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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Dr. Romance: It left me feeling like a loveless phony - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I just found your article "Without Ego" Omg you are just who I've been looking for. For the past two years I've been reading articles about dissolving the ego and all this hubbub. For those two years I was told that I have an ego that is ...
Views: 1466 - Dear Dr. Romance: It seems to be going in a circle. - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I would like your advice in my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been living together for a year and a half and known each other for 3 years. He calls me names and puts me down when i try to communicate with him and every time i want to break it off he tells me we should ...
Views: 1331 - Dear Dr. Romance: It would be embarrassing if they found out it was a wig - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: This question is a little hard for me because it is very personal. My husband and I were married for 24 years before he passed away. During our time together, I developed a severe case of alopecia which has left me with very little hair. This did not bother my ...
Views: 1707 - Dear Dr. Romance: It's tuff on me waiting for her to get it together. - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can I sign up for your Happiness Tips newsletter? I want to read "The One Who Got Away." Also which article would you recommend reading in my case? I met a wonderful lady who loves dancing like I do, and for almost 8 months she has been getting her house ...
Views: 1603 - Dear Dr. Romance: let the small things go and don't pick each other apart - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance: I just wanted to say thank you for the article you wrote "Dating 101: Do Opposites Attract?" I just read it today and you have really made my day. I'm currently in an interracial relationship with a wonderful man from Africa. Not only are we from different races but he is ...
Views: 1248 - Dear Dr. Romance: My ex is violent, abusive and obsessed with me - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your post on line about 5 signs he isn't over his ex, and it answered a lot of questions that I have about my ex husband. We were married for 10 years. He's violent, abusive and obsessed with me. I have dealt with him for the almost 3 years ...
Views: 4042 - Dear Dr. Romance: My girlfriend doesn't think she can handle this relationship. - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am (or was, perhaps) in a fairly strong relationship for a few months now. Recently though, as the upcoming fall quarter approaches, my girlfriend doesn’t think she can handle a relationship. Between stress from school (she really wants her 4.0 this year), over-bearing ...
Views: 2030 - Dear Dr. Romance: My husband does not understand my children - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am married with a man that is younger than me by 17 years. Right now we are in a bad situation. I have 2 teenage children from prior marriage. My husband wants to represent my children's father and he does not understand that the children are too old to be molded ...
Views: 1396 - Dear Dr. Romance: My mother-in- Law wants to be a grandma - by Submitted on May 19, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been having some serious problems with my mother-in-law. I really think that to her, all I am good for is breeding! All my husband and I ever hear from her is, "When are you having kids?" I'm 26 and not ready. I am enjoying working right now, and want my ...
Views: 674 - Dear Dr. Romance: My son gets angry, throws things - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am writing to you for your professional opinion regarding my 15 year old son. His behavior overall is good but when he gets angry he throws things swears a lot and just a few minutes ago destroyed my vacuum cleaner in one blow to the floor. I am a single parent about ...
Views: 1405 - Dear Dr. Romance: My wife doesn't know about my overseas girlfriend - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your article on yahoo about older woman dating younger men. Well I'm the opposite, you said on your article at the end "What really makes a romantic relationship succeed is the emotional connection." If this is true then I think my relationship would work ...
Views: 1504 - Dear Dr. Romance: my wife has control and anger problems - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I saw your responses from divorce 360 web site and was really impressed with your thoughts on relationships! I've been married for 18 years with 3 children. I am a very active Dad (Basketball/baseball coach for all of them) but my marriage has been very unhealthy for most of ...
Views: 1126 - Dear Dr. Romance: On Dating at Work - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2012 from Tina TessinaClick here to view the video. Work can be the ideal environment for falling in love: you are in close proximity for a long period of time, you may have developed a good working partnership, and from there it is a short step to romance. However, workplace romance can present big problems. Dr. ...
Views: 2065 - Dear Dr. Romance: On my death bed, I will not be in the mood to explain - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your newsletter "How to Heal a Rift with an Adult Child" with joy, how you simplify things for us. I already tried by email, but it got more complicated. I received two emails, the second one, had a picture with the message ''see what you ...
Views: 1778 - Dear Dr. Romance: Our sex life has been very bad - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance My husband of almost 9 years just told me about 2 months ago that he is in love with someone else. About 5 years ago I caught him cheating on me with this girl and he told me that it was over and it was just for the sex. Then 2 years later I found out that he was ...
Views: 1542 - Dear Dr. Romance: Please help me before I totally screw up - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: For several years, I’d been a self proclaimed lesbian who was only attracted to women and only involved in intimate relationships with women (the idea of intimacy with a man, even when one hit on me in public, literally made me nauseous)The one exception was my childhood ...
