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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Dr. Romance: I Had to Pay for Everything - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance: I recently met a divorced Russian woman with her teenage old son while on vacation, we spent a lot of time together. I enjoyed their company very much. We keep seeing each other and I recently spent 4 days at her lavish home in the United States. I was really suprised to see ...
Views: 1947 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have a crush on this person - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need some advice. I'm a university student and I'm finishing my last semester there and getting a degree in Speech/Communication Studies. I'm also a single mixed-raced person. I worked at a communication firm as an Intern Coordinator. What I have here is that I'm ...
Views: 1337 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have a family member with two failed marriages - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a family member with two failed marriages, after she asked for my advice I suggested a spousal abuse counselor for therapy. She didn't receive counseling and went on to a second failed marriage. This time even worse than the first. She doesn't understand the ...
Views: 1502 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have been feeling lonely since high school - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am 23 years old. I have been feeling lonely since high school and recently, its been getting worse. I feel like I can't have really close relationships with women and yet that is what I crave most right now. I recently cut off a friendship of 5 years because my ...
Views: 1176 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have been feeling lonely since high school - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am 23 years old. I have been feeling lonely since high school and recently, its been getting worse. I feel like I can't have really close relationships with women and yet that is what I crave most right now. I recently cut off a friendship of 5 years because my ...
Views: 1272 - Dear Dr. Romance: I have never put up with any crap until this one came along - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I met a girl about three years ago at work. We both saw a connection, but neither one of us followed up on it. We were both in relationships, she was married. Several months later she told me things weren't good at home and we had started talking. She and I became ...
Views: 707 - Dear Dr. Romance: I haven't even kissed a girl in ten years - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm not sure where to begin. I am single white male tall and stocky like a football player. My problem is I'm to shy and I fail to respond when women come on to me It's like I freeze up. I'm not out to get laid but to fall in love I fell in ...
Views: 1498 - Dear Dr. Romance: I just don't understand men - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'll admit, I just don't understand men. Do they want us to be perfect all the time? I mean, I think I'm a pretty okay person. I honestly like myself for who I am. It took me a long time to get to this point. I'm not a model, but reasonably attractive for a woman in her 40s. ...
Views: 1377 - Dear Dr. Romance: I just don't understand men - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'll admit, I just don't understand men. Do they want us to be perfect all the time? I mean, I think I'm a pretty okay person. I honestly like myself for who I am. It took me a long time to get to this point. I'm not a model, but reasonably attractive for a woman in her 40s. ...
Views: 1193 - Dear Dr. Romance: I just want my husband and best friend back - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband and I married more than five years ago, in our early 30s. We had a good marriage. We agreed that if we would sit down and talk things out should we have issues. We always held true to that until his mom died several months ago. He was very close to ...
Views: 1743 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Love Him to Death But Can't Find a Solution - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, My name is Michelle i am 18 years old.. I was reading an article that you posted up about fighting; and everything that you talked about not doing during a fight I tend to do. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we tend to fight a lot about the smallest things ...
Views: 2202 - Dear Dr. Romance: I loved her then and I love her today - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have read several of your comments in articles on the dadsdivorce.com website concerning when to introduce a new girlfriend to your children. I have a unique situation. I have been divorced for over a year two teenage boys. A few months ago a woman I met long ...
Views: 1588 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Need Something to Break the Ice! - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What to say in this situation? Okay, so there's this girl in my art class that I really want to talk to and get to know! Problem is she sits at a different table than me and I just plain don't know what to say to her! I'm a senior and she's a sophomore! What should I say to ...
Views: 1856 - Dear Dr. Romance: I need to forgive myself. - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I need to forgive myself for continuing in the care of a dentist whom I had lost confidence in and didn't trust anymore. He put a crown in and messed up my bite so now I bite and scratch my cheeks. I have had anxiety and a brief hospital stay over this. I ...
Views: 2599 - Dear Dr. Romance: I realize that jealousy may be the main culprit - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance Your web-site impressed me and prompted this note, and I'd appreciate your thoughts.I am a reasonably well-educated individual which includes a couple of degrees in psychology and have been quite successful in my career. My wife who is also well-educated and our ...
Views: 1553 - Dear Dr. Romance: I regret not telling her how I felt - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was very attracted to a lady and I did things for her with out asking for any thing in return. She was single and I fixed her jeep, I put down new linoleum in her kitchen for her, we did go out together for drinks, dinner, dancing, ...
