How do you like to spend your snow days? Indoor or outdoor? Do you have any fun rituals or traditions? How can you make the time more special? Actually, how can you make your weekends more special regardless of snow?
The past few issues have focused on thriving during the holidays, slam-dunking the year-end, rocking the New Year, and embracing new habits and routines for your best year yet. And, I’ve shared how challenging this period is for a lot of people for a multitude of reasons… If you remember, this coming Monday (3rd Monday in January) has been coined Blue Monday not for nothing. As people settle down post holidays and turn toward the year ahead, loss, overwhelm, lack of motivation, anxiety, and sadness have a tendency to creep in… The cold and darker days don’t help any.
So, I want you to use this weekend wisely… You can take charge of your mood, your experience, your path and set the right tone for the rest of year. Don’t let this season and the rest of the year happen to you. Be proactive in creating what you desire. I know this is hard to do when we don’t feel so hot. So, first item of business is to make sure you feel well!
Use this weekend to reset yourself. Use this weekend to nurture, pamper, and please yourself. Use this weekend to Treat yourself (if you prescribe to the philosophy of being selfless or not selfish, hang on!). Use this weekend to replenish yourself from the inside out. Treating yourself is not just about bubble baths and “retail therapy”…
Research shows that we feel best when we are grateful, graceful, giving, generous… We can’t be in a fear place at the same time… These are mutually exclusive activated areas in our brain. And, did you know that we have mirror neurons that allows us to feel and experience what others do? This is partially responsible for our ability to have compassion, empathy, and connection with others. This allows us to know others…
We can leverage these concepts in our plan to Treat ourselves… The bag of tricks just got much larger. Aside from implementing what you would usually consider as nurturing, pampering and pleasing to you, how about adding another element to this equation. And, that is that of pleasing someone else… For in giving someone else pleasure, we give pleasure to ourselves as well… Voila! Everyone wins!!
Now, this is an antidote for Winter Blues, but this is also a Relationship Enrichment tactic… And, I’m presenting it as we enter the Love Season… (Multipurpose baby!) I want you to be very intentional about nurturing, pampering and pleasing yourself and your partner. This will make not only this weekend much better, but will set you on the proper Self and Relationship Success course for the Season and the rest of the year…
If you haven’t checked out the Love Launch™ yet, check it out now as it starts this weekend (4 weekends before Valentine’s Day weekend). Give it a whirl to infuse this new approach and drive your shift.
How will you do this weekend better than usual? How will you Treat yourself and please your partner? Own your mood, your experience and your Journey! Enjoy!!
Remember to complete the MetroRelationsip™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start creating your Successful Relationship and Meaningful Life…
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Happy Pleasing!
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~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment
Make a Self List of items that are nurturing, pampering and pleasing to you for you to do.
Make a Partner List of items that are nurturing, pampering and pleasing to you for your partner to do for/to you…
Ask your partner to do the same.
Share your lists with each other and use the Self Lists to support each other’s Treats, and the Partner Lists to guide your efforts/investments towards your partner.
Remember that in the end there is pleasure to be had by all regardless of what List is being used…
Add this to your Tool Kit…
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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT has been in the mental health field in varying capacities for the past 20+ years. She is the Founder and Director of MetroRelationship.com a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in working with busy professional and entrepreneurial couples who are struggling getting on the same page and feeling connected. We help couples create a radiant and authentic relationship and meaningful life by becoming a strong partnership and increasing their connection, intimacy, and fun. Emma is the creator of the MetroRelationship™ philosophy and the Successful Couple Strategy™.