Views: 1393 - Dear Dr. Romance: She is verbally abusive to me - by Submitted on May 29, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a retired police officer who found his wife sneaking around with another man 3 years ago. We have 3 kids. I cook and clean and up all night doing laundry 3 to 4 nights a week. I work two jobs to support my kids and family. I love my wife and forgave ...
Views: 1567 - Dear Dr. Romance: She runs my life like a prison - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in my early twenties. I got to this country a few years ago from the mideast. I met this lady that was in her thirties, we dated for a couple years then she offered to marry me to improve my immigrant status. I used to ...
Views: 1271 - Dear Dr. Romance: She started pushing me away and becoming distant - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 almost 6 months now. We hit it off from the very beginning and fell in love a couple months into the relationship. Both of us are independent people and level headed, but there's a deep connection between the two ...
Views: 7716 - Dear Dr. Romance: she wanted to still be friends - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I knew a girl for a long time and had a huge crush on her. I'm in my twenties, and she is a year younger than me. I am a very shy person and would freeze up whenever I tried to tell her. We knew each other for more than a year and were good friends, so I told her, trying ...
Views: 774 - Dear Dr. Romance: Should a grad student in her 20s date a man who's 70? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: We are co-workers and I've know him for about two years. He's very nice, funny and in very good shape. We've built a pretty solid friendship. We hang out a couple times a month (when I'm home from school). But, lately he's been pushing for a ...
Views: 1491 - Dear Dr. Romance: Should a grad student in her 20s date a man who's 70? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: We are co-workers and I've know him for about two years. He's very nice, funny and in very good shape. We've built a pretty solid friendship. We hang out a couple times a month (when I'm home from school). But, lately he's been pushing for a ...
Views: 753 - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I give up on his love? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: We'd been really close and intimate. I thought we were going to be in a special relationship soon because he told me we were having something special. No matter how tired he was, he'd had his dinner with me. He got paranoid everytime I threatened to stop talking to ...
Views: 1028 - Dear Dr. Romance: Should I stay in this relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I had a really bad ending on my last relationship we were engaged. I moved into another relationship a month after he ended it. I was very lonely and my new relationship seemed perfect. Now I'm starting to get mixed emotions about my man. We have together now 1 ...
Views: 1505 - Dear Dr. Romance: the worst nightmare of my life - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: It's been months since I wrote to you and received your very excellent advice. In the meantime I was able to get therapy, and . Since then I have slowly been recovering from the worst nightmare of my life. I want to thank you ...
Views: 1714 - Dear Dr. Romance: They say I am a diamond as a man - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thanks for sharing the great article "A Good Cry" !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have a question about it: "....If you're trying to help someone cope with a loss, don't try to make the bereaved person feel better. It just ...
Views: 1531 - Dear Dr. Romance: Though we slept together while his wife was away, I regretted it - by Submitted on May 08, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a woman in my mid-twenties from India and working in the middle east in a professional job. I had a brief arranged marriage and am now getting divorced. One of my business clients, who is an arab and over forty has been married for many years but claims his ...
Views: 1442 - Dear Dr. Romance: Throughout the years, there has been financial infidelity - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I have been married for over thirty years. Our children are grown. We own our home , but have a mortgage. Throughout the years, there has been financial infidelity: When we got married, my husband was evading bills from retail stores. I ...
Views: 1713 - Dear Dr. Romance: twice I have been let down by this man I so love - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My partner whom I have been in a relationship with for the past year has changed and let me down twice. We were first friends for several years & became a couple for the last year. We both fell in love instantly and desire to live together to build towards a good ...
Views: 1506 - Dear Dr. Romance: We have had constant fights over little things - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Last week my husband and I had an argument over something so small like not getting up to give our kid his medicine. Just because I didn't get up he started calling me names and he pushed me from the bed. Currently, we decided we needed time apart so we ...
Views: 1205 - Dear Dr. Romance: We just had a small fight, but she doesn't want to talk - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My best friend isn't talkin with me since 2 months now. I'm frustrated. We are best friends since 3 yrs now. In feb suddenly she stopped talking. We just had a small fight as in regular nothing serious. When i asked she said she doesnt want to talk anything for ...
Views: 2127 - Dear Dr. Romance: We Still Love Each Other, but I don't know - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: i need some relationship advise really bad bad. Can you help?? I really need help, See, I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years And he found out and forgave me! And he went out And slept with 3 girls that night is it possible for us to still work? We love each other but I ...
