Tip Of The Month...
"I want you, I love you, I knead you!"
Master the art of massage, and your lover will be putty in your hands. The skin, after all, is the largest organ, and there are anywhere from 14,000 to 18,000 nerve receptors in each square inch of skin. This can provide an incredible amount of sensual and/or sexual stimulation.
You don't have to be a certified massage therapist to give your partner pleasure. Dim the lights, put on some soft music, and use your own instincts as well as your lover's cues. Or take a class or buy a video on massage techniques. If you're just not the do-it-yourself type, give your partner a gift certificate for a professional massage, and then follow up with an "after-massage" at home!
FUN-DAMENTALS...
Go The Extra Mile To Make Your Lover Smile
6 Steps To A Sensual Seduction
1. Tantalize her with TASTE. You could make a reservation at her favorite restaurant, or one that she's been hinting she'd like to try. If money is no object and a long wait doesn't bother you, go for it! Better yet, make her a scrumptious dinner yourself. Even if you're not a top-notch cook, women love being cooked for! Or try one of those gourmet take-out places that are becoming more popular in many cities. Have your romantic candlelight dinner at home, and then clear off the table and... Again, intent and imagination are key - especially if you make it clear that your intent is to have HER for dessert.
2. Seduce her with SMELL. The sense of smell, it's often been said, is the quickest route to the subconscious. I think this is even more true for women than it is for men. Present her with her favorite flower, and you can be as lavish as you wish here - why stop at a dozen, when you can give her two or three dozen? If that's not in your budget, it's hard to beat one perfect rose, with a beautiful card and a handwritten poem. Light a few scented candles to add to the ambience.
3. Excite her with SIGHT. Take her out to see a breathtaking sunset, or the ocean, or the mountains. Perhaps if you're dining out, you can even pick a restaurant that offers a lovely view of the city or surrounding area. And flowers do double duty here, appealing to her aesthetic sense as well as her olfactory nerves.
4. Serenade her with sound. Just as many men are intensely "visual", many women are very "auditory". So be sure to take advantage of this. Find a way to work her favorite music into the evening. While you're waiting in line at the restaurant, whisper sweet nothings (or naughty somethings!) into her ear. Tell her how beautiful she is, and tell her exactly what you plan to do to her later on. If you're at home, unplug the phone, or if you're out in public, be sure your cell phone and hers are turned off. Then work on turning her on!
5. Titillate her with TOUCH. New sheets, silky lingerie, and, of course, your loving touch, will take her over the top. Give her a massage (see the Tip of the Month above), or experiment with a new sensual technique, such as the Venus Butterfly (see http://www.venusbutterfly.com). If you've been working on her other senses, her sense of touch will be heightened marvelously, and she will be incredibly receptive to whatever delights you have in store for her.
6. Don't forget the cherry on top of this wonderful, sensual concoction: anticipation. Well in advance of the big evening, put a note on her mirror, or leave a card in her purse or makeup case. Divulge only the most necessary details, e.g., "Please reserve (Date) at 7:00 PM for us. I love you!" Of course you can drop little hints to her as the day approaches...just enough to tease and sweetly torment her.
And when your special day arrives...even if every detail of your "perfect" evening doesn't go exactly as planned, she will see the intent and the love behind your efforts. You may very well find that you have gone beyond touching her senses and have reached her soul.
That's it for now... I'll see you next time. Now go out and make it a FUN day!
Dr. Leah
Copyright 2008 by Leah Schwartz, Ph.D.
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Dr. Leah Schwartz maintains a Ph. D. in Sensuality from More University in northern California. She, and her late husband, Dr. Bob Schwartz, known fordecades as "America's Foremost Relationship and Sex Educators," have helped countless couples enjoy a fuller and more-joyful relationship-in and out of the bedroom.
Their loving collaboration, The One Hour Orgasm, is a best-seller. They have been enthusiastically received on such nationally and internationally-prominent venues as HBO's Real Sex, Barbara Walters The View, CNBC, Sally Jesse Raphael! and more than 2,000 other radio and television throughout the United States, Canada and Great Britain. They have been quoted in USA Today and in major magazines such as Cosmopolitan, Men's Health and Redbook. She has also produced and directed and outstanding series of 5 videos to enhance couples sex and relationship life.