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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Does Saying "I Love You" Matter? - by Submitted on May 31, 2019 from Mary HorsmanThe short answer is “Yes.” The longer answer is “Yes. And here’s why . . . ” Saying “I Love You” is a simple way to keep Love flowing in all of your relationships. If you Love someone, tell them. Often. The Power of Words It’s pretty well known how much words can hurt, even if ...
Views: 619 - Does Separation Work To Save A Marriage: Is Separation The Answer - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackDoes Separation Work To Save A Marriage: Is Separation The Answer Sometimes when a marriage is going through rough times, we need to think about alternate ways to salvage our relationships. You may have tried counseling and other avenues to repair your relationship and you don't know what ...
Views: 837 - Does She Like Me? - Top 8 Signs - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2011 from Thomas M TurnerIt's not easy to guess a woman's true feelings if she doesn't tell you out loud how she feels about you. Dating someone new or trying to ask your crush out for the first time can be nerve-racking if you have no idea whether she feels the same way about you. Women use body language a lot more ...
Views: 11454 - Does She Love Me? - Top 10 Signs - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Thomas M TurnerFalling in love can be a wonderful thing. However, starting a relationship can also be very tricky for most men. This is mostly because a lot of men cannot tell if the girl they're interested in feels the same way as they do. So if you see yourself in this kind of situation, here are some good ...
Views: 6639 - Does The No Contact Rule Work Effectively? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2011 from Andrew HunterDoes the No Contact Rule work for most people? You should be aware how important the No Contact Rule is if you want your ex back with you. If you are struggling with a recent relationship break up then you should learn more about the No Contact Rule and how it works. Q: How does the No ...
Views: 2242 - Does the “Fear of Letting Go” Withhold You from Changing an Unsatisfying Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2012 from Doron GilWhether you are single wishing to develop a relationship or have a relationship wishing to change or end it, changing the situation you are in involves taking a risk. The Fear of Letting Go might withhold you from taking such a risk since it makes you anxious about an uncertain future. But the ...
Views: 1993 - Does this sound like your relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2015 from Clement McGrathYou will have your own story and your own patterns that play out, but see read through this story and see if you can recognise any patterns could be affecting your relationship. “Karen and David (names changed) came for help because their marriage had been deteriorating since Karen started ...
Views: 1380 - Does Worry Stop Your Wonder? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2012 from Zach Kleiman“My husband wants me to get a-.” She looked around the court making sure no one was eavesdropping and then spelled out, “J-O-B.” She hit the ball twenty percent harder. “He thinks it would be good for me to contribute.” Her legs bent; her shots gained more weight. “What does that mean? ...
Views: 349 - Does Your Anxiety Drive You to Sabotage Your Relationships? Learn How to De-activate its Power - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2012 from Doron GilINTRODUCTION Your anxiety often harms your attempts at relationships. It works against you as you try to find a partner and develop a successful intimacy. It drives you to react and behave in ways which are counter-productive to a successful relationship. Combating your anxiety enables you to ...
Views: 4694 - Does Your Ex still have Feelings for You After The Break-Up! - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2011 from Larry GateLove is strange sometimes! It as well makes you do things that are stranger. For example falling deeply in love with someone and then calling off the relationship for reasons that are unavoidable. However this is not what is strange! The thing that is strange occurs when you can’t get your ex ...
Views: 4322 - Does Your Ex Want You Back Or Are You Being Used? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengOccasionally I get calls from men and women who want to know if their ex is using them and before I can even answer, they get into "He/she is really a good person, I really don't think he/she is using me... I guess he/she is looking deep down in his/her heart to find out what he/she really wants ...
Views: 21855 - Does Your Ex Want You Back Or Are You Refusing to Accept Reality? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengRefusing to accept reality or optimistic denial is so common that sometimes men and woman who are trying to get their ex back come across as unreasonable in their thoughts and attitudes -- even acting like their ex owes them something. Even when they intellectually understand that they are ...
Views: 7216 - Does Your Ex Want You Back? Why Nothing Is Working - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengRefusing to accept reality or optimistic denial is so common that sometimes men and woman who are trying to get their ex back come across as unreasonable in their thoughts and attitudes -- even acting like their ex owes them something. Even when they intellectually understand that they are ...
