One of the toughest things to figure out when you get dumped in a relationship is whether your ex really means they want to break up or whether they'll soon come to their senses and realize they made a mistake.
The answer to both questions would normally be a resounding yes and no. Yes they mean it and no, they won't usually come to their senses. If this is the line of thinking you've adopted then you're playing a dangerous game and it's one of the reasons a spurned lover will act irrationally.
Firstly, for someone to want to end a relationship takes courage and the decision is not made lightly so sure, they mean it. And whether they come to their senses and eventually take you back will depend a lot how you react and behave to the decision.
There are many reasons people get dumped. The obvious is for reasons of infidelity. In this instance, it's usually a long road to haul before a reconciliation takes place.
But many of the other reasons make for interesting reading and the main thing to be aware of, when someone makes a decision to want out of a relationship it's usually because of something that has built up over time and eventually the bubble bursts.
Men And Women Break Up For Different Reasons
If you are trying to analyze why your partner has dumped you it may pay to first analyze your behavior. Once you have isolated the possible reasons ask yourself whether you could have actually "nipped the break up in the bud" well before the "axe came down on your relationship."
If you're a man, understand certain things about the nature of women. Here are some points to take particular notice of:
- Women like to be appreciated. How did you score in this area? Have you appreciated what she did for you?
- Women like to be complimented. How many times have you complimented her either on her looks, her dress sense or any other area of your lives together where one would have be warranted.
- Women don't like to be taken for granted. They pay particular detail to attention.
What Can Drive A Man Out Of A Relationship
On the other hand, men will leave women for different reasons. Here's a couple of interesting ones:
- Men like to be admired. They also like to feel wanted. As a woman, how to you score with both of these points?
- Men hate being nagged. We don't say this to offend women but how many times have you picked faults in your man? It's a classic syndrome which develops in a relationship over time. What once was acceptable to a woman and admired of her man, now no longer strikes a chord. Yes, you can be critical but here's the kicker, you also need to balance it out with expressions of admiration for the things he does do well in your book.
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