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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Dr. Romance: He wants me to wait on him - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I heard you on the radio today and I think that this is my last hope. My dad told me to listen to you this afternoon, since I have been having problems with my marriage. I am in my late twenties and I have 3 children under four years old. My husband is two years older. We ...
Views: 6285 - Dear Dr. Romance: His Clutter Drives Me Crazy! - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I found you online when i googled "How to Live with a Slob". My husband and I are opposites in the area of how to keep a house -- i am very clean and he is, well, not at all. The clutter drives me crazy! It is just one more issue that impacts our relationship. ...
Views: 1540 - Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I get over the nervousness of dating again? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: How can one get over the nervousness of dating again when its been quite a few years since their last date? Dear Reader: If your last relationship lasted for a while, dating again can be a scary proposition. These guidelines can help: Dr. Romance's ...
Views: 1790 - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I let go of a toxic relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I wonder if you have an article that you've written that you can point me too on how to let go of a toxic relationship. I've been involved for 7 months with a man who is continually evasive, avoidant-attachment, manipulative and I need to figure out ...
Views: 1570 - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I move forward when I hit a setback? - by Submitted on May 02, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: When one hits a setback in life what are some healthy ways to keep moving forward? How can one build a healthy mental outlook when things go wrong? Dear Reader: The most important and uplifting thing you can do is look for what you can learn from the problem. ...
Views: 1894 - Dear Dr. Romance: How can I move forward when I hit a setback? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: When one hits a setback in life what are some healthy ways to keep moving forward? How can one build a healthy mental outlook when things go wrong? Dear Reader: The most important and uplifting thing you can do is look for what you can learn from the problem. ...
Views: 753 - Dear Dr. Romance: How can we find low cost counseling? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am in a same sex relationship of a year and 3 months. My girlfriend Phyllis and I have a constant communication problem that we want to address. Neither of us are currently working. I do get unemploymnet but my bills out weigh my income. Do you know how we can find low ...
Views: 1861 - Dear Dr. Romance: how do I forget that she is married and I am single? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a high school assistant and I fell in love with mother of one of my students. She doesn't know anything about and has some difficulty with her son's wife. I told her I want to help you to sort out your problem, but I have no idea how to help her and ...
Views: 1504 - Dear Dr. Romance: How Do I Stop My Husband's Ex-Wife from Smothering Their Son - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband has a son with his ex-wife. He is 12, but she still invites him to sleep in her bed. How old is too old to be sleeping with Mom? I know kids from divorced parents have different issues-- one being how a child should sleep, what ...
Views: 1490 - Dear Dr. Romance: How do we reorder our brain for positive motivation? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your article "Motivation And How to Create It (Good Boss/Bad Boss)" and found it very interesting. I understand your point about celebrating and appreciating yourself to motivate your inner potential. However I am confused about how to order my brain for ...
Views: 1397 - Dear Dr. Romance: How do you get unstuck and really talk? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was so interested in your article "Getting to Yes" about Attentive listening...what a powerful strategy and descriptive techniques. Here is a but.....I have????? Now, what if ....as you are listening you recognize the signals you ...
Views: 1195 - Dear Dr. Romance: How should I tell her I have feelings for her - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in my first year of high school, but I have no experience in relationships. I'm in contact with a friend who is a year younger than me, and I recently realized I have feelings for her. She's funny and playful, and I just can't help myself. What's your advice on how I ...
Views: 1344 - Dear Dr. Romance: I actually forwarded him the conversation by accident - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a woman in my thirties. It's been over a month since I last spoke with my ex-boyfriend of one year. He gave me the silent treatment because I hurt him. Or it might be his way of breaking up with me. I lied to my girlfriend about him and he found out. I actually ...
Views: 1435 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a married man infatuated with a coworker half my age - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a happily married man in my mid-forties with 2 small kids who has become overwhelmingly infatuated with a 22 year old co-worker. She is friendly but certainly not coquettish and there is no suggestion she reciprocates. I have no intention of trying to pursue ...
Views: 7780 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am a Native American woman who has been abused and betrayed - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a native American woman who has been abused and betrayed by my husband. He was my coresearcher and advisor for several years. We were married according to tribal custom, which he later denied happened and disowned me in the courts where he was ...