Views: 1565 - DOING IT YOUR PARTNER’S WAY - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciI learned to listen to my husband’s wishes. This might sound simple and easy to do, and even a given, right? But it’s not. It’s common for partners to give and do for each other what they’d like for themselves. Just this week I was talking with a client who does not like to make a fuss over her ...
Views: 661 - Doing Things Together - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2012 from Daniela RoherDo you remember when you and your partner were getting to know each other? I bet that, when you think back to those early times of your love, you remember what you did together: perhaps you both liked the same music and went to concerts together; or you liked the theater, and went to many ...
Views: 2239 - Domestic Violence - Understanding How It Starts - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Helen ThompsonDomestic Violence and abusive relationships start will small things and develop into behavioural and thought patterns. Identify how you got there, so you can follow the path to the future you really want. Understanding the behaviours and patterns is the first step to changing your life for ...
Views: 1956 - DOMESTICITY IS KILLING YOUR RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciPartners look at what they contribute to their joint life as what they contribute to their relationship. These things usually include earnings and taking care of the family and home. But, what would you say you contribute to the relationship if you couldn’t include these? How do you invest in ...
Views: 909 - Don't be afraid to piss people off. - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2020 from Martha BodyfeltWant to feel more confident? Then don't be afraid to piss people off. Here’s the uncomfortable truth, friends. In your journey to get confident and feel better about yourself, you cannot be afraid to step on toes. In other words... Don’t be afraid to piss people off. Strong women ...
Views: 982 - Don't Be an Emotional Doormat with These Five Power-Maxing Tricks - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2011 from Marion ChamberlainDo you have a rubber or cloth rectangular object lying at your front door? You know that thing that is meant to collect all the dirt and dust from your shoes? Yes, the common term used is doormat. Most of us go out and get ones that are seasonal or tie into the décor of our house. And what ...
Views: 3118 - Don't Compare Partners - by Have you ever found yourself comparing your current partner to someone from your past, and finding your current partner lacking? Worse yet, have you found yourself telling your current partner he or she is being compared to someone in your past and falls short?
What is it we are really after ...
Views: 947 - Don't Declare War In Anger - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2007 from Jan DeniseINSIDE/NAKED RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, OCTOBER 19, 2007 Don't Declare War In Anger From a reader: (SET ITAL) I am really wondering if I made a mistake in marrying Donald. I thought we were in the working it out stage, but now I am not so sure. Now, there are moments when ...
Views: 857 - Don't Fall Into Spousal Support's 3 Deadly Traps - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Colin KennedyHistorically spousal support or alimony cases were the realm of lawyers, and many deserving people were left out in the cold because they could not afford the large legal fees required to resolve their alimony or spousal support woes. It's all about money, and you need to get it right the ...
Views: 1213 - Don't Fall; Rise in Love - by No topic has been discussed more than love. For ages we have been the audience to great love stories, some happy and some tragic. The mere mention of love puts a shine on some people's face while a layer of sadness appears for those who failed in love relationships. People "fall" in and out of ...
Views: 904 - Don't Jump into a Relationshiop Too Quickly! - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2012 from Elizabeth GolembiewskiI’ve done it myself. I’ve seen women do it after a week. It feels like the right thing to do, the easiest thing to do, yet it’s actually self-sabotaging and risky. The “thing” I’m referring to is jumping into a relationship with someone too soon - - putting all your eggs in one basket. Have ...
Views: 4398 - Don't Let Another Person Become the One That Got Away! - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2011 from Bellaisa FilippisIf you find that you are constantly kicking yourself about the one that got away, then now's the time to stop that from ever happening again! It doesn't matter whether you were dating them and screwed up, or they were attracted to you and you didn't take action. Either way you did some key ...
Views: 677 - Don't Let Jealousy Take Over Your Love Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2008 from Susie and Otto CollinsIt usually starts out small—just a twinge of worry or insecurity—and then before you know it grows to such huge proportions it seems like it will never leave. We’re talking about jealousy here. And if you’ve been in the throes of jealous feelings, you probably know what ...