Views: 3528 - Dear Dr. Romance: I rescued my mother from the big bad wolf, my father - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your article about RESCUING: "Avoiding the Drama Triangle". I have been rescuing my mother from the big bad wolf my father. He would beat my mother, beat me, and beat my sister. I decided to rescue her. She decided for me to rescue her from her ...
Views: 1662 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Still Miss Him Terribly - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband/best friend crossed-over a few years ago and I still miss him terribly. I think of him every day and his essence is is always with me. I am still in love with him and cannot imagine having a relationship with another man. At this time, however, I have ...
Views: 1480 - Dear Dr. Romance: I think I am missing myself - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I think I am missing myself Dear Dr. Romance: I am a women in my early twenties from India. I have gone through your website and i think u can help me. For the first time in life I am so confused, so helpless, and I don't know what i want. Everything ...
Views: 1397 - Dear Dr. Romance: I think I have a tendency to lose myself in a relationship - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was wondering if I could ask you for some advice. I'm feeling so troubled. I got divorced a few years ago. Since then, I became involved with a man more than ten years older than me. I got a work assignment out of town, and he was adamant about keeping a ...
Views: 1714 - Dear Dr. Romance: I think she is really scared to go to therapy - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: To be honest I think she is really scared to go to therapyI have been many timesAnd I know it worksAnd I really want her and I to learn how to communicate stumped Dear Reader: she probably thinks you want to fix her, and that hurts her feelings. Ask her to go ...
Views: 1514 - Dear Dr. Romance: I want to break-up with him, but I don't know how - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I heard you on the radio and I have a relationship question for you. I have been dating my boyfriend for seven years, I care for him deeply. However, I am not happy. I want to break-up with him, but I don't know the best way to do it and not hurt him. I would still like to ...
Views: 1441 - Dear Dr. Romance: I want to find myself - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was married at the age of 21, was married for 7 years, separated from my spouse a little over a year ago, and I'm in the process of divorce. I dated various people shortly after separation, but I was lost, broke some hearts, and simply didn't know ...
Views: 752 - Dear Dr. Romance: I want to get married - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance : I already know my heart's desire; it reminds me daily. I want to get married. I want a mate. I want children. My problem is, this is not happening now. I have been single for a very, very long time. I don't need to get to "know myself" because ...
Views: 719 - Dear Dr. Romance: I was always wrong - by Submitted on May 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: THANK YOU so much for this dating tip! My girlfriend sent me your article "You Be The Judge" yesterday. I needed this. I dated this African guy for 4 months, 3 weeks in which we were actually together, and I was always upset and let-downed. Always, his way, his ...
Views: 1680 - Dear Dr. Romance: I was controlling and verbally abusive - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a 32 yr old man who is lost when it comes to relationships. I just had a chance with a nice woman which I subconsciously messed up. I didn't accept her for who she was . I was controlling, verbally abusive, and not compassionate with her. The ...
Views: 1374 - Dear Dr. Romance: I was reduced to a house maid - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I fell in love and married a man from another city. We have been married for three years. I livedwith his family, which included his parents and his three younger sisters, plus children. In my eastern culture, we mostly live with our inlaws. My mother in law's ...
Views: 1722 - Dear Dr. Romance: I went through hell on earth with him until he quit drinking. - by Submitted on May 20, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I had two divorces, and both men turned out to be gay. By this time my self esteem was shattered, I felt there was something wrong with me. To make a long story short, I basically started dating and slept with men, just because they showed they desired me, for me. (Wrong ...
Views: 1661 - Dear Dr. Romance: I would like to get out of this anxiety - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a 70-yr old man who has been married more than forty years. I read your article "Autonomy and Dependency" I feel like I've been in a codependency relationship the last fifteen years and havedeveloped anxiety & depression. My wife is a ...
Views: 1542 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single father of a 6 year old daughter - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I hope you don't mind me writing you but I came across an article that you said: "The best interest of the child also could preclude a mom from gaining custody," says Dr. Tessina. "If a judge doesn't deem that the mother meets the ...
Views: 1565 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a single mother suffering in depression and stress. I met my ex husband online, we fall in love and got married. He was a Middle Eastern guy. We had a daughter, the marriage didn't last long and we got a divorce. I was aggressive, i used to break things, yell at ...
Views: 1629 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm Dating a Dad with kids - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I've run across your Happiness Tips and am enjoying reading them. I'm a divorced woman in my late thirties and I do not have children. I've accepted the fact that most of the men in my age group will be divorced and most of them will have ...