Views: 1355 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am allowing my narcissistic ex to run circles around me - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I am mindful that I am allowing my soon to be controlling, narcissist ex ( civil law attorney) to run circles around me, just as we did when we were married. After attending a divorce group session at my local church, they recommend that I set up some specific boundaries ...
Views: 1631 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am considering being a licensed psychotherapist - by Submitted on May 10, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am considering being a licensed psychotherapist. What was your education track if I may ask? Dear Reader: Of course you may ask. I was licensed in 1978, so things were quite different then. I took an independent study curriculum at Lindenwood Colleges, and I used ...
Views: 1527 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am in my forties, and hadn't had sex in years. - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. RomanceI am in my forties, and hadn't had sex in years. I met someone and we CLICKED. We had sex on the 2nd date, I know you can't unring the bell, and I'm betting that was probably a mistake, but there is a serious physical attraction between this man and myself ...
Views: 1684 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sexually as attracted to him as I'd like to be - by Submitted on May 07, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was hoping for a little advice on my relationship now that is truly wonderful and appears to be the best relationship of my life. Things are souring from my end, which I could not understand why, until this morning when it dawned on me. I have never been as happy as I am now ...
Views: 691 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sure what the dating customs of this country are - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your monthly "Happiness Tips" newsletter and thank you your advice. However, I noticed that you try to help resolve or forestall relationship problems. My problem is still meeting a man that I like. When I go out and see a guy I am attracted to, I do look towards that ...
Views: 993 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am somewhat leery of another romance - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My last romantic relationship (that I thought was mutual) ended because she said one day out of the blue, "I don't love you any more." I think she never really did, but rather I was her crutch after her lastbreakup. I loved her wholly, with all my ...
Views: 1396 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am the one who becomes unbalanced - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2020 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am married 19 years and my husband and I have two children. We have a good marriage in so many ways yet we continuously cycle to a low point every couple of months primarily due to my change in mood and feelings about the relationship. A bad case of ambivalence on my part. ...
Views: 802 - Dear Dr. Romance: I am worried about marrying him - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was reading your article "When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships" and need your advice. My boyfriend of 5 years is quite selfish and literally a narcissist. He never did anything as a gesture of love except for buying calling cards to call me from overseas. ...
Views: 914 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Believe He's a Good Man at Heart - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2012 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My husband left to be with a much younger women. The problem became obvious in our marriage three years ago. I thought It would be something we would surpass. I was confused and did not act until one Friday night he did not come home to sleep. He came back that Saturday ...
Views: 2148 - Dear Dr. Romance: I can now free myself and enjoy helping people - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I came across your web site when I was desperately looking for motivation. I'm a salesman selling first class products but I couldn't get motivated and it's been a problem for months. It's been getting worse. I read "Motivation and How to ...
Views: 1796 - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't decide if she's as in to me as I am her - by Submitted on May 07, 2021 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:My situation is different that some. See I have only been in 2 relationships, but they were really long term. My first I was 16 till I was 21. Second from 22 till 26 years old. Both of those relationships were an on off kind of relationship. So in between the on and off, ...
Views: 642 - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't shut the voice in my head - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have just read your article that appeared on yahoo today on the issue of having an older partner. First let me thank you for bringing up such topic, as it has been considered for a long time as a classified one. second, i have some questions that i need clarify for ...
Views: 1222 - Dear Dr. Romance: I cannot compete with a dead man - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a sixty something divorced man, I have not had a relationship for a long time. Last year, I met a wonderful lady from Colombia, who is a little bit younger, well educated and has a green card here. She has taken me out of my lonelines and made me feel alive again. Her ...
Views: 1230 - Dear Dr. Romance: I cannot compete with a dead man - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a sixty something divorced man, I have not had a relationship for a long time. Last year, I met a wonderful lady from Colombia, who is a little bit younger, well educated and has a green card here. She has taken me out of my loneliness and made me feel alive again. ...
Views: 887 - Dear Dr. Romance: I cannot compete with a dead man - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a sixty something divorced man, I have not had a relationship for a long time. Last year, I met a wonderful lady from Colombia, who is a little bit younger, well educated and has a green card here. She has taken me out of my ...
Views: 1327 - Dear Dr. Romance: I catch him looking at me with passion in his eyes - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: As a woman in my early twenties, I am finding it hard to get over a man with whom i have been in love with for 5 years. He is married now to another woman and they are about to have their first child. Seven years ago, I joined a church choir where i met ...
