Do you realise that every time you speak to yourself you are actually coaching yourself? Are you empowering yourself through your own internal dialogue or beating yourself up? Is that little voice inside of you your best friend or a saboteur? How would you like to be able to train your internal coach so that it keeps you focused and motivated, especially during challenges?
Master your thoughts, master your results
Because 80% of our results depend on our mindset, the key to mastering our results in business and in life is to master our thoughts. Our thoughts comprise things we imagine, hear, feel, smell, taste and our internal communication with ourselves. Every thought we think and/or speak acts as a suggestion. So if we tell ourselves “I can’t do it” often enough, after a while we will condition ourselves to believe this.
If you are getting results other than what you want, ask yourself “How do I want to change my internal communication so I achieve the results I desire?” Having the flexibility to adapt our communication is the key to producing our desired results.
Training your internal coach
There are many techniques available to help you to train your internal coach for business and personal success. Here are a couple of very simple and effective techniques that you can begin applying immediately.
1. Any time you are faced with a challenge ask yourself the question “How?”. “How?” is a very powerful question because it allows you to come up with the solutions, opportunities and options, rather than dwelling on or being stuck in the problem. For example, the question: “How have I contributed to creating this situation?” is much more powerful than the question: “Why did this happen?” Answers to the former question will provide you with learnings which will assist you to find solutions, while answers to the latter question will give you lots of reasons and will keep you dwelling on the problem. The former is much more empowering.
2. Start giving yourself daily or weekly feedback on the actions you are taking. Instead of beating yourself up when faced with challenges, telling yourself all the things you could have or should have done, give yourself some constructive feedback. Sit down at the end of each day or week and write down the answers to four questions:
What did I do well today/this week?
What can I improve?
What can I learn from this?
Overall, how was my day/week? (end on a positive)
This will assist you to learn and grow from your actions and help you move to the next level of your personal and professional performance! Used consistently, this becomes an extremely powerful process for training your internal coach for success.
Make room for the new
You have probably heard of the expression - empty out the old to make room for the new. Before we can achieve total mastery of our thoughts and internal communication, we first need to let go of old thought patterns (ie. declutter our mind from negative emotions, limiting beliefs, internal confusion, negative self talk and disempowering behaviours). Because to the extent that we still have old thought patterns, these will come in and distract, confuse or compromise our thinking and, therefore, our results.
By letting go of the old thought patterns, we will make room for the new. In turn, we can coach ourselves to great business and personal success, and truly become masters of our results and our destiny!
Dr. Vesna Grubacevic is the founder of Qt, creator of breakthrough behavioural change techniques, an NLP Trainer, holds a PhD, a BEc and has over 27 years’ business experience with a proven track record of client results. Discover more innovative techniques on how to train your internal coach for success. Visit qttransformation.com and empower yourself with your FREE gifts today!
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