Views: 641 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm having major anxiety about the guy I'm dating - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm having major anxiety about the guy I'm dating. I wanted to talk with him, but I lost my strength when I asked about his ex and he gave me an answer like, "There are things you need to know and things you don't need to know and when things don't affect ...
Views: 1796 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm having problems with my Daughter-In-Law - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm having problems with my daughter in law . I I love her. She and my son had a relationship for more than fifteen years and were married for six. They have two preschool age children. I always thought My daughter-in-law and I got along, but now we can only ...
Views: 1571 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm having trouble letting go of a guy who mistreats me - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm still having a bit of trouble letting go and cutting off communication with a guy who mistreats me. I understand in my head that this is not right, but I can't seem to get it emotionally. Yesterday was his birthday and particularly difficult to ...
Views: 1411 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm in my late 40s and feeling very unhopeful about my future love life. - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am in a terrible funk over a failed relationship that lasted 2 years and I thought would lead to marriage. We met online and now I'm afraid if I go online again, he will see my profile and/or I will see his. I took this breakup so hard, the thought of that happening just ...
Views: 1570 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm Living with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am having issues with my boyfriend. I was searching something on WebMD and found an article that spoke of your book How to Be a Couple and Still be Free. I started doing some research on you and your other books (It Ends With You, How To Be A Couple and Still Be Free, ...
Views: 1808 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm lonely and hate it!! - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Almost all of my friends have boyfriends, (we're 22, turning 23) and i don't. i never have. i feel really alone during the wk bc all my friends are with their boyfriends. i basically work, take class, and that's it. i either need a boyfriend, or more friends, bc i'm lonely and ...
Views: 1104 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm Lonely and probably very naive - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I fell for a man that I work with. He was married, and I was in a lesbian relationship. When I first saw this man, who I will refer to as John, I thought he was the most handsome man I had ever met in my life. I had dated men off and on, but my two long-term relationships were ...
Views: 1398 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm married but I love somebody else - by Submitted on May 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I really admire how you advise people, please help me too. I'm married and I love my husband very much, but I love somebody else so much I don't know why although people say you can't love 2 people at the same time but I do. coz I love him very much and ...
Views: 1637 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm married but I love somebody else - by Submitted on May 19, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I really admire how you advise people, please help me too. I'm married and I love my husband very much, but I love somebody else so much I don't know why although people say you can't love 2 people at the same time but I do. coz I love him very much and ...
Views: 683 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm no closer to meeting the one for me than I was 15 years ago - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I just read your post to the 'nice guy' who asked for advice why he keeps getting passed over for the 'bad boy' types, and he was 100% right in saying women consistently say they're looking for a 'nice guy'. I'm in the same position. I'm 35 years old and I've had ...
Views: 1347 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm really confused about a guy - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm really confused about a guy I know online from a social site, he's ten years older than I am. We've been in contact for several months. We now live in different countries. Recently, our chatting got intense and he told me that he likes me. ...
Views: 1948 - Dear Dr. Romance: If I am not strong, I cannot be an example for my children - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am mid-thirties mom with 3 children looking to divorce. I read your article "Family Violence Q & A" and I decided to write to you for help to stand on my feet again. I was a homemaker since I had my first child, but had lived very unfulfilled ...
Views: 1601 - Dear Dr. Romance: Is He Cheating on Me? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Is he cheating on me? Or am I just being paranoid? Me and my boyfriend have been together for 15 months now. A couple of weeks ago we broke up and then got back together after a week. When we broke up he kept texting me, asking “Are you happy?” and ...
Views: 2038 - Dear Dr. Romance: is it natural for a man to masturbate? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am single man, I have question for you, is it natural for a man to masturbate? I normally, do it everyday, sometimes 4 times a day. Tell me if its wrong or normal to fantasize my cousin and she is a woman? Is it that wrong thing to do? I love to masturbate and to me ...
Views: 1472 - Dear Dr. Romance: Is she bipolar or what? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in need of some help. My partner has had some emotional problems and I don't know what they are. is she bipolar or what else? She gets angry about everything and is very negative, she is very incecure and thinks I dont love her even if I told her 10 mins ...
Views: 1607 - Dear Dr. Romance: It is your Christian duty to forgive - by Submitted on May 01, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Thank you for your article on "Apology and Forgiveness". The process of forgiving is powerful and extremely helpful. I have searched for such information many years and have truly believed that forgiveness is not something you just do. ...
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