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- Relationships: Do Some People Shut Down Emotionally After A Breakup? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that can cause someone to experience incredible pain, and a breakup is one of those things. When someone experiences a break up, it can feel as though their whole has come to end. It won’t matter if they had been with the other person for matter of months or ...
Views: 2087 - Relationships: Do Some People Try To Understand Others In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the tendency to attract people who are not right for them, it can cause them to suffer. This can be something that will consume their whole life, and it will then stop them from being able to experience a fulfilling existence. Alternatively, they could end up turning their ...
Views: 1483 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Associate Love With Drama? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that some car journeys can be peaceful and obstacle free and some can be noisy and full of obstacles, relationships can also fall into one of these two categories. What is clear is that it is going to be far healthier for someone to be in a relationship that falls into the fist ...
Views: 887 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Attract People Who Are Needy? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, there are the people who come across as needy and, on the other hand, there are those who attract these people. It could then be said that these people are going to have a radically different experience when to comes to this area of their life. If one is used to being needy, ...
Views: 1168 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one can have the need to be in a relationship with someone who is available, it doesn’t mean that this takes place. Instead, they can end up attracting people who unable to be there for them. If this was something that they could overlook it wouldn’t matter, but as this is not ...
Views: 1642 - Relationships: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Have To Lose Themselves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about their last relationship, what they may find is that they started to lose themselves when they first started meeting the other and had more or less completely lost themselves once they were together. There is the chance that this has taken place on more than one ...
Views: 962 - Relationships: Do Some Women's Childhood's Set Them Up To Attract Submissive Men? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some women who attract men who are in touch with their masculine strength, while there are others who don’t. As a result of this, their experiences with the opposite sex are going to be very different. One Experience If a woman is used to being with men who are in touch with ...
Views: 1671 - Relationships: Do Some Women's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Dependent On Men? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a woman is an individual, she will be able to pay attention to her own needs and feelings. Not only this, she will have good boundaries, meaning that she will generally have a strong sense of herself. What this will do is allow her to live a life that is in alignment with who she is, as ...
Views: 1308 - Relationships: Do We Only Allow People To Treat Us As Bad As We Treat Ourselves? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across someone who was in an abusive relationship, they might believe that this person is a victim. And, if this is the case, the person they are with is naturally going to be the perpetrator. Assistance One could speak to them about what they go through when they are ...
Views: 1167 - Relationships: Do We See Others As We Want Them To Be? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that in the very beginning of a relationship, one doesn’t see the other person for who they are, what they see is their own projections. So here, one will create all kinds of associations in their mind and attach these to the other person. The other person may even posses one ...
Views: 1887 - Relationships: Does A Woman Lack Self-Awareness If She Believes That All Men Are The Same? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some women in today’s world who believe that all men are the same, and it could be said that this is nothing new. It might not be inaccurate to say that this is how it has always been, but it has certainly been this way for a little while. However, what is different nowadays is ...
Views: 1512 - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Emotionally Separate From Their Caregivers To Be Emotionally Available? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIt is one thing for someone to be in a relationship and it is another thing altogether for their emotional self to also be involved. The former involves one being with another person, the latter involves them opening up and actually being emotionally connected to them. Taking this into ...
Views: 638 - Relationships: Does Someone Need To Feel Comfortable With Their Own Emotions In Order To Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a relationship, there could be moments when they share how they feel, and this could mean that they are also able to be there for their partner. As a result of this, this area of their relationship is going to be in balance. A Close Bond Through sharing their inner ...
Views: 1213 - Relationships: How Can A Woman Tell If A Man Is Unavailable? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman may find that it is relatively easy for her to attract a man, what she may also find is that she is unable to find a man who actually wants a relationship. This may mean that she has been with a number of men who were emotionally unavailable. Even so, this doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 899 - Relationships: How Can Someone Know If They Are Ready For A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that there are a number of reasons as to why someone would want to eat something, there are also a number of reasons as to why someone would want to have a relationship. If someone wants to eat something, it could simply show that they are hungry. Then again, it could also ...
Views: 861 - Relationships: How Should Someone Respond When Another Person Doesn’t Put In Any Effort? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that relationships are about give and take, and it would be hard to argue with this. When two people get together, they will both have their own needs, and it is going to be important for their needs to be met. Even so, this is not to say that both of them are going to have ...
Views: 1562 - Relationships: If Someone Is Still Attached To Their Ex Can It Stop Them From Being Able To Embrace Their Current Relationship? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has just experienced a breakup, they may decide to take a break and to spend some time by themselves. Through taking this route, it will also give them the chance to face how they feel and to work through it. A Grey Area If they were with this person for a long period of time, ...