Views: 1120 - Don't Let Your Relationship Slide into Recession - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Sean LatimerRelationships in a Recession – Part 1 Don’t let your relationship slide into recession In this series of articles, I am addressing the effect that the growing recession is likely to have on a couple’s relationship, what stance to take and what action to take to prevent the slide. In this first ...
Views: 1133 - Don't Tell Your Partner What To Do - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Daan van den BerghThe subject line says it all. We simply spend to much time on telling each other what to do. And even worse, what to feel. I’m sure you went through this: you said or did something your significant other didn’t like. After he/she let’s you know in some way that it was hurtful what you said or ...
Views: 958 - Don’t Drown in the Sea of Love: 6 Tips for Couples - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Scott & Stephen PetulloMost people strive to be part of a happy couple. Unfortunately, the result is often the opposite. Humans learn great lessons, often through difficult times, from love relationships. But if you take a spiritual approach and remember the following tips, you’ll be able to create more happiness and ...
Views: 1321 - Don’t fall in Love. Get what you really want - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2011 from Ernest QuansahThe break-up and divorce rate is now at 50 to 60 % and is expected to increase. But you can do something about your love relationship or marriage today. My Advice is simple. Don’t go into a relationship out of love. Go into it to get what you want. What is that? Most people want their love ...
Views: 1170 - DON’T JUST SURVIVE THE HOLIDAY SEASON - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciThe Holiday season is taxing. It is difficult to incorporate all the demands of the Holidays into our already jammed packed calendar: all those parties, the shopping, decorating, cooking and just all the extra details. And it is even harder when we are emotionally and physically exhausted. This ...
Views: 725 - Don’t Let Your Anger Sabotage Your Relationships: Allow Yourself to Express it! - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Doron GilAnger is a natural emotion. However, there are those who, for one reason or another, don’t allow themselves to express it. By doing so they might harm their relationships. If you are a person who doesn’t express anger, you may want to understand why you don’t and teach yourself to express it ...
Views: 1667 - Don’t Let Your Belief-System Harm Your Relationships: The Role of Self-Awareness in Your Life - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2011 from Doron GilYour attitudes, emotions, reactions and behaviors towards your partners are often controlled by a belief-system which you are NOT AWARE OF. You adopted this belief-system from your childhood home, your social environment, television, radio, books and films. EXAMPLES OF BELIEF-SYSTEMS WHICH ...
Views: 1115 - Don’t Let Your Belief-System Hurt You & Sabotage Your Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2012 from Doron GilIt is being said that having a belief-system is good: it is something which directs you; guides your actions; motivates you to know how to go about feel you know how to move forward with life. But if your belief-system controls your attitudes and behviors without you being aware of it, you are ...
Views: 2456 - Don’t Let Your Expectations about Your Partner & Relationship Harm You Just Before the Holidays! - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2011 from Doron GilEXPECTATIONS ABOUT PARTNERS AND RELATIONSHIPS We all have expectations about partners and relationships, and this is natural. However, if you hold on to unrealistic expectations hoping that they will be fulfilled, you are likely to harm your relationships. Becoming aware of your expectations ...
Views: 1843 - Don’t Let “The Fear of Being Alone” Drive You to Stay in an Unsatisfying Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2012 from Doron GilStaying in an unsatisfying relationship might be driven by many fears, one of which is THE FEAR OF BEING ALONE.You convince yourself that it is better to have a partner and be in a relationship, albeit not a satisfying one, rather than being alone. The problem is that you the give up on your ...
Views: 2929 - Don’t Make Another Person The Centre Of Your World - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was reading the book, ‘Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway’, there was a chapter that went into how important it was to have many different areas of interest in life, and not to put all our eggs in one basket, so to speak. The author, Susan Jeffers, pointed out that a lot of people make their ...
Views: 1045 - Don’t Put Women On A Pedestal! - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile I was out the other day I saw a woman who was wearing a fair amount of makeup, and seeing this woman had quite a big effect on me. But, even though part of me was responding to what I had seen, another part of me thought about how strange this all was. For one thing, I didn’t know ...
