SpijkstraSo you strike up a friendship with another man through email, chat, text, or at the workplace, talking by the water cooler at break time. You don’t think there’s anything wrong with opening up and sharing intimate details about your life with this person even though you are married. ...
Views: 922 - Emotional Loneliness In A Marriage: Feeling Alone And Unloved In Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2021 from Maci AspenEmotional Loneliness In A Marriage: Feeling Alone And Unloved In Marriage Marriages work more or less the same way all over the world. After the initial honeymoon phase is over, life falls in the trap of what is otherwise known as 'normalcy' which eventually turns out to be monotonous and ...
Views: 1045 - Emotional Maturity? Not in America! - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2011 from Janis EricsonJust this morning, I witnessed a large truck speeding down my street, honking at a double-parked car (do cars move themselves??). Over the weekend I heard so much gossip it made my head spin. And tomorrow I’m likely to hear one of my clients badmouthing a co-worker. One thing I’m quite ...
Views: 1571 - Emotional Regulation: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the ability to regulate their own emotions, they are not going to be used to being overwhelmed by them. And even if they were to find themselves in a position where they were unable to handle what is taking place within them, it doesn’t mean that they would suffer in silence. ...
Views: 1149 - Emotional Stages of a Relationship Breakup - 8 Steps through the Hard After the breakup - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Tedi KusmayadiPerhaps, the most powerful energy in the world that can beat energy atomic bomb, the strength of a black hole, and the enormity of the collision asteroid-earth is the energy of love. With love, people can do things from the sanest, until the craziest. Love can make people change either like an ...
Views: 3290 - Emotional Support: Does Someone Want To Have Their Problems Solved If They Are Emotional? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s emotions are not settled and they are all at sea, so to speak, there is the chance that they are going through a challenging time. Or, it could show that something in their life has had a big impact on them. The next step might be for them to reach out to a friend or a family ...
Views: 813 - Emotional Support: Is Emotional Support Important? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are either independent or dependent and while it can look this way, ultimately we are all interdependent. No one is their own island and each one of us is reliant on others in some way. This is not to say that everyone has this outlook: Some people can ...
Views: 4066 - Emotional Wounds: The Stack of Hurts and Resentments in her Mind - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2011 from Donald WallachMen and women are different in how they process and store emotions. There are always exceptions to this rule, but I’m about to describe how the majority of men and women deal with hurt and resentment. Both genders feel hurt and resentment, and both can certainly hold on to resentment a long ...
Views: 1827 - Emotionally Disconnected: Do Some Men's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough both men and women can be out of touch with how they feel, it is undoubtedly something that impacts a lot of men. Therefore, it would be easy to say that more men than women are affected in this way, but that would possibly be a matter of conjecture. With that aside, when a man has ...
Views: 948 - Emotions as Weather - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2014 from Tina TessinaAlthough most people in the country wouldn’t agree, we in Southern California have been having extreme weather conditions for us: rain and mudslides. You could almost say we’re so used to mild conditions that we become afraid of what others would call “real” ...
Views: 1513 - Empathizing With A Wife Beater? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2008 from Dan And JenniferJim was a thirty-something man who was involved in a violent relationship. He was not proud of his part in the violence and had been attending an anger management group. He felt to blame for what had happened and was clearly confused and ashamed that he had behaved this way toward the woman he ...
Views: 1083 - Empathy - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from Gregg OliverEmpathy is the capacity to recognize or understand another's state of mind or emotion. It is often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes", or to in some way experience the outlook or emotions of another being within oneself. It is therefore the essence of connection ...
Views: 1745 - Empathy: Can An Emotional Build-Up Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is going through an emotionally challenging time in their life, they may find that they have started to shut down. Their engine will still be running, but it won’t be running on all cylinders, so to speak. During this time, it is not going to be their intention for this to take place; ...
Views: 1495 - Emptiness: Why Do Some People Feel Empty? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone looks whole on the outside, it doesn’t mean that they feel whole on the inside. How they look is then going to have very little to do with how they actually experience life. Based on how they experience life, it will be as though they are missing something. As a result ...
Views: 716 - Enchance Your Sensuality - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2014 from Greg Dudzinski, MS, LPCSENSUALITY! Do you have an idea of what sensuality entails, or what it means? Everyone has that smirk on their face, contemplating their last sexually fulfilled experience. Wait, that may be partially true. However, are you sensual outside of the sexual realm? Are you confusion now? Yes, ...
Views: 1151 - Encouraging Vs Controlling Your Partner - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2010 from Diane and Lewis DenbaumIn a loving relationship or marriage, most individuals want the very best for their spouse or partner. People want their partners to be successful, healthy, fit and happy so that each can enjoy the other for as long as possible. There are two ways to handle being involved in your partner's ...
Views: 1703 - End-of-year closure, clearance and celebration (Step2) - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2020 from Emma ViglucciYes, 2020 has been challenging. Yes, 2021 seems to want to start on a rough foot also… But we don’t have to let it! It is our job to create our best life regardless of what is happening out there, to the best of our ability… Today’s topic is the second step in putting a bow on it and launching ...
Views: 874 - End-of-year vision, strategy and intention (Step3) - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2020 from Emma ViglucciWow, we made it. The end of 2020… And, what a year it has been. Are you excited to close what some are calling the “lost year”? I actually refuse to look at it this way and choose instead to look at it as a Transition Year into our Best Self, Best Relationship and Best Life… To that end, we’ve ...
Views: 841 - End-of-year, decluttering and minimalism (Step1) - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2020 from Emma ViglucciLast month of 2020! Let’s make it a good one! In this context, making it a good one means making the rest of the Holiday Season as magical as they can be, properly wrapping up this year, and setting up the new one for more success… Today’s topic is the first step in putting a bow on it and ...
Views: 819 - Endeavoring to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Again? Maintain Your Self Regard - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2012 from Michael LoisTo begin with off, it is important to acknowledge this can be a genuinely distressing time in your case - and consider me, I have been there. Boy have I at any time. We women can have some really hectic emotions when we have lost love. And appropriate about now, you happen to be wanting to ...
Views: 743 - Ending a Relationship - Help For When You'd Rather Stay - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2011 from Rachel RussoThere is no doubt about it, break ups are painful for all parties involved. Whether you plan to rip it off like a band-aid or plant the seed and treat it like a process, ending a relationship is no easy task. Often, the challenges facing the person initiating a break up are grossly ...
Views: 2336 - Ending a Relationship After Infidelity - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2011 from nancy traversInfidelity is an unfortunate occurrence that strikes too many modern relationships. Cheating in any relationship can be devastating for both partners; both the person committing the infidelity and the person betrayed can be strongly affected by the after-effects of breaking the relationship’s ...
Views: 1617 - Ending a Relationship Breaking Up is Hard To Do - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2011 from bob tackettDoes your to-do list look something like this: · Walk dog · Water plants · Break up with significant other Okay, while ending a relationship is hardly at the top of anybody’s calendar, the fact is that when a relationship has gone sour, someone has to make the move to end it. The truth ...
Views: 521 - Ending Relationships - Should I Stay or Should I Go? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2006 from Michael MyerscoughShould you stay with your partner or leave them? Is all the pain you suffer in your relationship worth it for the good times you have together? Will it really be worth all the pain of leaving them or is it better to stay and stick it out? In most relationships there comes a point when you have ...
Views: 1547 - Ending Your Relationship Is Hard To Do - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2012 from Karyn DaviesSadly, it is known that when a relationship turns sour, one party must step up and announce the end of the relationship. Relationships that end up in this sour state tend to hold on for longer than they should simply because making the move to break up is hard to do. Break ups can involve ...
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