Views: 1191 - Relationships: Is Being Able To Grieve An Important Part Of Being Able To Receive Love? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone spends their time around people who have an open-heart, they are likely to appreciate being around them. Whereas, if they were to spend their time around people who were the complete opposite; there is the chance that they will feel uncomfortable. This is because when people ...
Views: 1506 - Relationships: Is Being Responsive To Another Person’s Self-Disclosure An Important Part Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one feels close to someone, there are likely to be a number of reasons why. One may know what these reasons are, or it may take them a while to realise why they feel the way they do. The connection they feel with the other person is likely to have built up over time. This is not to say ...
Views: 1631 - Relationships: Is Empathy An Important Part Of Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, one can have relationships with others that are deep, and on the other hand, they can have ones that are shallow. When it comes to the later, this could relate to the people they see at work or on the odd occasion, for instance. And when it comes to the former, it could relate ...
Views: 1624 - Relationships: Is Grieving Our Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part of Attracting People Who Are Available? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have the desire to attract someone who is available, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. One could find it more or less impossible for attract someone who is available. When someone is available, it is going to mean that they are not only physically and ...
Views: 1506 - Relationships: Is Grieving Our Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Having Healthy Relationships? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have the need to experience relationships that are fulfilling and life affirming, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. Instead, one can end up in relationships that are not only unfulfilling, they could also be extremely abusive. And if this was an area of life that ...
Views: 1426 - Relationships: Is It A Form Of Indirect Revenge When Someone Always Criticises Others? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to think about what their friends are like, they may start to think about how supportive they are. These are then going to be the kind of people who are life-affirming, and it could then be said that that they have the right people in their life. Two Experiences On one ...
Views: 1236 - Relationships: Is It A Form Of Indirect Revenge When Someone Leads Another Person On? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go on a date with someone, they might come across as though they are looking for a relationship. Thus, if the other person wants the same thing, this is going to have a positive effect on them. Online Dating However, if these two people met through the internet, this is ...
Views: 1372 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For A Man To Only Confide In His Partner? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is single, he may find that there is no one is his life that he can share certain things with. This can relate to how he feels, the challenges that he is going through and the things that he has done that he is not too happy about, for instance. He can then have a big family and ...
Views: 1066 - Relationships: Is It A Good Sign If Someone Is Extremely Attracted To Another Person? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could come across another person and not really experience anything, they could come across someone else and it could be as if their whole being has been hijacked. But, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one will see this as a bad thing. One will then have lost ...
Views: 777 - Relationships: Is It Harder For Someone To Leave An Abusive Relationship When They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in a situation that doesn’t serve them, it is going to be in their best interests to move on. Nevertheless, it might not be possible for them to walk away and to put this all behind them. The Next Step The reason for this is that one could be in a job that is paying them ...
Views: 1057 - Relationships: Is It Important To Be Able To Hold Space For Others? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a friend who is going through a tough time, they could end up telling them what they need to do to get through it. This is then going to be a time when they will try to fix or rescue this person. Simply being there for this person is not going to be enough; they will need to ...
Views: 677 - Relationships: Is It Important To Understand The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperQuestions such as: what does it take to keep a woman happy and what does it take to please a man, have been around for many years. And sometimes people come up with answers and sometimes people give up trying to find answers. The great psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud even pondered this question ...
Views: 2213 - Relationships: Is It Naive For Someone To Believe That Another Person Will Change? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a relationship can start off in a certain way, it doesn’t mean that it will be the same as time passes. On one hand, this can be seen as something that just happens as two people get to know each other better, and on the other hand, it can mean that one person was putting on an ...
Views: 2008 - Relationships: Is It Normal For Someone To Shut Down If Their Partner Is Not Responsive? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAt the start of a relationship, one may find that their partner is fairly or even extremely responsive. What this means is that this person will listen to what they have to say, stop doing certain things if they have negative effect on them, and be open to feedback, amongst other things. In ...
Views: 1024 - Relationships: Is Someone More Likely To End Up In An Abusive Relationship When They Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons as to why someone would want to have a relationship, and they might be aware of what all of these reasons are. If they are, it will give them the chance to see if they are being driven by the right needs. For Example One could find that they are at the stage ...
Views: 1194 - Relationships: Is Someone Out Of Balance If They Rescue Others? - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people take the time to be there for themselves and to be there for others, there are others who don’t. If someone can relate to the former, they are not going to have the tendency to neglect themselves; whereas if they can relate to the latter, this will be the norm. Two ...