Views: 1822 - Dear Dr. Romance: What can I do to give her reason to believe in us again? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've been reading some of the articles on your web site and thought I would take a chance here. My wife and I are in the process of getting a divorce. She is divorcing me because she claims she fell out of love with me and no longer wants to be tied down. We ...
Views: 1303 - Dear Dr. Romance: What do I need to do to become a therapist? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a 25 year old M.A. student from the Middle East. This year is my final year to have my M.A. degree as a Family specialist to become a family counselor. I saw many things you wrote online as a family and couple therapists and i Loved them all! I was wondering if you ...
Views: 1700 - Dear Dr. Romance: What I fear has happened the second time round - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I hope you can help me. My boyfriend passed away two years back... We were pretty much engaged, living together and everything. I thought i was over the whole thing, but now I know I'm not. A month back, or so.. i was seeing a man, and today i found out he had ...
Views: 1362 - Dear Dr. Romance: Which one should he choose? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : A man loves woman #1 but he was unhappy with the relationship for some reason. He was stressed financially. He was supporting his family. He has 2 children with woman #1 all he wants is the best for them and them to be happy and have a family. He has been going ...
Views: 664 - Dear Dr. Romance: Why am i intimidating? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Why am i intimidating? after i start talking to guys and i've hooked up with them, some have told me i am intimidating and they become shy in person. I'm not like scary or creepy or anything. (i'm tall skinny, blonde hair n blue eyes.) but is there anything i can do to fix ...
Views: 971 - Dear Dr. Romance: why are men in their mid 40s-50s attracted to 20ish girls? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was wondering if in any of your books or articles you discuss about why men in their mid 40s-50s might be attracted to 20ish girls. I kind of know the obvious reasons, but being more curious about what that might mean maturity wise etc. Dear Reader: From your ...
Views: 2610 - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Can't I Spark the Interest of a Woman? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your Dr Romance Blog and a small paragraph on "10 Reasons to Dump a Guy." I'm trying to find out why I can't find a woman, or better put: why I cant I spark the interest of a woman? I'm 40 years old I was never married nor do I ...
Views: 1521 - Dear Dr. Romance: Why Does He Want a Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I met this guy through a phone call, but he contacted or got my profile through a friend of mine and he is satisfied through that, and he is convinced that he could have a relationship with me, he needs my affection, fear of God, caring, true feeling of sharing, happiness, ...
Views: 2088 - Dear Dr. Romance: Will this guy turn out like my wicked stepfather? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a problem. My mother has introduced me to a male co-worker at her work. We have been friends for a month. My problem is that I am afraid that this relationship may become serious. The gentleman that she introduced me to is real nice, but my stepfather was the same way ...
Views: 638 - Dear Dr. Romance: Won't solving the problem for myself create resentment? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently read your No Cooperation? Solve it Yourself! If I am to solve the problem for myself won't that just create resentment that the other party is unwilling to help? Dear Reader: Well, you could choose to be resentful, or you could focus on how great ...
Views: 1339 - Dear Dr. Romance: You're giving advice on what YOU consider normal - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:Thank you for your free articles, you have a lot of good stuff in there. A couple of the girls at work and I read your articles and get a good laugh. You're giving advice assuming that our lives are what YOU consider normal. You have a good job, make good money, live in a ...
Views: 1576 - Dear Kim...Why Can't I Leave My Narcissistic Boyfriend? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2013 from Kim SaeedDear Kim, I have been with my Narcissistic Partner for four years. He’s been cruel, demeaning, and lies to me left and right. I know he’s not good for me, but I keep hanging on to the nice part of him that I know exists. Aside from being emotionally abusive and irresponsible, he has a ...
Views: 5893 - Dear Prince Charming - by Dear Prince Charming Or can I call you Charming? We've known each other so long, really from grade school. My mother plied me with fairy tales like I'm sure alcoholics ply themselves with drink. And I believed it. I believed that if I were good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, you'd come ...
Views: 950 - Debunking Myths about Dating - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2014 from Tina TessinaI'm updating my book The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. The new version will be called Dr. Romance's Guide to Dating in the Digital Age. The following article is excerpted from the new book. A lot of the problems that come up in dating again are generated by social expectations (how ...
Views: 1711 - Deception...The Whittler of the Soul - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2006 from Susan RussoDeception…The Whittler of Your Soul “A lie may take care of the present, but it has no future.” -Author Unknown When you find out that someone you love has lied to you, has been deceiving you; it is like a knife piercing your soul. How do you recover from the ...
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