Views: 1490 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Cry upon a disagreement - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Your article on "Fair Fight Guidelines" is wonderful!!! My major issue is that I cry upon a disagreement. This prevents me to think clearly, act maturely and interact directly. Would you please address this issue? Dear Reader: Thank you for the ...
Views: 1264 - Dear Dr. Romance: I discovered she is lesbian - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Nine months ago, I met a girl on Facebook. my words about many subject attract her , then she add me as her friends, and I discovered that she is lesbian. Before that, I didn'tknow there was lesbian world but when we chat I get to know her very ...
Views: 1599 - Dear Dr. Romance: I do not want to be alone the rest of my life - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I like what I have seen on your tips for happiness. I am in my late 60s, a Christian and twice divorced. This past January, I met a wonderful Christian woman, also divorced after 20 years of marriage. She is a Labor and Delivery Nurse who has traveled the ...
Views: 1717 - Dear Dr. Romance: I do not want to be alone the rest of my life - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I like what I have seen on your tips for happiness. I am in my late 60s, a Christian and twice divorced. This past January, I met a wonderful Christian woman, also divorced after 20 years of marriage. She is a Labor and Delivery Nurse who has traveled the ...
Views: 1112 - Dear Dr. Romance: I do not want to have to choose between family and love. - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need some of your advice. You're the only one I could think of who would give me a sensible answer. Well, this situation might seem easy when viewed from the outside, but going through it myself really created stress for me. I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN ...
Views: 1911 - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to bug her a lot and give her anxiety. - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need some advice about this person I have been having a crush on lately. So far, our friendship has been quite okay. I recently texted her a week ago and we seem to be okay. She is doing fine and I also been calling her. She exchanged numbers with me when she couldn't ...
Views: 1457 - Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to keep making the same mistakes - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a 51 year old divorced Mom who recently began seeing someone. I like him and want to pursue this relationship, but I don't want to keep making the same mistakes! Some people say "be yourself" other say "don't do too much too soon, keep ...
Views: 1306 - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like such a damned freak. - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My entire adult life, I have gone out to all the places you're told to go to meet someone special. Nothing. I never even get asked out. It's like I'm invisible, and my life has wasted away because there's not a damn thing I can to do to 'make' someone ...
Views: 1171 - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel quite abandoned by the both of them - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I have a number of people I would consider friends - two in particular, that have lately become acquaintances, rather than friends, per se. One, in particular, my ex-girlfriend (who was a good friend 12 years prior to romance), no longer contacts me: calls, notes in the mail, ...
Views: 1383 - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel terrible about not keeping the promises I made - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My story will probably sound like a thousand others you've heard, but I am in desperate need of some answers. I am in my fifties, my wife is a few years younger. My wife had a hysterectomy about 15 years ago, so menopause is not likely part of this equation. As you are ...
Views: 1564 - Dear Dr. Romance: I find her volatile and aggressive - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance I came across your name and contact details on a web it whilst trying to find info' to help my relationship. I wonder if you might be able to offer me any advice please ? My girlfriend always wants to take control and the way she speaks to me at times is though ...
Views: 1802 - Dear Dr. Romance: I got upset when he said he wants to stop fornicating with me - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My male friend likes to look at good looking women a second time and more and if the woman is looking at him, he will stare at her. I have a friend that is nine years younger than I am. I am the age of his older brother.We have been seeing each other for two and a ...
Views: 1172 - Dear Dr. Romance: I got very drunk and kissed another man - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm nearly 30 and have been living with my boyfriend for several years. Last year we encountered a rough patch and I felt neglected and unloved and like all respect had gone from our relationship. Unfortunately during this time I got very drunk and kissed another man. I ...
Views: 3569 - Dear Dr. Romance: I guess we don't separate the "math" from the "emotion!" - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2014 from Tina TessinaTo watch video, click here Dear Dr. Romance: I saw your video about couples fighting over finances I am totally on board as I think what you share is phenomenal. The challenge is my approach I suppose as my wife Mel is almost NEVER on board. I guess we don't ...
Views: 1754 - Dear Dr. Romance: I had never questioned him about other ladies - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2014 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm a couple of years into my relationship with many problems. I met my guy online and he moved the relationship along rather quickly. His eagerness even made me a bit nervous. After a couple of months being with him, I began to fall for him and fell in ...
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