Views: 1263 - Don’t Sabotage Your Relationship! Become Aware of What You Do – and Change! - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2012 from Doron GilWHY DO YOU FAIL TO DEVELOP A SUCCESSFUL INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP? If you have been trying for quite some time now to find a partner with whom to develop a satisfying relationship but in vain, or are having continuous problems with your partner, there is probably something you do wrong. ...
Views: 1396 - Don’t Sacrifice Yourself for a Partner and a Relationship: It Will Only Cause You Harm - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2013 from Doron GilYou will be amazed to realize what people do for love. Some sacrifice themselves on the “altar of a relationship”, some are involved with dangerous and stupid “adventures”. But whatever others do, what is important is that you know yourself and know what you are willing, or unwilling, to do “for ...
Views: 1887 - Don’t Seek Short-Cuts to Finding a Partner with Whom to Develop an Intimate Relationship: They Might Fail You! - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2012 from Doron GilTime is money. For one reason or another this phrase has taken precedence in many aspects of our daily life: on CNN, for example, you often hear the anchor saying to an interviewer: “quickly…”; or “please answer the final last question in one sentence”. Twitter forces you to send messages with ...
Views: 1244 - Don’t You At Times Wish that Your Relationship with Your Partner Will be as Good as the One You Have with Your Friend? - by Submitted on May 24, 2013 from Doron GilHave you ever wished that your relationship with your partner will be at a similar level of friendship like the one you have with your closest friend? That with him you would be able to talk about everything in the open, like really two soul-mates? Hellas, this is often not the case. And when ...
Views: 1593 - Don’t “Do” Valentine’s Day – Be it! - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2012 from Noelle NelsonYou run from store to store looking for that perfect Valentine’s Day gift, the one that will truly express how you feel about your love. And be something she or he will really likes. Right. That last part’s a bit of a problem. The things your beloved will really like may be way outside your ...
Views: 1471 - Dos to get your Ex Boyfriend back - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2011 from robin brainIf you are simply looking for unlocked answers to your questions, we certainly cannot give back you're ex boyfriend to you but up to some extent we can assist you – what can you do to get your ex boyfriend back. Do Disconnect Yourself: If you just broke up with your boyfriend, completely ...
Views: 678 - Double Your Love with this Quick Survey - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2019 from Mary HorsmanHave you ever thought about exactly what it would take to double your Love? As it turns out, simply asking the right questions is a fantastic way to jump start your progress to getting what you want out of life. And if you want to get the most out of answering these questions, share them ...
Views: 519 - Dr. Michael Mantell Says, "Life's A Game: Play It" - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2016 from Michael MantellMichael Mantell, Ph.D. is convinced that if there was a drug that offered all of the benefits that play does, it’d be the biggest seller on the planet. But who needs to buy a pill when play is free, available 24 hours a day, and no is ever prescription needed? Plato did prescribe, “Life must ...
Views: 1536 - Dr. Romance asks: Are the Post-Holiday Blues getting you down? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2015 from Tina TessinaEveryone is relieved when the holidays are over, and sometimes disappointed. If you're worn out, it's worth your while to take the time to recharge a little, and pamper yourself. Dr. Romance gives 4 Tips for handling Post-holiday blues * If you are disappointed, and the ...
Views: 1306 - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: "The Nail in the Fence: Healing Wounds" - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2017 from Tina TessinaThis arrived in Dr. Romance 's e-mail: “There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over ...
Views: 1498 - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: After Infidelity: Stay or Go? - by Submitted on May 14, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: When you get the devastating news that your spouse has had an affair, how do you decide whether to stay or go? Because you feel betrayed, your first impulse is usually anger, and wanting to leave – fight or flight. But, after you calm down, you realize there’s a lot you’ll ...
Views: 1153 - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: The Magic of Reassurance - by Submitted on May 06, 2019 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance writes: There are a few simple communication techniques that work like magic in relationships, whether with committed partners, friends, co-workers or relatives. One of the most effective is reassurance, which is simple to do , and calms both of you down, which allows your ...
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