Views: 963 - Relationships: Is Someone Unlucky If They Always Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is at a stage in their life where they are taking a break from being with someone, they may find that some of the people in their life are in relationships. In fact, everyone they know could be with another person. And, if they were to spend time with these people, they may find that ...
Views: 1389 - Relationships: Is Someone's View Of The Opposite Sex Created At A Time When They Couldn't Think Clearly? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that people have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive different countries, they also have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive the opposite sex. There will be some people who generally have good things to say about the opposite sex, whilst there ...
Views: 1077 - Relationships: Is The Fear Of Abandonment Causing You To Get Attached Too Soon? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who like to take their time when it comes to the beginning of a relationship, and then there are others who go in head first. And based on how they behave, it is safe to say that they are both having a different inner experience. However, just because one may have a pattern ...
Views: 1915 - Relationships: Is The Purpose Of A Relationship To Trigger Old Wounds? - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has just started to date another person, they can find that they feel really good. They are then still going to be on the same planet that they were on before they met this person, but it can be as if they have been taken somewhere else. This area of their life is going to be ...
Views: 894 - Relationships: Should Relationships Be Easy? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are all kinds of ideas in the world as to how a relationship should be. These ideas are often shaped by popular culture, from influences such as Disney or Hollywood films. And by taking on board these perspectives, some people can come to expect relationships to be easy and straight ...
Views: 2205 - Relationships: Should Someone Change When They Get Into A Relationship? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes into contact with someone who they like, they can end up putting on an act. This could be something that will happen without them even releasing it, or they might be able to pick up on this. One way of looking at this would be to say that this is normal, and this is due to ...
Views: 1064 - Relationships: Should Someone Look Into What Is Taking Place Within Them If They Attract People Who Are Unavailable? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could be in a fulfilling relationship with someone, there is also the chance that this is not the case. This could come down to the fact that they don’t want to be in one, and this might be a sign that they have just broken up with someone. If this is the case, they might want to ...
Views: 1263 - Relationships: Should Someone To Ask Themselves Why They Want To Get Back With Their Ex? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one’s relationship has just come to an end, they could feel relieved and happy that they can now move on with their life. Maybe, this was a relationship that was no longer working, meaning that it had run its course. Disconnected For a number of weeks, they might have thought about ...
Views: 984 - Relationships: What Are Your Relationships Mirroring Back To You? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperRelationships can be fulfilling or unfulfilling and they also have the potential to create incredible satisfaction or immense frustration. There will be people who one can connect with without too many challenges appearing and others who cause one to question the human race. But regardless of ...
Views: 1765 - Relationships: What Can Someone Do If Another Person Is Triggered? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhether one is at university, reading a self-development book, or talking to a friend about what has been taking place in their life, there is a phrase that they could end up hearing. The words that come before or after it could be different but there will be one word that is the same. This ...
Views: 748 - Relationships: What Causes Enmeshed Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings are physically separate, it doesn’t mean that they are emotionally or intellectually separate. And as connecting to another human being involves opening up and allowing another person to open up, there are going to be moments where one merges with another. This is not only ...
Views: 2464 - Relationships: What Causes One Sided Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperLife is made up of what are often described as opposites and giving and receiving is part of this dynamic. When one of these is done and not the other, it will lead to an imbalance being created. One may receive from another and be unable to give in that situation. Or one may give in one ...
Views: 5524 - Relationships: Where Do Our Relationship Models Come From? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe relationships that each one of us has are being defined by the relationship models that we have. And this can range from the more meaningful and intimate ones, to the ones that are platonic and carry very little meaning. However, although we all have our internal models of what our ...
Views: 1662 - Relationships: Where Do Women’s Expectations Of Men Come From? - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what a man is going to be like or what a woman is going to be like, we all have a set of expectations. And although these can be consciously known, they are very often out of one’s conscious awareness. So while a woman may be unaware of what their expectations are of men, they ...
Views: 1815 - Relationships: Where Does A Woman's Idea Of A Man Come From? - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the outlook of what men are like, there is clearly not just one idea that a woman can have. And while some have an idea that men are a certain way, others view them in a completely different way. And no matter what this view is, it is one that is going to have massive effect ...
Views: 1804 - Relationships: Why Are Some Men Attracted To Unavailable Women? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man may have the desire to be in an intimate relationship with a woman, he may continually end up with women who are not available. Through having been with a number of women who are like this, he may find that this area of his life causes him to experience a fair amount of ...
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